March 2023 Twitter

 March 1, 2023

One of the easiest way to get past shame is acting like nothing happened. They will scream at you, yell at you, beat you, next morning cook your breakfast, smiling, not wanting to talk about it: Put behind us
YT Narc avoid Shame pretending nothing happened

 https://www.youtube.com/shorts/U4lFMreqAKk

Mar 1

Trauma is an event that causes a sense of helplessness and horror. Most of us at some point of our lives have experienced some level of trauma about something.
Traumatic injury is physical, cognitive, interpersonal effects of that trauma.
YT Doc Snipes

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UOk8t42lhQU

Mar 1

Exaggerated emotional response, I don't like that word but I don't know other word to use. If something that happens deserves response of level 3 and you responded with level 8 – that is overly strong emotional response.
YT Doc Snipes
PTSD & CPTSD

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UOk8t42lhQU

Mar 1

Study I found indicated that people with trauma have deficient appraisal, resolution and management of negative emotional states. Difficulty identifying how you feel. You just act and react. Difficulty labeling those emotions, what is threat.
YT Doc Snipes
https://youtu.be/UOk8t42lhQU?t=921
 

 

Mar 1

You just respond to everything like it's a threat. They have difficulty resolving that emotional response. Emotionally dysregulated respond more strongly to stressors and take longer to get back to Baseline.
YT Doc Snipes
Signs of Trauma |PTSD & CPTSD

https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=951&v=UOk8t42lhQU&feature=youtu.be

Mar 1

Research has shown that people with (c)PTSD may feel flooded by sensation. Impaired sensory gating – I think this is interesting. It appears in ADHD and schizophrenia. Brain has difficulty filtering out important from non important
YT Doc Snipes
PTSD&CPTSD
https://youtu.be/UOk8t42lhQU?t=1441
 

 

Mar 1

Brain just get flooded with every sight, sound, smell in the environment. It can make difficulty to pay attention. Who experienced trauma may also be hypersensitive to particular reminders of the trauma.
YT Doc Snipes
12 Signs of Trauma You May Not Know

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UOk8t42lhQU

 Mar 1

Trauma dysregulates that HPA-Axis, that stress response system. Which inextricably impacts the immune system. Initially immune system is suppressed in the acute aftermath of trauma – so that body can focus energy on fight or flee
YT Doc Snipes
PTSD & CPTSD
https://youtu.be/UOk8t42lhQU?t=1529

Mar 1

The false equivalence exaggerates the degree of similarity, state what people share but ignoring that they differ in other aspects of this trait.

Mar 1

False Equivalence Fallacy:
"Masks take away our freedom, like slavery".

Mar 1

Croatian state TV political shows are like this:

Mar 1

To switch effectively from defense to social engagement strategies, the nervous system must:
1) asses risk
2) if the environment looks safe, inhibit defense reactions
Dr. Stephen W. Porges

Mar 1

Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is when a person feels intense emotional pain related to rejection.
The word “dysphoria” comes from an ancient Greek word that describes a strong — if not overwhelming — feeling of pain or discomfort.
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24099-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-rsd
 

 

Mar 1

Biological vulnerability to emotions along with social environment with high oversimplification of experiences leads to confusion about yourself, what you feel and who you are.

Mar 1

 The Seven Social Sins
1. Wealth without work
2. Pleasure without conscience
3. Knowledge without character
4. Commerce without morality
5. Science without humanity
6. Worship without sacrifice
7. Politics without principle

Mar 1

Most Beatoids born like that never lead a normal life.
- The noise of other people's thoughts and feelings must be overwhelming, incomprehensible.
- And painful. Stress- repeatedly throughout his life.
Star Trek: The Next Generation, S3 E20 (1990)
"Tin Man"

Mar 1

I always wonder what holds one person together through that kind of struggle while another goes under.
- Well evidently he's Federation's finest specialist in communication with unknown life-forms.
Star Trek: The Next Generation
"Tin Man" S3 E20 (1990)

Mar 1

I can hear everything that everyone on this ship thinks.
- You want them to dislike you.
- It's because they scare me. There are too many minds. I can't shut them out. Never could learn. All their loves, hates, fears, their needs... It's like a tide that never ebbs. I could drown 

Mar 1

And if you will be still, Mr. Elbrun you may learn that being first at any cost is not always the point.
Star Trek: The Next Generation
Season 3 Episode 20 (1990)

Mar 1

Interpersonal sensitivity is characterized by a sense of personal inadequacy and frequent misinterpretation of others' interpersonal behavior and results in discomfort in the presence of others as well as interpersonal avoidance and non-assertive behavior (Boyce & Parker, 1989)

Mar 1

Interpersonal sensitivity is the ability to sense, perceive accurately, and respond appropriately to one's personal, interpersonal, and social environment (Bernieri, 2001). It's people smarts. Those very low in interpersonal sensitivity would likely fall somewhere in the Autism

 Mar 1
Sensory kids

Mar 1
Tips when Sensory Disorder is a Problem:
- Avoid sensory overload

Mar 2
One of the most important parts of healing nervous system level is ensuring that we spark social engagement nervous system. Technical term is ventral vagal branch of the parasympathetic nervous system.
YT ways to spark up social system without socializing
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jDigX6uP89o
 

 

 Mar 2
As an adult we need to learn how we need to re-learn or we need to learn for the first time how to socially engage with the world and ourselves so that we can soothe our own system. We were brought up in environment not allowed to express.
YT Irene Lyon

https://youtube.com/watch?v=jDigX6uP89o 

Mar 2
Asking do you take credit or cash, asking can you do this with that coffee-  as simple and benign as it seems, it is opportunity to practice feeling what is like to engage with another human being, we can interact with them.
YT spark up our social system

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=jDigX6uP89o 

Mar 2
I don't really have friends
Don't go out on weekends
I don't have a lover left to hold
Friday night, I'm alone, sat at the piano
Thinking about the ex I shouldn't call
Freya Ridings - Weekends

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YD-x0_DtFHs

Mar 2
Anyone gossiping about you is insecure about their own life + needs to feel superior

Mar 2
There isn't a cure for RSD.
What triggers RSD?
- Being criticized for something you can’t control
https://verywellhealth.com/rsd-adhd-5211765
 

 

Mar 2
Understanding Rejection Sensitivity

Mar 2
"Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria" feels like knives stabbing through me, and shuts out all other thoughts.
RSD attacks can last for days, sometimes months.
It is neurologically hardwired (as opposed to psychological).

Mar 2
Symptoms of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
(when criticism hurts)
- Being easily embarrassed
- Heightened fear of failure
- Unrealistically high expectations for self
- Assuming people don't like you
- Avoiding social settings
- Perfectionistic tendencies
https://choosingtherapy.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria/
 

Mar 2
Things that make Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria worse:
- not realizing that RSD is actually a problem
- lack of hobbies
- lack of connection with good people
- lack of ways to channel creativity
- lack of support

Mar 2
Of course these exhausted towns
Bien sûr, ces villes épuisées

By these 50-year-old children
Par ces enfants de 50 ans

Our inability to help them
Notre impuissance à les aider
Jacques Brel  - Voir un ami pleurer (1977)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6kUx3YEKau8

Mar 2
Perception is not reality:

Mar 2
Neurodiversity paradigm rejects the concept that brains that diverge from the norm are disordered or dysfunctional, and that brains that don't work in standard ways need to be fixed, treated, or cured.
Shazzy Tharby

Mar 2
The world needs all kinds of minds

Mar 2
Roseanne Barr and Tom Arnold in "Freddy's Dead: The Final Nightmare" (1991)

Mar 2
Do you want to know the secret of pain? If you just stop feeling it, you can start using it.
Freddy's Dead: The Final Nightmare (1991)

Mar 2
If having a screwy family made a person crazy, the whole world would be one big loony bin.
Wes Craven's New Nightmare (1994)

Mar 2
Director Wes Craven had intended to ask Johnny Depp to make an appearance as himself in the funeral scene. Craven never worked up the courage to ask him, but after the film's release, they ran into each other.  Depp said that he would have, and that Craven should have asked him.

Mar 3
ADHD may experience a lot of rejection where people are telling them to be quiet, to mind their manners, to sit still. So they constantly getting corrective feedback and rejection and feeling what they say is not important,people won't spend time with them
https://youtube.com/watch?v=I7-J2Jjax8Q
 

 

Mar 3
When caretaker is validating how child is feeling and what's going on with the child ('you feel overwhelmed right now', or seems like you are really tired) this teaches the child about other awareness. Acknowledge feelings of others without correcting them
https://youtube.com/watch?v=I7-J2Jjax8Q
 

 

Mar 3
They are primed for rejection sensitivity. They may notice things that may not actually be rejection. But they are so attuned, so used to getting rejection that they make assumptions based on prior experiences.
YT Doc Snipes

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=I7-J2Jjax8Q

Mar 3
I like this new popular trend in men's hairstyle.
Curly longer hair up,
shaved lower parts. This fits into my own frame , that is how I like it.

