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Psychology videos Listing

PLAYLIST 1

1. Emotional self-regulation
https://youtu.be/5IdWwlipwAg
the ability to deal in an appropriate and satisfactory way with one’s own feelings and desires

2. Trauma splitting
https://youtu.be/dIoaLyQjMFI
If you're against us, you are evil

3. Codependent No More
https://youtu.be/UXrlUWcAz-A
Being a good person does not mean you have to put up with other people's crap.

4. Karpman drama triangle
https://youtu.be/sLCRO7Uwy68
Persecutor - Rescuer - Victim

5. People will treat you...
https://youtu.be/hgZhNEIT8Ow
How they treat you, is how they feel about you. Believe them.

6. Humanistic psychology
https://youtu.be/KoIVa7EBqmw
This group of therapies encourages an individual to resolve their problems and issues and achieve greater fulfillment by recognizing, understanding, and using their own capacity to develop.

7. Perfectionism and Social Anxiety
https://youtu.be/jJnvcCo-Xfc
perfectionism is a complex construct and a complex approach is needed in assessments and in treatment interventions designed for perfectionists suffering from social anxiety.

8. Ego depletion
https://youtu.be/CRoASPW5ljg
Ego depletion happens when people use up their available willpower on one task. As a result, they are unable to exert the same level of self-control on subsequent, often unrelated tasks. Willpower is a limited resource.

 9. Memory bias
https://youtu.be/GZBBRAljBTM
Some forms of memory bias can be positive—for instance, protecting us from hurtful memories—while others can be negative, such as when we base our decisions on the most recent rather than the most relevant information.

10. Red herring fallacies
https://youtu.be/8tUBdxVF3_g
Red herring fallacy is a type of error that is used as a way of diverting people's attention from the original topic under discussion. For this purpose, an unrelated question is introduced in the conversation. This fallacy grants an argument that may be correct but does not address the subject being discussed.

11. Faulty generalizations
https://youtu.be/kMrzN9wMwWo
A faulty generalization is an informal fallacy wherein a conclusion is drawn about all or many instances of a phenomenon on the basis of one or a few instances of that phenomenon. It is similar to a proof by example in mathematics. It is an example of jumping to conclusions.

12. Questionable cause
https://youtu.be/YQmoj0Uv2Tk
 a cause is incorrectly identified. For example: "Every time I go to sleep, the sun goes down. Therefore, my going to sleep causes the sun to set."

13. c-PTSD (Complex Trauma)
https://youtu.be/uL8xdhVFsrk
In his book, “The Body Keeps the Score,” trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk, MD, describes how trauma literally becomes trapped in the body and the brain rewires itself. These lasting effects create symptoms of complex trauma.

14. Toxic shame
https://youtu.be/ZjlfsizzUfI
Toxic shame is a feeling that you're worthless. It happens when other people treat you poorly and you turn that treatment into a belief about yourself. You're most vulnerable to this type of poor treatment during childhood or as a teen.

15. Entitlement
https://youtu.be/FcyJRtdKEpY
Entitlement is a person's belief that they are inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment. Some people wear their entitlement like a crown—they're rude, demanding, contemptuous, and they get resentful, not just disappointed, when things don't go exactly their way.

16. Attunement
https://youtu.be/kKI3UZ-H9FQ
Attunement is the reactiveness we have to another person. It is the process by which we form relationships. Dr. Dan Siegel says, "When we attune with others we allow our own internal state to shift, to come to resonate with the inner world of another.

17. List of cognitive biases A-K
https://youtu.be/IjPv3SUAiK0
Although this research overwhelmingly involves human subjects, some findings that demonstrate bias have been found in non-human animals as well. For example, loss aversion has been shown in monkeys and hyperbolic discounting has been observed in rats, pigeons, and monkeys.

18. Social rejection
https://youtu.be/kYPJHS-mVPg
A person can be rejected by individuals or an entire group of people. Furthermore, rejection can be either active, by bullying, teasing, or ridiculing, or passive, by ignoring a person, or giving the "silent treatment".

19. List of cognitive biases L-Z
https://youtu.be/weYDM_kiKCE
Mere exposure effect or familiarity principle (in social psychology) The tendency to express undue liking for things merely because of familiarity with them.

20. Cognitive Distortions
https://youtu.be/dCbScCP3z4M
Cognitive distortions are negative or irrational patterns of thinking. These negative thought patterns can play a role in diminishing your motivation, lowering your self-esteem, and contributing to problems like anxiety, depression, and substance use.

21. Phases of Trauma Recovery
https://youtu.be/wYwHk5KSgsU
Shock and denial. This is a state of disbelief and numbed feelings.
Pain and guilt. ...
Anger and bargaining. ...
Depression. ...
The upward turn. ...
Reconstruction and working through. ...
Acceptance and hope.

22. Common Logical Fallacies
https://youtu.be/5EqBtMGMIz4
The ad hominem is one of the most common logical fallacies. While it can take many forms, from name calling and insults, to attacking a person's character, to questioning their motives, to calling them hypocrites, any argument that targets the source, rather than the argument, is an ad hominem.

23. Trauma bonding
https://youtu.be/9fbxpElbCxQ
A trauma bond is a deep emotional attachment that develops in a relationship characterized by abuse that's emotional, physical, or both.

24. Stop complaining
https://youtu.be/ErMGfFfnF1U
“When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” Eckhart Tolle

25. Psychology paradox
https://youtu.be/GlArvGJqMgM
Paradox of suspense: Sometimes, retelling of familiar stories appears to still induce suspense, despite the fact that the audience already knows how the story will unfold.

26. Egocentrism
https://youtu.be/5awib-3w6O0
Egocentrism is the inability to differentiate between self and other. More specifically, it is the inability to accurately assume or understand any perspective other than one's own. Egocentrism is found across the life span: in infancy, early childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. Wikipedia

27. Social bias
https://youtu.be/uO4lS0QN-os
Cheerleader effect, the tendency for people to appear more attractive in a group than in isolation.

28. Defense mechanisms
https://youtu.be/EQ2NuYpui38
The 12 component defense mechanisms of immature defenses are projection, isolation of affect, devaluation, splitting, rationalization, denial, acting-out, autistic fantasy, dissociation, somatization, passive-aggressiveness, and displacement.

29. Thinking errors
https://youtu.be/uhHdqy3p6XA
Thinking traps are patterns of thought – usually with a negative swing – which prevent us from seeing things as they really are. Otherwise known as cognitive distortions, thinking traps are often deeply ingrained in our psyche.

30. Personal fable
https://youtu.be/_dxRMNoMPDI
The Personal Fable is a belief held by many adolescents telling them that they are special and unique, so much so that none of life's difficulties or problems will affect them regardless of their behavior.

31. Self worth
https://youtu.be/LJCmwCiGK1Y
Although, self-worth is often used as a synonym for “self-esteem,” Dr. Lisa Firestone believes that self-worth should be less about measuring yourself based on external actions and more about valuing your inherent worth as a person. In other words, self-worth is about who you are, not about what you do.

32. Imaginary audience
https://youtu.be/l34bDn4VoeA
The imaginary audience refers to a psychological state where an individual imagines and believes that multitudes of people are enthusiastically listening to or watching them. Though this state is often exhibited in young adolescence, people of any age may harbor a fantasy of an imaginary audience.

33. Gabor Maté
https://youtu.be/8Bmc-w0Kh8I
“No society can understand itself without looking at its shadow side.”

34. Courage
https://youtu.be/05NeKDfJARk
You are what you do. A man is defined by his action, not his memories.

35. Cognitive defusion
https://youtu.be/DxfYUB1dtys
Cognitive defusion, also known as deliteralization, is a technique used in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to help people cope with uncomfortable or unhelpful thoughts and feelings.

36. De-escalation
https://youtu.be/BKDn7XpZcOU
In psychiatric settings, de-escalation is aimed at calmly communicating with an agitated client in order to understand, manage and resolve their concerns. Ultimately, these actions should help reduce the client's agitation and potential for future aggression or violence.

37. External validation
https://youtu.be/193s0cT6Edg
When others validate your feelings, this is known as external validation. Whether someone compliments you at work, comments on a picture you posted or shares gratitude with you, this is external validation. This validation can feel great!

38. Fawning
https://youtu.be/oORICBqH9UQ
In a nutshell, “fawning” is the use of people-pleasing to diffuse conflict, feel more secure in relationships, and earn the approval of others.
It’s a maladaptive way of creating safety in our connections with others by essentially mirroring the imagined expectations and desires of other people.

39. Fantasy Freedom
https://youtu.be/kStJWCh4ddk
What is a rescue fantasy?
A subconscious belief or fantasy centring on rescue, especially a belief that one is needed or able to save another person from something, posited as a motive for certain actions or choices.

40. Gaslighting
https://youtu.be/WKnvAgQzalI
Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that often occurs in abusive relationships. It is a covert type of emotional abuse where the bully or abuser misleads the target, creating a false narrative and making them question their judgments and reality.

41. Narcissistic injury
https://youtu.be/UxNpjAq2ba8
Narcissistic collapse happens when someone with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) can no longer uphold their grandiose, confident image. When this occurs, they feel profoundly threatened. As a result, they tend to become enraged, resulting in impulsive behavior, intense lashing out, or hurting other people.

42.  Long-Term Narcissistic Abuse Can Cause Brain Damage
https://youtu.be/BV3o-8rxsrY
The effects of psychological and narcissistic abuse come with many devastating consequences, but there are two that almost no one knows about unless they're a doctor or neuroscientist.

43. Emotional manipulation
https://youtu.be/YBDMx9n4GSg
Emotional manipulation occurs when a manipulative person seeks power over someone else and employs dishonest or exploitive strategies to gain it. Unlike people in healthy relationships, which demonstrate reciprocity and cooperation, an emotional manipulator looks to use, control, or even victimize someone else.

44. Narcissistic rage
https://youtu.be/-1kgnNfGAxI
Narcissistic rage is a term that was first coined by author Heinz Kohut in 1972 to refer to the tendency for people with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) to fly into a rage with what might seem like the slightest provocation or no obvious provocation at all.

45. Narcissistic supply
https://youtu.be/HUy-d7_ME74
Expecting constant praise and attention for everything good while taking no responsibility or blame for anything that is negative inside or outside of the relationship.

46. Neuroception
https://youtu.be/oeVCshjJjRI
Neuroception is the term used to describe the process that the brain undergoes to immediately recognize danger and keep us safe. Read on to learn how we unconsciously use neuroception to assess threats and feel safe, and how we can use this knowledge to improve our health and relationships.

47. Procrastination
https://youtu.be/u6lVcql6hag
Procrastination is the action of unnecessarily and voluntarily delaying or postponing something despite knowing that there will be negative consequences for doing so.

48. Scapegoating
https://youtu.be/votXuSdPjSc
the act or practice of assigning blame or failure to another, as to deflect attention or responsibility away from oneself.

49. Victim mentality
https://youtu.be/74iliSFqWtA
Look for these signs in yourself to see if you might have adopted a victim mentality: ‌You blame others for the way your life is. ‌You truly think life is against you. ‌You have trouble coping with problems in your life and feel powerless against them.

50. Dialectical behavior therapy
https://youtu.be/DiFOXstqVXM
DBT teaches the skills to accept and tolerate distress and to manage disturbing or provocative emotional stimulation. The process involves gaining behavioral control, then experiencing rather than silencing emotional stress—discussing and accepting past traumatic experiences, and tackling self-blame and dysfunctional thoughts.

51. Cognitive processing therapy
https://youtu.be/P2YLtzDsR0M
Cognitive processing therapy is a manualized therapy used by clinicians to help people recover from posttraumatic stress disorder and related conditions. It includes elements of cognitive behavioral therapy treatments, one of the most widely used evidence-based therapies.

52. Communication is encode-decode mechanism
https://youtu.be/w8T2y8Aopaw
information enters us, is processed and is then projected outward once more, now in an altered form. We are not aware that we are doing this, that in fact this is all we are doing. Valis (1978)
Philip K. Dick

53. Double bind
https://youtu.be/xwrG5l3kX8Y
A double bind is a dilemma in communication in which an individual receives two or more reciprocally conflicting messages.

54.  Self-absorption paradox
https://youtu.be/G0wyWe6juiM
The self-absorption paradox describes the contradictory association whereby higher levels of self-awareness are simultaneously associated with higher levels of psychological distress and with psychological well-being.

55. Behavioral activation
https://youtu.be/_mdqu6PuhJA
Behavioral activation is an approach to mental health that involves someone using behaviors to influence their emotional state. It is often a part of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), but it can also be a standalone treatment. Most research into behavioral activation has focused on its effect on depression.

56. Covert abuse
https://youtu.be/9_BbiF0HDys
The covert abuser systematically manipulates your mind and your emotional responses using ongoing, secret mind games such as gaslighting, evasion, feigning ignorance, blame-shifting, word twisting and covert aggression because they are very hard to detect, describe or confront.

57. Blame-shifting
https://youtu.be/0Or1VkbsIYM
Blame-shifting is an emotionally abusive behavior or tactic. These are some definitions or descriptions of blame-shifting: abusers have difficulty taking responsibility for problems. They go as far as necessary to attribute blame for their circumstances to anyone else, even if it may sound somewhat conspiratorial.

58. Enabler
https://youtu.be/MPotd-9-rV4
You ignore, endure, or make excuses for their behaviour.

59. Enmeshment
https://youtu.be/AnVTtY1Z9UE
Enmeshment is a concept in psychology and psychotherapy introduced by Salvador Minuchin to describe families where personal boundaries are diffused, sub-systems undifferentiated, and over-concern for others leads to a loss of autonomous development.

60. Confirmation bias
https://youtu.be/kqY93v183Rw
Confirmation bias is the tendency to search for, interpret, favor, and recall information in a way that confirms or supports one's prior beliefs or values.

61. Anxiety attack
https://youtu.be/WZixvRmucFE
Anxiety attacks, also known as panic attacks, are episodes of intense panic or fear. They usually occur suddenly and without warning. Sometimes there's an obvious trigger—getting stuck in an elevator, for example, or thinking about the big speech you have to give—but in other cases, the attacks come out of the blue.

62. Narcissistic invalidation
https://youtu.be/gb9wtiOtXME
 It is a vicious form of manipulation in which you are told that your emotions are not worth the time, energy, or space for consideration. This at the heart of what narcissism is all about.

63. Radical Acceptance
https://youtu.be/GxHjO4YIvoM
Radical acceptance is when you stop fighting reality, stop responding with impulsive or destructive behaviors when things aren't going the way you want them to, and let go of bitterness that may be keeping you trapped in a cycle of suffering.

64. DBT Opposite Action
https://youtu.be/dLUltwaUzxU
Opposite action is a dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) skill that involves choosing to do exactly the opposite of what your emotions tell you to do. When you think about it, we all have emotions that can cause us to make choices we'd rather not make.

65. Coercive control
https://youtu.be/9KbjWSSbSdg
Coercive control involves nonviolent tactics, such as harassment, intimidation, and monitoring of one's time and activities, used to exert and maintain dominance over one's partner (Johnson, 2008; Stark, 2007).

66. Critical thinking
https://youtu.be/MUvvvSmRHqc
Critical thinking is the analysis of available facts, evidence, observations, and arguments to form a judgment. The subject is complex; several different definitions exist, which generally include the rational, skeptical, and unbiased analysis or evaluation of factual evidence.

67. Self-Pathologizing
https://youtu.be/cJEZBIwH62g
 un-pathologize yourself right now
Thinking that you're not normal. Thinking that what you're experiencing is not normal.

68. Client-Centered Therapy
https://youtu.be/gK9Q1NUEBu8
Rather than viewing people as inherently flawed, with problematic behaviors and thoughts that require treatment, person-centered therapy identifies that each person has the capacity and desire for personal growth and change. Rogers termed this natural human inclination “actualizing tendency,” or self-actualization.

69. Instant gratification
https://youtu.be/x6M1ONotNRk
Delayed gratification, or deferred gratification, is the resistance to the temptation of an immediate pleasure in the hope of obtaining a valuable and long-lasting reward in the long-term.

70. Ebbinghaus's Forgetting Curve
https://youtu.be/oNe8JTa--bo
The forgetting curve hypothesizes the decline of memory retention in time. This curve shows how information is lost over time when there is no attempt to retain it. A related concept is the strength of memory that refers to the durability that memory traces in the brain.

71. Gestalt therapy
https://youtu.be/O8b84niLSOM
Gestalt therapy is a form of psychotherapy that is centered on increasing a person's awareness, freedom, and self-direction. It's a form of therapy that focuses on the present moment rather than past experiences. Gestalt therapy is based on the idea that people are influenced by their present environment.

