Oct 1
- Are you saying that I'm a simulation? No. That's insane.
- Not anymore. Just chillingly plausible.
THE SIMPSONS S31 E8
Okay, I can see you're gonna need some time to come to terms with finding out you're just a bunch of ones and zeros.
THE SIMPSONS S31 E8
It's about the fact that you can't exist as a human being in isolation. Ubuntu counsels forgiveness rather than vengeance; conciliation than confrontation, respect for the humanity of others - all of them much easier to recite than practice.
Ubuntu
Southern Africa,1995
1001 IDEAS
Cavemen developed a capacity to see likeness in unlike things, to think laterally, and to apply experiences from certain particular parts of their lives to others. This capacity inspired leap forward from barbarism to civilization.
Cognitive Fluidity
Steven Mithen,1996
1001 IDEAS
Top-down approach provides a framework with the present time influencing the past. It asserts that the universe depends on what is being observed. It envisions a set of alternative universes.
Top-down Cosmology
Stephen Hawking and Thomas Hertog, 2006
1001 IDEAS..., Robert Arp.
It destroys self esteem, if you feel compelled to do things, it removes choice, removes credit in making good positive choices.
How We Destroy Our Self Esteem | Tyrannical Inner Self-Talk
YT Dr David Maloney Psychotherapy
And in my mind, in my head
This is where we all came from
The dreams we have, the love we share
This is what we're waiting for
GIGI D'AGOSTINO
The Sure Fire Way To Failure: Try To Please Everybody
You can care about other people without caring what they think.
DAN LOK
Harvest Moon 2020
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty...
When we disconnect from our shadow, we disconnect from this source of energy and we lose our power. We can’t stand up for ourselves, aren’t seen as sexually desirable by potential partners, and are generally overlooked in life.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing
Physics-astronomy
@Physicsastrono9
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Oct 1
"Breaking: Researchers at CERN break “The Speed of Light”".
Oct 2
Kierkegaard concluded that a man can find peace and inner harmony by finding the courage to be his true self, rather than wanting to be someone else.
Søren Kierkegaard (1813-1855)
THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
I am not advocate ashaming people for being who they are. It doesn't mean I excuse. I was stuck in resentment...
I let people off the hook. You we're not responsible for making me happy anymore.
YT Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc.
24 hours after learning something we forget two-thirds of it.
Hermann Ebbinghaus (1850-1909)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Gut reaction, that first reaction is conditioning, teaching, programing that is running on auto-pilot. That is just meaning. There are other meanings.
Your power is information. You got the knowledge and data.
YT Emotional Fire Academy
Je ne dors plus
I can't sleep anymore
(The time has come)
Je te desire
I desire you
(The time has come)
Prends moi
Take me
Je suis a toi
I'm yours
Mea culpa
I'm guilty
ENIGMA - MEA CULPA
Oct 3
Can you imagine an elephant being interested in spider, carrying whether he is happy or isn't or whether he is wealthy or poor or whether his sweetheart returns his love or not. Or whether he is looked up to in society, or not.
The Mysterious Stranger
Mark Twain
The Mysterious Stranger
Mark Twain
Man's mind clumsily and tediously and laboriously patches little trivialities together gets a result such as it is. My mind creates. ..creates anything it desires and in a moment creates without material. Creates fluids,solids, colors, anything, everything of the airy nothing. MT
Oct 4
fMRI studies show that the same areas of the brain become activated when we experience rejection as when we experience physical pain. This is why rejection hurts so much (neurologically speaking)
Do Movies Cause Social Anxiety?
http://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
Yep, they do. HSP get false information from the world that people deep down care in the same way, intensely.
Movies depict this perfectly -they need script to hold the plot as whole, so show false reality of people caring
Pavlov's observations led him to investigate the links between various stimuli and the responses they elicited.
Dogs become "conditioned" to associate the coat with eating, as whoever fed them always wore one.
Ivan Pavlov (1849-1936)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Most people don't care. Egocentric - They're thinking about themselves, what's in it for me. People spend a little time thinking of you. It doesn't matter if you win or fail.
Live in alignment of our value and our beliefs.
How Not To Care...
YT Enzo Arce
The Law of Effect, animals learn by forging links between actions and results, remembering more positive outcomes and forgetting negative ones.
Edward Thorndike (1874-1949)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
It really reminded me of how strong the bonds are between all of us, you know?
But it felt really good to be alone this summer. Help me figure out who I am.
BEVERLY HILLS, 90210 S7 E2
If someone is making you feel uncomfortable, no matter what or why, you don't have to justify leaving the situation or find a reason first. Being nice gets you killed.
YT TZ Entertainment
With double warmth thy beams display
And with distinguish'd glory shine
To add lustre to this day
"Eternal Source of Light Divine"
How many Kafka's have lived and died without ever sharing their voice with the world; whose voice would have changed it forever.
How many people never know who they'll be after they're gone.
What Is Kafkaesque? - The 'Philosophy' of Franz Kafka
Oct 5
Watson applied his understanding of human behaviour to advertising in the 1920s, demonstrating that people can be influenced into buying products through their image, not content.
JOHN B. WATSON (1878-1958)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Unlike learning, "imprinting" is rapid, operates independently of behaviour, and appears to be irreversible; imprinting cannot be forgotten.
Konrad Lorenz (1903-1989)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
You can't spoil that movie for me, because I don't care what happens. You see, as a grown-up, I know that muscle jerks in tights with magic powers..is boring BS for babies. So go ahead, tell me. Because it means nothing.
THE SIMPSONS S31 E14
The virtual reality's working. The kid has no idea that this has all been fake.
THE SIMPSONS S31 E14
Children and adults with a healthy and balanced personality gain confidence each time they realize that they are capable of meeting external goals. Feelings of inferiority dissipate until the next challenge and is overcome.
Alfred Adler (1870-1937)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
At the other extreme, he witnessed patients who felt defeated by their disability and who made little effort to improve their situation. Adler realized that the differences came down to how these individuals viewed themselves: in other words, their self-esteem.
Alfred Adler,
DK
Give it a chance, again and again and over again. You don't have alternatives and you have one life. Don't give up. People are flexible and life is not rigid. Who knows, you might be surprised this time around?
21-6-2020
See other people as phenomena, they simply exist. Work with what they give you, instead of resisting and trying to change them.
ROBERT GREENE
Length contraction happens at objects moving at regular speeds too, but it is so tiny that there is no way you would ever notice it.
Special Relativity: Crash Course Physics #42
-Jim, just because you don't like someone that's no reason to be rude to their face.
-A lesson in etiquette from a woman who made sole surviving Von Trapp child cry?
MURPHY BROWN S10 E12
Because if you’re beating yourself up, calling yourself a spineless, overly-sensitive wimp who should “just get over it,” then you won’t make it far. That won’t give you the energy and power you need to expand, take risks, and grow.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing..
Oct 6
The part of ourselves we do not want the world to see. The Shadow, representing all our secret or repressed thoughts and the shameful aspects of our character. It appears in the Bible as the devil, in literature as Dr Jekyll's Mr Hyde.
Carl Jung (1875-1961)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
The Shadow is the "bad" side of ourselves that we project onto others, and yet it is not entirely negative; it may represent aspects that we choose to suppress only because they are unacceptable in a particular situation.
CARL JUNG (1875-1961)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Whatever we may consciously think is happening, what we choose to perceive-and therefore experience-is governed by these preformed ideas within the unconscious. In this way, the collective unconscious and its contents affect the conscious state.
CARL JUNG
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
According to Jung, much of what we generally attribute to deliberate, reasoned, conscious thinking is actually already being guided by unconscious activity.
CARL JUNG (1875-1961)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
If you want to sell papers tomorrow, try deceit.