Mar 4
The power of evil, is the ceasing of reality, the ceasing of existence itself. It is the slow slipping away of everything that is, until it becomes, a phantasm.
Philip K. Dick "The Divine Invasion" (1981)

Mar 4
Fibonacci Constant, A ratio, l:.618034. The ancient Greeks knew it as the Golden Section. It is found in snail shells and extragalactic nebulae. It pervades the universe, from the microcosms to the macrocosm. It has been called one of the names of God.
The Divine Invasion (1981)

Mar 4
Your identity eventually affects everything you see as purpose and values of your life, it become you, your identity become what you do. People are like onions, what you see on the outside is not necessarily inside. People have layers.
HOUR OF POWER

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uN0jT7QJfMg

 Mar 4
It's really important that story doesn't stands up to any kind of scrutiny because otherwise people blame themselves. I don't blame parents at all, they did their best. It was not good at – there is no blame in that.
YT Gabor Maté

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zlsEbeX8IG8

Mar 4
Most therapies are not informed, something like CBT – mostly deal with, mostly with the surface of things. It doesn't deal with underlying traumatic template for why you think the way you do.
YT Gabor Mate tips for improving self-worth
https://youtube.com/watch?v=zlsEbeX8IG8

 Mar 4
When dealing with someone with an insecure attachment, love is not enough.
Dr. Aimie Apigian

Mar 4
Effect of neglect on the brain:

Mar 4
Attachment style's conflict

Mar 4
In 1977 great American physician and psychiatrist George Engel called for bio-cycle approach which recognizes that biology is inseparable from our psychological dynamics and social relationships.
YT Gabor Maté

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zlsEbeX8IG8

Mar 4
In terms of hard science, the body and mind can't be separated. Emotional centers in the brain are connected with nervous system with the hormonal apparatus with the immune system, gut, heart. They are one system.
YT Gabor Maté
https://youtube.com/watch?v=zlsEbeX8IG8
 

 

Mar 4
Whatever happens emotionally, that's not just psychological event. Their hormonal apparatus goes into gear, they secrete stress hormones. What happens in immune system can actually effect the emotions. Viral infection can make feel depressed
YT Gabor Maté
https://youtube.com/watch?v=zlsEbeX8IG8
 

 
Mar 4
I was going to destroy everyone. And suddenly... it no longer mattered. I evolved beyond hatred and revenge. And even desire for power.
I feel myself reaching that stage when mind will cast off flesh and become all thought, no matter. Pure intelligence.
The Outer Limits S1 E5

Mar 4
To discover a method by which within one generation the whole human race could be rendered intelligent, beyond hatred, or revenge or a desire for power. Is that after all the ultimate goal of evolution?
The Outer Limits S1 E5 "The Sixth Finger"

Mar 4
Binding Problem:
One of the great mysteries of psychology is just how our brains combine all the various stimuli around us into a coherent whole.

Mar 4
The design code of those who did nature designing are hidden in universe constants.
Sagar Ganthade

Mar 4
Beauty is a manifestation of secret natural laws, which otherwise would have been hidden from us forever.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Mar 4
Art is not merely an imitation of the reality of nature, but in truth a metaphysical supplement to the reality of nature, placed alongside thereof for its conquest.
Friedrich Nietzsche

Mar 4
No matter what happens, somebody will find a way to take it too seriously.
Dave Barry

Mar 4
You are one with everything.
When you are clear about this, your definition of self-interest will change.
Neil Donald Walsch

 

Mar 5
Computers are incredibly fast at addition, subtraction, multiplication and division. However, as it turns out, computers are very slow at factorising large integers into primes.
"Greatest Common Factors"
Mathigon app

Mar 5
Slavenski jezici su ružni.

Dokaz:
Prijevod za "Tingler" bio bi...
-trncač?
-trncitelj?
-peckač?
-škakljivač?
U Sloveniji su ga preveli kao "Srhljivec"
https://kinodvor.org/film/srhljivec/
 

Mar 5
Life isn't about losing people. It's about finding them when they're here and cherishing them when they're gone.
The Marriage Fool (1998)

Mar 5
On Friday, April 13, 2029, an asteroid will pass closer to Earth than anything.
Apophis will be visible with the naked eye from parts of Europe and Africa. (In Los Angeles, experienced stargazers might be able to spot it with binoculars around 3:30 a.m.)

https://www.latimes.com/science/story/2023-02-14/earth-will-have-a-close-encounter-with-an-asteroid-in-2029

 Mar 5
Maybe we're gonna have big earthquake. They say things get really weird just before.
A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984)

Mar 5
What the hell are dreams anyway?
- Mysteries. Incredible body hocus pocus. The truth is, we still don't know what they are. Or where they come from.
A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984)

Mar 5
You knew about him all this time, and you've been acting like it was something I made up?
A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984)

Mar 5
I know the secret now. This is just a dream. You're not alive, this whole thing is just a dream. I take back every bit of energy I gave you. You're nothing. You're shit.
A Nightmare on Elm Street (1984)

 
Mar 6
You created him, you can destroy him. He is living off of your fear. Fight him. You are not afraid, and he doesn't even exist.
A Nightmare on Elm Street Part 2: Freddy's Revenge (1985)

Mar 6
But we can workaround it successfully.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2023/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2023.html
 

Mar 6

Ability to detect difficult people is not sickness nor pathology.
The only pathology are abusers who choose to abuse others and use unfair Power Dynamics to abuse and bully their targets.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2023/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2023.html
 

Mar 6

...because "his feelings got hurt".
When we talk about narcissistic behaviour we often get caught up in the gaslighting, manipulative, unemphatic, entitled stuff. It misses some of other dynamics: especially thin-skinned hyper-reactivity.
YT DoctorRamani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wi6nbYjuuGg

 This pattern the thin skin-ness is what leads to the walking on eggshells. You never know what will set them off. Or you don't allow yourself to offer any form of feedback or critique because you don't know how they will react. Usually - rage.
YT DR RAMANI

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wi6nbYjuuGg

Mar 6

A familiar enabling refrain when people are reflecting on narcissistic behaviours is that "I was just being impulsive", they didn't mean it, they're going through a lot, or my favorite "It wasn't intentional". He had multiple moments no to.
YT DoctorRamani
https://youtube.com/watch?v=wi6nbYjuuGg
 

Mar 6

He could made a choice not to approach this woman, and even if she got into his face, to walk away. It's intentional. His behaviour was a choice. His feelings were hurt, his insecurity activated and somehow that made it okay to react.
YT DoctorRamani
https://youtube.com/watch?v=wi6nbYjuuGg
 

Mar 6

Forget about expressing needs in narc relationship, ability to do it is taken away.
In narc relationship you may have been called selfish, or needy or demanding, or simply treated with contempt if you raised your needs. So you slowly silence them
Dr Ramani

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=wi6nbYjuuGg

Mar 6

I want you to step back and ask yourself: "Am I expressing a need?", or "Am I asking for permission?"
Asking for permission look like: Would it be ok? Would it be ok to leave early? Are you ok with that? I know you are so burned out. For sure?
YT Dr Ramani

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=wi6nbYjuuGg

Mar 6

Our needs may not always be met. And in narc relationship you have the double problem that your needs will be shamed, or contorted and guilted. Be prepared for that. Even with healthy people asking for need doesn't mean it will be met.
YT Dr Ramani

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=wi6nbYjuuGg

Mar 6

Pay attention to this permission dance. It can leave you still doing all the appeasing and managing of the narcissistic relationship and also maintaining that power imbalance even when you think you make your needs known.
YT expressing your needs
Dr Ramani
https://youtube.com/watch?v=GXNlzvuaBJk
 

 

Mar 6

Life itself still remains a very effective therapist.
Karen Horney

Mar 6

a normal human being... does not exist.
Karen Horney

Mar 6

Rationalization may be defined as self-deception by reasoning.
Karen Horney

Mar 6

But you wouldn't be thinking about picking it up. You'd simply do it. Focus on the goal, not the task.
Star Trek: Voyager S2E10

Mar 6

Without the darkness, how would we recognize the light? Do not fear your negative thoughts. They are part of you. Of every living being. We learned to control it. But still part of us. To pretend it does not exist is to create an opportunity for it to escape.
Star Trek: Voyager

Mar 6

Assertion is not Proof.

Mar 6

We carry these behavourial traits with us into adulthood and may not even be aware of how much they impinge on our day-to-day life.
https://crosseyedpianist.com/tag/the-tyranny-of-the-shoulds/
 

 

Mar 6

Shoulds can masquerade as high standards. But they are not the same.
Shoulds are paralyzing judgements from the inside.
Meg Jay

Mar 6

It is desirable in order to break through the tyranny of opinion that people should be eccentric.
John Stuart Mill

Mar 6

The face of tyranny is always mild at first.
Jean Racine

 

Mar 7
It is normal to have adaptations you used to survive.
Let's stop calling it a disorder.

Mar 7
Egoistic versus Egotistic

Mar 7
Not being "people pleaser" is equal to narcissism.

Mar 8
Last night I was dreaming a kind of 360  presentation on a ceiling as part of a college lecture.
Until googling images a few moments ago - I never seen this actually exists in real life.
In my dream the observers were suppose to lie down in couch and watch it.

Mar 8
The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
Carl Rogers (Humanistic psychology)

Mar 8
I believe life is like movie Cube (1997). We will learn from mistakes, get skilled, educate and understand the system after awhile.
Then -all of the sudden we will transport into other ambient & all our previous knowledge will be rendered useless-where our rigid mindset harms us.

 Mar 8
Ne cherchez pas un raison.
Cherchez une issue.
La solution est en vous.

Mar 8
It's because they are taught to be insecure. You used to be confident and then what happened? As you hit puberty you had particular experiences that caused you to lose confidence. Then suddenly you became insecure
HealthyGamerGG
Why People Lose Confidence?

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/dw8MfD_oQ6I

 
Mar 8
Why "people pleasing" is not sickness:

"The truth misapplied is no better than error applied."

Mar 8
National Catholicism -
most visible manifestation was the hegemony that the Catholic Church had in all aspects of public and private life.
In the 1930s and 1940s, Ante Pavelić's Croatian Ustaše movement espoused a similar ideology, "political Catholicism" and "Catholic Croatism".

Mar 8
One does not become fully human painlessly.
Rollo May

Mar 8
The neurotic... feels caught in a cellar with many doors, and whichever door he opens leads only into new darkness. And all the time he knows that others are walking outside in sunshine.
Karen Horney (founder of feminist psychology)

Mar 8
Personality is the supreme realization of the innate idiosyncrasy (unusual feature of a person) of a living being. It is an act of high courage flung in the face of life.
Carl Jung

Mar 8
Always do right. This will gratify some people and astonish the rest.
Mark Twain

Mar 8
Even humans with good intentions can't be intimate without harming one another.

Mar 8
Politeness is the flower of humanity.
Joseph Joubert

Mar 9
The pursuit of normality is the ultimate sacrifice of potential.
Faith Jegede

Mar 9
"People-pleasing" is not sickness:

"No one has ever become poor from giving"
Anne Frank

Mar 9
Until I feel strong enough to pray sincerely and to act accordingly, I would rather not pray at all.
Karen Horney

Mar 9
"You will see a person's true colors when you are no longer beneficial to their life."

