May 1, 2024
Have you ever walked away from a conversation with a sinking feeling despite no obvious conflict. As if something was off but you couldn't quite put your finger on it. If you find yourself feeling full of self-doubt, emotionally drained, or replaying conversation to try to make sense out of what was said, you might be dealing with a covert narcissist. I spent 20 years researching the deep connection between self worth and narcissistic relationship.
🟥 covert narcissist
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GJnKq7ccfY
May 1
First clue for spotting a covert narcissist in conversation – overwhelming tendency to fish for sympathy. Reoccurring pattern: the dialogue orbits around their misfortune. They use sad stories to grab your attention, hoping you feel sorry for them, to hook you serving their needs. This can be tricky when you are empathic person, we offer support. Learn to be very wary of anyone who argues for their own limitations.
🟥 5 clues to spot a covert narcissist in conversation
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GJnKq7ccfY
May 1
If they quickly shift the focus back to themselves showing little interest in your shared experience, this is a red flag. Next, sarcastic humor, faux concern, making it harder to pinpoint negativity. It's a strategy to belittle others to elevate themselves without appearing overtly cruel. If you are empathic person this is easily missed because you may interpret these comments as genuine care or humor, not recognizing underline hostility.
🟥 5 clues to spot a covert narc
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GJnKq7ccfY
May 1
Pause with light-hearted clarification like I'm curious, what did you mean by that? It gives a person a chance to explain, potentially mistake or humor gone wrong. And it puts them on spot to reflect on their comment. Next observe their response and body language closely. If they are covert narcissist they may double down on sarcasm and tease you being too sensitive or become defensive, make themselves victim.
🟥 5 clues to spot a covert narcissist in conversation
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GJnKq7ccfY
May 1
If this was honest mistake, most people will respond with openness and genuine concern offering a sincere apology or clarification, showing real interest making sure they didn't offended you. Third, when person subtly nudges you into a role where you feel responsible for their well-being. Your kindness and willingness to assist are exploited to serve their endless needs for attention and validation. Baited into savior
🟥 5 clues to spot a covert narcissist in conversation
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GJnKq7ccfY
May 1
Contradictory valuation – criticize you for the very traits they just praised such as working too much or being too materialistic. Hot and cold behavior not only keeps you off balance, trying to reconcile but it also serves their agenda by making you strive harder for their approval. When you are kind person you will miss this because our tendency is to empathize and support which leads us to rationalize and dismiss confusing aspects.
🟥 a covert narcissist in conversation
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GJnKq7ccfY
May 1
1 We ask ourselves how do I appear to other people. Their family, friends and even to random people in the street. 2 We answer the question what must other people think of me. Do we come across as funny, shy, kind, caring. Standoffish or awkward or don't care. 3 We develop feelings about ourselves based on our impressions of their evaluations and observations of us. This is where it gets confusing. Cooley believes we are not actually influenced
🟥 The Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CC5o1-wealw
May 1
Cooley believes we are not actually influenced by the opinions of others but instead what we are being influenced by is what we imagine the opinions of these people to be. These perceptions could be both correct or incorrect and that can be dangerous as we develop our self identities based off of those perceptions of how other people are seeing us. What we think someone things of us in actuality may not be true.
🟥 The Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CC5o1-wealw
May 1
The looking glass tells us that our identity, our self concept how we view ourselves as people is not just made up of how other people see us but how we think other people see us. That is the looking glass.
🟥 The Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CC5o1-wealw
May 1
George Herbert Mead's Theory of Self
May 1
Social construct
May 1
Erving Goffman's Theories
May 1
I worry that you'll work in an office, have children, celebrate wedding anniversaries. The world of the heterosexual is a sick and boring life.
🎞️ Female Trouble (1974)
May 1
The idea was, if you could just get there, everything would be ok. And if it wasn't ok there, well, then it probably wasn't gonna be ok anywhere.
🎞️ Kalifornia (1993)
May 1
My momma used to say that when you have people around it's better that you're not by yourself, because when you're alone, it's hard to develop your personality. With more people around you, it helps, 'cos friends are really important...