72. Self-advocacy
https://youtu.be/EhlBFIft5LE
The term self-advocacy, which means speaking up for oneself and one's interests, is used as a name for civil rights movements and mutual aid networks for disabled people. The term arose in the broader civil rights movements of the 1960s and 1970s, and is part of the disability rights movement.

73. Anti-psychiatry
https://youtu.be/QhHRJK9X3xw
Anti-psychiatry is a movement based on the view that psychiatric treatment is often more damaging than helpful to patients, highlighting controversies about psychiatry. Objections may include concerns about the effectiveness and potential harm of treatments such as electroconvulsive treatment or insulin shock therapy.

74. Healthy narcissism
https://youtu.be/TxocmIpWiGo
Healthy narcissism is a positive sense of self that is in alignment with the greater good. The concept of healthy narcissism was first coined by Paul Federn and gained prominence in the 1970s through the research of Heinz Kohut and Otto Kernberg.

75. Transference
https://youtu.be/8iCaywM7LDM
Transference is when someone redirects their feelings about one person onto someone else. During a therapy session, it usually refers to a person transferring their feelings about someone else onto their therapist. Countertransference is when a therapist transfers feelings onto the patient.

76. Moral injury
https://youtu.be/pbfbrLW2GVo
A moral injury can occur in response to acting or witnessing behaviors that go against an individual's values and moral beliefs.
Moral distress occurs when you know the ethically correct action to take but you are constrained from taking it.

77. Fallacy of change
https://youtu.be/6xEd6QLnKCI
Fallacy of change is an irrational way of thinking evidenced by expecting others to change after being encouraged or pressured. Those with this unrealistic thought pattern often think that they can make a person become “better” with their efforts.

78. The Fallacy of Control
https://youtu.be/IG56GrbTsbk
The Fallacy of Control is where you assume an inaccurate amount of control in a situation or in life. You either believe you can control everything or believe you can control nothing. When you believe you control everything, you are assuming responsibility for both the pain and happiness of everyone around you.

79. The fallacy of fairness
https://youtu.be/fS3glZzYBHg
The fallacy of fairness arises when an individual attempts to apply similar rules to interactions with people in their personal life. The single most challenging aspect to this is that two people will rarely agree on what “fair” means in personal interactions.

80. Amygdala Hijack
https://youtu.be/dcjdxdBLMys
In his book Working With Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman coined the term “emotional hijacking” to describe situations in which the amygdala — the brain's emotional processing center — takes over the normal reasoning process. This can occur during difficult interactions with others.

81. Polyvagal theory
https://youtu.be/In4hi3dzTgU
Polyvagal theory is a collection of unproven evolutionary, neuroscientific and psychological constructs pertaining to the role of the vagus nerve in emotion regulation, social connection and fear response, introduced in 1994 by Stephen Porges.

82. Co-regulation
https://youtu.be/ZU4gX4TcSqU
The process through which children develop the ability to soothe and manage distressing emotions and sensations from the beginning of life through connection with nurturing and reliable primary caregivers.  Co-regulation involves various types of responses, including but not limited to: a warm, calming presence and tone of voice, verbal acknowledgement of distress, modeling of behaviors that can modulate arousal, and the provision of a structured environment that supports emotional and physical safety.

83. Self-regulation
https://youtu.be/D_LWCJ3qMdY
Emotional self-regulation or emotion regulation is the ability to respond to the ongoing demands of experience with the range of emotions in a manner that is socially tolerable and sufficiently flexible to permit spontaneous reactions as well as the ability to delay spontaneous reactions as needed.

84. The Trauma Model
https://youtu.be/YPV1LjAHFK0
In The Trauma Model Colin Ross takes the opposite view. He sees trauma as the central issue that will confront and confound us for decades to come.

85. Introjection
https://youtu.be/UfX26bXq6yU
Introjection, one of many defense mechanisms posited by Sigmund Freud, occurs when a person internalizes the ideas or voices of other people. This behavior is commonly associated with the internalization of external authority, particularly that of parents.

86. Peter A. Levine
https://youtu.be/8kUmddPunJY
When people have been traumatized, they are stuck in paralysis-the immobility reaction or abrupt explosions of rage.

87. Lundy Bancroft
https://youtu.be/SC26Jqm_rh4
As long as we see abusers as victims, or as out-of-control monsters, they will continue getting away with ruining lives. If we want abusers to change, we will have to require them to give up the luxury of exploitation.

88. Fundamental attribution error
https://youtu.be/mkMB5hRq-C8
In social psychology, fundamental attribution error, also known as correspondence bias or attribution effect, is the tendency for people to under-emphasize situational and environmental explanations for an individual's observed behavior while overemphasizing dispositional- and personality-based explanations.

89. Persona
https://youtu.be/80dKQ-LUCC0
The persona, for Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung, was the social face the individual presented to the world—"a kind of mask, designed on the one hand to make a definite impression upon others, and on the other to conceal the true nature of the individual."

90. False Self
https://youtu.be/qEtAQN1VslM
The false self, in Donald Winnicott's developmental schema, refers to certain types of false personalities that develop as the result of early and repeated environmental failure, with the result that the true self-potential is not realized, but hidden.

91. Donald Winnicott
https://youtu.be/FHU9Y88zatk
It is only in being creative that the individual discovers the self.

92. Safety mechanisms
https://youtu.be/xe1Tg1gqPko
Coping styles vary from action oriented to reflective and from emotionally expressive to reticent. Clinically, a response style is less important than the degree to which coping efforts successfully allow one to continue necessary activities, regulate emotions, sustain self-esteem, and maintain and enjoy interpersonal contacts.

93. Ego immature Defense mechanisms
https://youtu.be/xiVtWNE0bfM
Immature psychological defense mechanisms are psychological processes that play an important role in suppressing emotional awareness and contribute to psychopathology. In addition, unhealthy food, television viewing, and alcohol consumption can be among the means to escape self-awareness.

94. Shadow
https://youtu.be/Wq4eK1HcWOw
The part of ourselves we do not want the world to see. The Shadow, representing all our secret or repressed thoughts and the shameful aspects of our character. It appears in the Bible as the devil, in literature as Dr Jekyll's Mr Hyde.

95. Maxwell Maltz
https://youtu.be/1mVOEOvFwiQ
“Adopt the motto—"It doesn't matter who's right, but what's right.”

96. Social Anxiety (rnk1977) - 2009 video
https://youtu.be/ZH9LwUVak3M
Is Social Anxiety always a bad thing?
No! Anxiety is a normal and healthy of being human. It mobilizes...
Social anxiety helps us to remain sensitive to the feeling and needs of others, which is a core foundation of cooperation and building relationships.
Even strong social anxiety can occasionally be useful; we'll likely do better if we're extra careful in choosing our words and our outfits.
Social anxiety become a problem only when it is so severe that it is excessive or outside the "norm", and when it causes major problems in our overall functioning and quality of life.
several studies (such as that of Blair et al., 2008) have found that certain areas of the brain, such as small, almond-shaped area called the amygdala, can be more active in individuals with social phobia.
The catch here is that while we're successful in temporarily escaping...we miss chances to find out that our negative assumptions may not always be correct.
gradually enter these situation while accepting your anxiety and allowing it to naturally dissipate.
socialanxietysupport

97. Easy explanation of Jung's False Self and Persona - Carol Burnett Show
https://youtu.be/3uof3TFjCOM
It is all just fake and phony. We start pretending when we're kids, acting out movies. It's child's play. I think we should just plunge in and have fun and experiment.
YT Carol Burnett Discusses The People She Won't Work With | The Dick Cavett Show

98. Operant conditioning
https://youtu.be/K_f8cYH_qTk
Operant conditioning is a type of associative learning process through which the strength of a behavior is modified by reinforcement or punishment. It is also a procedure that is used to bring about such learning.

99. Overjustification Effect
https://youtu.be/U8x2nOWmsVk
Enjoyable activities;
External award = Extrinsic motivation
No external reward = Intrinsic motivation

100. Psychological safety
https://youtu.be/JzHWSmfdkWg
Psychological safety is being able to show and employ oneself without fear of negative consequences of self-image, status or career (Kahn 1990, p. 708). It can be defined as a shared belief that the team is safe for interpersonal risk taking. In psychologically safe teams, team members feel accepted and respected.

101. Ruinous Empathy
https://youtu.be/228umiy2LRA
Ruinous Empathy™ is “nice” but ultimately unhelpful or even damaging. It's what happens when you care about someone personally, but fail to challenge them directly. It's praise that isn't specific enough to help the person understand what was good, or criticism that is sugar-coated and unclear.
Ruinous empathy is the most common mistake people make when giving feedback. Managers sugarcoat feedback in an attempt to make it land better,

102. Radical Candor
https://youtu.be/-z8wzvUjpbs
Radical Candor is the sweet spot between managers who are obnoxiously aggressive on the one side and ruinously empathetic on the other.
Radical Candor is not brutal honesty. It means to share your (humble) opinions directly, rather than talking badly about people behind their backs.
while candor does relate to honesty, it usually has a sense of being not only honest, but direct, frank, or otherwise outspoken. So it's quite possible to state something honestly, but not particularly candidly by beating around the bush or being especially tactful.

103. Baldwin effect
https://youtu.be/ARyrBLoloak
The Baldwin effect is an evolutionary mechanism which transforms a culturally invented and acquired trait into an instinctive trait by the means of natural selection (Baldwin, 1896a; Simpson, 1953; Hall, 2001).

104. Red Flags of Toxic People
https://youtu.be/J9aTR6KxfY0
There is always an excuse for everything, even things that don't require excusing. They make up lies faster than you can question them. They will always blame others—it is never their fault. They spend more time rationalizing their behavior than improving it.

105. Little Albert experiment
https://youtu.be/qMUucr5bmRA
The Little Albert Experiment demonstrated that classical conditioning could be used to create a phobia. A phobia is an irrational fear, that is out of proportion to the danger. In this experiment, a previously unafraid baby was conditioned to become afraid of a rat.

106. Learned helplessness
https://youtu.be/CfRC2PAodi8
Learned helplessness is a state that occurs after a person has experienced a stressful situation repeatedly. They come to believe that they are unable to control or change the situation, so they do not try — even when opportunities for change become available.

107. Sadistic Personality
https://youtu.be/Pudy3CnMx68
Individuals possessing sadistic personality display recurrent cruel behavior and aggression. Sadism can also include the use of emotional cruelty, purposefully manipulating others through the use of fear, and a preoccupation with violence.

108. Rosenhan experiment
https://youtu.be/qkiDcxcKzAY
The study concluded "it is clear that we cannot distinguish the sane from the insane in psychiatric hospitals" and also illustrated the dangers of dehumanization and labeling in psychiatric institutions.

109. Emotional dissonance
https://youtu.be/5IyWkfq1RoE
Emotional dissonance is a feeling of unease that occurs when someone evaluates an emotional experience as a threat to his or her identity. The paper documents that the features ascribed to emotion in Western culture are likely to collide with the characteristics attributed to Western citizens.

110. Emotional contagion
https://youtu.be/d6h8X5t9ULc
Emotional contagion, first characterized by Elaine Hatfield, describes how people who observe the emotions and behaviors of another tend to copy those emotions and behaviors. For instance, when someone smiles happily around others, those around them are more likely to smile and feel happy.

111. Social stigma
https://youtu.be/0TH8o2VMHFY
Stigma may affect the behavior of those who are stigmatized. Those who are stereotyped often start to act in ways that their stigmatizers expect of them. It not only changes their behavior, but it also shapes their emotions and beliefs.[5] Members of stigmatized social groups often face prejudice that causes depression (i.e. deprejudice).[6] These stigmas put a person's social identity in threatening situations, such as low self-esteem. Because of this, identity theories have become highly researched. Identity threat theories can go hand-in-hand with labeling theory.

112. Les Greenberg
https://youtu.be/kCtsOR-NaFA
We need to live in mindful harmony with our feelings, not attempting to control them.

113. Dr. Stephen Porges, author of the Polyvagal Theory
https://youtu.be/ypYQ-Frwndc
“Try something different with clients,” Porges tells clinicians. “Tell clients who were traumatized that they should celebrate their body’s responses, even if the profound physiological and behavioral states they experienced in past, are now limiting their ability to function in current social situations. Those bodily responses enable them to survive under the trauma, often as children. It reduced some of the injury. If they were oppositional during an aggressive traumatic event such as rape, they could have been killed."

114. The Milgram experiment
https://youtu.be/wXMrJwEFkZU
The Milgram experiment on obedience to authority figures was a series of social psychology experiments conducted by Yale University psychologist Stanley Milgram.

115. Jane Elliott's "Blue eyes/Brown eyes" exercise
https://youtu.be/YIfLGi895cU
At first, the minority group, brown-eyes, resisted. Elliot told them that the blue-eyes children were smarter because of their blue-eyes. Children stopped resisting. Brown-eyes became timid and obedient.

116. Cognitive dissonance
https://youtu.be/4LUQmTmBCuQ
People tend to seek consistency in their attitudes and perceptions, so this conflict causes feelings of unease or discomfort.

117. Narcissistic Baiting
https://youtu.be/6k5hSqo6Tbw
Narcissists and psychopaths are well-known for a tactic known as “baiting.” They deliberately provoke you so that you emotionally react and swallow their blameshifting hook, line, and sinker.

118. Internal vs External Locus of Control
https://youtu.be/bQxj1qkXPSg
Internal locus of control: Internal locus of control defines control within one's own efforts. ...
External locus of control: External locus of control defines power coming from external forces.

119. Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
https://youtu.be/sOIfgD0M00g
Maslow's theory has given rise to a new way to look at people's needs. For example, Maslow's hierarchy of needs is widely used in health and social work as a framework for assessing clients' needs.
Problems or difficult circumstances at one point in a person's life can cause them to fixate on a particular set of needs, and this can affect their future happiness.
For example, a person who lived through a period of extreme deprivation and lack of security in early childhood may fixate on physiological and safety needs. These remain salient even if they are satisfied.
So even if this person later has everything they need they may nonetheless obsess over money or keeping enough food in the fridge.
This, for Maslow, was the root cause of many 'neurotic' mental health problems, such as anxiety or depression.

120. Pendulation
https://youtu.be/sTYHCK4ug5Q
Pendulation, also called “looping,” involves switching between resourcing and titration, allowing a person to move between a state of arousal triggered by a traumatic event and a state of calm. This helps the body to regain homeostasis—a state in which the body's systems are regulated and working in balance.

121. Constant criticism
https://youtu.be/0-auv0iJPro
Criticism, even if you are unconsciously encouraging it, destroys self-esteem. Low self-esteem is a leading cause of anxiety and depression. It makes doing well in your career difficult, can see you constantly choosing unhealthy relationships, and can also encourage addictive behaviours.

122. Neglect
https://youtu.be/3cj1waOnr5Q
For children, affectional neglect may have devastating consequences, including failure to thrive, developmental delay, hyperactivity, aggression, depression, low self-esteem, running away from home, substance abuse, and a host of other emotional disorders. These children feel unloved and unwanted.

123. Carl Jung's Archetype: The Trickster
https://youtu.be/Z5eQAAJlGxw
In modern psychology 'Trickster' is often used to refer to a universal force or pattern within the mind — what Jung called an archetype — that represents the irrational, chaotic, and unpredictable side of human thought and behaviour.

124. Limiting Beliefs
https://youtu.be/sJtdrwXzhUY
A limiting belief is a thought or state of mind that you think is the absolute truth and stops you from doing certain things. These beliefs don't always have to be about yourself, either. They could be about how the world works, ideas, and how you interact with people.

125. Byron Katie
https://youtu.be/xI-9YCOO_78
“As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless."

126. Empathy Gap
https://youtu.be/B5zOFm90138
It occurs because we underestimate how much emotions impact the decisions that we make, causing us to leave emotions out of the equation when making predictions.

127. Empathy Trap
https://youtu.be/9lzJy-C35ZI
Simply put, an empathy trap is when our empathy turns into enabling. For example, a family member isn't able to pay the rent, so we give them money. However, we may know or suspect — in the bottom of our hearts — the money isn't actually for rent.

128. Toxic empathy
https://youtu.be/SmxGRfpacBA
Toxic empathy is when a person over-identifies with someone else's feelings and directly takes them on as their own. For example, feeling anxious for a friend when they're facing stress at work can be normal.