Mar 9
I have learned to seek my happiness by limiting my desires, rather than in attempting to satisfy them.
John Stuart Mill

Mar 9
A person may cause evil to others not only by his actions but by his inaction, and in either case he is justly accountable to them for the injury.
John Stuart Mill

Mar 9
Truth gains more even by the errors of one who, with due study and preparation, thinks for himself, than by the true opinions of those who only hold them because they do not suffer themselves to think.
John Stuart Mill

Mar 9
All silencing of discussion is an assumption of infallibility.
John Stuart Mill

Mar 9
There is always hope when people are forced to listen to both sides.
John Stuart Mill

Mar 9
Ask yourself whether you are happy and you cease to be so.
John Stuart Mill

Mar 9
A noble heart cannot suspect in others the pettiness and malice that it has never felt.
Jean Racine

Mar 9
I can hear those glances that you think are silent.
Jean Racine

Mar 9
Behind a veil, unseen yet present, I was the forceful soul that moves this mighty body.
Jean Racine

Mar 9
Pain is unjust, and all the arguments that cannot soothe it only rouse suspicion.
Jean Racine

Mar 9
Innocence has nothing to dread.
Jean Racine

Mar 9
"Weaponized Incompetence" is when a person deliberately does a task poorly to avoid having to do that action again in the future, putting the responsibility of the task on another person to complete.

Mar 9
Signs of Weaponized incompetence:
- They do simple tasks badly
- you take one most or all of the work
- you feel manipulated or taken advantage of
- hearing certain phrases a lot:
"You're better at it than me"
"I'm really busy right now, do it instead"

Mar 9
"You're not the carefree woman I married"

Mar 9
One partner is constantly trying to learn new skills, while the other is content not to improve.
- weaponized incompetence

 
Mar 9
"It feels like I'm teaching you these words so you can misuse and work them against me?"
When New Knowledge Becomes Weaponized

Mar 9
- If it's that bad for women, why not speak up more?
- There are so many LANDMINES when we do.
"Why women bite their tongues" (people pleasing)

Mar 9
Weaponized incompetence at the workplace
- may imply that others should automatically do these tasks because they're a personality fit or "they have a knack for it"

Mar 9
How to prevent misdiagnosis
- investigate the illness
- be open and honest
- create a record
- see a specialist

Mar 9
Morality is the idiosyncrasy of decadents' hidden desire to be successful.
Friedrich Nietzsche

Mar 9
The greater the effort, the greater the glory.
Pierre Corneille

Mar 9
One often calms one's grief by recounting it.
Pierre Corneille

Mar 9
Self-love is the source of all our other loves.
Pierre Corneille

Mar 9
Do your duty, and leave the rest to heaven.
Pierre Corneille

Mar 9
All evils are equal when they are extreme.
Pierre Corneille

Mar 9
Healthy discontent is the prelude to progress.
Mahatma Gandhi

Mar 9
Severity is allowable where gentleness has no effect.
Pierre Corneille

Mar 9
The crime and not the scaffold makes the shame.
Pierre Corneille

Mar 9
Men are more easily governed through their vices than through their virtues.
Napoleon Bonaparte

Mar 9
More men die of their medicines than their diseases.
Molière

Mar 9
Those who have the greatest cause for guilt and shame are quickest to besmirch a neighbor's name.
Molière

Mar 9
Trees that are slow to grow bear the best fruit.
Molière

Mar 9
There is no protection against slander.
Molière

Mar 9
"He who wants to accuse should never rush"

Mar 9
Perfect reason avoids all extremes.
Molière

Mar 9
The nightmares are nothing but a symptom of the real problems.
- All right, well, then let's just eliminate the symptom for the time being.
A Nightmare on Elm Street 3: Dream Warriors (1987)

Mar 9
I'm runnning out of answers. Nothing makes any sense.
- Then maybe you're ready.
- For what?
- The truth. Only if you're willing to put aside everything you've learned and trust me.
A Nightmare on Elm Street 3: Dream Warriors (1987)

Mar 9
An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.
Mahatma Gandhi

Mar 9
Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.
Mahatma Gandhi

 

Mar 9
Example of CBT madness:
1) "social anxiety generally happens before the experience, not after"
https://goodtherapy.org/blog/more-than-thin-skinned-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-1130197

2) "Post event rumination is a common experience for those overcoming social anxiety."
https://nationalsocialanxietycenter.com/2016/06/20/stuck-in-the-aftermath-social-anxiety-and-rumination/
 

Mar 9
Negative thoughts are here:

Mar 10
Observer bias occurs when a researcher's expectations, opinions, or prejudices influence what they perceive or record in a study. It usually affects studies when observers are aware of the research aims or hypotheses. Also called detection bias or ascertainment bias.
(sribbr)

Mar 10
Fact:
Observing a phenomenon can affect its outcome.

http://factmyth.com/factoids/observing-a-phenomenon-affects-its-outcome/

Mar 10
FACT: Particles like electrons can be both a wave and a particle at the same time, essentially being in two places at once and existing as a probability.
"Dual Wave-Particles and the Double-Slit Experiment"

http://factmyth.com/factoids/observing-a-phenomenon-affects-its-outcome/

 Mar 10
Before Observation: Wave, spread out over space and time
At the time of observation: Particle, localised space time event

Mar 10
Our perception of matter is only what is interpreted through the mind. What is real?
Anything outside of your own consciousness is a creation or your consciousness.
"observer effect"

Mar 10
Rancor is an outpouring of a feeling of inferiority.
José Ortega y Gasset

Mar 10
- Girls at collage adore him. Doesn't it ever worry you, him chasing after girls?
- Honey, I've got a dog that chases after cars. But if he caught one, he couldn't DRIVE THE DAMN THING!
Benny Hill - "Who's Afraid of Virgin Wool" (1976)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iVb5EBSNKTw

 Mar 10
So one of the worst things are people who are insecure. Because a lot of people turn aggressive and envious and ugly because they're very insecure about themselves.
Observe people better | Robert Greene

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/9e6PBZbAP2k

Mar 10
What is The Grand Paradox?
Everything is acceptable and it is also unacceptable.
Everything is OK and nothing is OK.
Everything is right and it is not.

The Grand Paradox explains everything in life from duality to the mysteries of life.
https://slideshare.net/laertis7/the-grand-paradox-ii

Mar 10
Everyone sees a different truth because everyone is creating what they see.
Neale Donald Walsch

Mar 10
What we observe is not the nature itself, but the nature exposed to our method of questioning.
Werner Heisenberg

Mar 10
Actor-observer bias:
Everyone is responsible for their own behaviour...Except me!

Mar 10
Try to put yourself in their shoes when judging the behaviour of others.
"Actor-observer bias"

https://en.shortcogs.com/bias/actor-observer-bias

 Mar 10
Actor-observer bias refers to the biases, we have in overestimating the role of external factors in our own behaviour and overestimating the role of internal factors in other's behaviour.
https://helpfulprofessor.com/actor-observer-bias-examples/

Mar 10
There is no reality without an observer.

Mar 10
When you are in the role of
- actor: you explain (excuse) your own behaviour with situation causes (difficulty)
- observer: you explain (judge) others' behaviour with person causes (mood, ability)

Mar 10
So many of the things that quantum physicists are talking about today, like non-locality and the observer effect, are things the yogis have been saying for thousands of years.
Beryl Bender Birch

Mar 10
With social anxiety or traumatized ones, it is the opposite the case:

Mar 10
"Observer effect proves everything observable is uncertain and effected by the observer...
But I certainly can't exist because I cannot be observed..."

Mar 10
Actor-Observer Bias:
Why People Attribute Bad Behaviour To Your Personality

Mar 10
Retrocausality:
under special circumstances, current events can have an effect on past events.

Mar 10
The actor-observer bias can be problematic.
Often lead to misunderstandings and arguments. Both sides may respond that the other person started it. Each side thinks their own behaviour is because of the situation.

 Mar 10
Human beings will act differently if they are aware that someone is watching them.
Identifying causes are often difficult.

Mar 10
Objective facts versus Facts confirming your beliefs

Mar 10
Why do you always have to flip a USB twice when trying to plug it in?
Until the USB is observed, it will stay in superposition.

Mar 10
Random vs. systematic error

Mar 10
Duality vs Non-Duality
Observer bias can never be completely removed from the experiment itself.
This leads inevitably to societal and individual judgement, political hyper-polarization, ‘fake’ news and most importantly, non acceptance of others and self shame
Robert Edward Grant

Mar 10
Your perspective on reality may not be wrong.
But that doesn't mean you're the only one who might have some insight on the truth.
Robert Edward Grant
https://facebook.com/robertedwardgrant/photos/duality-vs-non-duality-despite-exhaustive-attempts-to-remove-bias-a-fundamental-/1261240377418219/

 

Mar 10
Please consider this before talking/typing
(robertedwardgrant)

Mar 10
Truth - Bias - Perception

Mar 10
VV on Twitter: "“Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth” — Pema Chödrön

Mar 10
This is the secret how "normal", non-anxious people unconsciously fight off their undetected yet ever-present social anxiety and hence remain without dysregulation nor amygdala hijackings (panic):
Actor-observer bias

Mar 11
Example where faulty CBT instructs socially anxious to believe that:
- abuse is hallucination
and that
- toxic people (pathological liars/unreliable narrators, coercive control, manipulators) do not exist;
"Coping with Shyness and Social Phobia",
W. Ray Crozier, Lynn E. Alden

Mar 11
Tell me to what you pay attention and I will tell you who you are.
José Ortega y Gasset

Mar 11
Autistic people may camouflage their innate autistic social behaviours to adapt to, cope within and/or influence the predominately neurotypical social landscape.
-innocuous sociability-

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/13623613211026754

 Mar 11
Order is not pressure which is imposed on society from without, but an equilibrium which is set up from within.
José Ortega y Gasset

Mar 11
With morality we correct the mistakes of our instincts, and with love we correct the mistakes of our morals.
José Ortega y Gasset

Mar 11
I am I, plus my circumstances.
José Ortega y Gasset

Mar 11
Life is fired at us point-blank.
José Ortega y Gasset

Mar 11
To live is to feel oneself lost - he who accepts it has already begun to find himself, to be on firm ground.
José Ortega y Gasset

Mar 11
He who wishes to teach us a truth should not tell it to us, but simply suggest it with a brief gesture in the air.
José Ortega y Gasset

Mar 11
Effort is only effort when it begins to hurt.
José Ortega y Gasset

Mar 11
Explorations how and why people make requests in direct and often indirect ways that encode ways of doing politeness in Ireland ("you wouldn't ever close the door").

https://www.rte.ie/brainstorm/2022/1022/1330774-irish-english-language-characteristics-words-linguistics-accents/

 Mar 11
If you want to learn Irish, you're going to make mistakes.
Perfectionists, you're going to have to look the other way. None of us speak Irish perfectly, just like none of us speak English perfectly, sin é.

https://www.rte.ie/gaeilge/2022/0104/1269725-the-3-golden-rules-for-learning-irish/

Mar 11
The Irish for kindness is cineáltas and it's a good word to keep in mind when you're learning anything new.

https://www.rte.ie/gaeilge/2022/0104/1269725-the-3-golden-rules-for-learning-irish/

 Mar 11
Cousin Geoff has never shown any interest in your work, yet he now calls you "the grandpa murderer" at  every gathering.