🎞️ Kalifornia (1993)
May 1
When you first meet people, all you notice are the differences between you and them. But as time passes, you start to notice the similarities. I guess that' how all friendships begin.
🎞️ Kalifornia (1993)
May 2
Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them to become what they are capable of being.
🟦 Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
May 2
What you're trying to control usually gets worse. Non-resistant means that you have to accept what's showing up. Understand that everything you experience is transient, temporary. What are you trying to teach me – look at emotions in that light. Asking to change I am putting all my power outside of me. If you change then I don't have to face my codependency, that I am not enough, living on my own, never work for myself. Me being controlled by me.
🟥 Lisa A. Romano
May 2
One idea that helps me is my goal is as to be as non-attached as possible. To be as non-resistant to everything that happens in my experience. So that nothing can nail me against the wall. That means that if people dislike me, if people say mean things about me, I have to be non-resistant. To the point, I say I am sorry you feel that way, Namaste. You are entitled to your opinion. It's not my job to control what you think about me. From state of peace
🟥 Lisa A. Romano
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d0eHOw3cEeA
May 2
Acceptance of you and your opinion, and an acceptance of love for myself. Because I am not responsible for how you see me. And people who are below the veil are always projecting. Project some lack in themselves onto me, or someone else. Know that people are permitted to have their opinions of you, and you don't have to meet them there. Know that at the core you are perfect. More awareness in prefrontal lobe than amygdala you can overcome triggers.
🟥 Lisa A. Romano
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d0eHOw3cEeA
May 2
Abandon all sincere communication when communicating with the insincere
🟦 RICHARD GRANNON
May 2
Willing to stop pushing this boulder up the hill. Am I willing to just go into a state of non-resistance? When we are in state of non-resistance we are accepting of everything. It doesn't mean we like everything. It just means we are learning to understand that if it's happening it's something that's been already created. And your resistance to that thing is actually going to make that thing persist. Anything we dislike we actually breath life into.
🟥 Lisa A. Romano
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ddwcxcq-gAY
May 2
We make excuses for the violation. Thinking they are accidents or lapses in judgment, rather then seeing them as deliberate disrespect. Before I understood the concept of boundaries I always thought that people just cross them because I was just bad at setting them. Basically I took their transgressions upon myself and saw the violation as inadequacy on my part. Thinking if I just could be more clear, assertive or direct, they'd respect me
🟥 5 things narcissists always do
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AQrV6ZNyIeA
May 2
Star map
May 2
I was thinking I was not clear enough. If someone repeatedly calls during no disturb hours, I now see that they are willing to violate my boundaries. And now I understand that they are the problem –not me.
Conversation dominator –where they fail to show genuine interest in what you say, constantly highlight their contributions. Manipulative pattern -it is tactic to control and overshadow healthy dialogue. You may misinterpret as enthusiasm
🟥 5 things narcissists always do
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BG-vGDXhq6E
May 2
Zegna
airplane mode
May 2
🇫🇷 French accents
May 2
Barbara Kruger - Untitled (Think Twice), 1992
May 2
Vjeran Tomic: The Spider-Man of Paris
May 2
The Art of The Game by Michael J. Browne (b.1963), 1997, from National Football Museum
May 2
🇩🇪 Bravo
May 2
🇩🇪 Baden-Baden
May 3
If you have ever felt like you'd be punished for saying what's or that you'd be ostracized if you don't go along with someone's lie. The narcissist won't tolerate truth-teller. A narcissist lives in a fantasy world where they are wonderful, powerful, smart, beautiful, wounded, victimized, whatever their story of grandiosity or vulnerability is, they need you to validate and affirm that fantasy. They look for high level of agreeableness to their narratives.
🟥 Meadow DeVor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKf3WgdT8zo
May 3
They'll test if you validate and affirm that fantasy to gauge your reaction. On the flip side if you consistently agree and you do not challenge fabrications you're seen as an easy target. Empathetic person prioritize kindness, politeness, flexibility to the point where our own truth may be overshadowed by the desire to accommodate others. This trait makes us susceptible to narcissists who prey on our willingness to avoid conflict and to conform.