If you want to sell papers 10 years from tomorrow, try honesty.
film TEACHER'S PET (1958)
For external or internal reason, these blueprints may have errors. Unfortunately no one can see that blueprint, neither other people, not even ourselves.
Sometimes,some parts of house are not supervised by others so we built them wrong way.This happens with personality disorders. You have a house but other people seem to enjoy their house more during the blackout,your house gets dark-since you forgot to put windows - and it's dark
The others are trying to explain you that you miss windows but you have no idea what they are talking about since in your blueprints there are no windows planned, so this word or object is not part of your vocabulary.
Talk with people,communicate, don't censor yourself, Discover
It's the people who can't speak that have so much to share.
THE SIMPSONS S31 E15
In the 18th century,the German philosopher Immanuel Kant revolutionized our thinking about the world by pointing out that we can never really know what is "out there" beyond ourselves,because our knowledge is limited to the constraints of our minds and senses.
THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
If you need encouragement, praise, pats on the back from everybody, then you make everybody your judge.
FRITZ PERLS
Game of Pain.
Rules of game: Dice at your own rate
Oct 7
It isn't always what you want that matters. What he wants that counts for something, doesn't it?
Peyton Place (429)
Our sense of self is shaped by our awareness of the "Other", or the world outside ourselves. However, Lacan stated, it is the language of the Other that forms our deepest thoughts.
JACQUES LACAN (1901-1981)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
When there's a shadow,
you reach for the sun.
When there is love,
then you look for the one.
Only if you want to
will you find a way.
If you really want to
You can seize the day.
ENYA - ONLY IF
Man's main task is to give birth to himself. In doing so, he frees himself from confusion, loneliness, and apathy.
One of the critical ways in which man delivers himself from isolation is through his capacity to love.
ERICH FROMM (1900-1980)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Fromm's ideal,the productive personality genuinely seeks and finds a legitimate solution to life through flexibility, learning and sociability.Aiming to "become one" with the world. Respond with rationality and an open mind willing to change their beliefs in the light of evidence
You're scared, aren't you? You are scared. I'm scared, too. What are we scared of?
THE LADY FROM SHANGHAI (1947)
The only way to stay out of trouble is to grow old.
THE LADY FROM SHANGHAI (1947)
Whatever happens in one realm should be mirrored in the other.
The portal from topology to algebra is, itself, mathematics.
Proving Brouwer's Fixed Point Theorem | Infinite Series
If you keep going, something strange happens. As you make the slit even narrower, the spot starts to spread out. The spot on the wall is getting wider. The narrower you make it, the wider that spot becomes.
Heisenberg's Uncertainty Principle Explained
Light must bend in presence of gravitational field. But how could this be? Light always take shortest path, it should go straight. Then he realized, maybe the light is taking shortest path-not straight line, it is curvature,curved path.
General Relativity
Usually, we’re waiting for someone to invite us in, give us permission, or tell us it’s OK.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself
Oct 8
The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts; therefore guard accordingly.
MARCUS AURELIUS
The Stoic App
-How old are you suppose to be before stop being a kid?
-It depends on a person.
PEYTON PLACE 431
The individual lives in an environment of constant change, yet frequently and all too easily, people deny this fluidity and instead create constructs of how they think things should be. They they try to fit constructs they have made.
CARL ROGERS (1902-1987)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Unlike a maze with only one route across, Rogers asserts that life is full of possibilities and offers multiple routes-but individuals are often unable or unwilling to see them. To "good life" we need to stay flexible and open what life brings, by experiencing it fully
C. ROGERS
Rogers maintained that many of us have very strong, strident, specific conditions that must be met before we will grant approval or acceptance. We also base self-worth and regard for others on achievements or appearance, rather than accepting people as they are.
CARL ROGERS, DK
I think so many of us have made a God that's like us, instead of the other way around. God loves diversity. God didn't just make one type of flower.
He made thousands of different flowers.. but he loves all of them indiscriminately.
THE SIMPSONS S31 E19
I think together we can bring Heaven here while we're still alive. There's a Chinese proverb about Heaven and Hell. They say Hell is a long table like this,but everybody's starving-they have these long chopsticks, and they can't bring the food to their mouths.
THE SIMPSONS S31E19
People were so busy worshipping a road map instead of trying to reach the destination.
THE SIMPSONS S31 E20
Each one of us has an individual purpose to which we are uniquely suited, and part of the path to fulfilment is to identify and pursue that purpose.
ABRAHAM MASLOW (1908-1970)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
If someone is not doing what they are best suited to do in life, it will not matter if all of their needs are fulfilled, he will be perpetually restless and unsatisfied. Each of us must discover our potential, and seek out experiences that will allow us to fulfill it.
A.MASLOW,DK
Their criticism is being brought about that is within me.If I was not ashamed, they would never actually criticize me. And it wouldn't even bother me.I'd brush it off.The negativity within us brings out, it seems to bring out behaviour in others.
YT curtis
There can be no positive result through negative attitude. Think Positive. Live Positive.
ALBERT EINSTEN
They are not aware of, that the failure to speak up is interpreted by the user as approval, and they would continue doing what they doing.
You must make your concerns be heard.
Silent Approval
YT ARC Fitness. Addiction Recovery Coaching
People who depend on other opinions may also dislike themselves. Low self esteem forces us to create protective mechanisms that help us not get hurt.
They possibly prove to themselves and everyone around that they are better than they seem.
YT BRIGHT SIDE
And my self esteem got used to very simple algorithm of actions. To be normal,I must please others.I felt great when other people like me,and I was very sad when someone didn't.
It doesn't matter is someone doesn't like you. Don't attach great importance. Show yourself as you are
Ólafur Arnalds - momentary (choir version)
What would happen if starting today, right now, you decided that your perspective mattered? It didn’t require years of experience or some higher level of intelligence.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up...
One does not become fully human painlessly.
We need to accept our "negative" feelings, rather than avoid or repress them. Suffering and sadness are natural and essential parts of life, and important-they lead to psychological growth.
ROLLO MAY (1909-1994)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Oct 9
Any house is good when you're living in it, Connie.
PEYTON PLACE 434
Morning, just another day
happy people pass my way..
I never realized
How happy you made me
BARRY MANILOW - MANDY
Wouldn't it be cool that tablets and laptops have their cover designs like these ancient Mesopotamia plates?
I thought love wasn't meant to last
I thought you were just passing through
What did I get right to deserve somebody like you?
I wasn't expecting that
Jamie Lawson - Wasn't Expecting That
This sleepover isn't over. If you run now, you'll never stop running.
True revenge can only come from the hate in your own heart.
THE SIMPSONS S31 E21
Dog sees the world with his nose, and his nose sees so much more than our eyes.
For instance, we see a lamp post. Your dog sees everyone who's ever been here.
THE SIMPSONS S31 E22
Just wait a second. Let it filter though the media, social.. and then make the decision, we hear one little thing and we get bothered and two days later realize there is new information.
Put it under test, curb emotions.
Don't Take the Bait
YT Order of M.
The psychedelic movement of the 1960s was heavily influenced by Leary's call to create a better, more satisfying society by exploring the unconscious to uncover our true emotions and needs.
Timothy Leary (1920-1996)
THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
I have enough experience. My brain and my body know how to drive and they gonna get me safely where I want. Even if I feel like de-realized and everything seems like video game. I keep remind, I am safe person, now is no different.
YT Swamy G
He applies Gregory Bateson's theory of the "double bind", in which a person is put into situations where he faces conflicting expectations, and every action leads to negative consequences, resulting in extreme mental distress.
R.D.LAING (1927-1989)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
People are healthy in their natural state, and that so-called mental illness is an attempt to return to it.
Shakespear's King Lear is an iconic example of a man driven mad by difficult circumstances. In Laing's view,Lear's madness is an attempt to return to his natural state.