129. Cycle of abuse: grooming
https://youtu.be/-j0z256lE34
The expert testified that grooming includes such behaviors as showing a child extra attention, complimenting them, giving gifts, making promises and increasing contact —behaviors that may seem innocent to the lay person.

130. Malicious intent
https://youtu.be/6_woYH7P_TM
Malicious intent means the person acted willfully or intentionally to cause harm, without legal justification.

131. Narcissistic Smear Campaign
https://youtu.be/lpxFqv790Eg
A smear campaign is a tool narcissists use to villainize their victim. Through lies and deception, narcissists gain the support of potential accomplices. This can happen in a toxic work environment, between family friends, or even within a family.

132. Emotional reasoning
https://youtu.be/MiXcK4dsjnk
Emotional reasoning is the condition of being so strongly influenced by your emotions that you assume that they indicate objective truth. Whatever you feel is true, without any conditions and without any need for supporting facts or evidence. This is often tied to negative emotions and mental states.

133. Fuzzy logic
https://youtu.be/DEs9ZCfs7Mg
Fuzzy logic is a superset of conventional (Boolean) logic that has been extended to handle the concept of partial truth — truth values between “completely true” and “completely false.

134. Bobo doll experiment
https://youtu.be/QfsvKmNNcEA
Bobo doll experiment demonstrated that children are able to learn social behavior such as aggression through the process of observation learning, through watching the behavior of another person. The findings support Bandura's (1977) Social Learning Theory.

135. Social learning theory
https://youtu.be/lCkr53ocqgc
Social learning theory suggests that social behavior is learned by observing and imitating the behavior of others. Psychologist Albert Bandura developed the social learning theory open_in_new as an alternative to the earlier work of fellow psychologist B.F. Skinner, known for his influence on behaviorism.

136. Kohlberg's Theory of Moral Development
https://youtu.be/36mG1N-OnIc
Kohlberg's theory of moral development is a theory that focuses on how children develop morality and moral reasoning. Kohlberg's theory suggests that moral development occurs in a series of six stages. The theory also suggests that moral logic is primarily focused on seeking and maintaining justice.

137. Charcot hysteria
https://youtu.be/e5u5M-bmIQY
One condition in particular was puzzling doctors. They called it hysteria: violent fits. Charcot begun to use new approach: hypnosis. Charcot found that he could deduce and relieve symptoms of hysteria using hypnosis.
Charcot's observations of hysteria led him towards the radical conclusion. Perhaps symptoms were not signs of pathological disease. Perhaps they were caused by emotions that patients themself were not even aware they were feeling: unconscious mind.

138. Self-expression
https://youtu.be/PTV-p9rS9Nw
: the expression of one's own personality : assertion of one's individual traits.

139. Freeze Response
https://youtu.be/djYrV5qknYw
Your body's fight-flight-freeze response is triggered by psychological fears. It's a built-in defense mechanism that causes physiological changes, like rapid heart rate and reduced perception of pain. This enables you to quickly protect yourself from a perceived threat.

140. Self-improvement is trait of narcissism
https://youtu.be/2kszKmo31uE
The desire for self-development stems from 'narcissistic' desires, a tendency to self-aggrandizement and superiority over others. – Sigmund Freud

141. Attribute substitution
https://youtu.be/xFeACHbsWi8
When a human is faced with a complex question, they often unwittingly simplify it to provide a response they think is relevant, but might not be. 

142. Rational ignorance
https://youtu.be/0gDg6p4HiG8
Rational ignorance is refraining from acquiring knowledge when the supposed cost of educating oneself on an issue exceeds the expected potential benefit that the knowledge would provide.

143. Micromanaging
https://youtu.be/1Yd3nLGrkCc
While not everyone believes micromanaging is a form of bullying, it undoubtedly has a negative impact on one's mental health, work performance, and confidence. Dima Suponau, cofounder of Number For Live Person, believes micromanaging is a form of bullying because it's about seeking control.

144. Rescuer role
https://youtu.be/OG2uoTFHQVM
The rescuer keeps the victim dependent by encouraging their victimhood. The victim gets their needs met by having the rescuer take care of them. Participants generally tend to have a primary or habitual role (victim, rescuer, persecutor) when they enter into drama triangles.

145. The fear of consequences
https://youtu.be/4eTIjsHh8L4
The fear of consequences is what stops most of us from following through with actions that could be considered wrong or inappropriate. This is true weather you live in a tribe or a city. No one wants to be shunned or looked upon badly by their people or society.

146. Marshall Rosenberg
https://youtu.be/QIxn4ZIaBNc
Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.

147. Robert D. Hare
https://youtu.be/OaD4Klj7GDI
Psychopaths view any social exchange as a 'feeding opportunity', a contest or a test of wills in which there can be only one winner. Their motives are to manipulate and take, ruthlessly and without remorse.

148. William Glasser
https://youtu.be/Lu4EgcU1wbY
We almost always have choices, and the better the choice, the more we will be in control of our lives.

149. Maladaptive daydreaming
https://youtu.be/ehUbEKxTLe8
Maladaptive daydreaming is a mental health issue that causes a person to lose themselves in complex daydreams. These daydreams are usually a coping mechanism for other mental health conditions or circumstances. It's common — but not required — for people who have this to have a history of childhood trauma or abuse.

150. Ableism
https://youtu.be/oipdUAZrVqs
Ableism is discrimination and social prejudice against people with disabilities or who are perceived to be disabled. Ableism characterizes people as defined by their disabilities and inferior to the non-disabled.

151. Paul Watzlawick
https://youtu.be/nbt7CYzmNGw
One cannot not communicate.

152. Emotional blackmail
https://youtu.be/xGPOKSTdWQM
popularized by psychotherapist Susan Forward, about controlling people in relationships and the theory that fear, obligation and guilt are the transactional dynamics at play between the controller and the person being controlled.

153. Letting go
https://youtu.be/pKL9x929M7o
The Letting go technique is very simple. All you do is you bring all your focus and attention to the emotion you feel to which your thoughts pointed you in the first place. While you do that it is super important to set all judgments aside and to just be unconditionally present with the emotion.

154. Survival mode
https://youtu.be/uWEQLl-cqP4
When a person experiences or witnesses a traumatic event, their brain enters what is called survival mode. In order to help them survive, their brain will switch off certain parts and turn on others, such as heightening senses and creating more adrenaline.

155. Social Anxiety Map
https://youtu.be/CvNo2ewAb7Q
social anxiety is a battle on many fronts:
1. Physical symptoms
2. Behaviour
3. Cognitive (mental) is divided in two groups:
a) being stuck
b) everything sucks
4. External factor
5. Unknown factor
6. Relationship
7. All combined in one entity

156. Altruistic narcissists
https://youtu.be/salAP-rC6cI
Altruistic narcissists view themselves as supreme caregivers. They base their inflated self-concept on this supposed 'ability'. Then they expect others to react to them as though they are the caring, generous, people they want to seem like.

157. Rollo May
https://youtu.be/wipv7jUSjEY
Violence arises not out of superfluity of power but out of powerlessness.

158. Vulnerable narcissism
https://youtu.be/HjJSvClJFTM
Vulnerable narcissists, also known as covert narcissists, are quite the opposite of what you may think when you hear the word narcissist. Unlike the common form of narcissism, vulnerable narcissists tend to be much more sensitive but also lack awareness of how they impact others' emotions.

159. Communal Narcissism
https://youtu.be/ATfvsymQzSQ
Although it isn't recognized as a formal diagnosis, communal narcissism refers to grandiose, inflated perceptions within a communal environment. 1. Communal narcissists often believe they have excellent social skills and high degrees of likeability and helpfulness.

160. Liberation psychology
https://youtu.be/2tiHoePRxD8
Liberation psychology or liberation social psychology is an approach to psychology that aims to actively understand the psychology of oppressed and impoverished communities by conceptually and practically addressing the oppressive sociopolitical structure in which they exist.

161. Psychological invalidation
https://youtu.be/iOoO1xqfUPA
Psychological invalidation is a term that is used to describe the act of belittling a person and making them feel less important. Sometimes, it can be regarded as a form of emotional abuse that does not take into consideration what the other person feels, thinks or experiences.

162. Paulo Freire
https://youtu.be/oyYDSCsw2aQ
Best known for his book, Pedagogy of the Oppressed, Freire believed that education was a means to building a “critical consciousness” that would enable people to create change in their lives.

163. R. D. Laing
https://youtu.be/3U2h0B1JvPA
Using case studies of patients he had worked with, psychiatrist R. D. Laing argued that psychosis is not a medical condition, but an outcome of the 'divided self', or the tension between the two personas within us: one our authentic, private identity, and the other the false, 'sane' self that we present to the world.

164. Erich Neumann
https://youtu.be/5wnBiiZ9-Fw
Where I come from great men have always been called upon to exercise discernment and to stand against the crowd.

165. Konrad Lorenz
https://youtu.be/Ihp96HvVR48
Unlike learning, "imprinting" is rapid, operates independently of behaviour, and appears to be irreversible; imprinting cannot be forgotten.

166. Asch conformity experiments
https://youtu.be/ChgHVUAGpKQ
In psychology, the Asch conformity experiments or the Asch paradigm were a series of studies directed by Solomon Asch studying if and how individuals yielded to or defied a majority group and the effect of such influences on beliefs and opinions.

167. The grey rock method
https://youtu.be/kenwfPFXZz4
The grey rock method is a tactic some people use when dealing with abusive or manipulative behavior. It involves becoming as uninteresting and unengaged as possible so that the abusive person loses interest. Some people anecdotally report that it reduces conflict and abuse.

168. Narcissist‌ ‌Hoovering‌
https://youtu.be/18OSMRlpdg8
Hoovering is a manipulation tactic used to “suck” victims back into toxic relationship cycles. Someone who hoovers fears that their target will “get away” from them, so they may engage in love bombing, feigning crises, stalking, or smear campaigns in order to suck up all their target's time, energy, and attention.

169. Victim blaming
https://youtu.be/wFePpuGMY3Q
Victim blaming occurs when the victim of a crime or any wrongful act is held entirely or partially at fault for the harm that befell them.

170. Shame Shifting
https://youtu.be/635TJJIN07g
 Shame Shifting is a common tactic used to shift the shame away from the perpetrator of abuse and place it back on the victim.

171. Intermittent reinforcement
https://youtu.be/q9UNDgejahM
Intermittent reinforcement causes the victim to perpetually seek the abuser's approval while settling for the crumbs of their occasional positive behavior, in the hopes that the abuser will return to the honeymoon phase of the relationship.

172. Approach-avoidance conflict
https://youtu.be/XSD--PRSXXw
Approach and avoidance motivation is composed of three conceptually distinct components. Approach indicates a propensity to move toward (or maintain contact with) a desired stimulus. Avoidance indicates a propensity to move away from (or maintain distance from) an undesired stimulus.

173. Psychopathic abuse
https://youtu.be/VSBikO9CfXo
Psychopathy describes a set of personality traits and behaviors frequently associated with lack of emotional sensitivity and empathy, impulsiveness, superficial charm and insensitivity to punishing consequences.

174. Narcissistic fantasy
https://youtu.be/eS4QnzbbblU
Covert narcissistic individuals are those whose fantasies, whether conscious or unconscious, are indeed grandiose, inflated, unrealistic, and self-centered. They may be preoccupied with fantasies of grandiose achievements, imagining themselves as world heroes, centers of attention, and acclaimed by all.

175. Judith Lewis Herman
https://youtu.be/I4yghBfVUZQ
Recovery unfolds in three stages. The central task of the first stage is the establishment of safety. The central task of the second stage is remembrance and mourning. The central focus of the third stage is re-connection with ordinary life.

176. Otto F. Kernberg
https://youtu.be/c71BF3EuhLQ
The child responds by splitting the aggressive self-objects away from the good self objects. This results in unrealistic views of others, as they are seen only in black and white...good or bad.

177. Melanie Klein
https://youtu.be/TEoRGkhTQAM
Love is not just admiration for strength, it is also tolerance for weakness.

178. Dissociation
https://youtu.be/H6IVQXBTfJM
Many people may experience dissociation (dissociate) during their life. If you dissociate, you may feel disconnected from yourself and the world around you. For example, you may feel detached from your body or feel as though the world around you is unreal.

179. Separation-individuation process
https://youtu.be/W6DRyzc8MSU
Separation-individuation is an intrapsychic process that reverbe- rates throughout the life cycle. It refers to the establishment of a sense of self, separate from other primary love objects (i.e., separation) and the acquisition of one's unique individual- ity (i.e., individuation; Mahler, Pine, & Bergman, 1975).

180. Narcissistic abuse effects
https://youtu.be/MgSIlZ3Gpis
You know you're suffering from narcissistic abuse victim syndrome if you have the following symptoms:
Always Walking On Egg Shells. ...
Sense of Mistrust. ...
Self-Isolation. ...
Loss of Self Worth. ...
Feeling Lonely. ...
Freezing Up. ...
Trouble Making Decisions. ...
Feeling Like You've Done Something Wrong.

181. Reality testing
https://youtu.be/Yg_rxaocjYY
Reality testing is a concept in Sigmund Freud's psychoanalytic theory in which the ego recognizes the difference between the external and internal world. In other words, it is the ability to see a situation for what it really is, rather than what one hopes or fears it might be.

182. Devaluation stage
https://youtu.be/a9tulI5Pc_0
The devaluation stage, also known as the depreciation stage, comes next. It often starts slowly. The narcissist will start dropping subtle hints that you've done something wrong, that you've forgotten something important, or that you've hurt their feelings. You'll start to feel insecure.

183. Anticipation of Future Events
https://youtu.be/yJpy396XCJ4
Humans routinely anticipate future events and organize current actions accordingly. This capacity has been termed “episodic foresight” (Suddendorf and Moore 2011) and is fundamental to enabling humans to control the future by planning, preparing for, and shaping events in desired ways.

184. suppressing emotions effects
https://youtu.be/PDKvk6wrj-Y
Suppressed emotions stay in the body. The effects of suppressed emotions include anxiety, depression, and other stress-related illnesses. Such suppression can lead to alcohol and substance abuse.

185. memories - emotions connection
https://youtu.be/I9n83Rng4cs
 The stronger your memory, whether it is associated with happiness, fear, or curiosity, the stronger the emotional response will be if you find yourself in a similar situation.

186. Sam Vaknin
https://youtu.be/nUcwDCIKYv8
The narcissist is never whole without an adoring, submissive, available, self-denigrating partner. His very sense of superiority, indeed his False Self, depends on it.

187. M. Scott Peck
https://youtu.be/WM6q4b7jPO4
The more honest one is, the easier it is to continue being honest, just as the more likes one has told, the more necessary is to lie again. By their openness, people dedicated to the truth live in the open, and through the exercise of their courage to live in the open, they become free from fear.

188. Agreeableness
https://youtu.be/ZM3owavRNwI
Agreeableness is a personality trait that describes a person's ability to put others needs before their own. Those who are more agreeable are more likely to be empathetic and find pleasure in helping others and working with people who need more help.

189. Pollyanna principle
https://youtu.be/IBU62p7z59U
The Pollyanna principle is the tendency for people to remember pleasant items more accurately than unpleasant ones. Research indicates that at the subconscious level, the mind tends to focus on the optimistic; while at the conscious level, it tends to focus on the negative.

190. Seesaw effect
https://youtu.be/V9E8Gl79M6E
pressing on one side will raise the other

191. Entrained thinking
https://youtu.be/OjKd5CiNKjw
Verbal abuse entrains the brain. The abuser creates in your brain specific wave patterns. He doesn't know what he's doing, he's not a neuroscientist but he is a predator -comes naturally. Your brain synchronizes with abuser's brain.

192. predator avoidance
https://youtu.be/uarpqsyqhBY
The abuser regulates your emotions, moods. Happy, unhappy - it's external. Abuser does this using a series of techniques. 1) Intermittent reinforcement: love/hate you. 2) Approach-avoidance. 3) trauma bonding 4) verbal abuse
Shark doesn't analyze the blood before. Predators take over your mind.

193. Big 5 Personality Traits
https://youtu.be/oxeT8QqSOqE
The five broad personality traits described by the theory are extraversion (also often spelled extroversion), agreeableness, openness, conscientiousness, and neuroticism.

194. Depressive realism
https://youtu.be/o6nsxB6Yj-o
Depressive realism is a hypothesis that people with depression are more likely to accurately assess certain situations than those without depression. Two professors of psychology, Lauren Alloy and Lyn Yvonne Abramson, developed the depressive realism hypothesis in the 1970s.