🟥 Meadow DeVor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKf3WgdT8zo
May 3
Being compliant and agreeable was a survival strategy as a child but it became a huge liability as an adult because it kept me stuck in pattern of attracting narcissists. I had to intentionally unlearn my over-agreeableness and over time I found that being a truth-teller offers a more formidable protection. Use Subtle Descent Method. This technique uses gentle disagreement without being overtly confrontational. "I am not sure I agree" doesn't escalate.
🟥 Meadow DeVor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKf3WgdT8zo
May 3
Steadfast self: clear and unwavering sense of Self. It means that you know who you are and what you stand for. You know what you want and what it works for you. Where self-respect, self-worth and healthy boundaries are built making you virtually immune to any manipulated tactics. Narcissists want to be the one to define who you are, what you want, how you feel about yourself. Narcissists need you to provide stable sense of Self for them.
🟥 Meadow DeVor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKf3WgdT8zo
May 3
They need you over their axis Center. When you have a flexible sense of Self you're easier to manipulate and control. When you're unsure of yourself, lack self-respect or blur your boundaries you're more likely to be swayed by charm and coercion. Narcissist checks for this like seemingly innocent comment to prioritize their needs over your own. Suggesting personal goal is a flaw or sign of neglect in relationship.
🟥 Meadow DeVor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKf3WgdT8zo
May 3
You don't want to come across as selfish, disrespectful, or willing to neglect someone. Narcissists love this about you and use it against you. Making you feel guilty, irresponsible and uncaring when you try to assert anything that resembles a separate sense of Self. I lived in chronic state of self-forgetting, my needs, hopes. Instead I was always looking others what they needed, how should I act, make them happy. I didn't had axis center.
🟥 Meadow DeVor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKf3WgdT8zo
May 3
Axis check method. When you start to lose sight of own perspective - first pause. Check physical sensation. Then practice self remembering - what do I want, remembering you are separate person. Then communicate something that expresses individuation. "I see it differently" "That doesn't work for me". "That's not something I want". Then pay close attention how they respond. Narcissist find impossible to manipulate, learn you won't be used.
🟥 Meadow DeVor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKf3WgdT8zo
May 3
When we fail at something, it really affects us. We fall back on negative behavioral patterns or negative ways of thinking just to validate for ourselves that we are not the problem, they are. Guess what- now you've put yourself on pedestal. You give that energy. If you're constantly looking for red flags you are going to find them. How often do you look for good quality? Versus “He's too open and honest, he's probably clingy – red flag”.
🟥 Daniel Morales
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AQrV6ZNyIeA
May 3
This pressure falls on fertile ground because many gay people were often shamed and excluded as children and teenagers because they were different. Discriminated against, some have experienced violence. Or even hiding and when you're in love, not being able to live it out in a completely normal way. The damaged self-esteem some then think that they can make up for it by looking good. Muscular, slim and athletic around this flaws in order to feel good.
🟥 reporter
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-0Cqg1AHeF8
May 3
A lot of content on mental health in mainstream media does not cover the unique corner that survivors of narcissistic abuse live in. Not one mention of being in any kind of toxic relationship. “Avoid your triggers” is not easy in narcissistic relationships. When the discomfort is living in your house or down the street or in the next office. It was not even rumination, but reality. And the constant exposure means you don't get a break.
🟥 DoctorRamani
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uusKWmjUk6k
May 3
I don’t understand the need to try to alpha dog me in the first place.
- It arises from massive insecurity.
May 4
streamWriter has option to display the most played songs on the radio stations all over the world.
At the moment, the most played song in the world is
Benson Boone - Beautiful Things
May 4
Our belief at the beginning of a doubtful undertaking is the one thing that insures the successful outcome of your venture.
🟦 William James
May 4
A suggestive idea must come with the force.