DK
If anyone ever wondered, it takes roughly 3 years (in regular intervals) to watch all episodes of The Simpsons, from Season 1 to Season 31.
The "Zeigarnik effect" can be demonstrated that a waiter is more likely to remember details of an order that has not yet been paid for, than one completed. Due to the task lacking closure, leading to the memory being stored differently, or more effectively.
BLUMA ZEIGARNIK
DK
Oct 10
When someone like you comes under suffering, comes under hardship, comes under difficulty, God is forming a Masterpiece in you.
Believe it and let that hope carry you through this.
HOUR OF POWER
The other person is leading us what to say next. Training us like animals to do what they want - that we keep quiet and stop ruining their false view of the world or even expose them as fake, unintelligent. Stop that pattern, you know what to tell back.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
If these "automatic thoughts" are examined and compared with an objective, rational view of the same situation, the patient can recognize how his perception is distorted. By correcting erroneous beliefs, we can lower excessive reactions.
AARON BECK
THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
DONALD BROADBENT (1926-1993)
THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Oct 11
Incredible hockey goal from Croatia, 2011
(Aaron Fox, Medvescak). Play of the day.
I love Austrian ORF radio tradition to play noon church bells at midday.
Or even better to witness the noon bells live when you cycle carefree along through Alpine meadows in the summer.
If Croatia ever have the Classic FM radio (and I pray it will some day) - this would be on Heavy Rotation, this piece from Croatian opera from 1935 - ' "Ero the Joker", literally Ero from the other world'
Social anxiety is set of mental illness symptoms triggered by reactions of fake people posing as sane adults, and taking their authority and expertise for granted.
(Yesterday was October 10 - World Mental Health Day 2020)
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
Es ist zwölf Uhr. Sie hören das geläute der Pfarrkirche Schoppernau im Bregenzerwald in Voralerberg.
We see speck on picture and that's we all we focus on. In long run it really doesn't matter. We need to step back, see what life is about.
Everything doesn't have to be perfect before you enjoy life.
VICTORIA OSTEEN
Seligman noticed that extremely happy, fulfilled people tend to get on with others, and enjoy company.
Similarly, the meaningful life, or acting in the service of others, something bigger than oneself, led to great satisfaction and fulfillment.
MARTIN SELIGMAN
DK The psych. book
He find that all "extremely happy people" were very sociable,and in a relationship.
Enjoying social events and the company of others may not offer deep intellectual or emotional satisfaction,but Seligman observed that is was essential part of being truly happy.
DK PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Insight, Watzlawick suggested may even cause blindness, both to the real problem and its potential solution.
Paul Watzlawick (1921-2007)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/the-invisible-crossroad-signs.html
"The belief that one's own view of reality is the only reality is the most dangerous of all delusions."
Paul Watzlawick
it’s a natural way to communicate when you believe in yourself and aren't focused on harvesting approval and pleasing everybody.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly...
Oct 12
She decided to collect evidence through an experiment aimed to deliberately implant false memories (1995 "Lost in the Mall" experiment).
What we believe with all our hearts is not necessarily the truth.
Memory studies
ELIZABETH LOFTUS
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
And I’m standing on the edge of some crazy cliff. What I have to do, I have to catch everybody if they start to go over the cliff – I mean if they’re running and they don’t look where they’re going I have to come out from somewhere and catch them. That’s all I do all day.
I’d just be the catcher in the rye and all. I know it’s crazy, but that’s the only thing I’d really like to be.
You will be leaving
Things will be changing
For you
They are not family
They are not friends
But a false history
And you aren't sorry
Come in, come in
PALACE BROTHERS - COME IN
We are all trapped in the cave.
Let's help each others inside & be kind to each other. We will get to the surface eventually. Let's stop crab mentality -"group will attempt to reduce the self-confidence of any member who achieves success beyond the others,out of envy,resentment"
By being social (kind) and not afraid to speak up, by ignoring other people rudeness, you spread the light to other people around you, making more light and cast darkness away.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
Research in the 1960s shed light on the darker aspects of behaviour: Melvin Lerner showed how victims are sometimes blamed for what happens to them, and Elliot Aronson explained that apparently aberrant behaviour could be the result of circumstances rather than insanity.
DK
Here it is; wise words by wise man from my profile page on Twitter:
"You cannot understand a system until you try to change it."
Social Psychology (being in a world of others)
Approach: Field Theory
KURT LEWIN (1890-1947)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
The Law of Jante, presumed to be behind Scandinavian mentality:
You're not to think you are anything special.
You're not to think you are as good as we are.
You're not to think you are smarter than we are.
You're not to imagine yourself better than we are.
(wiki)
If gravity is not tangible force, why if I place motionless ball here on trampoline, does it have to roll towards our planet? Everything through spacetime moves, it is moving through spacetime.
Curved Dimension
YT But Why?
If you decide to move faster through space, you must move slower through time.
And if you somehow slow down in space, you move faster through time.
You sitting is so small compared to "c", the difference is imperceptible.
Curved Dimension
YT But Why?
Oct 13
Nip in the bud - To stop something at an early stage. If you see a bad habit begin to develop, try to nip it in the bud so that it does not become ingrained
(wiki)
If there are signs and accidents happen anyway, then:
The people in charge are fake. They pretend to be in charge, while they are the ones creating the disorder, damage and consequent chaos - without even realizing it.
http://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/the-invisible-crossroad-signs.html
“Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.” – Charles Addams
A person who has learned to see how much his own fate depends upon the fate of his entire group will be eager to take over a fair share of responsibility for its welfare.
Field Theory
KURT LEWIN
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
This is where social anxiety goes quantum:
Reality is "dualistic".
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
Shy people have special gift - as translators.
People who are forced to be quiet can create harmony by voicing their words to others, to society, to community - this is why it is important not to avoid people, to voice our opinion. Quiet people understand.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
Let us make a sacred pact before the gods. If one of us ever gets free, he'll do everything he can to free the rest of us.
THE SIMPSONS S32 E2
As you become less nice, and less concerned with how every single person will respond to every single thing you say, you can command the center of attention more
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No...
There are 3 million porn web sites, yet not one web site for your suggestions to make traffic safer.
This world is a madhouse.
Oct 14
Don't auto-censor yourself. Speak out things that you have inside, crouching inside you and waiting to jump out of your mouth - expect crab mentality in return, but Law of Jante will keep you on the ground, not expecting the praise&help you out of fights.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
I used to wanna be a cowboy
That's why I started smokin' cigarettes
There's a lot of things I used to wanna be 'til I met you
Now I wanna be honest
Now I wanna be better
Now I wanna be the me
I should've been when we were together
Brandy Clark - Who...
Lewin emphasizes that the entire situation, including all relevant personal and environmental details must be taken into account, as focusing on isolated facts can lead to a skewed perception of the circumstances.
KURT LEWIN
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Not only you must have a through and holistic understanding of a situation in order to change it, but that understanding actually deepens throughout the change process, and therefore "you cannot understand a system until you try to change it".
KURT LEWIN
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
The process is difficult because it involves painful unlearning, difficult relearning, and the restructuring of thoughts, feelings, attitudes and perceptions.
KURT LEWIN
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
3 Stages:
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/08/three-stages.html
We all need each other. This type of interdependence is the greatest challenge to the maturity of individual and group functioning.
KURT LEWIN (1890-1947)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
We use fear, whether we know or not, of what could happen to make nothing happen.
Give me one reason WHY what people think about you actually matters? … Yeah, there are literally no reason why it actually matters.
Not care what people think
YT RBC KLY
self-reliant: Do not depend on others to love and appreciate you.
The important thing is to accept yourself as you are.
How To Boost Your Self-Esteem
YT The Positive Side
By taking the exact opposite counter intuitive direction.
Admitting i am not good at - made me relax and try no to pretend which ironically made me good.