195. Barnum Effect
https://youtu.be/mwghURYwykw
The Barnum effect is a cognitive bias that occurs when individuals believe that generic personality descriptions and statements apply to themselves. In reality, the description is general and vague enough to apply to almost everyone.

196. Politeness maxims
https://youtu.be/g6w2FIWcH2o
In sociolinguistics and conversation analysis (CA), politeness strategies are speech acts that express concern for others and minimize threats to self-esteem ("face") in particular social contexts.

197. The agreement maxim
https://youtu.be/Kzl0MkuXV28
Agreement maxim refers to minimize the expression of disagreement between self and other and maximize the expression of agreement between self and other. The disagreement in this maxim is usually expressed by regret or partial agreement.

198. Negative politeness
https://youtu.be/mjGs7jCW4Do
Negative politeness strategies are oriented towards the hearer's negative face and emphasize avoidance of imposition on the hearer. By attempting to avoid imposition from the speaker, the risk of face-threat to the hearer is reduced.

199. Narcissistic Mortification
https://youtu.be/7R-IBnAScrs
Narcissistic mortification is “intense fear associated with narcissistic injury and humiliation ... the shocking reaction when individuals face the discrepancy between an endorsed or ideal view of the self and a drastically contrasting realization”.

200. A Psychopath's Glib Charm
https://youtu.be/JaMnMRGaZzU
Key Symptoms of Psychopathy
Emotional/Interpersonal: Glib and superficial. Egocentric and grandiose. Lack of remorse or guilt.

PLAYLIST 2

1.  Social-emotional learning (SEL)
https://youtu.be/nBqD3fg2e0w
acquire and apply the knowledge, skills, and attitudes to develop healthy identities

2. Somatic
https://youtu.be/loLfLbB6JcU
emphasizes internal physical perception and experience

3. Retraumatization
https://youtu.be/yu83W0JVQNA
old habits die hard

4. Construct
https://youtu.be/1OkwAXunL9A
such as intelligence, self-esteem, and depression are variables that are not directly observable

5. Attachment Issues
https://youtu.be/LMwqe6pA85s
four types of attachment styles: secure, anxious-ambivalent, disorganised and avoidant

6. Kuwait TV 2 - Psychology segment (Panic attacks)
https://youtu.be/ljGH5oN66Y8
physical symptoms

7. Disinhibition
https://youtu.be/YxtIDExxXHk
 a lack of restraint manifested in disregard of social conventions, impulsivity, and poor risk assessment

8. Abandonment Melange
https://youtu.be/la9BRhNTa7M
It's hard to let go of demons inside, they were holding you when no one else would

9. Negativity Bias
https://youtu.be/6IuLMhIntS0
 things of a more negative nature have a greater effect on one's psychological state and processes than neutral or positive things

10. Rick Hanson
https://youtu.be/-Mi3I0pg7eM
Nothing really makes sense unless we look at it within the framework of complexity

11. Endowment effect
https://youtu.be/L8SNiPRx63E
people tend to value items that they own more highly than they would if they did not belong to them

12. Richard Boyatzis
https://youtu.be/A1xV9JB-RP4
You need the negative focus to survive, but a positive one to thrive.

13. Peter Kinderman
https://youtu.be/aAMYwHJiMPM
I believe that mental health services should be based on the premise that the origins of distress are largely social.

14. False dilemma
https://youtu.be/_oPdJ9m6x3k
 an informal fallacy based on a premise that erroneously limits what options are available

15. Detachment
https://youtu.be/Mkct95RTqZM
By detaching from past experiences and future expectations, you can look at your relationships, both personal and professional, more objectively, which gives you greater clarity

16. Codependency
https://youtu.be/xmxauHTkbRs
where one person enables another person's self-destructive behavior such as addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement

17. Cluster B
https://youtu.be/bOjabIgNV2w
personality disorders are characterized by dramatic, overly emotional or unpredictable thinking or behavior

18. Personality disorder
https://youtu.be/2Lc-JcG-nhY
People with Personality disorder do not find any problem with their behavior and believe they are normal

19. Abraham Maslow
https://youtu.be/yZvxCesXnc4
No psychological health is possible unless this essential care of the person is fundamentally accepted, loved and respected by others and by himself.

20. Carl Rogers
https://youtu.be/lvdm9BXFhnc
It is the client who knows what hurts, what directions to go, what problems are crucial, what experiences have been deeply buried.

21. Deficiency motivation
https://youtu.be/qUmSRsvFkCY
Deficiency motivation doesn't work. It will lead to a life-long pursuit of try to fix me. Learn to appreciate what you have and where and who you are.

22. Power dynamics
https://youtu.be/BWXuNnTQrMo
When negative power imbalances exist in a relationship, it can result in three different types of power dynamics:
The Demand-Withdrawal Dynamic. ...
The Distancer-Pursuer Dynamic. ...
The Fear-Shame Dynamic.

23. Social bullying
https://youtu.be/8rL4GxfaHvs
It is designed to harm someone's social reputation and / or cause humiliation

24. Hypocognition
https://youtu.be/0R2eaJ1SX2I
hypercognition is to over-apply a familiar concept to circumstances where it does not belong.

25. Hypercognition
https://youtu.be/SDcMWGiw6UY
Bias toward what is known may lead to wrong and delayed diagnoses that bring harmful consequences

26. Ironic process theory / The Pink Elephant Paradox
https://youtu.be/O6PsHW3yxtM
trying to suppress a thought is likely to make it more intrusive

27. Social cognitive theory
https://youtu.be/-ADjvrtwjII
the view that people learn by watching others. How a person thinks about and responds to one's social environment

28. Kurt Lewin: The 3 Stages of Change
https://youtu.be/y_TLi_C97Bo
distinct stages of change (unfreeze, change, and refreeze) allow you to plan & implement the required change

29. Kurt Lewin
https://youtu.be/vnbRXog1dEI
If you want to truly understand something, try to change it.

30. Shame culture
https://youtu.be/wXPjhlfGCy0
 In a shame culture you know you are good or bad by what your community says about you, by whether it honors or excludes you

31. Social psychology
https://youtu.be/o-DwPrpEgvY
the study of how individual or group behavior is influenced by the presence and behavior of others.

32. Rashomon effect
https://youtu.be/DY2PigbqwRQ
in which an event is given contradictory interpretations or descriptions by the individuals involved, thereby providing different perspectives and points of view of the same incident

33. Jacques Lacan
https://youtu.be/9qRoVhRN3bM
Symptoms, those you believe you recognize, seem to you irrational because you take them in an isolated manner, and you want to interpret them directly.

34. False equivalence
https://youtu.be/zx9Ayc5BEDo
"comparing apples and oranges."

35. Ventral vagal
https://youtu.be/6jk2Hv3mbj0
when your heart is open, you feel connected to others, you make eye contact, you see others' faces. You may feel calm, joyful, energized, curious. This is one state of the nervous system's parasympathetic response

36. High interpersonal sensitivity
https://youtu.be/sVrD-7vNPeg
Traumatic injury is physical, cognitive, interpersonal effect of that trauma

37. Sensory hypersensitivity
https://youtu.be/ekTE3Qw4RBM
Sensory issues are accessibility issues.

38. Impaired sensory gating
https://youtu.be/Wog6aqNDFlE
Sensory gating refers to “filtering” of irrelevant sensory input in the brain.

39. Rejection sensitivity
https://youtu.be/fDJ7rLsd82Y
extreme emotional sensitivity and pain triggered by the perception that a person has been rejected or criticized by important people in their life

40. HPA axis
https://youtu.be/gvGEDOvkins
 the interaction between the hypothalamus, pituitary gland, and adrenal glands; it plays an important role the body's response to stress

41. Neurodivergent
https://youtu.be/Cr6xP7fW4r4
describes people whose brain differences affect how their brain works. That means they have different strengths and challenges from people whose brains don't have those differences.

42. Sensory Regulation
https://youtu.be/DE_0h9s6vzQ
If a child has sensory regulation difficulties they may have difficulty surrounding handwriting, running, jumping, tying shoe laces, concentrating and understanding instruction in a crowded and noisy environment

43. Secure attachment
https://youtu.be/3ZLztwnEbo8
where a child feels comforted by the presence of their caregiver. Securely attached children feel protected and that they have someone to rely on.

44. Binding problem
https://youtu.be/94uuspjkd7E
The binding problem refers to the overall encoding of our brain circuits for the combination of decisions, actions, and perception

45. The Tyranny of the Shoulds
https://youtu.be/N3aXGZNlWeg
Stress is often a result of the tension between what is and what you believe should be. It's called the “tyranny of the shoulds,” and it dictates the way we think, act, and feel

46. Karen Horney
https://youtu.be/lMN6nz0Z7aw
a normal human being does not exist

47. Weaponized Incompetence
https://youtu.be/slPwTAkOpOs
 Weaponized incompetence is a behavior pattern in which one partner pretends to be bad at simple tasks to get out of shared responsibilities.

48. Misdiagnosis
https://youtu.be/Z20QQfw0Mvk
an incorrect diagnosis of an illness or other problem

49. post-event rumination
https://youtu.be/3gyCECYDq-Q
When a person is stuck thinking over and over about an event that occurred, they are experiencing post-event rumination. Post event rumination is a common experience for those overcoming social anxiety

50. Observer bias
https://youtu.be/6ipqerIR8Po
as any kind of systematic divergence from accurate facts during observation and the recording of data and information in studies

51. Actor-observer bias
https://youtu.be/hqVTxZvQGRQ
Actor-observer bias is the tendency to attribute the behavior of others to internal causes, while attributing our own behavior to external causes. In other words, actors explain their own behavior differently than how an observer would explain the same behavior

52. Innocuous sociability
https://youtu.be/qHs78HgEc18
involves a self-protective interpersonal style characterised by safe and innocuous social behaviours

53. Self-efficacy
https://youtu.be/tgxR2jVKHNY
Self-efficacy refers to an individual's belief in his or her capacity to execute behaviors necessary to produce specific performance attainments

54. Self-Persuasion
https://youtu.be/iPlhZCFtvr4
This theory postulates that the receiver takes an active role in persuading himself or herself to change his or her attitude or behavior.

55. Irrational beliefs
https://youtu.be/S3hxIOOF2dE
Negative sets of habitual responses we hold to when faced with stressful events or situations, that no longer work to keep distress at bay. Ideas, feelings, beliefs, ways of thinking, attitudes, opinions, biases, prejudices, or values with which we were raised.

56. Critical Parenting
https://youtu.be/TjbMJcJ8DGk
Critical parents point out their children's mistakes constantly. They are antagonistic, negative, cruel, and harsh. They are never satisfied with their children's achievements, even when everyone else praises them

57. Rational choice theory
https://youtu.be/QQoo_97agzE
 people don't randomly select products off the shelf. Rather, they use a logical decision-making process that takes into account the costs and benefits of various options, weighing the options against each other.

58. Martha Mitchell effect
https://youtu.be/dDE0TlkNnEs
The Martha Mitchell effect occurs when a medical professional labels a patient's accurate perception of real events as delusional, resulting in misdiagnosis

59. Just-world hypothesis
https://youtu.be/uYKq3TYMYzM
The just-world hypothesis or just-world fallacy is the cognitive bias that assumes that "people get what they deserve" – that actions will have morally fair and fitting consequences for the actor.

60. Self-serving bias
https://youtu.be/wTk3ixlxqPM
A self-serving bias is any cognitive or perceptual process that is distorted by the need to maintain and enhance self-esteem, or the tendency to perceive oneself in an overly favorable manner.

61. Black and white thinking
https://youtu.be/Efn_J8a98jQ
Black and white thinking is a tendency to think in extremes. While it's normal from time to time, developing a pattern of dichotomous thinking can interfere with your health, relationships, and career.

62. Divergent thinking
https://youtu.be/nUat8pHlmWQ
 lateral thinking, is the process of creating multiple, unique ideas or solutions to a problem that you are trying to solve. Through spontaneous, free-flowing thinking, divergent thinking requires coming up with many different answers or routes forward.

63. Systems thinking
https://youtu.be/oPjjObCAFCc
Systems thinking is a way of making sense of the complexity of the world by looking at it in terms of wholes and relationships rather than by splitting it down into its parts. It has been used as a way of exploring and developing effective action in complex contexts, enabling systems change

64. Firewalling
https://youtu.be/V3L_7RVRdiA
In abusive environments, the term “firewall” refers to a defense system that you can build to protect your thoughts, feelings, emotions, and needs from the narcissist in your life.

65. Ivan Pavlov
https://youtu.be/QUtq7exRkik
Men are apt to be much more influenced by words than by the actual facts of the surrounding reality.

66. Shyness versus Social anxiety
https://youtu.be/rkPsovNRVFc
Shyness is considered a normal facet of personality that combines the experience of social anxiety and inhibited behavior, but is also described as “stable temperament.” Shyness is classified as a personality characteristic.

67. High-functioning social anxiety
https://youtu.be/McmauG1KFMg
 People with high-functioning social anxiety do experience the same physical and psychological/emotional symptoms as other social anxiety sufferers, but usually at reduced levels of intensity.

68. Compensatory behaviors
https://youtu.be/gyi0tUDoVv8
When people struggle with social anxiety, at times they engage in compensatory behaviors in order to mask their discomfort and mask their perceived flaws.

69. Reassurance Seeking
https://youtu.be/zGFkI5hUuGM
the act of continuously trying to gather information that has already been given to us to decrease our anxiety.

70. Self-blame
https://youtu.be/G-vCPJuuqII
As the neural grooves of self-blame and regret get established, rumination becomes your default mode.

71. Self-Loathing
https://youtu.be/_IKBkyLglnI
Self-loathing is a feeling that resembles self-hate, as it constantly pushes the idea that you're not good enough. As a consequence, you might feel like you don't deserve love or that bad things happen to you for a reason

72. Pathocracy
https://youtu.be/CKwihGCSkuQ
pathocracy is a system of government 'wherein a small pathological minority takes control over a society of normal people'

73. Internalize
https://youtu.be/8NynjwG9KfE
make (attitudes or behaviour) part of one's nature by learning or unconscious assimilation.
"people learn gender stereotypes and internalize them"

74. James Hollis
https://youtu.be/eVa6fCq25-c
If you want to cure a neurosis, you have to risk something.

75. Pathological liar
https://youtu.be/UjRDeYpKZFg
pathological liars may believe what they're saying or be so used to lying that they can easily maintain eye contact while telling an untruth.

76. Elaine N. Aron (Author of The Highly Sensitive Person)
https://youtu.be/ovmDDoi7h2I
The brains of HSPs actually work a little differently than others.

77. The Openness trait
https://youtu.be/t_7aKtC-PRI
People high in Openness may be so open that they are also tolerant of narcissistic person's behavior, willing to entertain the narc views

78. Shell shock
https://youtu.be/Hh5wSjLyNu8
It is a psychological condition resulting from the stress a soldier experiences during battle. Symptoms include (but are not limited to) tremors, loss of sight or hearing and extreme fatigue.

79. Judgmental
https://youtu.be/aiHoRFU99GM
Judgmental is a negative word to describe someone who often rushes to judgment without reason. Judgmental types are not open-minded or easygoing.

80. Maria Consiglio
https://youtu.be/JzNtlXACLLM
Not everything would make sense immediately. You need to wait sometimes.

81. Oppositional defiant
https://youtu.be/jNrvK2g_7pI
uncooperative, defiant, and hostile toward peers, parents, teachers, and other authority figures. They are more troubling to others than they are to themselves.

82. Recognition Responsive Euphoria
https://youtu.be/2dUqK9PTyD4
...so accustomed to making mistakes and receiving criticism, they become positively giddy when they receive positive recognition

83. Sensory processing disorder (SPD)
https://youtu.be/Q-TMmpmPQp0
affects how your brain processes sensory information (stimuli)

84. Sublimation
https://youtu.be/5dXI1N6kUmY
a mature type of defense mechanism, in which socially unacceptable impulses or idealizations are transformed into socially acceptable actions or behavior, possibly resulting in a long-term conversion of the initial impulse

85. Hyperphantasia
https://youtu.be/b-NT5lL-HT0
"as vivid as real seeing"

86. Situational Mutism
https://youtu.be/LKl-kUc1_h0
Those with SM speak fluently in some situations but remain consistently silent in others. They may have a blank expression, or appear 'frozen' when expected to speak.

87. Alexithymia
https://youtu.be/Q_p7nmSsyMI
Alexithymia is characterized by an impaired ability to be aware of, explicitly identify, and describe one's feelings (Nemiah et al., 1976)

88. Coping with Shyness and Social Phobia (rnk1977) - 2009 video
https://youtu.be/WC-rdLHjbBg
A key element is that of changing safety behaviours.