🟦 William James
May 4
I am still learning.
🟦 Michelangelo
May 4
William James' self-theory
May 4
The Michelangelo phenomenon
May 4
Pygmalion effect
May 4
Golem effect
May 4
The Galatea effect
May 4
🇫🇷 eurostar-la techno du tgv qui defie la manche
May 4
🏉 Rugby - Challenge Cup, 2024-05-04, 13-33-08, France 3
May 5
🏉 Rugby - Challenge Cup, 2024-05-04, 14-28-49, France 3
May 6
🎵 Luxemburg 🇱🇺 re-joins ESC tomorrow after 31 years of abstaining from Eurosong contest.
May 6
🎵 Countries competing tomorrow at ESC2024:
May 6
⚽ Inter - Hellas Verona
May 6
🎵 Carmen
May 6
⛵ Portofino Regate di Primavera
May 6
🏉 Rugby - Champions Cup, 2024-05-05, 16-01-14, France 2
May 6
🏉 Rugby - Champions Cup, 2024-05-05, 16-01-14, France 2
May 6
🏉 Rugby. Serie A Elite maschile Play Off S, 2024-05-05, 17-39-39, Rai Sport HD
May 6
🏉 Rugby. Serie A Elite maschile Play Off S, 2024-05-05, 17-39-39, Rai Sport HD
May 6
She can sense like a weird behavior from a mile away. She's very wary of Thomas.
🎞️ THE BOLD AND THE BEAUTIFUL
May 6
🎵 Don Giovanni
May 7
Social media has added new complexities to the looking-glass theory as new mirrors have been made available. A new Self, known as Cyber-Self has been created. One gets pick and choose what they want to portray and can have several versions of themselves online, from professionalism linkedin to casual tic toc. They are also judged and criticized to a whole new level online which may drive to be online more often to continually reshape their image.
🟥 Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hiefWQ-7hBk
May 7
We change our appearances to impress other people all the time. We're going through this strange process of thinking about if I wear this or if I behave this way or I act this way, what's the effect of that going to be? “If I wear shirt and tie they'll probably think I'm professional”. I think that is how they going to see me if I wear shirt and tie. Likewise we would change our presentation. Shaping on premise people will react to us in another way.
🟥 Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ToYnMWsTlNs
May 7
Croatia's extinction event
May 7
Socialization is an important process that impacts who you become as an individual and the role you play in the society. Socialization is process of learning to become a member of the social world. So through the socialization process we learn who we are as an individual, we learn how to behave in society, impacts you from cradle to the grave, lifelong process. You learn different parts of your identity in different ways of being.
🟥 Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hctctEJG8ek
May 7
Socialization is not something that happens in a vacuum by yourself. It happens in the interactions you have with other human beings. Identity gets developed, interactions are the foundation of shaping who we become as individuals in our society. Socialization impacts what is acceptable in society. It shapes how we see and define our “self”. Who you are as individual is not just how you see yourself,but how you perceive other people seeing you as well
🟥 Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hctctEJG8ek
May 7
Our sense of who we are emerges from our social interactions with others. Through our everyday interactions society reflects back to us our own image, the looking-glass self. But how much of that self-image is what others actually think and how much is what we think they think? Our interactions with others can affect our self concept. Over time negative self reflections lead to negative self concept. What society tells about us may not be accurate.
🟥 Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WDu5nc_uEPo
May 7
We might in fact see ourselves not as we really are, but rather how we believe others see us. This process starts in childhood and continues throughout our whole lives. Through the years we see our reflection change through the reaction of others. As we do so – we continually change.
🟥 Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WDu5nc_uEPo
May 7
CBT explains to us social anxiety as hallucination, that we exaggerate the threat and that toxic people do not exist - and if people are "bad" that they cannot influence us. Well - sociologist disagree.
⬜ Looking-glass self
https://www.reddit.com/r/SocialAnxiety_Ide
May 7
When it comes to figuring out yourself and who you are, that comes through your interactions with others. That your interaction with your parents and your siblings and your teachers and your friends, help you to get idea of the person that you are. And the people you interact with become your mirrors. You see what they think of you when you interact with them and it changes the way you see yourself. All is based on the way you think people see you.