Toxic shame
YT Alive Academy
When you think about it, there has to be underline shame not being able to share about who you are and what you want.
How to remove toxic people from your life for introverts
YT Aude Seynt Martin
Toxic environment will try to "correct" you according their false standards by molding you into their own mold - which may be absolutely crooked and wrong for you. The clear sign is ashaming you. Healthy person would not ashame you if you are not unkind and if you are not violent
More detailed yack about this topic here:
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
Low self esteem can harm mental health, it's a serious matter and it should never be ignored.
Always remember you're awesome!
Self Esteem
YT AbrahamThePharmacist
Down in the shadow of the penitentiary
Out by the gas fires of the refinery
I'm ten years burning down the road
Nowhere to run ain't got nowhere to go
Born in the U.S.A.
I was born in the U.S.A.
Born in the U.S.A.
I'm a long gone Daddy in the U.S.A.
BRUCE
It seems that... it all comes down to Total Recall.
The unfreezing stage is perhaps the most complex stage of the process, as people are naturally inclined to resist changes to their established mindsets and routines. Preparation might include creating an exciting vision for change.
KURT LEWIN
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
On an individual level,people may react to this stage defensively,not wanting to leave their comfort zone and undergo the challenge of learning new skills or accepting a new set of beliefs.This natural resistance can be overcome if support's given to engender psychological safety
Psychological safety = A sense that people will not be embarrassed or punished for speaking up
I can't stop now, I've traveled so far
To change this lonely life
Let's talk about love
I wanna know what love is, the love that you feel inside
I want you to show me, and I'm feeling so much love
I wanna feel what love is, no, you just cannot hide
I know you can show me,yeah
The power (and danger) of social influence to shape a person's beliefs and behavior. If something becomes normal for a group, social pressure will ensure conformity. Milgram's experiment showed ordinary people are capable of cruelty under pressure to conform.
SOLOMON ASCH
DK BOOK
sometimes it is good to let things go. But most of the time this is a fear of a direct conversation.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself
Oct 15
Why these kind of news are not in mainstream media?
The chance of a collision is higher than 10%.
Two big pieces of space junk are zooming toward a close approach that will occur Thursday at 8:56 p.m. EDT (0056 GMT on Oct. 16)
https://space.com/possible-space-junk-collision-leolabs-oct-15-2020
Our love is alive and so we begin
Foolishly layin' our hearts on the table, stumblin' in
Our love is a flame burnin' within
Wherever you go, whatever you do
You know these reckless thoughts of mine are followin' you
I becoming to realize any distress and maladjustment people feel are reaction to toxic environment upon your own unrealized personality. If you are made shut up whenever you expressed your personality, you will develop mental distress.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
And I’m standing on the edge of some crazy cliff. What I have to do, I have to catch everybody if they start to go over the cliff – I mean if they’re running and they don’t look where they’re going I have to come out from somewhere and catch them. That’s all I do all day.
People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human hearth than its opposite.
NELSON MANDELA
We come to conclusion that we can divide people in two groups - children and adult. Children won't and can't handle the truth - and they don't care at all. And adults, that search and know the truth, and they can handle it.
We both have been destined to be and believe in what we experienced and draw our conclusions upon... Once you die, you will realize our point of view - you are not meant to know this information at this moment, if you cannot believe in it.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
People, like actors, try to create a favourable impression of themselves through their choice of script, setting, wardrobe, skills and props. Life is a dramatically enacted thing.
ERVIN GOFFMAN (1922-1982)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
There are "front of stage" areas for our public personas, and "backstage" areas for our private lives. Life is a dramatically enacted thing.
ERVIN GOFFMAN (1922-1982)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Social interaction is comparable to a theatrical play. There is an audience for the performance. Life is a dramatically enacted thing.
ERVIN GOFFMAN (1922-1982)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Personality is the sum of the various roles that a person plays in his life.This implies that the true self is not a private or internal phenomenon,but rather the dramatic effect of the ways in which a person presents himself publicly.
ERVIN GOFFMAN (1922-1982)
DK PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Hotel staff are "front stage" when they are interacting with the public. Their behaviour may change, becoming less formal, when they are not on duty "backstage".
ERVIN GOFFMAN (1922-1982)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Repeated exposure to a stimulus breeds familiarity with it. Familiarity brings about an attitude change towards the stimulus, taking the form of preference or affection. The more you see it, the more you like it.
ROBERT ZAJONC (1923-2008)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Zajonc's 1968 experiment tested the mere exposure effect by showing people slides of symbols with uneven rates of repetition; the more frequently someone saw a symbol, the more they claimed to like it.
The more you see it, more u like it
ROBERT ZAJONC (1923-2008)
THE PSY BOOK, DK
Repeated exposure is shown to increase trust and affection. Frequent interactions between people may not only increase the level of familiarity, but also provide an increasing impression of similarity,breeding positive feelings and attraction.
ROBERT ZAJONC
THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK,DK
Couples grow to resemble each other over time because they express empathy through reflecting each other's facial expressions; this leads to the formation of similar face lines.
ROBERT ZAJONC (1923-2008)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
In 2003, Simon Baron-Cohen suggests the female brain is predominately hardwired for empathy, whereas the male brain is hardwired for understanding systems.
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
The assassination of President John F. Kennedy in 1963 was shocking and culturally significant. Brown claims these kinds of event cause the formation of "flashbulb" memories. They are continually reinforced within memory.
ROGER BROWN (1925-1997)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
We overhear something that arouses our curiosity. Everyone is eager to transmit knowledge. Values become established. The goal is not to advance knowledge, but to be "in the know".
SERGE MOSCOVICI
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Go, thoughts, on golden wings;
Go, settle upon the slopes and hills,
where warm and soft and fragrant are
the breezes of our sweet native land!
Greet the banks of the Jordan,
the towers of Zion ...
Oh my country so beautiful and lost!
VERDI - VA PENSIERO
Just because you feel good,
Doesn't make you right
Hedonism- Skunk Anansie (1997)
Allegory of the long spoons
difference between heaven and hell by means of people forced to eat with long spoons.
Writer Dawn Eden suggests that this is a simple truth which can be easily forgotten by lonely people unable to see their situation clearly.
(wiki)
Mirror Universe:
Group trying to get out by panic running off a cliff with an individual warning them they're running to disaster
VS
Individual trying to get out of disaster but can't due to group negative influence
The Law of Jante's 10 long rules summoned into 4 short words: We are not perfect.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_Jante
Fact
@Fact
· Oct 15
We are not perfect.
People take advantage of us, people take advantage of everyone, it's almost like what the world is based on, how can we take advantage of this person. Is is right? No. Problem is how am I going to respond when someone takes advantage of me
YT Texas Stready
If your co-workers will going to look bad because of you leveling up and doing job really well, than so be it. That's on them. You have integrity. You achieve, if that people make feel uncomfortable, that is on them.
YT Order of Man
if you charge at them with accusations and hostility, the most natural reaction in the world is going to be defensiveness and fighting back. Instead, you can simply point out what you noticed
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty...
Initially believing herself to be an ordinary girl, she is later revealed to be the reincarnated form of the Princess of the Moon Kingdom, and she subsequently discovers her original name, Princess Serenity
Luna reveals that Usagi is destined to save Earth from the forces of evil
Truth is best good.
ZOROASTER
Whoa!
Saw these runes at Uppsala, they are beautiful as from artistic and design point of view, terrifying as for dire message.
Ancient Origins
@ancientorigins
· Oct 15
After more than 1,000 years of debate, researchers believe they've finally solved the mystery of the world's longest runestone inscription, a Viking slab that describes the real-life Ragnarok apocalypse in the form of cataclysmic climate change. http://pubx.co/9z1eOB
Oct 16
It is in your own power to maintain the beauty of your soul, or to be a decent human being.