Mar 11
Faith isn't destroyed or diminished by doubt.
The opposite is true: faith is the answer to doubt.
Ken Wytsma
The Grand Paradox

Mar 11
The light from the event has not had time to reach us. It will reach us in the future.
Retrocausality: How Fundamental is the Arrow of Time?

Mar 11
Imagine if tomorrow's workout made you sore today.
-retrocausality-

Mar 11
How the future determines learning, depression
-retrocausality-

Mar 11
When observing light, you inadvertently caused retroactive causality because the light had a predestined path before you observed it.
-retrocausality-

Mar 11
Whatever is happening, is the path to enlightenment.
Pema Chödrön

Mar 11
Alojzije Stepinac Kuhariću izrekao 15.7.1945: “Šaljem vas u krvavu kupelj".
(The archbishop after WW2 after communist win in Yugoslavia told to future archbishop they are doomed for blood-bath in communism)
https://metropolitan.hr/dogadanja/nadbiskup-stepinac-zaredio-je-mladog-kuharica-i-rekao-saljem-vas-u-krvavu-kupelj/


"Krvava kupelj"
("bloodbath" looked like this):

Mar 11
The point is not to change ourselves. The point is to make friends with who we are already.
Pema Chödrön

Mar 12
When they know you love them, that seed goes down inside them and they carry this seed with them. More things are absorbed when you are coming from the place of love. I can't change you, all I can do is love you.
VICTORIA OSTEEN

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lY9rNeLLy_U

 Mar 12
Life is too short to live frustrated. Life is too short and too precious to be out of balance with the people in your life. You know as well as I do one minute you can love somebody, 'till they do something you don't like.
VICTORIA OSTEEN

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lY9rNeLLy_U

Mar 12
End of Winter

 

 Mar 12
First bloom.

 

 
Mar 12
I've been asked a million times: “What is the cake left out in the rain?”
 But as a metaphor for a losing a chapter of your life, it seemed too good to be true.
(FYI Music News)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jLKOtLA_EmA

 Mar 12
The Sufis are a happy lot. They teach that the essence of God isn't power or wisdom or love but beauty.
That's a totally new idea in the world, unknown to Jews and Christians.
"The Transmigration of Timothy Archer" (1982),
 Philip K. Dick

Mar 12
In California you buy enlightenment the way you buy peas at the supermarket, by size and by weight. I'd like four pounds of enlightenment, No, better make that ten pounds. I'm really running short.
"The Transmigration of Timothy Archer" (1982),
Philip K. Dick

Mar 12
Continuum of Self-Efficacy

Mar 12
People's level of motivation, affective states, and actions are based more on what they believe than on what is objectively the case.
Albert Bandura

Mar 12
You can learn!

Mar 12
Your self-worth is determined by you.
You don't have to depend on someone telling you who you are.
 Beyoncé Knowles-Carte

 
Mar 12
Signs of healthy self-esteem:
- psychological resilience
- openness to criticism
- openness to learning
- accepting incompetencies
- peaceful conflict resolution
- healthy self-love
- prosocial behaviour

Mar 12
Your success will be determined by your own confidence and fortitude.
Michelle Obama

 

Mar 12
Discover our own special light.
Mary Dunbar

Mar 12
Constant: correction, redirection, criticism, rejection = Poor self-image.

Mar 12
Years of negative feedbacks can have devastating effects on confidence...

Mar 12
Low self-esteem cause:
- critical parenting
- critical teachers
- stressful event
- body image
- identity crisis
- frequent failure
- rejection
- socioeconomic status
- lack of skills
- personality traits
- neglect and abuse

Mar 12
"Are they mad at me?"
My brain VS. Reality

Mar 12
What you say VS. What I internalize

"It's not that hard" - "I shouldn't be struggling"

"You need to grow up" - "I'm a bad adult."

"Just try harder" - "I'm lazy"

Mar 12
ADHD sex.

Mar 12
Self-hate can lead us to withdraw socially.

Mar 12
Trying to listen when your partner is telling a story:

Mar 12
Persuasion

Mar 12
The secret is to imagine to the point of self persuasion.
Can you believe what you are imagining?
Neville Goddard

Mar 12
Persuasion and coercion can overlap in situations involving authority, religious cults  and prisoner torture.

Mar 12
Self-persuasion says that we are free to change our lives in any way that we wish, within the limits of both our cognitive skills and society.

Mar 12
Persuasion is emotional first and rational second.
Warmth & empathy persuades faster than logic and evidence.
Fear persuades.

Mar 12
Experts are more persuasive than non-experts.
Individuals relatively low in self-esteem are often easier to persuade.

Mar 12
Imposition of order in Chaotic system = Escalation of disorder

Mar 12
In all chaos and disorder, there is a secret order.

Mar 12
Entropy is a measure of the disorder of a system or energy unavailable to do work.

Mar 13
Irrational beliefs are culturally accepted delusions.
Robert Todd Carroll

Mar 13
3 core irrational beliefs:
APPROVAL—I must be approved of by others to be worthy.
JUDGMENT—Other people must meet my expectations in order to be worthy.
COMFORT—Life must be easy, without discomfort or inconvenience.

https://transformationacademy.com/2020/08/the-3-irrational-beliefs-at-the-root-of-all-suffering-approval-judgment-and-comfort/

Mar 13
It's not other people's hostility that makes me feel unsafe, it is my nervous system getting dysregulated and I'm feeling anxious and unsafe. Now, how can I soothe myself? What do I need to do to feel better?
YT Heal with Rannn
https://youtube.com/watch?v=JRVt6zmzxxc
 

Mar 13
If society labels people pleasing as sickness - this will only give approval and endorsement to narcissists to keep up with their abuse.

https://www.reddit.com/r/SocialAnxiety_Ideas/comments/11qd0dq/scapegoating_peoplepleasing_is_wrong/

Mar 13
When I hear about negative and false attacks, I really don't invest any energy in them, because I know who I am.
Michelle Obama

Mar 13
...when faced with several courses of action, people usually do what they believe is likely to have the best overall outcome.
Rational Choice Theory

Mar 13
Just watched Oscar's In Memoriam with beautiful Lenny Kravitz song in background.

How did I miss this? Such sad news.
"Composer Angelo Badalamenti, who scored many David Lynch projects including "Twin Peaks," has died at 85."

https://edition.cnn.com/2022/12/13/entertainment/angelo-badalamenti-composer-death-cec/index.html

 
Mar 14
"The Martha Mitchell effect occurs when a medical professional labels a patient's accurate perception of real events as delusional, resulting in misdiagnosis."
Or CBT in short.

Mar 14
Moon landing sites through a telescope
https://youtube.com/shorts/s5aSN7VO248
 

 

 

Mar 14
Even if everyone is doing it, wrong is never right.
Russel M. Nelson

Mar 14
It is much better to do the right thing wronger than the wrong thing righter.

The more efficient you are at doing the wrong thing, the wronger you become.
Russell L. Ackoff

Mar 14
The basic trouble is that people think that "right" and "wrong" are absolute. Everything perfectly and completely right is totally and equally wrong.
Isaac Asimov

Mar 14
All of our problems arise out of doing the wrong things righter. The more efficient you are at doing the wrong thing, the wronger you become.
Russell L. Ackoff

Mar 14

A problem never exists in isolation; it is surrounded by other problems.
Russell L. Ackoff

Mar 14

Creativity is the ability to identify self-imposed constraints, remove them, and explore the consequences of their removal.
Russell L. Ackoff

Mar 14

To succeed, planning alone is insufficient. One must improvise as well.
Isaac Asimov

Mar 14

Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won't come in.
Isaac Asimov

Mar 14

The easiest way to solve a problem is to deny it exists.
Isaac Asimov

Mar 14

"I don't know, therefore God" (argument from ignorance)
- "Let's find out!" (science)

Mar 14

Discussion is an exchange of knowledge.
Argument is an exchange of ignorance.
Robert Quillen

Mar 14

Discussions are always better than arguments, because an argument is to find out who is right, and a discussion is to find what is right.

Mar 14

Behind every argument is someone's ignorance.
Louis D. Brandeis

Mar 14

Using money you haven't earned to buy things you don't need to impress people you don't like.
Robert Quillen

Mar 15

You have every right to express. If they really go overboard, that's OPS (other people's sh$t). They are getting activated. That's other people's stuff. That's other people's inner reaction that you don't have any control anyway.
YT Other People's Opinions

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IChKDcRGr9o

 Mar 15

Everything in moderation. Just because you think and feel something, it doesn't give you the right to automatically say it. Find better way to say it that dials down a little bit. If they go bananas, you have no responsibility for that
YT Dr Julie Lonstein
https://youtube.com/watch?v=IChKDcRGr9o

Mar 15

You are going to watch how they treat other people carefully and you're going to judge. Because you're suppose to. Do I talk like that? Hesitancy in relationship is normal, natural, it is going to save you from toxicity in future.
YT RoyalWe

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/KKDsUBXJM2E

 Mar 15

We become our own abusers. We blame ourselves for the abuse we receive from others. We blame ourselves from the abuse that the antagonistic people propel unto others. In most cases you didn't know. Find kinder ways to talk to yourself.
Doctor Ramani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y63nWAihOjo

Mar 15

You may very well have come from a dysfunctional family – that doesn't make you damaged. That is simply a part of your story. If you carry identity yo you are damaged, the choices you make in life will be in line with that identity.
YT Doctor Ramani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y63nWAihOjo

Mar 15

Thought that the person that was experiencing the abuse was weak, weak-willed, wanting attention, wanting sympathy, being too needy, asking too much of friends, didn't recognize, and that there are two sides to everything.
YT Doctor Ramani
https://youtube.com/watch?v=3R4VR1Zx0k8

Mar 15

Sadly people with big platforms like writers for the NY Times are people with privilege and societal power. From that high altitude it can be easy to never have to learn about trauma bonding and what happens to people with no power.
YT Doctor Ramani

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=3R4VR1Zx0k8

Mar 15
"if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen"
PROVERB:
if you can't deal with the pressures and difficulties of a situation, you should leave others to deal with it rather than complaining.