89. Improving Social Confidence and Reducing Shyness (rnk1977) 2009 video
https://youtu.be/JK1vsqDu0sI
We may also feel anxious, and worry about feeling criticized, if we think other people are judging us.

90. Neurodivergent Masking
https://youtu.be/_7Lx5gBpntQ
Masking (or camouflaging) is often used to describe the artificial performance of social behaviours that are seen as more socially acceptable in a neurotypical society.

91. Neurotypical
https://youtu.be/ck1oybqIA2E
Pathological need to be liked and accepted by everyone.

92. ADHD
https://youtu.be/Z6L7Bi7h72g
 Children with ADHD may have trouble paying attention, controlling impulsive behaviors (may act without thinking about what the result will be), or be overly active.

93. Autism
https://youtu.be/m2_EtXyKOpc
getting very anxious about social situations. finding it hard to make friends or preferring to be on your own. seeming blunt, rude or not interested in others without meaning to.

94. Change agent
https://youtu.be/Hyz66YNFSWY
a change agent is an individual who promotes and supports a new way of doing something within the company.

95. The moral paradox
https://youtu.be/OOXIkUFtlos
There is no right way to do a wrong thing.

96. The Montessori Method
https://youtu.be/jRv9ZeLeQcI
Montessori is a method of education that is based on self-directed activity, hands-on learning and collaborative play. In Montessori classrooms children make creative choices in their learning, while the classroom and the highly trained teacher offer age-appropriate activities to guide the process.

97. Halo effect
https://youtu.be/7SwoWkyrXgE
sometimes generalized to refer to the specific assumption that “what is beautiful is good”.

98. Hyperbolic discounting
https://youtu.be/bBWcHFA-bn0
Hyperbolic discounting is a cognitive bias, where people choose smaller, immediate rewards rather than larger later rewards and this occurs more when the delay is closer to the present than the future.

99. Labeling theory
https://youtu.be/CdkfV8aAkJ8
Labeling theory posits that self-identity and the behavior of individuals may be determined or influenced by the terms used to describe or classify them. It is associated with the concepts of self-fulfilling prophecy and stereotyping. 

100. Symbolic interactionism
https://youtu.be/vs5CeL-6pkM
Symbolic interactionism is a theory that focuses on how individuals interact. It argues that people's actions are based on the meanings they assign to things, which can differ depending on the person and can change over time.

101. Overcompensation
https://youtu.be/sA4XjR7xcSk
Overcompensation, characterized by a superiority goal, leads to striving for power, dominance, self-esteem, and self-devaluation. Undercompensation, which includes a demand for help, leads to a lack of courage and a fear for life.

102. Debbie Ford
https://youtu.be/FinGSc7r0WI
What you don't own, owns you.

103. Limerence
https://youtu.be/YwvbgejCMRs
Limerence is a state of infatuation or obsession with another person that involves an all-consuming passion and intrusive thoughts.

104. Abandonment Depression
https://youtu.be/a2kgo0p7YVE
In the throes of abandonment depression, a person will feel that part of his very self is. lost or cut off from the supplies necessary to sustain life. Many patients describe this in. graphic physical terms, such as losing an arm or leg, being deprived of oxygen, or being. drained of blood.

105. Defensive exclusion
https://youtu.be/Xq6maOWzzmM
The defensive exclusion hypothesis suggests that insecurely attached individuals will filter out all information related to his or her attachment figure, as this is associated with psychological pain.

106. John Bowlby
https://youtu.be/kzdiDc8hV4Y
We're only as needy as our unmet needs.

107.Unhelpful rules
https://youtu.be/-3qhcWaPVb4
Unhelpful rules are those that are inflexible, rigid, and unreasonable. For example, holding the belief “I must never make mistakes” is unreasonable in the sense that it is unlikely that we would be able to maintain this standard and this means we are likely to feel bad when we made any mistake.

108. Rejection Trauma
https://youtu.be/rDbrES99_h4
Whether intentional or not, the effects of rejection in childhood may include fear of intimacy, distrust, anxiety and depression, and people-pleasing behaviors. Feelings of confusion and emotional pain from rejection may lead to attachment challenges, ineffective coping mechanisms, or an overall sense of loneliness.

109. Emotional Discernment
https://youtu.be/ET5ZbzEt6z0
When a person goes into a relationship emotionally needy, they are not going to have discernment in choosing people.

110. Fearful avoidant attachment style
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4nQgz7tVFd0
A fearful avoidant attachment style describes a person who craves closeness and support. However, they also fear it and feel the need to distance themselves from others at the same time.

111. Gershen Kaufman
https://youtu.be/ee4AoXKQo_0
Feelings aren't "wrong" or "right", "bad" or "good". Feelings just are.

112. Sheldon B. Kopp
https://youtu.be/7D9QL1ItjP4
Again and again I find that my own inner counselor, my secret dreaming self, is not only wise and helpful but usually amusing as well.

113. Alice Miller
https://youtu.be/YhUC1Rsktco
An unacknowledged trauma is like a wound that never heals over and may start to bleed again at any time.

114. Beverly Engel
https://youtu.be/luUf8Eqtqqo
Accepting that your imperfections and so-called negative attributes are part of what makes you unique will help you to stop continually trying to be someone or something that you are not.

115. Meltdowns
https://youtu.be/n79XOiRyQI8
What triggers autistic meltdowns?
Sensory overload or understimulation. This is when a child is sensitive to sound, touch, taste, smell, visuals or movements.
Changes in routine or dealing with an unexpected change. ...
Anxiety or anxious feelings.
Being unable to describe what they need or want.

116. Stanford Prison Experiment
https://youtu.be/0L1aQ1VzI4I
The results of the Stanford Prison Experiment showed that situational factors and power dynamics played a significant role in shaping participants' behavior. The guards became abusive and authoritarian, while the prisoners became submissive and emotionally distressed.

117. Social power
https://youtu.be/DPZkwA3vFGs
Much of what humans do as individuals and society involves influencing others. People want and need things from others, things such as affection, money, opportunity, work, and justice. How they get those things often depends on their abilities to influence others to grant their desires.

118. The Lucifer Effect
https://youtu.be/-tGaMF0opf8
“We mortals can be fools, especially when mortal emotions rule over cool reason.” “Evil that arises out of ordinary thinking and is committed by ordinary people is the norm, not the exception.” “Bad systems” create “bad situations” create “bad apples” create “bad behaviors,” even in good people.”

119. Virginia Satir
https://youtu.be/Dy_K-m5vDIs
We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us.

120. Peter Breggin
https://youtu.be/QnPGVj6Pi0w
he advocates replacing psychiatry's use of drugs and electroconvulsive therapy with psychotherapy, education, empathy, love, and broader human services

121. Manuel J. Smith
https://youtu.be/G0i7KxYu3kw
You'll never be loved, if you can't risk being disliked.

122. Janet G. Woititz
https://youtu.be/INgZ0D7MA80
Adult children of alcoholics constantly seek approval.

123. Adult Children of Alcoholics
https://youtu.be/u8rUaveEL_k
We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.
We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism.

124. Exonerate
https://youtu.be/AnzLe11kis8
to relieve of a responsibility, obligation, or hardship. : to clear from accusation or blame.

125. Processing Emotions
https://youtu.be/ClMQvwq_n1A
Emotional processing is defined as: approaching, accepting, symbolizing, tolerating, regulating, making meaning of, and utilizing or transforming emotions.

126. Social comparison bias
https://youtu.be/rYVr2myRhIA
Social comparison bias is the tendency to have feelings of dislike and competitiveness with someone seen as physically, socially, or mentally better than oneself. Social comparison bias or social comparison theory is the idea that individuals determine their own worth based on how they compare to others.

127. Emotional impulsivity
https://youtu.be/IJsu905PDc8
Emotion‐related impulsivity is defined as the tendency to react impulsively when experiencing heightened emotional states (Whiteside & Lynam, 2001). For example, a person high in emotion‐related impulsivity might express anger by abruptly acting aggressively rather than letting the anger dissipate.

128. Rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT)
https://youtu.be/tBnfB2CySX0
“People are not disturbed by things but rather by their view of things.” 

129. Interoception
https://youtu.be/pAh1N8TevBo
Interoception is a lesser-known sense that helps you understand and feel what's going on inside your body. Kids who struggle with the interoceptive sense may have trouble knowing when they feel hungry, full, hot, cold, or thirsty. Having trouble with this sense can also make self-regulation a challenge.

130. Qualm
https://youtu.be/j3CkvVnYkkI
an uneasy feeling of doubt, worry, or fear, especially about one's own conduct; a misgiving.

131. Kelly McGonigal
https://youtu.be/BKTkYjNdXwI
People might prefer the feeling state of self-criticism and self-blame over the feeling state of being out of control.

132. self-loathing
https://youtu.be/gpA3hxdk0Q0
Self-hatred is personal self-loathing or hatred of oneself, or low self-esteem which may lead to self-harm.

133. Misophobia - the fear of hatred
https://youtu.be/LPo8_xIRVug
Misophobia (from Greek misos, "hatred") is the fear of hatred. The fear is most commonly suffered by children, and would usually subside by teen years. As per the phobia, sufferers can fear anything they can hate, such as school, unpleasant odor, certain foods, music, people, and events. If the sufferer encounters something that they hate, they may result in intense anxiety with symptoms like loss of sense of reality and excessive thoughts about them.

134. Mysophobia - the fear of contamination
https://youtu.be/Qd0KoahYvNo
We are always aware of the fact that we must keep our true Self hidden when we are around other people. Because we are governed by this feeling of being contaminated in some way. To compensate we learn to be defensive, guarded.
Toxic Shame: What It Is And How To Heal From It
Heidi Priebe

135. Misophonia - fear of annoying sounds
https://youtu.be/nsR16KPpfEA
Misophonia is a disorder in which certain sounds trigger emotional or physiological responses that some might perceive as unreasonable given the circumstance. Those who have misophonia might describe it as when a sound “drives you crazy.” Their reactions can range from anger and annoyance to panic and the need to flee.

136. Compartmentalization
https://youtu.be/ibKx4t5ZQgo
Compartmentalization is a form of psychological defense mechanism in which thoughts and feelings that seem to conflict are kept separated or isolated from each other in the mind. Those with post traumatic stress disorder may use compartmentalization to separate positive and negative self aspects. 

137. Confabulation
https://youtu.be/vxgvSc2WDY4
Confabulation refers to the production or creation of false or erroneous memories without the intent to deceive, sometimes called "honest lying". Alternatively, confabulation is a falsification of memory by a person who, believes he or she is genuinely communicating truthful memories

138. Repression
https://youtu.be/IJz3AgpxAsc
Repression: Subconsciously blocking ideas or impulses that are undesirable. This defense mechanism may be present in someone who has no recollection of a traumatic event, even though they were conscious and aware during the event.

139. Our maps are build from objects and people we encountered
https://youtu.be/YhWAPDFlbVY
We incorporate not only the rest of the world, but our own understanding what we are.

140. Repetition compulsion
https://youtu.be/V6T5-QqKJRg
We repeat what we don't repair.

141. Priming
https://youtu.be/PgDjwUyy8Kw
Priming is using a stimulus like a word, image or action to change someone's behavior. For example, research has found that we can prime someone to walk more slowly by having them read words like cautious or leisurely.

142. Reenactment
https://youtu.be/UMI3p3DWKIY
When they encounter a threatening situation, trauma survivors may reexperience their old, unresolved feelings of terror and helplessness. These feelings will then overwhelm their psyches and prevent them from taking appropriate action, thus leading to a reenactment and revictimization.

143. Executive function
https://youtu.be/wZlC9m814sk
The twelve executive functioning skills are self-restraint, working memory, emotion control, focus, task initiation, planning/prioritization, organization, time management, defining and achieving goals, flexibility, observation and stress tolerance.

144. Executive Dysfunction
https://youtu.be/FkNLR7Tcbgw
What is executive dysfunction? Executive dysfunction is a behavioral symptom that disrupts a person's ability to manage their own thoughts, emotions and actions. It's most common with certain mental health conditions, especially addictions, behavioral disorders, brain development disorders and mood disorders.

145. Sensation-seeking
https://youtu.be/ezNSkvnlKws
Sensation seeking is a personality trait defined by the search for experiences and feelings, that are "varied, novel, rich and intense", and by the readiness to "take physical, social, legal, and financial risks for the sake of such experiences."

146. Rage-baiting
https://youtu.be/1eBGF74Rahg
Why do people bait?
It can be used to bully someone to get 'a rise' out of them and it can be used to antagonise those who might be bullying others to get them to bully. Sometimes baiting is used secretively to try and get a person to explode in a rage or react negatively/loudly so that they get in to trouble.

147. Rage farming
https://youtu.be/e6q5qjrigvU
Rage farming or rage-baiting is internet slang that refers to a manipulative tactic to elicit outrage with the goal of increasing internet traffic, online engagement, revenue and support. 

148. Abandonment issues
https://youtu.be/e9ZKr_WcmmY
Abandonment leads to anxiety and difficulty trusting people

149. Emotionally Unavailable
https://youtu.be/FaFYpZKww5c
Emotional unavailability can stem from poor parenting, childhood trauma, depression or anxiety, or a lack of trust due to previous relationship issues. Emotional unavailability can be permanent or temporary in nature and can be difficult to resolve depending on the underlying cause.

150. Emotional appeal
https://youtu.be/6riTuOA_VjQ
Emotional appeal is a logical fallacy, whereby a debater attempts to win an argument by trying to get an emotional reaction from the opponent and audience. It is generally characterized by the use of loaded language and concepts (God, country, and apple pie being good concepts; drugs and crime being bad ones).

151. Taijin kyofusho
https://youtu.be/BqEnaRnr3ZM
One specific type of social anxiety, occurring primarily in Japanese culture, is called taijin kyofusho. Taijin kyofusho is characterized by an intense fear that one's body parts or functions displease, embarrass or are offensive to others.

152. Hikikomori
https://youtu.be/nRMXaBVmNho
A form of severe social withdrawal, called hikikomori, has been frequently described in Japan and is characterized by adolescents and young adults who become recluses in their parents' homes, unable to work or go to school for months or years.

153. NEET
https://youtu.be/njryLJbqoM0
In Japan, the classification comprises people aged between 15 and 34 who are not employed, not engaged in housework, not enrolled in school or work-related training, and not seeking work.

154. Anthropophobia (Fear of People)
https://youtu.be/zp5crwFa-z4
Anthropophobia is the fear of people. It is not a formal clinical diagnosis. Many experts view the condition as a specific phobia. People with anthropophobia feel intense fear or anxiety at the thought of being around other people.

155. Fear of being offensive
https://youtu.be/sEp6h78JU6Y
Social anxiety disorder symptoms include: Feeling highly anxious about being with other people and having a hard time talking to them. Feeling very self-conscious in front of other people and worried about feeling humiliated, embarrassed, or rejected, or fearful of offending others.

156. Responsibility OCD
https://youtu.be/oJzuE3xavgs
Responsibility OCD is a subtype of obsessive-compulsive disorder. It's characterized by ongoing intrusive thoughts, images or urges, and compulsive physical and/or mental behaviors around a person's sense of responsibility for other people and animals around them.

157. Inflated responsibility
https://youtu.be/lRmr4Qdms-M
Also known as an inflated sense of responsibility, hyper-responsibility is when you feel that you have more control over the world than you actually do. You might feel responsible for things that you can't realistically control, including how other people behave and feel, natural disasters, accidents, and more.

158. Intolerance of uncertainty
https://youtu.be/WzfobePYMxU
Intolerance of uncertainty (IU) has been defined as “a dispositional characteristic that results from a set of negative beliefs about uncertainty and its implications and involves the tendency to react negatively on an emotional, cognitive, and behavioral level to uncertain situations and events” (Buhr & Dugas, 2009

159. Thought-action fusion
https://youtu.be/xT2sLGme3zM
Thought-action fusion is when you believe that simply thinking about an action is equivalent to actually carrying out that action. For example, if a thought randomly pops into your mind about something unacceptable—such as murdering your partner—you would believe this to just as bad as actually harming them.

160. Trauma dumping
https://youtu.be/kNDRM1Y_Qfc
Trauma dumping is defined as unloading traumatic experiences on others without warning or invitation. It's often done to seek validation, attention, or sympathy. While some initial relief may come from dumping your trauma onto someone else, the habit actually does more harm than good.