MARCUS AURELIUS
The Stopic App
Todays schools are putting students into mold - then as adults we put labels on people or anything around us. In 80% cases that is OK and necessary but in the rest cases this is limiting ourselves to understand. This is leftover from Aristotle-people forgot about Plato & Socrates
The Big Three of Greek Philosophy: Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle are like ID - EGO - SUPEREGO.
Socrates is ID - instincts - raw human being & emotions, religion & occult
Plato is EGO - Common sense - us
Aristotle is SUPEREGO - our schools, science, laws, authorities, signs.
Socrates, ID: "I don't know anything" - so explain me, thus I'll know you more, not the subject
Plato, EGO: "We must know both sides" - ying yang balance
Aristotle, SUPEREGO: "We must label everything" - otherwise there would be darkness - good striving but the world is limitless
Ying Yang balance explained simply:
Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.
THEODORE ROOSEVELT
Graham's_Hierarchy_of_Disagreement... or how to expose fake people mocking you and making you to shut up (self-censor):
Ad Hominem = attack on person instead of addressing the argument (your truth) itself.
Trump is like Croatian politicians: "I know nothing about it"; It is a hidden political movement (Know-nothing movement)
Every single thing you do matters. You have been created as one of a kind. You have been created in order to make a difference.
You have within you the power to change the world.
ANDY ANDREWS
-The Butterfly Effect-
All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.
ARTHUR SCHOPENHAUER
3 Stages
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/08/three-stages.html
We are, by nature, social beings. When our close interpersonal relationships are troubled we become unhappy. We can treat psychological problems by repairing interpersonal relationships; drugs are unnecessary.
WILLIAM GLASSER
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Interpersonal strife with those close to us leads to rifts and resentments that produce symptoms of mental illness; these problems are, in fact, the logical consequence of troubled relationships.
WILLIAM GLASSER
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Glasser emphasizes that lasting psychological problems are usually caused by problems in our personal relationships (rather than signifying a biochemical abnormality in the brain), and distress can be remedied through repairing these relationships without recourse to psych drugs.
Glasser points towards the basic human need for power, which we try to satisfy by attempting to control other people. In fact, the only thing that we can control is the way we behave and think; we cannot control others. Trying to, he says, shows a lack of respect for others.
DK
Blaming
Criticizing
Complaining
Nagging
Rewarding To Control
Threatening
Punishing
William Glasser
Connecting Habits:
Listening
Supporting
Encouraging
Negotiating
Respecting
Accepting
Trusting
William Glasser
William Glasser's Controlling Habits:
Blaming
Criticizing
Complaining
..tell us that if someone is blaming you, complaining you, criticizing U without any ground - that person is insane. It is a clear sign you are dealing with a mentaly ill person. The stronger attack, it's worse
Our job is to love others without stopping to inquire whether or not they are worthy. That is not our business and, in fact, it is nobody's business but God's.
What we are asked to do is to love.
THOMAS MERTON
I guess in the end, it's not the breaking stories, or the awards or big interviews that you remember. It's the little things, snapshots in your memory.
MURPHY BROWN S10 E21/22
Peace came upon me and it leaves me weak
So sleep, silent angel, go to sleep
Sometimes, all I need is the air that I breathe
And to love you
All I need is the air that I breathe
Yes to love you
THE HOLLIES
There's a lot of things I used to wanna do 'til I met you
Now I wanna be honest
Now I wanna be better
Now I wanna be the me I should've been
When we were together
I wanna be at least
Almost close to worth your love
I wanna be who
You thought I was
difficult conversations are not about who has the accurate facts. They’re really about connecting and being heard...
...accusations and criticisms will never influence someone in the long term.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty...
Oct 17
Don't try to use what you learn from Buddhism to be a Buddhist; use it to be a better whatever-you-already-are.
HIS HOLINESS THE 14th DALAI LAMA
I realized now that most instructors, teachers, coaches are following Aristotle's viewpoint - one way for everyone. They miss critical "detail" - that there are people out there with missing data. They presume all students have every requirement inside since they label everything
Don't auto-censor example: when boss scolds you for something he got wrong. And you know he is wrong and you know your own defense, but you shut up. You think;it doesn't matter, it is irrelevant, he will yell back at me. In reality,by keeping quiet you let him trapped in illusion
You belong to a singular race. Every man is suffering machine and a happiness machine combined. For every happiness turned out in the one department, the other stands ready to modify it with a sorrow or a pain, maybe a dozen.
THE MYSTERIOUS STRANGER,
by Mark Twain
Life is a strange thing, just when you think you LEARN how to use it, it's gone.
SHAKESPEARS SISTER "Hello, Turn your Radio On"
Dream Is Collapsing
Don't auto-censor example: When you talk with someone, perhaps very loud person, and you know what to say, you know what to explain, you just know - and you don't speak out. Do it. Tell it. No matter how loud they might be. Let it out. If they are criticizing you-it is reflection
Goal should just be to love the person. But if we model a life filled with the fruits of the spirit, people will be irresistibly drawn, not to us, but to Jesus inside of us. And then they'll begin to say, hey, why do you think the way you do?
HOUR OF POWER
Drivers should along with politicians go through severe psychological test, much more detailed and strict than todays. Test for road rage receptivity and narcissist personality disorder.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/the-invisible-crossroad-signs.html
If peace isn't in me, I'm never going to experience peace out there. If peace isn't happening in my heart, I'm not going to experience peace on... doesn't matter where I am at. Something is always going to seem wrong with the world I live in.
HOUR OF POWER
If I am not loving person it will be very hard for me to experience love – and to only experience hate from others. If I am not taking responsibility for my life it will be so easy to blame all of my lack and failure on other people. Or other systems, groups.
HOUR OF POWER
At the heart of it we/I have to change. If I want peaceful world, I have to become a peaceful person. We can point at the most disgusting thing in the world, I want to end that. Jesus says lust is the problem – I want to objectify and use another person for my own pleasure.
HOUR.
He fills me up
He gives me love
More love than I've ever seen
He's all I've got
He's all I've got in this world
But he's all the man that I need
WHITNEY HOUSTON - ALL THE MAN THAT I NEED
Nothing human disgusts me, Mr. Shannon, unless it is unkind or violent.
Tennessee Williams
(The Night of the Iguana)
Mocking (not as joking) from adult is mental illness.
Adult mocking is telltale sign for you to reveal a fake adult hidden behind the curtain.
You don't interact with a hidden maniac in the same way as you would with the sane person.
How many times in your life have you ever had the feeling
That the way you live is crazy and there must be something else.
When you look at the sky does it ever cross your mind
There could be something you've forgotten that won't ever go away
Like the sun.
Gets too much after a while trying to always hide your feelings
When the world is going crazy and you keep it to yourself
How much it hurts, though you try, try to get on with your life
And tell yourself that worse things happen and just hope it goes away
The Just-World theory becomes a comforting rationalization of seemingly inexplicable events,and stops the world from appearing chaotic or random. It also allows people to believe that as long as they are "good",only "good" thing will happen to them,false sense of safety.
M.LERNER
We ask children to "be good" and promise them that in return for effectively putting their natural impulses and desires to one side, they will be rewarded in the future. For this to be fulfilled,we must live in a just world,children grow into adults with this belief firm in place
It seems that belief in a Just World allows people to adjust the facts of a situation. This can be especially damaging when applied to the way we might view victims of crime or abuse. By blaming the victim, outsiders also protect their own sense of safety.
MELVIN LERNER
DK
As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
NELSON MANDELA
Character is how you treat those who can do nothing for you.
NELSON MANDELA
Don't self-censor:
"Fools multiply when wise men are silent."
NELSON MANDELA
Feng Shui easy example: if you have unnecessary stuff clogged at your table, always tripping over your fingers as you reach for something, and if there are stuff around the room - clear it. It will reflect in your life.