Mar 16
I'm the one who's been selfish and self-absorbed with all this post-traumatic stress. Enough is enough. I can't wallow in the grief process forever and I can't keep lying to myself about who my mom was.
Scream (1996)

Mar 17
Character is like a psychological immune system in a way. With mature and solid character we can weather and withstand the inevitable trials and tribulations of life, have the strength to get through them without adding problems ourselves.
YT George Simon
https://youtube.com/watch?v=q9-uT6KCWmA
 

 

Mar 17
Concept of codependency – in a truly dependent situation, for true addiction to be there, there has to be phenomena tolerance and withdrawal. Withdrawal feels horrible when substance is not present, it sets cycle.
YT Maybe You're Not Codependent After All!

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=q9-uT6KCWmA

Mar 17
Our words have to mean things, they have to have specific meanings if we're going to communicate our ideas reliably and effectively. For something to be dependent one thing must be contingent upon another, completely determined.
Not Codependent After All!

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=q9-uT6KCWmA

Mar 17
Co in codependency means both individuals cooperate, co-pilots. Covert abuser engineers situation as a mean of possession and control where other person ends over-reliant for support – is abuse all over.
YT Maybe You're Not Codependent After All!

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=q9-uT6KCWmA

Mar 17
Found old photos on CD.
Trip to The Netherlands, 2003.

 

 Mar 17
Graz 2003 - Cultural Capital of Europe
"European Cultural Capital was the biggest arts and city marketing communications project in Austrian history."

 

Mar 17
Amsterdam, 2004

 

 Mar 17
Zandvoort aan Zee, 2004

 Mar 17
Copenhagen, 2005

Mar 17
Agpalilik (Cape York), iron meteorite of 15 tons outside the Geological Museum in Copenhagen, Denmark.
(discovered in Greenland in 1963)

Mar 17
Malmö, Sweden (2005)

 

 
Mar 17
Hitler's Eagle's Nest Near Berchtesgaden (Kehlstein)
(2006)
Elevation: 1,881 m

 

 Mar 17
Salzburg, 2006

 

Mar 17
München, 2006

 

 
Mar 17
Do you know how to create a disturbed personality?
Constant criticism and lack of affection.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=0-auv0iJPro

 

Mar 17
Northern lights observed from Austrian Alps yesterday.
(pics from GeoSphere Austria)
https://kleinezeitung.at/kaernten/6264294/Faszinierendes-Spektakel_Polarlichter-waren-von-Kaernten-und
 

 

Mar 17
We tent to blame the victims of misfortune for causing their own misfortune or for not taking steps to prevent or avoid it.
This is partly due to just-world hypothesis.
-social psychology-

Mar 17
Bottom-up processing:
assembling, integrating sensory = "What am I seeing?"

Top-down processing:
using models, ideas, expectations to interpret sensory information = "Is that something I've seen before?"

Mar 17
Buonomano's second book Your Brain is a Time Machine: The neuroscience and physics of time (Norton, 2017) was published in April 2017. Buonomano argues that our brains are "complex system that not only tells time but creates it".

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dean_Buonomano

 Mar 17
A Shepard tone creates the auditory illusion of a tone that seems to continually ascend or descend in pitch, yet which ultimately gets no higher or lower.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shepard_tone

Mar 17
Organism:
An organism is a living thing that has an organized structure, CAN REACT TO STIMULI, reproduce, grow, adapt, and maintain homeostatis.

Mar 17
Locus of Control

Mar 17
Look, Sid. Just lower the walls for the next few days. This self-induced isolation you got going' is not healthy.
Scream 2 (1997)

Mar 18
Things are rarely just black or just white.

Mar 18
The more you think about doing something scary the less likely you're going to do it. Just go for it.
Doing anything with real value, the more afraid, the more you care about it. The more matters to you.
See fear in weird way as a gift.
HOUR OF POWER
https://youtube.com/watch?v=lgBXHazcfl8
 

 

Mar 18
Critical thinkers:
- are aware their thinking is flawed and prone to errors
- think about how they think
- are curious and inquisitive
- separate their identity from their beliefs
- welcome criticism from others
- use evidence to arrive to conclusions &maintain healthy skepticism

Mar 18
Divergent thinking is a thought process or method used to generate creative ideas by exploring many possible solutions. It typically occurs in a spontaneous, free-flowing, "non-linear" manner.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divergent_thinking
 

 

Mar 18
Mode(l)s of thinking.
Divergent vs. Convergent

Mar 18
Stinkin' Thinkin'

Mar 18
Rational mind + Emotional mind = Wise mind

Mar 18
Thinking Hats — Ana Lorena Fabrega

Mar 18
A. R. Bernard: “The quality of your thinking determines the quality of your life.”

Mar 18
Laddering and theme analysis techniques:
a way to search systematically for the beliefs that underpin your self-statements.
Repetition of "What does that mean to me?"
"Self-Esteem", Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning

 Mar 18
Systems Thinkers
- are concerned with process
- try to find patterns amid the chaos
- believe organizations are unpredictable in a chaotic environment

Mar 18
Transform:
What assumptions, beliefs and values do people hold?
Systems Thinking Model,
Goodman, 2002

Mar 18
Being the best means being willing to do what the others would not. Break the rules. Stop at nothing. Be willing to have the world hate you, because that is the only way that you'll get the story, the facts and the fame.
Scream 3 (2000)

Mar 19
Hiking at Berchtesgaden, Germany in 2006.

 

 Mar 19
Irish has been used since 3rd century. English has been used in Ireland since around 12th century.

The sentence Chonaic me... - I saw is Saw I.
Verb comes before the person doing the action. Only 7% of languages in the world have this kind of word order!

https://blog.duolingo.com/

 Mar 19
By April 1942 JN25 was about 20 percent readable, so codebreakers could read "about one in five words" and traffic analysis was far more useful.
 "Breaking" rather than "solving" a code involves learning enough code words and indicators so that any given message can be read.
JN25

Mar 19
I would not want to make you unhappy by detailing pain, but there is a crucial sort of difference between pain and the narration of pain.
The Transmigration of Timothy Archer (1982)
Philip K. Dick

Mar 19
You're over-thinking it.
- Am I? Or did whoever make it just under-think it?
Scream 4 (2011)

Mar 19
He seemed like a really nice person. Sometimes that's a problem. Much mental illness stems from people repressing their hostility and trying to be nice, too nice. The hostility can't be repressed forever. Everybody has it; it has to come out.
The Transmigration of Timothy Archer

Mar 20
If I stopped worrying what other people thought that would be freeing. That would be amazing. And most important thing is if I stopped caring what other people thought I don't need loneliness to drive me engage with others.
YT What is Social Anxiety?
Gamer

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/dCGv5ZWC27Y

 Mar 20
I can engage with people through all kinds of other things like that person likes something I like. Drive to form connection with them. Social anxiety is concern of what other people think about you.
YT HealthyGamerGG
What is Social Anxiety?

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/dCGv5ZWC27Y

Mar 20
Seems confusing: It's your attachment to things that actually gets you motivated and moving forward. Concept Detachment versus Apathy. Caring is the only thing that keeps me going. Detachment helps move forward.
YT Why it's Actually VALUABLE to be Detached

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQ15cXicr7U

 Mar 20
Detachment is not about detaching from the world. It is detaching from yourself. Removal from our own ego. “What will people think”. You care about their opinion of you, in the way that you are viewed.
YT Why it's VALUABLE to be Detached
HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=MQ15cXicr7U

Mar 20
Detachment lowers that resistance. Attachments and ego holds us back in life: wanting to be appreciated, to be recognized, respected by peers. Then we use dirty motivators to move us forward: loneliness and ambition.
YT HealthyGamerGG

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQ15cXicr7U

Mar 20
What would life be like if there was no resistance to what you wanted to do. If you had particular desire and your ego didn't say “That's going to make you look stupid” or operating out .from fear of consequences.
YT HealthyGamerGG

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQ15cXicr7U

Mar 20
Don't I need ambition or loneliness to motivate me? No. Once the resistance drops down to zero then all kinds of stuff can motivate you. Interest, curiosity, all stuff naturally starts to motivate you. Motivated by interest as opposed to desperation.
Gamer
https://youtube.com/watch?v=MQ15cXicr7U
 

 

Mar 20
Vairagya is Sanskrit word for detachment. For anxious struggle of daily life is hard. Even going out is like climbing a mountain. These little things that are easy for other people require so much effort from person more attached
HealthyGamerGG
YT Detached

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQ15cXicr7U

Mar 20
Awareness perceives control. If you're numbed, you can't control anything. Without awareness there is problem, they can't fix it. But if you talk with alcoholic in denial, the amount of effort they put is astronomically high.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=MQ15cXicr7U
 

Mar 20
Every single day it is struggle, fight, arguing so much effort but there is no awareness. Solution is insight or awareness. Once you understand what is going on, awareness of problem and whole system then things become effortless.
YT HealthyGamerGG

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQ15cXicr7U

Mar 20
When you're good at video game you don't spend much at effort. It's actually easy for you. Because you understand. The more you understand, the more easy things become. If you want easy life, start with awareness.
YT HealthyGamerGG

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQ15cXicr7U

Mar 20
Key thing we want to be aware of is our reactions to stuff. It is in our reactions to stuff we actually find our attachments. What I am attached will manifest in a way I react to. Notice reactions you have within yourself.
YT HealthyGamerGG

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQ15cXicr7U

Mar 20
That reaction will give you insight into the nature of attachment. We spend so much time trying to overcome that reaction, conquer anxiety but we don't ever spend any time just sitting there and observing it. Awareness leads to success.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=MQ15cXicr7U
 

 

Mar 20
All you need to do is be aware. Your reaction to that is “No, that's not enough, I tried so hard”. Exactly. So stop trying to hard. Notice your own intrinsic reaction. Tunnel down into that. There will be negative emotions tied to resistance
HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=MQ15cXicr7U
 