161. The sunk cost fallacy
https://youtu.be/N7xOeUGES5Y
When you successfully solved a problem with your system, you created some value in the world — and nothing can reach back from the future and take that away from you. But that doesn't necessarily mean that you'll solve future problems in the same way, or with the same tools, or even with the same people.

162. Negative reinforcement
https://youtu.be/lJa5XH4SpxI
removing restrictions from a child when she follows the rules is an example of negative reinforcement

163. False sense of security
https://youtu.be/ySW8QNf4q5Q
If something gives you a false sense of security, it makes you believe that you are safe when you are not. 

164. Attribution Theory
https://youtu.be/Ick3Bd3Cm6E
Attribution theory deals with how the social perceiver uses information to arrive at causal explanations for events. It examines what information is gathered and how it is combined to form a causal judgment

165. criticizing
https://youtu.be/3ZPY9xd4Pvs
Negative criticism can give rise to anger or feelings of inadequacy. Expressing these emotions will only dig you deeper into a hole – and give your critic the high ground. It can also damage your reputation

166. Moralizing
https://youtu.be/qkqqHNHhMa0
the action of commenting on issues of right and wrong, typically with an unfounded air of superiority.
having or displaying an overly critical point of view on issues of right and wrong, typically with an unfounded air of superiority.

167. Passing the Hot Potato
https://youtu.be/OsryWf3OPGs
A hot potato is an issue that makes everyone feel uncomfortable.

168. Magnification
https://youtu.be/Ez73Gn7gxQo
This is the binocular effect on thinking. Often it means that you enlarge (magnify) the positive attributes of other people and shrink (minimise) your own attributes, just like looking at the world through either end of the same pair of binoculars.

169. Moral relativism
https://youtu.be/qMcebvCjMkU
Moral relativism is the view that moral judgments are true or false only relative to some particular standpoint (for instance, that of a culture or a historical period) and that no standpoint is uniquely privileged over all others.
Moral relativism has a reputation for being compassionate, caring and humane, but it is an extremely useful philosophy for tyrants..

170. Moral nihilism
https://youtu.be/mqoh_lcPk1I
Moral nihilism is the meta-ethical view that nothing is morally right or morally wrong; that morality doesn't exist. Moral nihilism is distinct from moral relativism, which allows for actions to be wrong relative to a particular culture or individual.

171. Moral absolutism
https://youtu.be/uNThZhSoTjQ
Moral absolutism is an ethical view that some actions are intrinsically right or wrong. Stealing, for instance, might be considered to be always immoral, even if done for the well-being of others, and even if it does in the end promote such a good.

172. Narcissistic extensions
https://youtu.be/3bgBBxvd_Yg
Narcissistic extensions, or narcissistic supplies, are people who provide narcissists with the endless admiration and support they crave. Narcissists see these people as an extension of themselves, and therefore become very controlling of their extensions.

173. Optimism bias
https://youtu.be/tubNsGxGXBw
The optimism bias refers to our tendency to overestimate our likelihood of experiencing positive events and underestimate our likelihood of experiencing negative events.

174. The Vulnerability Effect
https://youtu.be/_5YRmb7DAfE
Vulnerability may help you express your feelings, whether they're positive or negative. New research on vulnerability and coping with stress found that vulnerability was associated with higher levels of emotional expression and social support.

175. Spontaneous trait transference
https://youtu.be/oam2Kjq-uiA
Spontaneous trait transference occurs when communicators are perceived as possessing the very traits they describe in others.

176. Socio affective
https://youtu.be/P4oE1MzbBTI
Socio-affective merges social, emotional, and moral domains. It encompasses interpersonal relations and social behaviors; development and regulation of emotions; personal and gender identity construction; empathy development; moral development, thinking, and judgment.

177. Psychological stressors
https://youtu.be/j2SAnew2Mz8
Psychological stressors are social and physical environmental circumstances that challenge the adaptive capabilities and resources of an organism. These circumstances represent an extremely wide and varied array of different situations that possess both common and specific psychological and physical attributes.

178. Kuleshov effect
https://youtu.be/tn9kGXqVzl8
 It is a mental phenomenon by which viewers derive more meaning from the interaction of two sequential shots than from a single shot in isolation.

179. Personality clash
https://youtu.be/t_XrszMIjDw
A personality clash occurs when two or more colleagues have incompatible personalities, backgrounds, or outlooks. Personality clashes can impact productivity and cause absenteeism and presenteeism. The clash can cause disagreements and mistrust among each others.

180. Extinction (psychology)
https://youtu.be/TuatjjypkSA
Extinction is a behavioral phenomenon observed in both operantly conditioned and classically conditioned behavior, which manifests itself by fading of non-reinforced conditioned response over time.

181. Preparedness paradox
https://youtu.be/XhqX-riiId4
The paradox is the incorrect perception that there had been no need for careful preparation as there was little harm, although in reality the limitation of the harm was due to preparation.

182. Generalization (Psychology)
https://youtu.be/pFCtXMIxc5c
the tendency to respond in the same way to different but similar stimuli. For example, a dog conditioned to salivate to a tone of a particular pitch and loudness will also salivate with considerable regularity in response to tones of higher and lower pitch.

183. Polarized thinking
https://youtu.be/aGYsN09yLdA
When someone has experienced trauma or difficult situations in the past, they're more likely to interpret neutral situations in a negative light. While polarized thinking may be a sign of a more serious problem, it is common for people to think this way when they are under stress.

184. Dialectic thinking
https://youtu.be/_PaNJyZvIfo
 examples of dialectical statements are: “I feel happy and I feel sad”; “I want to be loud and you need me to be quiet”; “Things are very different now from a year ago and every day feels the same”; “I feel too tired to work and I can do my work anyway”; “I love you and I hate you”.

185. Acquisition in Classical Conditioning
https://youtu.be/dcMHShcUzVU
Acquisition refers to the process of a behavior being learned. In classical conditioning, this means that a previously neutral stimulus eventually evokes a response that was once naturally triggered by another stimulus. The more frequently and contiguously the two stimuli are paired, the quicker the acquisition.

186. Inattentional blindness
https://youtu.be/pX9bLfOrzBM
Inattentional blindness or perceptual blindness (rarely called inattentive blindness) occurs when an individual fails to perceive an unexpected stimulus in plain sight, purely as a result of a lack of attention rather than any vision defects or deficits.

187. Neurotic-beliefs
https://youtu.be/Dd3ZGpBTzsw
Neuroticism is defined by a propensity toward anxiety, negativity, and self-doubt. It is often experienced by constantly rehashing worst–case scenarios in your head, and can be linked to a high level of guilt, worry, fear, and depression.

188. Shame based personality
https://youtu.be/ZfqtCUUtKQg
People who live with shame often avoid relationships, vulnerability, and community. Research shows that shame leads people to hide and self-conceal. [i] People who feel ashamed hide from community and friendship. They avoid vulnerability and never share their true selves with the world.
Shame-based thinking is derived from feelings that make you believe that there is something wrong with you.

189. False responsibility
https://youtu.be/v9JJWU40Y-E
False responsibility refers to an attitude when you feel responsible for things that, objectively, you aren't responsible for and shouldn't feel responsible for. For example, as children and adolescents, people feel responsible for the needs and emotions of their parents, siblings, and other family members.

190. Darius Cikanavicius
https://youtu.be/Mwe4ovgI9iI
"The World is hypocrisy against children."

191. Guilt tripping
https://youtu.be/nRBFfnOwET4
Guilt tripping is a form of emotional manipulation meant to modify someone's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors by creating a powerful emotional response. A person can inadvertently say or do something that creates guilt, even if this outcome wasn't their desired goal.
A guilt trip is a feeling of guilt or responsibility, especially an unjustified one induced by someone else. 

192. Toxic amnesia
https://youtu.be/X1npW9Zq6-s
Toxic amnesia is a tactic where the perpetrator pretends to not remember abuse, betrayals, lies, and other hurtful and dysfunctional behaviors they've engaged in. Its a form of gaslighting. Its purpose is to make you doubt your perceptions and memories.

193. Abraham Lincoln on Criticism
https://youtu.be/auqagNENzEE
"He has a right to criticize, who has a heart to help."

194. Microaggression
https://youtu.be/hme2MiuHV1k
Microaggressions are the everyday slights, insults, putdowns, invalidations, and offensive behaviors that people experience in daily interactions with generally well-intentioned individuals who may be unaware that they have engaged in demeaning ways.

195. Hypnosis and Core Beliefs
https://youtu.be/LSDXqpjTFqc
Your core beliefs are your deepest convictions of what is true about you and what you can expect of your experience.

196. Time Line Therapy
https://youtu.be/VvywT48kT94
Time Line Therapy® involves treatment at an unconscious level and allows a client to surrender negative emotions linked to past experiences and transform their internal programming.

197. Why CBT is wrong for Social Anxiety
https://youtu.be/YcFFbJ4NaLI
Dr James Davies (PhD), TWITTER:
DSM defined 'mental disorder' as a 'dysfunction in the person' - as if suffering stems from a faulty self. This of course is pure ideology, with no objective evidence to support it - an ideology erasing any notion that our suffering may have meaning or something vital to teach.

198. Imposter syndrome
https://youtu.be/UFsiojpk2n4
Imposter syndrome is the condition of feeling anxious and not experiencing success internally, despite being high-performing in external, objective ways. This condition often results in people feeling like "a fraud" or "a phony" and doubting their abilities.

199. Future Faking
https://youtu.be/AfSSD5bijc0
Future faking is when a person lies or promises something about your possible future in order to get what they want in the present.

200. Binary thinking
https://youtu.be/3dZVUVzk7Zs
Binary thinking is the tendency to see things in terms of absolutes, like good versus bad or right versus wrong. This type of thinking can be helpful in some situations, but it can also lead to problems.

PLAYLIST 3

1.  Critical literacy
https://youtu.be/D9f3x4qMsr8?si=ZE-atbQ-UK-tH6Pc
Critical literacy is a central thinking skill that a tertiary education seeks to develop in students. It involves the questioning and examination of ideas, and requires you to synthesise, analyse, interpret, evaluate and respond to the texts you read or listen to.
Being critically literate is about asking and understanding 'why' an author did something.

2. Observational learning
https://youtu.be/k04kQES26PU
Observational learning is learning that occurs through observing the behavior of others. It is a form of social learning which takes various forms, based on various processes.

3. Modeling
https://youtu.be/P5eE2PZlt5Q
Modeling means learning by copying the behavior of someone else. Humans naturally model each other – for example, children use modeling to learn how to use utensils or tie their shoes. The definition of modeling in psychology means purposely changing a behavior in order to improve your mindset and achieve your goals.

4. Mimicry
https://youtu.be/zhlT_rBjeB0
Behavioral mimicry—the automatic imitation of gestures, postures, mannerisms, and other motor movements—is pervasive in human interactions.

5. Schedules of reinforcement
https://youtu.be/kk6sK-LFu3g
Schedules of reinforcement are the rules that determine how often an organism is reinforced for a particular behavior. Combinations of these four descriptors yield four kinds of partial reinforcement schedules: fixed-ratio, fixed-interval, variable-ratio, and variable-interval.

6. Hans Selye
https://youtu.be/IwehE9Iqy6w
Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.

7. Behavioral psychology
Behavioral psychology, or behaviorism, is a theory suggesting that environment shapes human behavior. In a most basic sense, behavioral psychology is the study and analysis of observable behavior.
https://youtu.be/GtJ4VU6saGc

8. Mood Linkage
Mood Linkage refers to the human tendency to absorb and participate in the prevailing mood of the other people around. For instance, if a person is in a bad mood when they go to a party or out with good friends, it is very likely that their mood will improve considerably just by being in a fun environment.
https://youtu.be/epSM3A-UCbg

9. The Threat Response Model
The Threat Response Model is a psychological model that explains how individuals respond to perceived threats. The model consists of three stages: detection, interpretation, and response. When individuals detect a threat, they interpret it based on their beliefs and values, influencing their response.
https://youtu.be/9YeLvgPORM0

10. Forensic psychology
 Forensic psychology is the application of scientific knowledge and methods to help answer legal questions arising in criminal, civil, contractual, or other judicial proceedings.
https://youtu.be/4jsqwhdnjTI

11. George Engel
all three levels, biological, psychological, and social, must be taken into account in every health care task.
https://youtu.be/xjdfRUZWXXc

12. Discard
The narcissist might decide that they're done with you and that you have no further use for them. The rejection is typically swift and brutal. Or, you might wake up and realize that this partner, friend, employer, or acquaintance isn't healthy for you and try to leave the situation.
https://youtu.be/0MUS6frzze0

13. Coerced-compliant false confessions
'Coerced-internalized false confessions' are those in which an innocent person—anxious, sleep-deprived, confused, and subjected to a highly suggestive interrogation that often includes the presentation of false evidence—actually comes to believe that he or she committed the crime.
https://youtu.be/LiYWXHaB9bs

14. Quiet Borderline
Most clinicians think of the borderline personality disorder case as being angry and explosive, but these individuals are instead quiet and hurting. People living with quiet BPD may feel misunderstood and receiving a correct diagnosis can feel as though a weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
https://youtu.be/kjWPwCSuK7c

15. Agreeableness Genes
Emerging research suggests DRD3 & CLOCK genes are linked to agreeableness
https://youtu.be/vgJlZCGwZFA

16. Theodore Millon
One response to feeling abandoned is to abandon yourself. Narcissists have a tough job because perfection is viewed as either all or nothing: If you are not perfect, you are imperfect, and if you are imperfect, you are nothing.
https://youtu.be/8iL79Fv_KQU

17. Situational attribution
the ascription of one's own or another's behavior, an event, or an outcome to causes outside the person concerned, such as luck, pressure from other people, or external circumstances. Also called environmental attribution; external attribution.
https://youtu.be/qJxNxJF6pAw

18. Dispositional attribution
Dispositional attribution is a phrase in personality psychology that refers to the tendency to assign responsibility for others' behaviors due to their inherent characteristics, such as their motives, beliefs or personality, rather than the external influences, such as the individual's environment or culture.
https://youtu.be/xza__3bJGqY

19. Dispositional optimism
Dispositional optimism is the generalized, relatively stable tendency to expect good outcomes across important life domains.
https://youtu.be/0z7cr3jkksM

20. Breadcrumbing
Breadcrumbing is when a person gives someone just enough attention to "string them along." The purpose of breadcrumbing for a narcissist is to give them an ego boost. Responding to breadcrumbing signals that one is available for "narcissistic supply."
https://youtu.be/LijR34vIBP0

21. High-Maintenance People
Wanting to be treated well doesn't make you high maintenance. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect.
https://youtu.be/FMtMzvMdv_0

22. Needy and Clingy
Don't stop being needy. Your needs for intimacy withing your relationship are 100% normal, ok, healthy, and appropriate. Whether we're talking about time together, expressions of love, or sex- having needs is a fundamental aspect of all relationships.
https://youtu.be/YJY-yD_p-Ac

23. Kleck and Strenta scar experiment (1980)
24 female undergraduates were led to believe that they were perceived as physically deviant in the eyes of an interactant when in fact they were not.
https://youtu.be/F4H2A_lVM6Q

24. Social perception
How we perceive other people in our environment is also shaped by our values, emotions, feelings, and personality. Moreover, how we perceive others will shape our behavior, which in turn will shape the behavior of the person we are interacting with.
https://youtu.be/mjoZKGwktyM

25. Self-Perception
people develop their attitudes by observing their own behavior and concluding what attitudes must have caused it.
Social and family influences, culture, and the media all play a role in shaping who we think we are and how we feel about ourselves. Although these are powerful socializing forces, there are ways to maintain some control over our self-perception.
https://youtu.be/j2LuYEmUm_o

26. Implicit Personality Theory
Implicit personality theory tries to explain how people form first impressions about others. When people first meet, they absorb certain traits and make assumptions about each other. The term "implicit" means that something is suggested naturally. Something implicit is automatic.
https://youtu.be/hhtLpfTjmYc

27. Impression formation
 if a perceiver feels or thinks in a certain way, all the surrounding traits are magnified to align with that innate feeling.
https://youtu.be/8H5r5oqrGJc

28. False consensus effect
In psychology, the false consensus effect, also known as consensus bias, is a pervasive cognitive bias that causes people to "see their own behavioral choices and judgments as relatively common and appropriate to existing circumstances".
The tendency to overestimate how much others agree with us is known among social psychologists as the false consensus effect. This kind of cognitive bias leads people to believe their own values and ideas are "normal" and that the majority of people share these same opinions, even if that's not the case.
https://youtu.be/G3GTCfWC2h8

29. Selective perception
Selective perception is the unconscious process by which people screen, select, and notice objects in their environment. During this process, information tends to be selectively perceived in ways that align with existing attitudes, beliefs, and goals.
https://youtu.be/e_qcTV5wLLM

30. Pluralistic ignorance
What is Pluralistic Ignorance? Simply put, pluralistic ignorance occurs when individual members of a group (such as a school, a team, a workplace, or a group of friends) believe that others in their group hold comparably more or less extreme attitudes, beliefs, or behaviors.
An example of pluralistic ignorance includes not speaking up when a friend cheats on his math test because you incorrectly think that the rest of your friends believe cheating is okay, even though you personally believe that cheating is wrong.
https://youtu.be/_yKY7re1Pgo

31. The singularity effect
the tendency to behave more compassionately to a single identifiable individual than to any group of nameless ones.
https://youtu.be/_L9i4EjxRic

32. Self-selection bias
Self-selection bias occurs when the decision to participate in a study is left entirely up to individuals. This gives rise to research bias because those who volunteer to take part in research studies are usually different from those who don't (e.g., in terms of motivation or demographics).
Selection bias, where the results are skewed a certain way because you've only captured feedback from a certain segment of your audience. Response bias, where there's something about how the actual survey questionnaire is constructed that encourages a certain type of answer, leading to measurement error.
https://youtu.be/3ALfF-dAk2U

33. Survivorship bias
Survivorship bias or survival bias is the logical error of concentrating on entities that passed a selection process while overlooking those that did not. This can lead to incorrect conclusions because of incomplete data.
Survivorship bias occurs when researchers focus on individuals, groups, or cases that have passed some sort of selection process while ignoring those who did not. Survivorship bias can lead researchers to form incorrect conclusions due to only studying a subset of the population.
https://youtu.be/6rflqFPXvnw

34. Psychological distance
Psychological distance is the degree to which people feel removed from a phenomenon. Distance in this case is not limited to the physical surroundings, rather it could also be abstract. Distance can be defined as the separation between the self and other instances like persons, events, knowledge, or time.