Microcosm repeats itself on Macrocosm.
Lead from the back - and let others believe they are in front.
NELSON MANDELA
(Law of Jante explained)
There's a party, don't you know today there is a party
Open up your heart, we're gonna start it
Welcome at the beach, this is for you, just for you
"Solution is right in front of you."
You've got the words to change a nation
But you're biting your tongue
You've spent a life time stuck in silence
Afraid you'll say something wrong
If no one ever hears it how we gonna learn your song?
READ ALL ABOUT IT (from Emeli Sandé)
Maybe we should stop slavishly following the teacher and use our own minds. To slavishly follow Bart.
THE SIMPSONS S32 E3
Oct 18
What God asks us to do does not always make sense. His ways are not our ways. Many times it is simply a test. Don't talk yourself out.
There's a distinct calling on your life. You don't have to copy someone else, try to be what they are, prove.
JOEL OSTEEN
They only way out of crab mentality is to rise others first, and I get out the last,
when there is no one left to pull me manically down.
The only way to prevent drowning along with panicked person is to remove yourself from the panicked person by distance, and let him observe what you are doing - in order to stay afloat - so he can imitate and do the same on his own.
In some situation, sane people do crazy things. If we are unaware of the social circumstances that prompted their actions...we are tempted to conclude deficiency in character or insanity. We must remember that people who do crazy things are not necessarily crazy.
E. ARONSON, DK
It is therefore important that, before diagnosing people as psychotic, social psychologists make every effort to understand the situations people have been facing and the pressures that were operating on them when the abnormal behaviour took place.
ELLIOT ARONSON
DK THE PSY. BOOK
Humans are socialized to be obedient from an early age. We feel compelled to comply with the commands of authority figures even when this conflicts with our own moral values. People do what they are told to do.
STANLEY MILGRAM (1933-1984)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Milgram set out to test whether normally kind, likeable people could be made to act against their own moral values in a setting where some kind of authority held sway...to administer electric shocks to another person.
STANLEY MILGRAM
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
People are socialized from a very young age (by parents and teachers) to be obedient and to follow orders - especially the rules set forth by authority figures. It serves numerous productive functions. But equally, become capable committing cruel acts when pressured.
MILGRAM, DK
PHILIP ZIMBARDO
DK PSYC. BOOK
What happens when you put good people in an evil place?
Those in the position of power will naturally use (and abuse) their authority.
It is the power of social situations, rather than the dispositions of people,that leads to evil behaviour.
PHILIP ZIMBARDO
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
What happens when you put good people in an evil place?
Those in a subordinate position will submit to authority.
It is the power of social situations, rather than the dispositions of people, that leads to evil behaviour.
PHILIP ZIMBARDO
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
To the researchers' amazement, the environment quickly became so threatening to participants that the study had to be ended after only 6 days. Every guard became abusive and authoritarian. As boredom increased, they used prisoners as playthings.
Stanford Prison Experiment
DK BOOK
He believed that while some mental health problems reflect an abnormal reaction to reasonably normal circumstances, the problems specific to oppressed and exploited groups tend to reflect a perfectly understandable and normal reaction to abnormal circumstances.
I. MARTIN-BARO, DK
Liberation psychologists claim that traditional psychology has many inadequacies. It frequently fails to offer practical solutions to social problems;many of its principles developed from artificial settings in wealthy countries,main goal to maximize pleasure rather how to awaken
You realize that actually the world is made for you and for people like us - sensitive empaths. Even though it doesn't seem like that from social anxiety perspective at all. The others are not made for this reality - they are learning it though.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
You realize that actually the world is made for you and for people like us - sensitive empaths. Even though narcissists and users would argue otherwise and lie you that you are too sensitive for this world. They are trying to imitate it. They are trying to operate in it.
You realize that actually the world is made for you and for people like us - sensitive empaths. The others (kids) are not made for this reality. They are trying to operate in it. And they fail because they need guidance from you - you are the missing link for their life.
(blog)
Jean Piaget overturned conventional thinking with the idea that a child is not a just a "miniature adult" gaining knowledge as his or her body matures, but at the same time is also going through radical psychological changes.
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
People focus on negative. People want to see anger. Why? It's cool now, it's cool to be negative. When one person does it, the other goes Yeah, me too!Just hop on negative train. It's not cool to be positive, happy.They need push.
Kevin Hart
YT After Skool
we must share the impact someone’s behavior is having on us. Are you annoyed? Hurt? Angry? Sad? Disappointed? Feeling insignificant or unwanted? Then say so.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No...
Oct 19
In this process people become more conscious of themselves and their lives as structured by the social reality of oppression, understood structurally, and they thereby become social actors. They change as they begin to act on their social circumstances.
Liberation Psychology
The goal of education is to create men and women who are capable of doing new things.
Approach: Genetic epistemology
JEAN PIAGET (1896-1980)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Infants learn about the world primarily through their senses and physical (motor). Children at this stage are egocentric, able to see the world only from their own viewpoint.
JEAN PIAGET
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
During the fourth stage-the formal operational stage-children begin to manipulate ideas (rather than simply objects) and are able to reason purely on the basis of verbal statements. They start to think hypothetically, become less egocentric.
JEAN PIAGET
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Children during 4th stage no longer need to refer to concrete object, and can follow an argument. This new capacity for imagination, and their ability to discuss abstract ideas, reveals that they have now become less egocentric.
JEAN PIAGET
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Educators should not insist on a particular way of doing or understanding something, Piaget asserted, but nurture children's natural learning processes.
JEAN PIAGET
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
A lot of adults are stuck at 4th Jean Piaget's stage. They are egocentric and other adults think we are dealing with an adult - and we take their abuse of authority for granted. Adults need to be aware they are dealing with children, children should be educated, not punished.
We'd be as role models how adults should behave - civilized: William Glasser's What's My Choice for Communication with children: Listening, Supporting, Encouraging, Negotiating, Respecting, Accepting and Trusting or in one word: Interdependence.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
Suzanne takes you down to her place near the river
You can hear the boats go by
You can spend the night beside her
And you know that she's half crazy
But that's why you want to be there
COHEN
Be just, and fear not.
WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE
JEAN PIAGET
Baby just come to me
Be what you wanna be
Using your fantasy
I need your soul to see
Baby just come to me
Now we can make it right
I promise you delight
Now I can set you free
Be what you wanna be
GIGI D'AGOSTINO
In civilized countries prisons are called 'correctional facilities'.
Wiki: 'one of the five commonly-accepted rationales for imprisonment is rehabilitation'.
In poor and corrupt countries prisons are inside people minds and they are viral, contagious.
We all inhabit this small planet. We all breathe the same air. We all cherish our children's future. And we are all mortal.
JFK
(USA) could not defeat USSR by military. But (Lyndon B. Johnson) could show he had better, attractive society.
The Sixties, S1 E2
If you are wrong, you will know by testing it - does it in the end cause to be violent and unkind? But you cannot test it if you don't speak it out and communicate it.
So, the kind and non-violent talk is the only thing that cannot be wrong.
If you're kind, don't self-censor.
-It's bad out there, it's all bad.
-But you can't hide from the world. You've got to try to change it.
MURPHY BROWN S11 E1
One day children trapped in adult bodies will become healthy adults and they have inside a piece of puzzle that will be valuable to someone some day.
This is why - Every life matters.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
Theory of Relativity:
if you have 2 objects, and nothing else, then it is not possible to tell which object is moving, and which object is standing still.
Any observer can believe that they are standing still and all the rest is moving
YT Physics Videos
And every observer is equally correct. It is not possible which object is moving because in the absence of a force, all objects will continue moving in the same direction with the same speed forever.
THEORY OF RELATIVITY
YT Physics Videos by Eugene Khutor.
Every observer is correct in thinking that they are standing still and the rest of the Universe is moving around them.