🟥 Looking-Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CpXUBp9H2XE
May 7
There's usually a different version of ourself that we present to people in our lives based on the relationship that we have with them. Therefore they see entirely different version of us in their own mind. Lover looking-glass self is the one where we might try to be better than we actually are as individuals to appear better than our average selves to this person. We may not have perfect reflection of ourselves.
🟥 Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vgf8qtpeCNY
May 7
When we think of us who we truly are, we usually struggle to balance this self-perceived self with the looking-glass selves that we show with other people. We have personality aspects that we don't want to show to certain people or we have tough time doing so. It's important for us to learn which of these traits we can show and can't show when interacting with new people. The more we spend time easier becomes to balance image when interacting with you
🟥 Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vgf8qtpeCNY
May 7
I don't expect anything. I just want to believe that this marriage means as much to you as it does to me...
- Oh my God, of course it does. Why do you think it's so painful, why do you think it hurts so much.
🎞️ THE BOLD AND THE BEAUTIFUL
May 7
🇵🇹 Portugal
May 7
🇵🇹 Portugal
May 8
🎵 Eurovision Song Contest 2024, 1st semi final
May 8
It comes down to –who is the bad guy? It's like –we're adults. We're taking psychiatric terms and applying them where maybe they don't need to go, like people sometimes are just dicks. In business, maybe I just don't care about, I make him do all work and that's it. Do I need to have narcissistic personality disorder to do that? No. Do I need any personality disorder to do that? No, I'm just rude, selfish prick. Does he have right to end partnership? Yes
🟥 RICHARD GRANNON
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/opdxO6hbr5A
May 8
People see somebody who's confident or extroverted by nature– they can start to conflate that with narcissism. They may say something that you don't like, they might have an interpersonal style that you just don't like. Intuitively you just don't want to know this person that's completely fine. But this has to be distinct from “I think this person has narcissistic personality disorder”. Look for consistent pattern across time lack of empathy, entitlement
🟥 RICHARD GRANNON
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F3PO1bzHFH0
May 8
Is this person of evil intent? ¸We have to consider not everybody is operating in good faith (how to contribute to humans). If you wanted a broad structure for understanding human behavior through that lens , narcissism is the wrong one. Psychopathy is correct one. You will get so much more useful, applicable data, rules, guidelines in looking psychopathy than narcissism. It's good philosophically think more clearly ahead of time. I have choice.
🟥 RICHARD GRANNON
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F3PO1bzHFH0
May 8
Neither the life of an individual not the history of a society can be understood without understanding both.
🟦 C. Wright Mills
May 8
You can never really understand an individual unless you also understand the society, historical time period in which they live, personal troubles and social issues.
🟦 C. Wright Mills
Mills’ sociological imagination
May 8
Thomas Theorem - If we believe something is real, then we react accordingly. “If men define situations as real, they are real in their consequences.
🟥 Thomas Theorem
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lAErrXu7mE4
May 8
Sheep versus goats in Bible
May 8
🇫🇷 La flamme en France
May 8
🇫🇷 8 Mai
May 8
When we talk about proficiency or ability to express yourself coherently and understand majority of people, there's a difference in perceived proficiency and actual proficiency. Because the way you believe other people perceive your skills will almost certainly affect your confidence and motivation to continue speaking. If you think you're seen as a poor speaker, you might be hesitant to participate in conversation. Even if your skills may be good
🟥 The Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Whjjs_pSoE
May 9
🇸🇲 San Marino in French is Saint-Marin
May 9
Healthy coping mechanisms
May 9
🇫🇷 Marseille accueille la flamme olympique, la grande soirée
May 9
In the '60s you were encouraged to feel lucky that anybody wanted you at all. And kind people said you are so lucky you were chosen. But adopted felt like dirty word, outsider, shame. Shame lead to depression and lead my my whole life. Parents emotionally unavailable, I went looking on outside who I was. Bad kid was reflected to me. Ponzi schemes are based in this shame of failure, you put something big, see diminishing return of your investment.