"No matter how much a psychopath gets to know somebody, they just don't care about them. So if you have a psychopath in charge, psychological distance doesn't solve the problem. For everyone else, it's a key ingredient in making sure you're performing better if you end up in a position of leadership."
The world’s biggest problem? Powerful psychopaths. | Brian Klaas
https://youtu.be/j1ffIvqhsts

35. Distributional choice
The world’s biggest problem? Powerful psychopaths. | Brian Klaas
Big Think
Everybody at the highest levels of power, no matter what they do, is ruining some lives and making some other lives much better. It's a distributional choice. If you're president or CEO, your decisions affect people's lives for better or worse. And some of those effects are catastrophic. You should have to live with that. It should weigh on you. If it doesn't weigh on you, you haven't done your job right.
https://youtu.be/BukEtm0Th6A

36. Trolley problem
Rotten systems turn people worse much faster than good systems. Environment that you're in, if you're in a corrupt police department, corrupt bureaucracy, everybody around you is skirting the rules. A lot of the people around you are breaking the rules, abusing them and inflicting harm. But it's normal. It's what's done.
The effect is amplified in a bad system. You have to make worse choices.
You're basically paid to deal with what's the least bad choice. We often as armchair critics of leaders we often tend to say That leader is bad because they chose something that led to a bad outcome. That's stupid way of thinking about leadership evaluation. What were the alternatives? In the context of available information and choices.
Sometimes leaders are genuinely trying to minimize the damage.
The world’s biggest problem? Powerful psychopaths. | Brian Klaas
Big Think
https://youtu.be/dhu9q2NwQa4

37. Developmental Trauma
This type of trauma has been termed Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) or, when in childhood, developmental trauma. Isolated traumatic events generally lead to isolated psychological responses. These can include increased anxiety and emotional arousal, re-experiencing the event and avoidance or numbness.
https://youtu.be/M_h9HxPoTrw

38. Heuristic
A heuristic is a mental shortcut commonly used to simplify problems and avoid cognitive overload. Heuristics are part of how the human brain evolved and is wired, allowing individuals to quickly reach reasonable conclusions or solutions to complex problems.
https://youtu.be/xKn9Kmb0irw

39. Internal Family Systems
The Internal Family Systems Model (IFS) is an integrative approach to individual psychotherapy developed by Richard C. Schwartz in the 1980s. It combines systems thinking with the view that the mind is made up of relatively discrete subpersonalities, each with its own unique viewpoint and qualities.
https://youtu.be/hV7YzMZ60DA

40. Frequency illusion (Baader–Meinhof phenomenon)
a cognitive bias referring to the tendency to notice something more often after noticing it for the first time, leading to the belief that it has an increased frequency of occurrence.
https://youtu.be/2FDVTeFCjCk

41. Schema therapy
The basis of schema therapy involves the power of the early maladaptive schema, sometimes called EMS or simply schema, to create a harmful influence on the person's life. With more powerful or significant schemas, people will struggle to see themselves, others, and the world around them in objective and fair ways.
https://youtu.be/ALsWSQ5_7vE

42. Mentalization based therapy MBT
Mentalization-based therapy (MBT) is a type of long-term psychotherapy. Mentalization is the ability to think about thinking. It helps to make sense of our thoughts, beliefs, wishes and feelings and to link these to our actions and behaviours. Mentalization is a normal capacity that we all use in everyday life.
https://youtu.be/f_aBqfcXkew

43. The behavioral burst
An extinction burst is a sudden increase in the frequency, intensity, or duration of an organism's operant behavior just before it stops.
https://youtu.be/HRZhho-Gi5Q

44. Replacement behavior
Replacement behaviors include teaching functional communication skills so the individual can ask for help, access, or to withdraw from situations without engaging in the challenging behaviors. Functional communication can include gestures or adaptive sign language, verbal approximations, and visuals.
https://youtu.be/ximkVkjK2LU

45. Aberrant salience
Aberrant salience is the incorrect assignment of salience, significance, or value to different innocuous stimuli that might precede the onset of psychotic symptoms.
https://youtu.be/m5xQqN3rDsQ

46. Salience Bias
 The salience bias describes our tendency to focus on items or information that are more noteworthy while ignoring those that do not grab our attention.
https://youtu.be/ZaBtC1dO5DA

47. Recency bias
Recency bias is the tendency to overemphasize the importance of recent experiences or the latest information we possess when estimating future events. Recency bias often misleads us to believe that recent events can give us an indication of how the future will unfold.
https://youtu.be/kfBRUDz79W8

48. Self Determination Theory SDT
Self-determination theory suggests that all humans have three basic psychological needs—autonomy, competence, and relatedness—that underlie growth and development. Autonomy refers to feeling one has choice and is willingly endorsing one's behavior.
https://youtu.be/dv2OsNnm44w

49. Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy
Radical openness is more than mindful awareness. It means actively seeking those areas of our lives that we want to avoid or may find uncomfortable, in order to learn. It involves purposeful self-enquiry and a willingness to be wrong, with an intention to change if needed.
https://youtu.be/-C8Xd1d1gqc

50. Liebowitz Social Anxiety Scale
The Liebowitz Social Anxiety Scale for Children & Adolescents (LSAS-CA) is a questionnaire developed by Dr. Michael R. Liebowitz, a psychiatrist and researcher.
This measure assesses the way that social anxiety plays a role in your life across a variety of situations.
https://youtu.be/Kec4roOeT60

51. Bounded rationality
Bounded rationality is the idea that rationality is limited when individuals make decisions, and under these limitations, rational individuals will select a decision that is satisfactory rather than optimal.
https://youtu.be/sgeOBAjbGiw

52. Information avoidance
Information avoidance: The act of avoiding information, either passively or actively, with the fear that it could threaten one's ideas or beliefs. It can be active (asking someone not to tell you something), or passive (failing to ask someone a question that would uncover this information).
https://youtu.be/pnYtQiNe2uA

53. Demand avoidance
Pathological Demand Avoidance is usually associated with autism, but it can also affect people with ADHD. Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) is a profile associated with autism and ADHD. If you have PDA, you may find it challenging to carry out demands, even if you want to.
https://youtu.be/rWmfrxUbcKU

54. Palinoia
Palinoia is the compulsion to repeat things till they are perfect. Compulsive repetition of an act until it is performed perfectly.
https://youtu.be/6SDd3zpUOHM

55. Perceived slight
'Perceived slight' does usually mean 'imagined' or 'unintended' but it's rather more complex a matter than that, because a 'slight' unlike an 'insult' is often subtle or ambiguous. Moreover a 'perceived slight' is the same as a real one as far as the perceiving party is concerned, and therefore can have more or less the same outcome depending on their response.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=shEZ3pI8-uE

56. James-Lange theory of emotion
The James-Lange theory of emotion suggests that physical changes in the body happen first, which then leads to the experience of emotion. Essentially, emotions stem from your interpretation of your physical sensations. For example, your heart beating wildly would lead you to realize that you are afraid.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b9EfuG0lowU

57. Cannon–Bard theory of emotion
 The Cannon-Bard theory of emotion states that stimulating events trigger feelings and physical reactions that occur at the same time. For example, seeing a snake might prompt both the feeling of fear (an emotional response) and a racing heartbeat (a physical reaction).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AnXorVAQNl4

58. The Schachter Singer Theory of Emotion
Schachter and Singer's (1962) Two-Factor Theory of Emotion suggests that physiological arousal determines the strength of the emotion, while cognitive appraisal identifies the emotion label. So, in this theory, the “two-factor” represents physiological change and cognitive appraisal change.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oWlUD7kA4oU

59. Self-deprecation
Self-deprecation, or self-depreciation, is the act of reprimanding oneself by belittling, undervaluing, disparaging oneself, or being excessively modest. It can be used as a way to make complaints, express modesty, invoke optimal reactions or add humour.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BPB1PSG2kOU

60. Self-righteousness
Self-righteousness is an attitude and belief of moral superiority derived from a person deeming their own beliefs, actions, or affiliations to be of greater virtue than those of the average person or others.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DIUf6potuAI
 

61. Tyranny of the Urgent
It has been named the Tyranny of the Moment. This is when people attempt to have their basic needs met -- shelter, food, safety, etc. -- but they are doing so without resources that enable long-term planning. In other words, all available time and resources are dedicated to survival and not future-focused.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jNTtOSMjeMQ

62. BPD splitting
BPD splitting is a symptom of borderline personality disorder (BPD). It's when a person sees everything as black or white, good or bad, or best or worst. Splitting is a defense mechanism people living with BPD use to deal with emotions (such as the fear of abandonment) that they cannot handle.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZWLSj4okFKs

63. Paul T. Mason
The techniques of brainwashing are simple: isolate the victim, expose them to consistent messages, mix with sleep deprivation, add some form of abuse, get the person to doubt what they know and feel, keep them on their toes, wear them down, and stir well.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6z8Zo_XuPV8

64. Distress tolerance
As mentioned earlier, a clear sign of distress intolerance is when someone takes desperate urgent measures to escape or get rid of uncomfortable emotions. This can be done in a number of different ways, and each way can lead to significant problems in a person's life.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nSbDlISLx_o

65. Wilhelm Reich
The mind will use the muscles and organs of the body as an outlet for pent up emotions.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCeLbesIcKg

66. Cognitive fusion
Cognitive fusion takes hold when we become so attached to patterns of thinking or specific thoughts that they get in the way of leading a full, rich, and meaningful life. In order words, we are fused to our thoughts when they cause significant distress and struggle.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NoCmR19LsGk

67. Self-silencing
Self-silencing means stifling your own thoughts, feelings, and desires in order to preserve a relationship.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HcnAiKkOkXQ

68. Spiral of silence
According to the spiral of silence theory, individuals will be more confident and outward with their opinion when they notice that their personal opinion is shared throughout a group. But if the individual notices that his opinion is unpopular with the group he will be more inclined to be reserved and remain silent.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LZfvc_Z6KdE

69. Robbers Cave Experiment | Realistic Conflict Theory
The Robbers Cave experiment showed that hostility can arise between two groups in conflict and competition for scarce resources. In the case of the experiment, the scare resources were medals and prizes. It also demonstrates that through superordinate goals, prejudice against groups can be reduced
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hNwtGnjYNx4

70. Richard C. Schwartz
Through IFS we can learn to trust ourselves, and trust our own inner guidance.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o8khRuH-roc

71. Roberto Assagioli
There is no certainty; there is only adventure.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JduUulE2vMM

72. Heather Plett
Most of the time, all anyone really needs, is to feel truly heard, received and understood. Without anyone attempting to fix them, change them, or prove them wrong.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RMd9ooVFyTI

73.  High-functioning BPD
High-functioning BPD tends to leave a person feeling chronic emptiness, uncertainty about their identity, insecurity, and dissatisfaction with themself. Someone experiencing the disorder may ruminate, fear rejection, or perseverate on things they wish they never said (or should have said).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wwKYKoRl-Pg

74. Frank Anderson MD
It's love and connection that heals trauma.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L08y1eDQ778

75. Matthias James Barker, LMHC
I think that shame isn't going to be the thing that helps you sort these things out, it's compassion.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4oJTAuoDHTs

76. Stonewalling
Stonewalling is a persistent refusal to communicate or to express emotions. It is common during conflicts, when people may stonewall in an attempt to avoid uncomfortable conversations or out of fear that engaging in an emotional discussion will result in a fight.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w93_nHibEOE

77. Nocebo
The nocebo effect describes negative outcomes that can happen if someone believes something will cause them harm. For example, if you think a treatment will be painful, there's a higher chance that you'll experience pain. Even a belief about possible side effects can cause side effects from muscle spasms to chest pain.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lz5WZQ9MP7s

78. Donella H. Meadows
The behavior of systems cannot be known just by knowing the elements of which the system is made.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dTxqZuwS92g

79. Controllers
Controllers as Toxic:
The “controller” has an authoritarian attitude, they seek control and power, blame others and have a hard time accepting responsibility. They assume they are right about everything and take partners for granted.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ksmtC9y7cgU

80. Emotional Over-regulation
People with emotional overcontrol exhibit perfectionistic tendencies, are highly driven, detail-oriented, and excel in delayed gratification.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NVonrRaxcbo

81. Bessel Van Der Kolk
As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lw6oqThCpuI

82. High-functioning narcissism
High-functioning narcissism: Also known as exhibitionistic narcissism, symptoms of high-functioning narcissism include grandiose, competitive, attention-seeking, and sexually provocative behaviors.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vD8-rGLrae4

83. Adam Grant
Dissenting opinions are useful, even when they are wrong.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4W4vgwWj414

84. Self-referential processing
For example, referential thinking may include unpleasant thoughts, such as “when I see something broken, I often wonder if people blame me for it.” However, it may also include pleasant thoughts, such as “when I hear a favorite song, I often wonder if it was written with me in mind.”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wrMiJqYbirA

85. Separation Guilt
 People who grow up in dysfunctional families where they feel that their happiness and success is at expense of somebody else (survivor guilt). Or pursuit of normal developmental goals is at expense of somebody else (separation guilt). They haven't done something wrong.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8B2280G54c

86. Survivor's guilt
People who grow up in dysfunctional families where they feel that their happiness and success is at expense of somebody else (survivor guilt). Or pursuit of normal developmental goals is at expense of somebody else (separation guilt). They haven't done something wrong.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LQN6x0x0AXs

87. Referential thinking
Referential thinking is the tendency to view innocuous stimuli as having a specific meaning for the self and is associated with personality traits and disorders. In three studies, this research examined the relations among referential thinking, self-processing, and paranoia.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GQ9h_MUkw3E

88. Ego death
According to psychologists, if we don't have an ego, we would become mentally ill. We need it to mediate between the unconscious and the conscious. Your relationship with your ego can turn into either an enemy or an ally. The ego causes most of your suffering, but it can also save you from further pain.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Y6LynT97BE

89. Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
The idea is that once there is empathy between the parties in the conversation, it will be much easier to talk about a solution which satisfies all parties' fundamental needs.
https://youtu.be/B6q7nr1N3BI?si=R0MnWk9KCVZrIs7N

90. Referential Delusions
The term 'referential delusions' refers to the mistaken belief that ordinary events and normal human behavior have hidden meanings that somehow relate to the individual experiencing the delusions.
https://youtu.be/3hHQANoUo0c?si=iM4C5WRK7tIOMvX-