ALBERT EINSTEIN's THEORY OF RELATIVITY
Physics Videos by Eugene Khutoryansky
Second principle:
The speed of light is the same for all observers.
ALBERT EINSTEIN's THEORY OF RELATIVITY
YT Physics Videos by Eugene Khutoryansky
Gravity is not a force, but a curvature in space-time. Objects with mass cause a curvature in space and time. There only appears to be a force.
YT Physics Videos by Eugene Khutoryansky
THEORY OF RELATIVITY
Just give us five minutes, Mr. Poirot, and I'm sure we'll be able to work out how you did.
EVIL UNDER THE SUN (1982)
Ability in a man is knowledge which emanates from divine light.
ZOROASTER
People are saying whatever. Just leave us alone. They're tired of it.
TRUMP
Don't use people.
Saying what you want doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll get what you want.
sharing what you want makes you feel completely better.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly..
Oct 20
Occam's Razor for egocentrism is: Don't be evil, you cannot fake being good. You cannot make pretend being. It will show up.
The Butterfly Effect snowballs hidden evil into greater exterior evil.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/do-movies-cause-social-anxiety.html
Humans have come into being for the sake of each other, so either teach them, or learn to bear them.
MARCUS AURELIUS
The Stoic App
The X-Files from Croatia.
https://24sata.hr/news/imotski-dosje-x-netko-je-usred-noci-na-dnu-presusenog-modrog-jezera-nacrtao-cudne-znakove-723053
I believe that there is no absolute right or wrong
ETHICAL RELAVITISM
Vygotsky believed that children absorb the accumulated wisdom, values, and technical knowledge of previous generations through interactions with their caregivers, internalize these tools through social interaction.
LEV VYGOTSKY (1896-1934)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Kibbutz children, Bettelheim found, often develop closer bonds with each other than with adults. This ability to relate to their peers may explain their professional success as adults.
BRUNO BETTELHEIM (1903-1990)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Before his study, Bettelheim had predicted that a kibbutz might produce mediocre adults who had little cultural impact on society. Instead, he found that kibbutzniks often become accomplished adults.
BRUNO BETTELHEIM (1903-1990)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Erik Erikson understood human development in terms of the epigenetic principle, which states that every organism is born with a certain purpose and its successful development results in the fulfilment of this purpose.
ERIK ERIKSON (1902-1994)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
It's 'bout time we got some airplay of our version of events
Emeli Sandé
We prepare children for a life about whose course we know nothing.
The adult, she believed, should serve as a role model, offering an example rather than attempting to impart a method. To teach children how to lead themselves.
FRANCOISE DOLTO (1908-1988)
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
Bandura's hypothesis was that children learn aggression through observing and imitating the violent acts of adults - particularly family members.
People assimilate the characteristics of others into their own personalities.
ALBERT BANDURA
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
By imitating the behaviour of others, children are highly likely to receive positive reinforcement for the type of behaviour that is considered most appropriate.
ALBERT BANDURA
DK THE PSYCHOLOGY BOOK
In DK The Psychology Book the psychology timeline finishes with the word 'Agreeableness'.
By definition, creativity means there is more than one answer to any problem. It requires a different kind of thinking, which Guilford calls "divergent", since it goes in different directions and produces multiple solutions to a problem.
J.P. GUILFORD (1897-1987)
DK THE PSY. BOOK
film GARBO TALKS! (1984)
In 1973, David Rosenhan carried out a field study that explored the validity of psychiatric diagnosis and resulted in the dramatic conclusion that we cannot distinguish the sane from the insane in psychiatric hospitals.
Approach: Anti-psychiatry
DAVID ROSENHAN
DK THE PSYCH. BOOK
A first experiment showed that sane people can be judged insane. A second experiment showed that people with genuine mental health disorders can be judged to be faking them. We cannot distinguish the sane from the insane in psychiatric hospitals.
DAVID ROSENHAN
DK THE PSYCH. BOOK
I am leaving. You took my office away. It is not your fault, I allowed that to happen.
This is not your problem. I sat there and I listened.
I said to myself rules are rules.
I do not have any resentment.
I am who I am.
You are who you are. So, go f*** yourself.
GARBO TALKS!('84)
Bacon devised new ways of thinking about the contents of experience...gathering as much data as possible, trying not to impose patterns on it, but waiting patiently for deeper, richer patterns to emerge.
book "The Secret History of The World"
In short, Bacon realized that if you can observe objects as objectively as possible, very different patterns emerge from the ones that give subjective experience its structure.
book "The Secret History of The World"
If you admit to silence your opponent by force is to win an intellectual argument, then you admit the right to silence people by force.
HANS EYSENCK
Light up, light up
As if you have a choice
Louder, louder
Why you can't raise your voice to say
LEONA LEWIS - RUN
Talking leads to new conclusions.
do you see how you can simply share an alternative perspective? No need to push back hard, make a big deal of it, or make them admit they’re wrong and you’re right.
You simply state your view in a matter of fact, relaxed way.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing...
The general public was not ready for anything like that. But the kids were.
Breaking down the barrier between film and audience.
Whatever you are - it is alright.
How ‘Rocky Horror’ Became the Longest Running Movie in Cinema History
ClassicNL radio beautiful music
"Waltz of the Flowers" (1892) ,The Nutcracker
a ballet composed by Tchaikovsky
Oct 21
Do you think you're better off alone?
Do you think you're better off alone?
Do you think you're better off alone?
Do you think you're better off alone?
Talk to me, ooh
Talk to me
Talk to me, ooh
Talk to me
ALICE DEEJAY - BETTER OFF ALONE
"There is an association between insanity and genius"
HANS EYSENCK
People with high IQ are prone to psychosis if they don't incorporate 'Law of Jante' inside. It is like, communicating thoughts keep us off own prison, but we need a safe place - which is Jantevian: being humble.
GALEN STARR ROSS
People demand freedom of speech as a compensation for the freedom of thought which they seldom use.
Søren Aabye Kierkegaard
You become what you understand.
Søren Aabye Kierkegaard
Are you not aware that there comes a midnight hour when everyone must unmask...
Søren Aabye Kierkegaard
Been waiting for a lifetime for ya
Been breaking for a lifetime for ya
Wasn't looking for love 'til I found you
RITA ORA - FOR YOU
"Control your clutter or it will control you."
Mental Illness is "Inability to speak"
There's no reason to keep quiet if you are not unkind or violent, so don't auto-censor.
If you auto-censor, ask yourself why? If there is someone who is shutting you up - that person is making you mentally ill, and probably mentally ill.
The deepest principle of human nature is craving to be appreciated.
WILLIAM JAMES
The greatest weapon against stress is out ability to choose one thought over another.
WILLIAM JAMES
Belief creates the actual fact.
WILLIAM JAMES (1842-1910)
Everyone is a genius.
But if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.
ALBERT EINSTEIN
If you are kind and non-violent, don't auto-censor:
"The friction which results from ignorance...can be reduced only by the spread of knowledge and the unification."
NIKOLA TESLA
Never think that you already know all. However highly you are appraised, always have the courage to say to yourself-I am ignorant.
IVAN PAVLOV
People can develop specific fears as a result of learning.
LITTLE ALBERT EXPERIMENT
When you run into something interesting, drop everything else and study it.
B.F. SKINNER
We are never so defenseless against suffering as when we love.
SIGMUND FREUD
The madman is a dreamer awake.
SIGMUND FREUD
Sigmund Freud: 'The goal of all life is death'.
Me: The goal of all life is after-life.
To be human is to feel inferior.
ALFRED ADLER
The goal of the human soul is conquest, perfection, security, superiority.
ALFRED ADLER
Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darkness of other people.
CARL JUNG
The reason for evil in the world is that people are not able to tell their stories.
CARL JUNG
Every person must choose how much truth he can stand.