🟥 Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1RmFkiPjH8Q
May 9
The Sociological Imagination
May 9
Self Righteousness in Bible
May 9
Artist - Normal people
May 9
Be wary of making definite statements; they leave little to no room for other possibilities.
May 9
When you are going to learn that men in uniform are human beings?
- So I make it tough for them. I can start to make it being how tough it will be for them in combat. They're bunch of kids mostly. Suddenly they have to grow up hard and fast.
🎞️ The Private War of Major Benson (1955)
May 9
Personality begins where comparison ends.
🟦 Karl Lagerfield
May 9
If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave.
🟦 Mo Willems
May 9
Don't look to the approval of others for your mental stability.
🟦 Karl Lagerfeld
May 9
Don't try to impress others.
✝️ Bible
May 9
Sapir-Whorf hypothesis
May 9
Thomas theorem
May 9
Eric Carle
May 9
Karl Lagerfeld
May 10
🎵 Eurovision Song Contest 2024, second semi-final
May 10
🇫🇷 Carnac - sur les traces du royaume disparu
May 10
Cooley said our sense of Self comes from how we think other people see us. “I am not what I think I am. I am not what you think I am; I am what I think you think I am.” Other people's reflections of us and how we think about those images they have of us help create our sense of Self. Grades from teachers can reflect back to us an image of ourselves that we then internalize and becomes our self-perception. They effect self-image.
🟥 The Looking glass self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1X1wwTCuZBo
May 10
We imagine we are seen by others. And that imagination forms our identity. Our identity is being shaped by others. Others is agent which influences who we are in society. You begin to believe that and you begin to see as your identity, what other people think of you. Intelligent, high self esteem, outgoing – you believe what people say about you, it becomes your identity. Our identity is formed through the way we imagine people see us.
🟥 Looking-glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_UWOflUXKUQ
May 10
That imagination comes from interaction with these people. In the process of interaction they tell you this is what we think about you. And then you go off believe in that. You don't control what people think about you. Front Stage Behavior: Familiarity breeds content-With front stage they behave nicely. It's in subconsciousness of individuals that they have to behave a certain way in public. At interview- they smile, but is this who they are?
🟥 Looking-glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_UWOflUXKUQ
May 10
Dyscalculia affects the ability to understand and work with numbers, whereas dysgraphia impacts handwriting and fine motor skills (ability to form letter for example).
May 10
🇩🇪 Hamburg celebrates - the 835th. Harbor birthday
May 10
The Self is a social construction
May 11
French tv France2 has countdown to Eurosong.
May 11
Our emotions can trick us so often.
✝️ HOUR OF POWER
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=31Ay8-RjTss
May 11
It is often said that American Beauty is a film about identity. Each character seems to go through a very personal identity crisis. But I would argue that this crisis are not personal at all. They are products of wider social forces. We may define ourselves based on prevailing attitudes towards sexuality, beauty and material success. Sense of self strongly influences by social world.
🟥 American Beauty Film Analysis: The Sociology of Identity
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6youJFbEgQ
May 11
Ricky shows Jane that he likes her as she is. Eventually this leads her abandoning the idea of surgery and gain enough confidence and self-esteem to tell Angela what she really thinks of her. Freed from idea that everyone looks down on he because of her physical appearance, Jane's sense of self is no longer defined how she looks, how she looks to others.
🟥 American Beauty Film Analysis: The Sociology of Identity
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6youJFbEgQ
May 12
🇨🇭 Nemo
May 12
My two trips to Malmo more-less looked like this.
May 12
You don't need other people. If someone is always rescuing you, praying for you, keeping you cheered up – that's going to limit your growth.
All that suffering was a set-up for resurrection.
