Mental health (inside) and healthy relationship (outside) comes down to being accepting and tolerant. We must allege that we do not something perfectly and be open for alternatives and various opinions. THE AGREEABLENESS THEORY
As heard on Classic FM (UK), John Williams - Jurassic Park theme
Jul 2
If you visit Eastern Europe in late August and feel you caught a common flu or cold - it is most probably allergy to pollen from this American weed, imported in Eastern Europe: Ragweed Ambrosia. The insidious plant looks like this;
An intelligence explosion will cause our current social orders to become disrupted before leading to reorganization and development of different socioeconomic systems, but not before some chaos takes hold. The Singularity Event
The first thing angels usually say is "Do not be afraid". They don't want you to be afraid. That's like 90% of what needs to happen for us to get where we need to go. HOUR OF POWER
Hypnosis is just a state of focus. When you focus on something so much that all other things become untrue and that one thing become true. YT 1stdrive
Jul 4
By complaining, nagging, reacting, demanding and feedback - these are ways how to program someone. You say something and then you appear as little inner critic in other people minds - your voice pops up in target's head and they obey your message.
Quick fix for social anxiety, external referencing would be to be aware of it as a floating space state and realize it is up to me to find my foothold/stronghold in any ambiguity - instead of searching for other people, their approval, opinions, reactions.
It's very hard to find your own words- and you don't actually exist until you have your own words. Jordan Peterson
Jul 7
True adequacy doesn't feel need to advertise. Insecurity is a part of human condition. Healthy dose of self doubt helps us monitor ourselves and our behavior. YT Interesting Psychology
Contingent self esteem. The tendency to change one's self-evaluation based on feedback. It's controlled by others and requires meeting their standards in order to learn value or worth as a person. So look inward for what makes your self-esteem. Instead of relying on other people.
Do not push your best self all the time. Instead be yourself. Allowing yourself to have some bad hair days, lazy days, awkward moments, perfectly normal experiences without judging yourself. Perfection is boring. YT Interesting Psychology
They say the water is the best conductor between our world and the next. film Solstice (2007)
Night prowler.
Jul 8
We Suffer More In Imagination Than In Reality SENECA
Once you identify your safety behaviour you use, let safety go. Think of it as experiment. What happens when you let go of fake life preserver? Drop safety behaviour - and we are more authentic. YT Interesting Psychology
We ask our anxiety which is credible as car salesman, how things actually went. Get started and your confidence will catch up. YT Interesting Psychology
The hypnosis in childhood was aimed to please our narcissistic psychopath, whilst in our adulthood - it is expected from us to be adult, to have initiatives and to take care of ourselves.
Realize we have inside capacity to activate our inner person who will discern what we like, what we dislike and what is the best choice - even if wrong or mistake. That other people out there are only for reference.
The sky is blue, the sun is shining, and yet you forget that everywhere there is evil under the sun. film Evil Under the Sun (1982)
The effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is. 'Cause everything you gain in life will rot and fall apart, and all that will be left of you is what was in your heart. Jim Carrey
Fear is going to be a player in your life. But you get to decide how much. You can spend your whole life imagining ghosts, worrying about the future. You can fail at what you don't want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love. Jim Carrey
Jul 9
You can't take responsibility for something you don't have control over. Worrying and stressing over other people's problem is not love, it is not helpful. YT Julia Kristina Counselling
Jul 10
Capacity for self expression. To express ourselves fully, we need to feel safe. That's my secret being fully myself how I healed my childhood trauma. Capacity for full self expression. YT Elizabeth Kupferman
Survivor mode - we are always in fight or flight mode, waiting for a next disaster. This is the system in toxic family system. Because of the cycle of abuse. It is explosion part of cycle why we can't relax, we never feel safe. YT No 6 Complex PTSD
Jul 11
You may have made a mistake, but you don't deserve this. 'Left For Dead: The Ashley Reeves Story'
Jul 12
Stop seeing see everything as emergency. Everything is not emergency. Life is not suppose to be an urgent crisis every day. YT Robin L. Lewis
I encourage you to be more messy. Lose grip of investment in people pleasing, be willing to upset people, feel judged, and criticized by people and even lose relationships in your life. Your people pleasing will hit the wall or ceiling. YT Jayson Gaddis
Jul 14
July 14 - it's Bastille Day today.