CARL JUNG
A perfectly normal person is rare in our civilization.
KAREN HORNEY
The fact that millions of people take part in a delusion doesn't make it sane.
ERICH FROMM
When dealing with bullies, the most important step to take is to interrupt the pattern. The old pattern is they mock and ridicule you, and you passively take it in.
interrupt the pattern...
is to be bold, direct, authentic, and powerful.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice
Oct 22
People are not evil; they are schlemiels.
(*a stupid, awkward, or unlucky person)
ABRAHAM MASLOW
Secrecy, censorship, dishonesty, and blocking of communication threaten all the basic needs.
ABRAHAM MASLOW
We are simultaneously gods and worms.
ABRAHAM MASLOW
The one thing you can't take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me.
The last of one's freedoms is to choose one's attitude in any given circumstance.
VIKTOR FRANKL (1905-1997)
Viktor Frankl corrected our egocentrism:
Frankl: An abnormal reaction to an abnormal situation is normal behavior.
Me: An abnormal reaction to a normal situation is abnormal behaviour.
Hate is not the opposite of love; apathy is.
ROLLO MAY (1909-1994)
Everyone carries a piece of the puzzle. Nobody comes into your life by mere coincidence. Trust your instincts.
TIMOTHY LEARY
This is why people get upset when you challenge what they hold most closely:
cognitive dissonance
Mental conflict that occurs when beliefs or assumptions are contradicted by new information.
How are we suppose to help you if you won't help yourself?
RANMA1//2 episode 136
Never forget that 2/3 of people would shock you to death just because someone "in charge" told them it was a "good reason".
MILGRAM EXPERIMENT
The disappearance of a sense of responsibility is the most far reaching consequence of submission to authority.
STANLEY MILGRAM(1933-84)
Human behavior is incredibly pliable, plastic.
PHILIP ZIMBARDO
In case if aliens created humankind without telling us about it, they would probably do it in order to study us and learn our development, similar as Jean Piaget did in his scientific work.
If we have Creator above, he would also study us, our behaviour and our choices.
To understand is to invent.
JEAN PIAGET
Are we forming children who are only capable of learning what is already known?
JEAN PIAGET
Your mental processes are changing. The way you think is changing. You're beginning to think in images. Concrete images. Hot, cold, light, dark, food, hunger,pain. Words are becoming meaningless to you, except for the most elementary commands!
film THE ISLAND OF DR. MOREAU (1977)
We are what we love.
ERIK ERIKSON
I don't want to talk about it, how you broke my heart.
If I stay here just a little bit longer,
If I stay here, won't you listen to my heart, whoa, heart?
ROD STEWART
How do you know your childhood/adolescence has really passed all the necessary growing-up stages and that has it really ended with your age?
Did we ever get official certificate we're real adults now?
Oct 23
The music is a perfect form of hypnosis. Make sure you choose positive, non-suicidal music that you truly, authentically enjoy listening.Kissing face
(mp3 shuffle is better than radio station with ads and yack).
https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLE999wpXmHui9eCFnjr3vK1r2YIUXn-NY
This I learned from Phyto-aromatherapy course: grapefruit interacts with certain medicinal drugs, such as for high pressure. If doctor increase your dosage (because he don't know u eat this fruit), once you stop eating it -u might die of heart-attack due to strong medicine dosage
The Universe is an intelligence test.
TIMOTHY LEARY
People who yack too much should be muted.
People who are silenced should talk - it is their words that the other side is afraid of; the truth, the light, the intelligence.
Fortunately, most human behavior is learned observationally through modeling from others.
ALBERT BANDURA
Me:
Ever wondered what happens when others that appear adults are actually kids inside, mentally stuck and abuse their authority?
Perpetrators absolve their harmful behavior as serving worthy causes.
ALBERT BANDURA, known for The Bobo Doll Experiment
It seems to me we are being prepared for after-life. So whatever we experience and explain ourselves in this life, we'll carry it all in the next dimension.
If we surround ourselves with evil, do bad and neglect education, we'll be creating a hell in this life and in the next.
If you want enemies, excel your friends; but
...if you want friends, let your friends excel you.
FRANCOISE DE LA ROCHEFOUCAULD
(or Law of Jante explained)
Start thinking to ourselves “I do belong here. I am worthy of being here.” And then we add evidence to support that. And then actions we take from that place.
Maybe this (not belong) wasn't even your thought. Where did come from?
YT Emotional Fire Academy
Crab mentality quotes.
Comes in handy when online.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not.
C.S.LEWIS
There is something that's going to need the future version of you.
Be weird. Be random. Because you never know who would love the person you hide.
C.S.LEWIS
René Descartes (1596-1650)
"Because this was filmed on actual locations, a toilet is visible in Victor Mature's jail cell. The sight of toilets was generally banned in films until Alfred Hitchcock managed to break the taboo with Psycho (1960)."
Kiss of Death (1947)
film BIG (1988)
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent...
Oct 25
If you never try you will never know.
JOEL OSTEEN
I had played out in my mind over and over that family meeting: strife, discord, contention, arguing. None of that happen.
Most of the negative things you think are going to happen, are not going to happen.
JOEL OSTEEN
(I would take 'em longer)
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The letter T is hanging down from the roof.
The letter "m" is formed as if on the ground.
There is no gravity force. It is only an effect, to us it only looks like there is a force.
importance of befriending rather than fighting
"Take charge of your life with NLP"
Felix Economakis
Spacetime tells matter how to move.
JOHN WHEELER
YT Veritasium
Why Gravity is NOT a Force
MEISTER ECKHART
MURPHY BROWN S11 E10
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself
PEYTON PLACE - episode 458 (1968)
YT TEDx
whatever they do or say, you will always keep your value.
YT TEDx Talks
Majority of time, people act on autopilot. Completely conditioned what they grew up watching, listening to, who they hung around, information surrounded shaped what they were exposed.
YT Jeremy Bennett
The most people are not doing intentionally against us. They are more focused on themselves than trying to make us miserable. It doesn't automatically means it is against you. These are two separate things.
YT Julia Kristina Counselling
Time passes more slowly the closer you are to the Earth. The Earth causes it.
YT The Science Asylum
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilt
SOCRATES/PLATO
PEYTON PLACE - episode 468
This can all shift once you start to decide what is a hell yes and what is a hell no for you, and to stick to it. It’s uncomfortable at first,
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly..
Most of what we learned about this world was learned through distorted lens.
YT struthless
Be themselves without judgment. For shame based people, it is just being themselves. Just be honest, tell the truth.
YT Kyle Medeiros
First, when someone is upset, they want to be heard. They want to be seen, acknowledged, and validated. They don’t want to be argued with, told they’re stupid or wrong, or ignored. Unfortunately, out of fear of conflict, this is often exactly what we do.
Gazipura, Aziz.
Not Nice
- Freedom to control our own lives, under God's guidance.
CHILDHOOD'S END,Arthur C. Clarke
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly...
Which one is more effective?
(hasn't happened since 1944)
It was too sexy for 1993's CBS.
("CBS went crazy over the immense usage of boob and sex jokes ")
Un-aired Pilot:
But it’s you. The rules are inside of you. You are the one writing them, then following them. And it’s time to break free.
Gazipura, Aziz
Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly..
HALLOWEEN
Britain and Ireland,c. 1000 BCE
1001 IDEAS THAT CHANGED THE WAY WE THINK
R.Arp
THE CELTIC SPIRIT
Caitlín Matthews
BBC Radio 4 "Also Sprach Zarathustra"
https://bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/live:bbc_radio_fourfm
B.B.E. - Seven Days and One Week
https://space.com/nasa-spooky-halloween-space-posters-2020
- Yeah, his hairdo looks so queer.
The Simpsons Treehouse of Horror 4
"Elvira, Mistress of the Dark" (1988)
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