91. Biopsychosocial Model
Bio (physiological pathology)
Psycho (thoughts emotions and behaviours such as psychological distress, fear/avoidance beliefs, current coping methods and attribution)
Social (socio-economical, socio-environmental, and cultural factors suchs as work issues, family circumstances and benefits/economics)
https://youtu.be/busfW3fjGEs?si=kqUkEx-QeaYL41Lz

92. Arielle Schwartz
Complex PTSD is a constant battle between the need for safety and the fear of vulnerability.
https://youtu.be/bcepoIrNC2Q?si=vuSZWnpi3Z6DioKT

93. Cognitive Appraisal Theory
In this theory, cognitive appraisal is defined as the way in which an individual responds to and interprets stressors in life. A variety of mental disorders have been observed as having abnormal patterns of cognitive appraisal in those affected by the disorder.
https://youtu.be/whoRuWMU0B0?si=gZm8wTJhEc7M3Iip

94. The Blue Dot Effect
The Blue Dot Effect suggests that we look for threats and issues regardless of the safety or comfort of our environment.
https://youtu.be/LDWellaphW4?si=Du4-nFTuIvFuIGeK

95. The Negative Love Syndrome
The Negative Love Syndrome is the adoption of the negative behaviors, moods, attitudes, and admonitions (overt and silent) of our parents to secure their love. It includes the subsequent compulsive acting out or rebellion against those negative traits throughout our adult lives.
https://youtu.be/U9Fr-DLPcF8?si=56tDPdLbd6UXpHMk

96. The Hoffman Process
The Hoffman Quadrinity Process®, founded by Bob Hoffman in 1967, is a week-long residential and personal growth retreat that helps participants identify negative behaviors, moods, and ways of thinking that developed unconsciously and were conditioned in childhood.
https://youtu.be/l9PN6il2tbY?si=jJGVEtaH6MSFJ88L

97. Shannon Thomas
Highly toxic people love to remain looking calm - while exploiting a survivor's distressed, but normal reaction to predatory behaviors.
https://youtu.be/M6RDzcuaTyk?si=jLvsJ8RzShcxD1xR

98. Modeling
In short, modeling, known as observational learning or imitation, is a behaviourally based procedure which involves the use of live or symbolic models to demonstrate a particular behavior, thought, or attitude that a client may want to acquire or change.
https://youtu.be/GoJFrB2waRU?si=2qpt0mWjbabvc7fE

99. NARM Training
Rather than goal-driven or strategic, NARM is inquiry-driven and based on curiosity. The primary function of a NARM-trained therapist is staying in non-judgemental curiosity. Instead of focusing on reducing symptoms, NARM prioritizes addressing the underlying patterns that lead to the symptoms
https://youtu.be/Cxt3XmMnf1c?si=ERJVbS7Xny7hKQzM

100. Laurence Heller
Paradoxically, the more we try to change ourselves, the more we prevent change from occurring. On the other hand, the more we allow ourselves to fully experience who we are, the greater the possibility of change.
https://youtu.be/DXgvtLx_Jco?si=AcwOMmyk_WyLafH_

101. abuse by omission
Neglect is abuse by omission. It can include ignoring medical, emotional or physical care needs, failure to provide access to appropriate health, care and support or educational services. It can also involve withholding the necessities of life, such as medication, adequate nutrition and heating.
https://youtu.be/26K3K6pN8Xw?si=1_QBcDnapTDyLLs5

102. Euphoric recall
Euphoric recall is called “memory bias.” This memory bias happens most frequently when the present circumstances are difficult. In stressful or challenging situations we tend to romanticize and exaggerate the good things that happened in our past. For addicts, this can be fatal.
https://youtu.be/jaCFAlTz8X8?si=TgcdD91HMfQ0G3ib

103. Kopfkino
...Kopfkino, or ‘head cinema’, they’re referring to those mental images which imagine how events will unfold.
https://youtu.be/_JUwI5sdSqw?si=0f-vaAMFE9I1LEkB

104.  Secondary psychopathy
Secondary psychopathy develops from environmental causes, such as parental abuse or rejection, resulting in an underlying emotional problem associated with neuroticism, impulsivity, aggression and emotional reactivity (Blackburn and Maybury, 1985, Karpman, 1941, Kosson and Newman, 1995, Lykken, 1995, Lynam et al., 1999
https://youtu.be/_Jo5b8tq-KY?si=w_IdQeYl-TmK8Vc5

105. Malignant Shame
Malignant shame is a term coined by Irish psychiatrist Dr. Garrett O'Connor originally to describe the perpetual feelings of shame experienced mainly by victims of parental or relationship abuse.
https://youtu.be/i7m9STjX6dM?si=obz7eHG4VFnxfE2w

106. Narcissistic victim syndrome
Narcissistic victim syndrome describes potentially long lasting mental, emotional, and social effects that have an association with abuse from a person with NPD. It is not a diagnosable condition.
https://youtu.be/E-kykICCWRs

107. Alloplastic defense
Alloplastic adaptation: The subject tries to change the situation, i.e. the external environment.
https://youtu.be/TE6njm_oxiI

108. Autoplastic adaptation
Autoplastic adaptation is a form of adaptation where the subject attempts to change itself when faced with a difficult situation.
https://youtu.be/rtf8HvwV1t8

109. Base rate fallacy
I misjudge the probability of an event by ignoring important background information.
https://youtu.be/WY0ewQvIybY

110. Planning fallacy
The planning fallacy is a phenomenon in which predictions about how much time will be needed to complete a future task display an optimism bias and underestimate the time needed.
https://youtu.be/l33t03ndj64

111. Raising Windhorse
"Raising Windhorse" means rousing one's energy to its fullest level, highest peak, while still able to ride it at the same time.
Unconditional confidence is not having confidence in somethiong, but is remaining in the state of confidence, free from competition or one-upmanship.
..fortitude to be able to have a good life
https://youtu.be/n8awdtUr4hU

112. Disconfirmation Bias
When a person believes something so strongly they have difficulty accepting any evidence to the contrary it is called disconfirmation bias.
https://youtu.be/z7dgN0qpIUg

113. Counterfactuals
false incorrect made up truthless untrue untruthful wrong
https://youtu.be/dZU1O3w-HkU

114. Neurotic anxiety
Neurotic anxiety describes a type of anxiety that stems from inner insecurities, urges, or fears of losing control. People who suffer from neurotic anxiety often have another mental health condition, with anxiety, mood, eating, or obsessive compulsive disorders being most common.
https://youtu.be/M35xDrIPBIk

115. Transactional relationships
You are not ever going to have a secure healthy relationship with someone who needs you to be perfect in order to love you. That is not love. That is transactional relating. Which if we struggle with toxic shame and limerence might look indistinguishable from love to us. That's something to be really diligent about keeping in mind.
There are no perfect people in reality. Are you idealizing their flaws.
🟥 Heidi Priebe
https://youtu.be/Zp8fpziBEdU

116. Identity Crisis
An identity crisis is defined as a period of uncertainty or confusion in a person's life. This crisis occurs when a person's sense of identity becomes insecure and unstable. An identity crisis usually occurs when there's a change in a person's life.
https://youtu.be/V6hPJfODAKU

117. Adler's theory of Social Interest
Gemeinschaftsgefühl (social interest) was first penned by Adler in 1908 before he left Freud with one third of the Vienna Psychoanalytic Society members (Adler 1956). Adler asserted that humans are social beings whose aggression drive can be modulated by social interest
https://youtu.be/LuWCqC6CqL4

118. Narcissist's Shared Fantasy
Narcissists create a shared fantasy as a coping mechanism to relive their childhood trauma and seek a substitute mother figure, leading to a repetitive cycle of idealization and devaluation in their relationships.
https://youtu.be/Lf9PdftShuM

119. Uncertainty principle in psychology
Uncertainty is the result of having limited knowledge about an occurrence or event, making it difficult to control, plan, or predict a future outcome, which can often be distressing.
https://youtu.be/TuqU3lJAb6w

120. Mere-exposure effect
The mere-exposure effect is a psychological phenomenon by which people tend to develop liking or disliking for things merely because they are familiar with them. In social psychology, this effect is sometimes called the familiarity principle.
https://youtu.be/S_D_6dzwoso

121. Intersubjectivity
For Buber, intersubjectivity is therefore a human space between two subjects that neither of them can control or manipulate.
https://youtu.be/ncWZRW1FIKQ

122. Tendency to perceive (interpersonal) victimhood - TIV
The tendency to perceive (interpersonal) victimhood consists of four dimensions: a need for recognition of suffering, perceived moral superiority, lack of empathy for others' suffering, and rumination over negative feelings and thoughts related to experienced offenses.
https://youtu.be/oKdTOV-x-qg

123. Internal working model
According to Bowlby, an internal working model is a mental representation of our relationship with our primary caregiver that becomes a template for future relationships and allows individuals to predict, control and manipulate their environment.
https://youtu.be/owDG7KsmVS8

124. hyper-reflection
Over-consciousness of one's own behaviour, to the point that it interferes with sexual performance, social interaction, or other activities
https://youtu.be/DzYv7PIYWmA

125. Defensive attribution
In personal relationships, one might blame their friend for being cheated on, attributing it to their friend's supposed lack of judgement or discernment, as a defense mechanism to believe that it could not happen to them.
https://youtu.be/MuTwKRFxnn8

126. Johari Window
The Johari Window is a visual framework you can use to understand more about your conscious and unconscious biases. Doing this can improve your self-awareness and your understanding of others. But it can also be used as a personal development tool, and to build better workplace relationships
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eqqgxhgZ2Gw

127. The strategy of desire
They promised to show companies how to make millions by connecting their products with people's hidden desires. Dichter himself became millionaire, famous for creating slogans like Tiger in your tank. Even the marketing of the Barbie doll came from a children's focus group. The environment could be used to strengthen the human personality. And products have the power both to inner desires and give feeling of common identity, stable society: "Strategy of desire".
🎞️ The Century of the Self (2002)
https://youtu.be/_U8M2_eo9vE

128. Edward Bernays
People are rarely aware of the real reasons which motivate their actions.
https://youtu.be/CaYq_exJ4I4

129. Rat race
a way of life in modern society, in which people compete with each other for power and money
https://youtu.be/CirmyBhtUWo

130. Vance Packard
A classic examination of how our thoughts and feelings are manipulated by business, media and politicians, The Hidden Persuaders was the first book to expose the hidden world of “motivation research,” the psychological technique that advertisers use to probe our minds in order to control our actions as consumers.
https://youtu.be/aIt_hHnVnNo

131. Martyr complex
In psychology a person who has a martyr complex, sometimes associated with the term "victim complex", desires the feeling of being a martyr for their own sake and seeks out suffering or persecution because it either feeds a physical need or a desire to avoid responsibility.
https://youtu.be/58Y0UQ4dJVk

132. Emotional Anorexia
“Emotional starvation” is really a metaphor for not getting your dependency needs met. In this context, we are not referring to relying on others to make your decisions. Instead, we are referring to the basic need that we have to perceive that we are important to others.
https://youtu.be/uoI1GS6nN5c

133. Pathos
Pathos appeals to the emotions and ideals of the audience and elicits feelings that already reside in them. Pathos is a term used most often in rhetoric, as well as in literature, film and other narrative art.
https://youtu.be/QoQLC4g3vwI

134. Consuming self
Something that is self-consuming uses itself completely or completely destroys itself, without any outside forces or actions: This combination of revulsion and fascination drives the novel, giving it a self-consuming energy.
https://youtu.be/cD2bVuQ1z1w

135. Post-traumatic growth
In psychology, posttraumatic growth is positive psychological change experienced as a result of struggling with highly challenging, highly stressful life circumstances.
https://youtu.be/h5xzSB5WKDI

136. Anomie
In sociology, anomie is a social condition defined by an uprooting or breakdown of any moral values, standards or guidance for individuals to follow. Anomie is believed to possibly evolve from conflict of belief systems and causes breakdown of social bonds between an individual and the community.
https://youtu.be/iRx_d7N9pgo

137. Peer pressure
Peer pressure is a direct or indirect influence on peers, i.e., members of social groups with similar interests, experiences, or social statuses. Members of a peer group are more likely to influence a person's beliefs, values, and behavior.
https://youtu.be/YIiVjQMn9BE

138. Epiphenomenon
Emergent order or epiphenomenon is when complex systems produce totally unexpected results that cannot be reduced or attributed to any part of the system. That come from nowhere. We are like that. That's why we have serial killers, psychopaths, narcissists. The manifestation of the unexpected outcomes of our programming is what we call madness. Insanity is unexpected outcome of our coding. Do things not found in code - we call this crazy. Creative.
🟥 Prof. Sam Vaknin
https://youtu.be/IkiKjhSHvDU

139. Homogenization (society)
Cultural homogeneity refers to the concept of a society or group of people having a shared and uniform culture. In such a society, people share similar beliefs, values, customs, and practices. This cultural uniformity is often the result of socialization, education, and the influence of the dominant culture.
https://youtu.be/Lm9W7IxYdZ8

140. Mass Psychogenic Illness
Mass psychogenic illness is when people in a group start feeling sick at the same time even though there is no physical or environmental reason for them to be sick. It is sometimes called mass hysteria or epidemic hysteria. People could think they've been exposed to something dangerous, like a germ or a toxin (poison).
https://youtu.be/IBbLrqw4q90

141. Object constancy
Object constancy is the ability to retain a bond with another person — even if you find yourself upset, angry, or disappointed by their actions. This particular cognitive skill develops around 2 or 3 years of age.
https://youtu.be/uXnBkGfKDe8

142. Object relations theory
Object relations theory is all about understanding how we internalize our early childhood attachments and how those beliefs affect our later relationships. While the term might make you think of an inanimate object, in this case, it actually refers to the significant people in your life.
https://youtu.be/Gs05cy9yVKQ

143. Dead mother complex
The dead mother complex is a clinical condition described by Andre Green involving an early and destructive identification with the figure of a 'dead' – or rather depressed and emotionally unavailable – mother.
https://youtu.be/aAlokM4gnL8

144. Inappropriate affect
Inappropriate affect is a clinical term that describes a condition where one's emotional actions or displays do not logically relate to a situation or stimuli, "affect" being a broad term that refers to any experience of feeling or emotion, whether simple or complex, normal, or pathological.
Emotions that do not match the reality of a situation. Showing happiness during a tragedy. Becoming angry without any outward provocation. Flat affect or not showing expected emotional reactions (but not in the case of simply holding back emotions)
https://youtu.be/DcXajiBWPCk

145. Othering
the act of treating someone as though they are not part of a group and are different in some way: A large volume of literature has been written on stereotyping and othering.
https://youtu.be/laoAe6C043g

146. Sensory overload
Sensory overload is when your five senses—light, sound, taste, touch, and smell—take in more information that your brain can process. Overwhelmed by all the input, the brain responds as it would to a life-threatening situation and enters fight, flight, or freeze mode.
https://youtu.be/INE84jpwUgM

147. Autistic shutdown
An autistic shutdown is a state where an autistic person basically withdraws from their environment. A shutdown is often a coping mechanism for overwhelming sensory or emotional stimuli or just plain exhaustion from processing too much stimulation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nylwUiLUiho

148. Overstimulation
Overstimulation is a state of being that is caused by too much sensory input. Being overstimulated occurs when one is overwhelmed by information from their senses and struggles to process their environment. Your senses are like messengers to the brain bringing information regarding your surroundings.
https://youtu.be/pql-7T-sjz8

149. Narrowing behavior / Attentional narrowing
Attentional narrowing refers to a state in which operators, involuntarily and unconsciously, fail to process a subset of potentially critical information
https://youtu.be/qW3iyINldrg

150. Synaptic pruning
Synaptic pruning is an essential part of brain development. By getting rid of the synapses that are no longer used, the brain becomes more efficient as you age.
https://youtu.be/OeJNoByNW3E

151. Proprioception (kinesthesia)
Proprioception, otherwise known as kinesthesia, is your body's ability to sense movement, action, and location. It's present in every muscle movement you have. Without proprioception, you wouldn't be able to move without thinking about your next step.
https://youtu.be/a3qQq7Far8o

152. Nothingness as anti-dote for social anxiety
Nothingness is not about becoming a nobody. It's not about giving up on your own personal life. Nothingness is about giving up on pretentions, ambition, the rat race, giving up on other people's values. Giving up on narcissism. Giving up on grandiosity. Giving up on constantly comparing yourself to others. Number of likes. It is social context. It is asserting yourself as individual. Separation from humanity. Giving up on anything that is not you.
🟥 Prof. Sam Vaknin
https://youtu.be/0z4ivbhCqkw

153. Werner Erhard
The world is perfect the way it is.
https://youtu.be/QfLl9liyygc

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