 

Mar 20
Rejection sensitivity is actually an Adaptive survival mechanism to non-ideal environment growing up. Extreme example: not feeling safe, secure. Children learn how can I read any subtle sign to avoid pissing them off.
YT Rejection Sensitivity

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg

 Mar 20
If they blame you for their bad mood and then punish you for annoying them then you will become sensitive to rejection. You walk on egg shelves, you're hyper-vigilant to mood. Can tell within second, it is so rapid, go in survival mode.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg

Mar 20
Anxious expectation. Sensitive to rejection always worry and expecting rejection. You constantly thinking or waiting to be rejected. So you can't just be yourself and relax. You have to constantly think about how this person is going to respond.
YT Gamer

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg

Mar 20
Ready Perception. This means there is neutral stimuli that you will perceive as negative. Someone don't respond. Your brain will interpret neutral stimulus in negative way. This explains why they have such difficult experiences of life.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg
 

 

Mar 20
A lot of strategies we use: how to be invisible, walking on eggshells, avoiding situations – will actually negatively impact our relationships. If I start to be avoidant, dodging afraid of pissing them off-I end up pissing them off
YT Rejection Sensitivity

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg

Mar 20
You grew up in situation that did not teach you how to pull people back in, did not teach you how to engage with people. Actual survival strategy is go invisible, and become avoidant. Your mind exists on high alert.
YT Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg
 

 

Mar 20
Have as many neutral interactions as possible and don't overreact to them. Hang out with people-try to be neutral. Anxious expectation will start to decrease. We want to give our brain more data about how people react to us.
YT Rejection Sensitivity

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg

Mar 20
We don't want to use conclusions from childhood. How we react to neutral stimuli. In any situation you assume the worst and secondly blame yourself the most. You automatically interpret as problem on your end.
YT Rejection Sensitivity
HealthyGamerGG

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg

Mar 20
This is hard but when you are in situation where you are rejected, just stall. Just procrastinate, don't do anything to make them happy. You mind may be incorrectly interpreting how they feel about situation.
YT Rejection Sensitivity
HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg
 

 

Mar 20
You'll have these very powerful drivers within yourself. “What I need to do, apologize over and over”. “Until I apologize I can't tolerate this feeling of negativity." Sometimes they play into it “Yeah, everything IS your fault”.
YT Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg
 

 

Mar 20
What ends up happening is you find yourself in abusive relationship. That could be friendship, boss, romantic. You're willing to take the blame and they're narcissistic so they're totally happy blaming you all the time.
YT Rejection Sensitivity

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg

Mar 20
You can start interacting with people in healthier way. If they don't text you back, it has nothing to do with me because I'm actually decent human being. So it's not necessarily my fault. Observers of our own internal environment.
YT Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg
 

 

Mar 20
Problem with Rejection Sensitivity is our mind produces conclusions that we automatically believe to be true. “because I am not worthy”. Meditation creates distance between our own experiences. Lead to Non-reactivity.
YT Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg
 

 

Mar 20
This is where it becomes tricky. It is possible to have Rejection Sensitivity without any of those diagnoses. Rejection Sensitivity is adaptation of the brain, particular conditioning that can be de-conditioned.
YT Rejection Sensitivity

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg

Mar 20
You don't even meet diagnostic criteria for Social Anxiety Disorder. It turns out this is whole other thing and that is Rejection Sensitivity. These were adaptive survival mechanisms build on idea you parents will not abandon you.
YT Rejection Sensitivity

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg

Mar 20
You move out into real world and you start to engage in work, romantic, friendships – when you keep avoiding them or over apologize or too clingy, this is too much and they're actually going to withdraw.
YT Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ACI7xDjajPg
 

 

Mar 21
When you run into something interesting, drop everything else and study it.
B. F. Skinner

 Mar 21
Boney M. - Painter Man (1978) refrain was inspiration for "Smelly Cat" song by Phoebe in Friends?
They sound similar.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=STVrEsscBss

 Mar 21
"from soup to nuts"
INFORMAL•NORTH AMERICAN
from beginning to end; completely. throughout,
 from A to Z or start to finish or stem to stern, absolute, comprehensive, detailed, exhaustive, complete, thoroughpaced, clocklike
"I know all about that game from soup to nuts"

Mar 21
Stan Laurel serving "salad undressed".
From Soup to Nuts (1928)

Mar 21
In the West many logicians feel that deductive reasoning can be relied on. The Indian anumana strives for what is called a sufficient ground; holding that no concomitance can be assumed which fails to be exemplified. We in the West have no syllogism exactly equal to the anumana.

Mar 21
The internet is filled with socially anxious introverts just like me!
Bocchi the Rock! (2022), episode 1

Mar 21
Real life is scary. But I feel like there's some fun stuff coming up!
Bocchi the Rock! (2022) - episode 1

 

 Mar 21
I always figured real-life people didn't care about me at all... But someone this nice has been watching me all this time, and actually spoke to me... It's the kind of miracle most people never experience!
Bocchi the Rock! (2022) - episode 1

Mar 21
The key is to have fun, even if you suck!
Your feelings really come out in playing, see? We can always work on the skill part next time.
Bocchi the Rock! (2022) - episode 1

Mar 22
Do you know how easy it is to convince the world to believe the worst in people rather than the best?
Scream VI (2023)

Mar 22

Many people think there is one best way. There really is not. And that there is a way to do this that will keep them from yelling at you. There's not. There is no best way.
YT Your Guide for Communicating with Narcissists
Doctor Ramani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJcRNANNfJ0

 Mar 22

No contact is option not available to everyone: if you co-parenting minor children, one family member tied with others, job, colleague, boss – not easy to pull of. Some people feel guilty- emblematic of trauma bond.
YT Doctor Ramani
Communicating with Narc

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJcRNANNfJ0

Mar 22

Pied Paper Effect: one that offers strong but delusive enticement.

Mar 22

Yellow rock – includes a bit colors then gray rock including basic manners like thanks & please, less robotic approach, you do not take the bait.  Fire-walling – monitoring what you share (feelings, good bad news).
YT Guide Communicating with Narcissists

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJcRNANNfJ0

Mar 22

 It's as though Trump has the charisma, the pied-piper effect, and could lead the whole nation off the cliff, and they would think they were on the way to Disney World.
James Robison

Mar 22

Stop saying you make me feel blank. Guilty. When that happens when you say that you make me feel angry, stupid. Stop giving away your power. Nobody has the power to make you feel. That phrase risk turning into victim mindset. Healthy: I hear you
Dr Ramani

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJcRNANNfJ0

Mar 22

If someone else can make us feel something gives them too much power. Narcissist recognizes that they are holding onto trigger and the power to induce feeling out of you and they're going to use it. Manipulation to make you feel.
YT Doctor Ramani
https://youtube.com/watch?v=HJcRNANNfJ0

 

Mar 22

If you're really socially anxious, you can't even run away!
Bocchi the Rock! - episode 2

Mar 22

You're doing fine. It's your first day. You'll get used to it!
Bocchi the Rock! - episode 2

Mar 22

Understand the ways that narcissists get themselves and others to justify, rationalize, and normalize their abusive behavior.

Mar 22

Abusers don't need insight into what they do.
They need to feel guilty for what they do.
Barbara Roberts

Mar 22

Example of Flying Monkey and Narcissist Enabler:
"This wouldn't have happened if you were a better wife"
"Well, maybe you two just need to work on your communication"

Mar 22

Genome of Narcissism in one picture.
https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Seesaw_narcissism_megalomania_family.png
 

 

Mar 22

Operation Pied Piper,
vintage posters from WW2

 Mar 23

You feeling guilty does not mean that boundary was mistake. What that guilt means you are normal human with empathy and you don't want the other person to be in pain because of you. Leave that guilt with rightful owner.
YT setting a boundary with the narc

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/dxRKEc1Gzhc

Mar 23

People pleasing and fawning seems like we are weak and abnormal. Yet...
it probably saved our life and sanity.
Look what happens to human face when exposed to evil; can you imagine the effects on our soul and brain when we are at war with the evil abusers?
https://mymodernmet.com/lalage-snow-we-are-the-not-dead/

Mar 23

They devalue you because you must be the less than them. There must be something wrong with you and that's why they don't want you anymore. That allows them their grandiose perception intact.
YT Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=auM5CcniAPg

Mar 23
How I had been groomed literally to worry about what everybody else thought about me. From the strangers in the street to the neighbors next door to what my teachers thought, what will people think was drilled in my head.
YT Lisa Romano

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTGk_QFT0W0

 
Mar 23
Your emotions are not always rational. From a realistic point of view – you can't really control what someone thinks about you, nor should you try. Unhealthy person will not give you space to have your own thoughts.
YT Lisa Romano

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTGk_QFT0W0

Mar 23
Most people will never see you as you truly are. Because they're looking at you through their own lens. They're going to project who they think you are/aren't to you and no matter what you do you won't be able to change that.
YT Lisa Romano

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTGk_QFT0W0

Mar 23
The bodhisattva is one who has turned down his chance to attain Nirvana in order to turn back to help others, For the bodhisattva compassion is as important a goal as wisdom. That is the essential realization of the bodhisattva.
The Transmigration of Timothy Archer (1982)

Mar 23
We all sleep but do not know it. We live in a dream; we walk and move and have our lives in a dream; most of all we speak in a dream; our speech is the speech of  dreamers, and unreal.
The Transmigration of Timothy Archer (1982),  Philip K. Dick

Mar 23
a comprehension of a world conceptually arranged, a world not arranged in time and space and by causation, but a world as idea conceived in a great mind, the way our own minds store memories. ; Kant's 'thing-in-itself.'
The Transmigration of Timothy Archer (1982),
Philip K. Dick

Mar 23
"Which can't be known, Kant said,"
"But I had somehow perceived it, like a great, reticulated, arborizing structure of interrelationships, everything organized according to meaning, with all new events entering as accretions; I had never before grasped the absolute... reality."