✝️ JOEL OSTEEN
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ju_tDVQeBN0
May 12
An individual realize its self by reflecting others' perceptions about him. They use social interactions as a mirror. A Person grows and develop due to interpersonal interactions of the Society. When one interacts socially, one completely considers how one looks in the eyes of others. Negative response leads to depression and anxiety.
🟥 Looking Glass Self Theory
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vAzsBj6yTpw
May 12
Looking Glass Self where you see yourself the way you think others see you. You can't see the way others truly see you. So you're seeing yourself they way you think others think they see you. You can see how much is lost in the translation. You're much more beautiful than you think. You attract so much more than you know. There's more going on with you than you care to acknowledge. Beauty is not about what you see. It's about what you reflect.
🟥 Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NFEkq8uDiJU
May 12
Tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow
I promise to love you tomorrow
In the good, in the good, in the good
You'll find me in the good night
🇱🇹 Luktelk · Silvester Belt
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GyMivcJfm34
May 12
(Bitch, bitch)
(Bitch, bitch)
(Bitch, bitch)
I know I'm not who you want (I know)
I understand that I despair you (I know)
But this is my nature
To change for you makes me lazy
🇪🇸 Nebulossa - ZORRA
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vGS2M8Q9KIM
May 12
I, I went to Hell and back
To find myself on track
I broke the code, whoa-oh-oh
Like ammonites
I just gave it some time
Now I found paradise
I broke the code, whoa-oh-oh
🇨🇭 Nemo - The Code
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0JqxpaJot2E
May 12
Should've known that you are a liar
But I look the other way
Should've known you're a troublemaker
But you act too nice to hate
Take a look at yourself 'cause that's what you need to do, to do
'Cause the only problem in this room is about you, 'bout you
'Cause you're a liar
🇨🇾 Liar · Silia Kapsis
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0GhxBsD6GaI
May 12
Eurovision 2024
May 12
Moment when Eurovision glass trophy was broken live on stage. And medic arriving after the end roll.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CVRISlNWDmk
May 12
To my home town that is full of creativity and people that are different are seen as something special and positive.
🎵 Nemo - press conference
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z6yuYDeR7sc
May 12
Mirror in front of you, and you are looking at yourself in the mirror, the way it is – is mirror in reality. As Masha labels you, tells you, comments on you, provides you all kinds of feedback, your self continues to develop. The way society perceives you and gives feedback about you. It is considered important to yourself and you have that impression that is how I should be. Their significance or importance makes you proud.
🟥 Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xa-PD1YVxj4
May 12
"You are absolutely fabulous"
May 13
Broken Looking-Glass Self is Social anxiety
https://www.reddit.com/r/SocialAnxiety_Ide
May 13
Where do we find our self? When we go to society and interact with people in the society, we hear from them that we have lost our personality. It's like you are innocent, you are very nice, you are honest, so how do we come to know these things about ourselves, how do we come to know in the society, when we interact with different people. Talk to them, interact with them, &sit with them. Had we roamed with them, we would have come to know these things
🟥 Looking Glass self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UW65S_7iizE
May 13
Cooley said that society is like a mirror, just like we look ourselves in the mirror and see our shape. Then after we come to know how is our physique, then the mirror tells us this. Similarly Cooley said that society is what it is, what is your sell up, your self. Society is reflected with the individuals, they are the ones who make you sell up. If they give you positive response, whether you are positive, are you beautiful, do you have these things
🟥 Looking Glass self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UW65S_7iizE
May 13
Social self develops out of imagination of how one appears to the other person, and the kind of feeling that one self can be reflected. This is how you appear in the society. How you behave will depend on what people will think about you, people will give opinion on you, physical appearance. People imagine that this happens, that your social self develops. It depends on you, how you appear in society. Your Self will be developed on opinion.