Jul 15
Mars attacks art.
Jul 16
We allow others to determine when we will be happy, we will be peaceful, when we will be upset. We'll have anxiety, and now we're going to what they say. Codependency is their self-medication for their anxiety. YT Elizabeth Kupferman
We react because we don't feel good about ourselves. Saying yes to things we do not actually wanna do. It is easier to be upset. We're looking for something to keep distraction going. It gives us break from how disgusting we find ourselves.
Other people's comfort is number one priority for us. Fixing their problem is just one task that stems from this urge to people please, it is actually our belief that other people must not be disturbed in any way. We are hypnotized into being codependents.
There's no eternity to the things we can touch. There's nothing we can hold onto in this world. Only by letting go can we finally possess what is real. Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon (2000)
Ambiguity effect: The tendency to avoid options for which the probability of a favorable outcome is unknown.
Availability Heuristic bias: A mental shortcut that relies on immediate example that come to a person's mind when evaluating a specific topic, concept or idea.
Your perspective determines your reality. Choose to come from more grateful standpoint that will help you in the long run. HOUR OF POWER
What does God look like? By combining all the selected faces, the researchers could assemble a composite ‘face of God’ that reflected how each person imagined God to appear.
No book is ever written, it is edited. Return to Peyton Place (1961)
Maybe we can experimentally see some of these objects. Dark matter is invisible, maybe it is an ordinary galaxy hovering just above us in another dimension. Gravity then being the only force that can transmit in some way between different dimensions.
Jul 19
Without all knowledge we are subject only to partial truth and shortcuts - which lead to delusions and illusions, errors and thinking traps.
Social progress makes us obsess with problems that were never thought of as major. Solving big problems makes formerly small problems seem larger. Paradox of Proportion
No matter how good it gets, the standards get higher. Paradox of Perfectionism
Jul 20
'If the universe we observe resulted from a random thermodynamic fluctuation, it would be vastly more likely to be a simple one than the complex one we observe. The simplest case would be just a brain floating in vacuum, having the thoughts.'
Quantum physics tells us that nothing that is observed is unaffected by the observer. That statement, from science holds an enormous and powerful insight. It means that everyone sees a different truth, because everyone is creating what they see. Neale Donald Walsch
A system can't change while you are watching it! Quantum zeno effect
The most potent control happens when the person does not realize he is being controlled and the strongest prison is that where the prisoner thinks he is free. JJ DEWEY
Jul 22
Due to the Molyneux problem - if described under context of social anxiety, social anxiety sufferers would not recognize reality when it hit us. Reality would appear strange and weird.
"We teach people how to treat us" If our self worth is based on ourselves -other people would not have the power anyway. If we feel compelled to "teach" someone anything - it is sign that we are problem, we are inferior and see others as superior ones who are needed to be alerted
"We teach people how to treat us."" Definitely I can claim this advise is faulty. The faulty part in this advice is "people". Some 'people' such as narcissists - they are not people. So the rules do not apply to them.
'If outside validation is your only source of nourishment, you will hunger for the rest of your life.'
Jul 28
Ideas are the only reality. Material things does not exist, they are mutable and destructible, keeps on changing, cannot be considered real. Because the physical world constantly changes, one cannot really tell what it really is. What is Idealism?
Polarity - We can change the polarity of a degree of emotion by recognizing it as a spectrum and choosing the degree which best suits our needs. YT Spirit Science
Jul 30
Marilyn Monroe's white dress scene in the 1955 film "The Seven Year Itch" was probably inspired and influenced by 1937 movie "The Awful Truth" windy dress scene.