Mar 23
It was a once-in-a-lifetime satori. Moksa, it is called in India; a sudden flash of absolute comprehension, out of nowhere. What James Joyce means by 'epiphanies,' Total insight into world."
The Transmigration of Timothy Archer (1982),
Philip K. Dick

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Mar 23
A man needs self-acceptance or he can't live with himself; he needs self-criticism or others can't live with him.
James Pike

Mar 23
Santa Ana, California

 

 
Mar 24
Exponential growth is deceptive, nearly flat at first until it hits what Kurzweil calls "the knee in the curve" then rises almost vertically.
The Singularity Is Near - Wikipedia
(date is 2045)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Singularity_Is_Near

Mar 24
It's important to say No when we have no more to give. Those who are important will hang around.
YT Do you find it hard to set boundaries? Let’s talk about their importance #mentalhealth
Katimorton

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/8iNlYOdGC1g

 
Mar 24
We put ourselves there. The door to hell is locked from the inside.
James Pike

Mar 24
Lough Derg, Ireland

 

 Mar 24
There is a moral obligation, I think, not to ally oneself with power against the powerless.
Chinua Achebe

 Mar 24
Happiness is a moral obligation.
Dennis Prager

Mar 24
If you could do good things for other people you had a moral obligation to do those things.
Ben Parker

Mar 24
I became convinced that noncooperation with evil is as much a moral obligation as is cooperation with good.
Martin Luther King, Jr.

Mar 24
One has not only a legal but a moral responsibility to obey just laws. Conversely, one has a moral responsibility to disobey unjust laws. Any law that uplifts human personality is just. Any law that degrades human personality is unjust.
Martin Luther King Jr.

Mar 24
My brain was running very fast and I was trying to ascertain what was happening.
Gwyneth Paltrow in court

Mar 24
European Space Agency wants to clean up space junk.

Mar 24
Find a happy person, and you will find a project.
Sonja Lyubomirsky

Mar 25
we've lumped all fears into one bucket: bad. We try to eradicate fears. I mean we all wore T-shirts & said No Fear in '90s, we have people that write self-help books No fear, Get rid of fear, Obliterate it. Fear gives me wisdom, saves my life. Unhealthy fear is bad.
HOUR OF POWER

Mar 25
Moses was no longer aligned with God's vision for the promised land people. That they were not be people of swords but people of words. In Bronze Age the idea pen being mightier than sword was revolutionary, no one thought of.
HOUR OF POWER

Mar 25
Very first thing that the Founding Fathers wrote to protect us from tyranny was you shall have the right to say whatever you want to say about anyone: the freedom of speech, as long as it doesn't incite violence and crime.
HOUR OF POWER
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ueWLTMbyv2k
 

 

Mar 25
Abandoning your uniqueness is equivalent to dying. So don't write generic lyrics based on other concerns. Write what you want to write.
Bocchi the Rock! (2022) - episode 4

Mar 25
To psychiatrist the intellect is a useful but devious friend. This machine will let me know what the subject is way down underneath the intellect really feeling.
The Outer Limits S1 E8 - The Human Factor (1962)

Mar 25
If the mind were simple enough for us to understand, we would be too simple to understand it.
Ray Kurzweil

Mar 25
Earth Hour 2023
Sat, Mar 25, 2023 8:30 PM - 9:30 PM
Give an Hour for Earth by spending 60 minutes doing something - anything - positive for our planet.

https://www.earthhour.org/

 Mar 26
Never think that you already know all. However highly you are appraised, always have the courage to say to yourself — I am ignorant.
Ivan Pavlov

 
Mar 26
Don't become a mere recorder of facts, but try to penetrate the mystery of their origin.
Ivan Pavlov

Mar 26
Men are apt to be much more influenced by words than by the actual facts of the surrounding reality.
Ivan Pavlov

Mar 26
Who does not understand should either learn, or be silent.
John Dee

Mar 26
What doesn't kill you gives you a lot of unhealthy coping mechanisms and a really dark sense of humour.

Mar 26
Burglar: Ask him, you said you'd ask him.
Policeman: This man claims he saw some hideous creature with a huge nose. Wearing a blue dress. He says it talked to him.
“Strangers in the Night” | ALF | FULL Episode: S1 Ep2
https://youtube.com/watch?v=IXFFh4m4QGM

 

Mar 26
Michael Crichton was invited to take a tour of "Universal Studios" during the production of this film. His guide was none other than Steven Spielberg, who went on to adapt Crichton's most successful novel, Jurassic Park (1993).
IMDB trivia

Mar 26
Also it could be an organism from another planet released deliberately.
- To wipe us out?
- Just the opposite. To make friendly contact. A kind of messenger to show us life exists elsewhere in the universe. It could be benign in its own environment.
The Andromeda Strain (1971)

Mar 26
A new form of life. Like Rudolph Karp's bacteria.
-  Fools! They refuse to believe life exists in meteorites. I showed them at the Astrophysics Conference what I just showed you. But no. Even with microscope, they are blind.
The Andromeda Strain (1971)

Mar 26
During this symposium we'll discuss the possibility that intelligent life on a distant planet may be no larger than a flea. Perhaps no larger than a bacterium.
The Andromeda Strain (1971)

Mar 26
Decontamination and immunization process in The Andromeda Strain (1971).

 

 Mar 26
Fight the effect. It's mostly shock.
The Andromeda Strain (1971)

Mar 26

My brain is only a receiver. There is a core from which we obtain knowledge, strength, inspiration.
NIKOLA TESLA

Mar 26

If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or objects.
ALBERT EINSTEIN

Mar 26

Apollo landing sites

Mar 27

There's no hard physical reality to any of this stuff (diagnosis). It's just words. They're models that we're using to try to make sense of chaos.
YT RICHARD GRANNON
Sociopath or Psychopath | A Deeper Look
https://youtube.com/watch?v=aj9DPruIRxY
 

 

Mar 27

Fake moral outrage – act like they stepped on a landmine. For a person who has conscience, which of course targets of abuse have, otherwise how would you hook them in?, they automatically go into shock and question themselves.
YT Speaking About Gaslighting

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZFi7Y02LJ1E

Mar 27

Shaking rage – this induces fear and terror. Scream at top of lungs as if they just murdered child. The more you act: thing that they did is terrible, the worse they're going to feel. More shock; hijacking nervous system.
YT Narc Speaking About Gaslighting

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZFi7Y02LJ1E

Mar 27

Once they've gone into shock, you basically get the body attacking them for you on your behalf. It is PTSD response. Then they play incident over and over "What did I do wrong?" obsessively.
YT Narcissist Speaking About Gaslighting
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ZFi7Y02LJ1E
 

 

Mar 27

I never had any enemies here. It was just my imagination.
Bocchi The Rock! (2022) - episode 6

Mar 28
Confirmation bias is our tendency to cherry-pick information that confirms our existing beliefs or ideas.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kqY93v183Rw

Mar 28
The availability heuristic (or availability bias) is a type of cognitive bias that helps us make fast, but sometimes incorrect, assessments. It involves relying on information that comes to mind quickly or is most available to us.

Mar 28
March flowers.

Mar 28
Everything in the world is full of signs. All events are coordinated. All things depend on each other.
Plotinus

Mar 28
Normal social anxiety and avoidance is common and can be transient.

Mar 28
Toxic Croatia leads to CPTSD Social Anxiety issues:

Young American explained why she left Croatia:
"In Croatia people constantly express intrusive opinion about matters which are none of their business. The most irritating things were rude people."
https://poslovni.hr/lifestyle/amerikanka-napusta-hrvatsku-neucinkovitost-i-birokracija-te-ljudi-koji-nemaju-motiva-za-napredovanjem-u-poslu-358422
 

Mar 28
Learn the rules like a pro, so you can break them like an artist.
Pablo Picasso

Mar 28
March sky.

Mar 28
You're not there to make someone feel better, but to make them better at feeling.
Gabor Maté

Mar 28
Highly Sensitive People are prone to low self-esteem because they are not their culture's ideal.
Elaine N. Aron

Mar 28
If you don't control your mind, someone else will.
John Allston

Mar 28
The only thing you take with you when you're gone is what you leave behind.
John Allston

Mar 28
The only thing evil can't stand is forgiveness.
Fred Rogers

Mar 28
From cradle to grave the government and media hold minds prisoner.

Mar 28
The optimism bias refers to our tendency to overestimate our likelihood of experiencing positive events and underestimate our likelihood of experiencing negative events.

Mar 28
Status quo bias is defined as the preference for maintaining one's current situation and opposing actions that may change the state of affairs.

 

Mar 28
Are sour cherry blossoms edible?
The flower petals are edible.
The cherry blossoms and the leaves are edible and used in many traditional Japanese sweets and tea.
(countryliving)

Mar 28
When you challenge the status quo, it means that you identify new and better ways of doing things. It also means that you add value, and that's the very basis for being successful.

Mar 28
The sorites paradox draws attention to the impossibility of defining the precise moment of transition from one state to another when there is a continuum between the two. In semantic terms, the paradox applies to concepts with vague predicates (Hyde 2011).

 
Mar 28
Your perception of me is a reflection of you;
my reaction to you is an awareness of me.

 Mar 28
A five-year-old and a dog have better social skills than me.
Bocchi the Rock! (2022) - episode 7

Mar 28
...he wouldn't understand, that I can't feel anything he might be interested in because I'm surrounded by a wall, an invisible wall made of memories I can't lose.
Bonjour Tristesse (1958)

Mar 28
Then why am I still so frightened?
- I don't know. I'm often frightened when I want something very badly.
Bonjour Tristesse (1958)

Mar 28
'You're spoiled and willful and arrogant and lazy. A mean little monster.' Anne had made me look at myself for the first time in my life, and that turned me against her, dead against her.
Bonjour Tristesse (1958)

Mar 29
The first Europeans to set foot in 'Mayathan' (Yucatan peninsula) were not conquerors, but the survivors of a shipwreck off the coast of Jamaica. They were greeted by a band of Indians, who thanked the gods for sending them these sacrificial victims.
"Lost Cities of the Maya"

 Mar 29
RSD can happen as a result of someone criticizing us, but it can also occur when we fail to meet our own expectations. Any shortcoming pointed out feels extremely painful, cause us to lash out or shutdown.
YT What is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria?
K Morton

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZQ44ynEjsHQ

Mar 29
If we internalize upset we can feel anxious, depressed, hopeless and even suicidal. Many with RSD talk about feeling a lot of shame. Because interacting with people is main way that we feel rejection, we struggle to go out at all. Which can lead to misdiagnosis of social anxiety.