🟥 Looking Glass self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UW65S_7iizE
May 13
There are 3 main features of the self that create what you have: First: Our imagination. Our imagination depends on how we appear to the other person. 2nd, imagination's judgement which we have thought about ourselves. (I am beautiful, I am honest, I am confident, I can do these things) that the other person makes by our appearance, that I know these things. What people comment on that, give their opinion. 3rd feelings of importance, shame, self doubt
🟥 Looking Glass self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UW65S_7iizE
May 13
When people judge you are not capable of doing this: you can do it, you don't have this capacity. You don't have this motivation, you don't have this power, people doubt you, your self seems to be me. If I can't do these things then that's what happens: the other person's judgement about your appearance. That's people's judgement. It depends on your appearance. Consciousness would not exist in the absence of society, self cannot be formed.
🟥 Looking Glass self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UW65S_7iizE
May 14
One consistent element of the serial killers narrative in victim selection was the sob story. And they were all using sob story to test the boundaries of a potential victims. If you shrugged it off, you were no good. But if they could see tears in eyes, “oh, poor baby”, they were like “I got you”. You'll be back in the van soon.
🟥 RICHARD GRANNON
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysIuqHgnbTw
May 14
We interpret others' reactions. We come to conclusions about how others evaluate us. Do they like us for being witty? Do they dislike us for being dull? We develop self-concept. How we interpret others' reactions to us frames our feelings and ideas about ourselves. A favorable reflection in this social mirror leads to a positive, A negative reflection leads to a negative self-concept. You develop yourself based on opinions and perceptions of others.
🟥 Looking Glass Self
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWnpNJW-ku0
May 14
Now playing on "airs purs" radio:
🎵 Na Na's Waltz · Aqua Bassino
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jsKtMdKpESo
May 14
Passiflora 2024
May 14
🏉 Rugby- Serie A Elite maschile Play Off S, 2024-05-12, 09-36-16, Rai Sport HD
May 14
🎭 Il Minotauro
May 15
🎭 Daphne
May 15
Shame based emotions are felt by us when we evaluate ourselves as wrong. That's based on identity. Guilt is created if we behave in wrong way – I did something wrong. Not I am wrong. Guilt is related to your actions, not identity.
🟥 Toxic Shame & Guilt
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e0W9c_1lSHU
May 15
I wanted to say good-bye to you as me. Not what you thought I was.
🎞️ The Man from Earth (2007)
May 15
As heard on "The Great American Songbook" radio:
Killing Me Softly With Her Song · Andy Williams (1974)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jg3d-ddyapw
May 15
🇫🇷 Cérémonie d'ouverture du Festival de Cannes, Meryl Streep
May 16
⚽ Sassuolo - Fiorentina
May 16
🏉 Rugby. Serie A Elite maschile Play Off S, 2024-05-12, 17-24-27, Rai Sport HD
May 16
🏉 Rugby. Serie A Elite maschile Play Off S, 2024-05-12, 17-24-27, Rai Sport HD
May 16
🎞️ Vajont - La diga del disonore (2001)
May 16
Somebody being mean towards us – what do we think? Maybe they have reason for it, maybe they're right. So we start questioning ourselves. This is one way of projecting. We're believing in good of others instead of actually focusing on the fact that we had no bad intentions to begin with. The INFJ is perfect recipient for projection. “Ti” is all about being able to see a truth that is independent of us. I shouldn't get offended.
🟥 Wenzes - INFJ LIFE COACH
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MkG_rohsy7Q
May 16
We make room for people to project onto us and then we hide who we truly are. You are allowing others to project, you are saying your reality is valid. I am not somebody who will tell you this is not allowed. The biggest problem in this is this isn't us. We can hollow ourselves out to make room for somebody to allow them to be seen. We are afraid of showing who we are from the get-go, we go into another direction, allow people to project onto us
🟥 Wenzes - INFJ LIFE COACH
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MkG_rohsy7Q
May 17
Stop defending yourself. Just be what you are. What's the point of defending yourself to someone that's not going to listen to you anyway. You can think and live in a way that makes sense to you and then you can be proactive in your initiatives. You can individualize your efforts to find personal peace. What gives you sense of contentment from the inside out. Problem – when you claim your freedom, narc will begin invalidating you.
🟥 Surviving Narcissism
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1-J4ZrwtIXw
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