Mar 29
If we are forced out of our home in social situation a lot, work or family, we can become people pleasers – as a way to try and minimize the likelihood that someone will reject us in any way. Acting in way we think they will like
YT What is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria?
K Morton

Mar 29
Fear that we will fail or let someone down or not complete a task. This can affect our ability to move up at work, start a new relationship, try a new sport, try learn anything new. If it can make us feel vulnerable to critique or possible failure, we will avoid it at all cost.

Mar 29
"This makes sense to me as someone who has dyslexia. The constant corrections, criticism, and being told to keep up with others I think caused RSD for me."
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

Mar 29
It feels like a personal attack on who they are at their very core. Cause to make you feel intense embarrassment guilt &shame than a person would normally would. It can make you feel like people are doing to make you feel bad on purpose
Rejection Sensitive

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UBjexRyx0e8

 Mar 29
You're likely to have high expectations for yourself because of societal expectations. If you've been constantly failing to meet these expectations placed by society throughout your life, you'll have high standards, that interfere with logic and reasoning.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UBjexRyx0e8

Mar 29
Intense fear of not being liked can lead to social anxiety and avoiding things because of that anxiety. It's involuntary, you can't really control it, it's always going to be there in back of your mind. It's up to us to learn how to control it
ADHD Mastery
https://youtube.com/watch?v=UBjexRyx0e8
 

 

Mar 29
RSD was created by Dr. William Dodson who describes it a triggered wordless emotional pain after loss of approval. It hasn't been researched yet. The intense sensitivity to criticism we feel is real.
YT How to Deal with Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jM3azhiOy5E
 

 

Mar 29
I figured out what boys wanted and give it to them, even when that meant neglecting my own needs, so that they never had a reason to leave. And I've always been called “too sensitive”.
YT How to Deal with Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jM3azhiOy5E
 

 

Mar 29
My sensitivity to rejection is so intense that even perceived rejection, like getting a piece of criticism from a boss, I'd melt down crying, or get angry and say things that sometimes resulted in actual rejection-like getting fired.
Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jM3azhiOy5E
 

 

 Mar 29
Rejection sensitivity is very real and very painful. Caroline Maguire explains: “Because we are more sensitive to rejection, our body thinks Saber-tooth tiger is to eat us. We end up holding back, not asking.”
YT How to Deal with Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jM3azhiOy5E

Mar 29
Rather than missing out, we can use tools to navigate the situation. Caroline created 4R's to help us. First, Recognize where you're at emotionally. More emotions up, the more cognitive ability goes down. How intense emotions are right now?
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jM3azhiOy5E
 

 

Mar 29
Once we have a sense where we're on intensity meter – Respond with a strategy that makes sense, for us, at that level of intensity. In green – we can test rejection. In yellow we can ask for clarification, what you mean by that?
YT Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jM3azhiOy5E
 

 

Mar 29
The goal here is to try to get ourselves back into the green – or at least stay out of the red. If we're in the red – emotions so high – use strategies to help us feel safe. Remembering steps, resolving issues is not going to happen. When we're in red, we are not fit for human...

Mar 29
When possible- Reflect and Reframe. The first thoughts we have about a situation often aren't correct. They're full of cognitive distortions based on past experiences, like emotional reasoning. I feel-then I am being rejected.
YT Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jM3azhiOy5E
 

 

Mar 29
Qualm
A feeling of doubt or uncertainty about whether you are doing the right thing

Mar 29
The worry often gives a small thing a big shadow.
Swedish proverb

Mar 29
Resentment (even toward yourself) doesn't change anything and just keeps you stuck. It's like carrying a bag of bricks up a mountain. Just set it down.
Brad Bizjack

Mar 29
People might prefer the feeling state of self-criticism and self-blame over the feeling state of being out of control.
Kelly McGonigal

Mar 29
When there is a family scapegoat everyone else in the family is free to see themselves as more emotionally stable than they are.

Mar 29
Self Loathing means dislike & hatred of oneself. It involves intense feelings of not being good enough. You may feel like lacking from within.

Mar 29
Note to self:
I was doing the best I could at the time with what I knew

Mar 29
It's not your fault if bad people do bad things to you. You are not responsible for their actions.

 
Mar 29
Oh, we're absolute beginners
With nothing much at stake
As long as you're still smiling
There's nothing more I need
David Bowie - Absolute Beginners (1986)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FX2tcxM4hXQ

Mar 29

How  to deal with Emotional Abuse
- Work on an exit plan
- Realize you can't "fix" an abusive person
- Stop blaming yourself
- Make your mental and physical health a priority
- Build a support network
- Establish boundaries with the abuser

Mar 30

The missionaries study the customs of the Maya, believing that to destroy the work of the Devil, you must first understand it.
"Lost Cities of the Maya", New Horizons

Mar 30

Yelling at me, berating me – it's abusive. You can't tolerate that. Nobody can tolerate that. Tactfully tell them that, sometimes you have to be firm with people and let them know like child when misbehaving, not listening to you.
YT Coach Corey Wayne
https://youtube.com/watch?v=mXdk5PQpxZw
 

 Mar 30

If you look at the mass of human brain 85% of all the nerves in your brain are inhibitory in function. We happen to be aware of the other 15% because we can see what happens when those nerves are used.
YT ADDitude Magazine
https://youtube.com/watch?v=klmxcj52PQQ

Mar 30

Once we learn how to drive a car, we mostly do it outside of our conscious awareness. We can talk to, sing along with radio, and not really pay conscious attention to what's going on around us. Something happens- Corpus Striatum  handles it: sudden break.

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=klmxcj52PQQ

Mar 30

It's all a matter of degree. No one likes to be rejected or criticized. RSD is much more intense and it is much more than this universal discomfort. Doing research 45 years ago they chose word Dysphoria.
YT Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (William Dodson)
https://youtu.be/klmxcj52PQQ?t=1107
 

 

Mar 30

Most common response is becoming People pleaser. They constantly scan everybody around, trying to figure out what that person wants or would approve of, and that's what they give them. To exclusion what they want for their own lives.
YT Rejection Sensitive
https://youtu.be/klmxcj52PQQ?t=1398
 

Mar 30

At the moment there's absolutely nothing you can do. Their temper tantrum has to run its course. Do they have secondary gain? Are they manipulative? To get their way, do temper tantrum go away once it achieves its goal? It's matter of degree.
YT W. Dodson

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=klmxcj52PQQ

Somebody who's deeply wounded by put down or rejection, criticism, is going to be vigilant for it. And they can see it where it doesn't exist. Borderline is often confused with emotional dysregulation.
Emotional Dysregulation Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=klmxcj52PQQ

Fundamentally bipolar is a disorder of relations with other people. Object relations. In which initially person overidealizes other people, emotionally dependent, until they feel rejection. Then demonize person, attack them,from idealization to denigration

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=klmxcj52PQQ

Mar 30

Term Borderline comes from people occupied very thin line between very severe neurosis and psychosis. Under stress, rejection they would go below the border and become psychotic. More than just disappointments. These are psychotic level of disorganization.
https://youtu.be/klmxcj52PQQ?t=2880

 

Mar 30

It evades the body's immune system by disguising itself as a memory engram. Apparently, the parasite used the childhood memory as camouflage. Creating a false memory so traumatic that the mind would repress it and that's where it would live.
"Star Trek: Voyager" Flashback (1996)

Mar 30

...hiding in a part of the brain that the conscious mind would want to avoid at all costs.
Memory is a tricky thing. If it was a real event, it's been buried and copied and twisted so many times there's no way to tell what really happened.
"Star Trek: Voyager" Flashback (1996)

Mar 30

Maybe you should try to forget about it for a while. I've found that when you don't think about a problem, sometimes the solution comes to you.
- It is difficult to forget when you're wearing a neurocortical monitor on your parietal bone.
"Star Trek: Voyager" Flashback (1996)

Mar 31
The wound is where the light gets in.
Rumi

Mar 31
When you understand every opinion is a vision loaded with personal history, you will start to understand that all judgment is a confession.
Nikola Tesla

Mar 31
Don't personalize or internalize other people's behavior. What they do is not a reflection of you. Their actions represent them and where they're at.
Just observe.
Idil Ahmed

Mar 31
And if it is a despot you would dethrone, see first that his throne erected within you is destroyed. For how can a tyrant rule the free and the proud, but for a tyranny in their own freedom and a shame in their own pride?
Kahlil Gibran - Poems

Mar 31
To belittle, you have to be little.
Khalil Gibran

 Mar 31
No one is coming to rescue you from yourself:
your inner demons,
your lack of confidence,
your dissatisfaction with yourself and your life.
Only self-love and good decisions will rescue you.
Jenni Young

Mar 31
"I guess you're right - I do internalize criticism."

Mar 31
WARNING:
Reflections in this mirror may be distorted by socially constructed ideas of "beauty", acceptability and desirability.

Mar 31
internalizing your feelings - William Leitzman

Mar 31
The Lies (Wo)men hear:
- Not smart enough.
- Not wired for logic.
- Too emotional.
- Not enough.
- Too reactive.

Mar 31
If we forever see our life as a problem to be "solved", then no change will occur.
The capacity for growth depends on personal responsibility.
James Hollis

Mar 31
Our shame become toxic when we internalize messages from others that don't serve our health and wellbeing.
Jessica Moore

Mar 31
Men let the pain out and it's used against us, its weaponised and masculinity is questioned.
No safe outlet.
Leo Dasilva

Mar 31
When it happens over and over again- mean things people say it is always about them and it is never about you. “You're fat” whatever, it is always reflection of insecurity of themselves, projected, spotlight off them, it is control.

 https://veronicagrant.com/quickie-not-internalize-crappy-things-people-say/

Mar 31
When we decide to see protection against difficult people as "boundary" - we put ourselves in unfavorable victim place, where we are poor victims and where really difficult and dangerous people rule over us.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2023/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2023.html

Mar 31
To be become a person does not necessarily mean to be well adjusted. It means to become who you are. We are not meant just to fit in.
James Hollis, American psychoanalyst

Mar 31
When you fail and fail, you are still loved by us and welcomed by us, without having to worry about pleasing us.
James Hollis, American Jungian psychoanalyst

Mar 31

The truth about intimate relationships is that they can never be any better than our relationship with ourselves.
James Hollis

 The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.
Albert Einstein

Everyone's scared when they do something for the first time.
Bocchi the Rock! - Episode 10

Tabasco swamps in Mexico (Pantanos de Centla)

 

 

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