1-may-2021
How many of us in fighting monsters, become monsters themselves?
HOUR OF POWER
We are agents of kindness an gentleness. Sometimes we are bold, we have to be direct, sometimes literally fight, but most of the time we love our enemies. You receive by letting go.
HOUR OF POWER
The Prophet's Dream: Son of Man (March 21, 2021)
"People aren't always how they appear on the surface. When was the last time you thought someone was friendly and nice only to discover they were dishonest and questionable character. That's why it's so important to understand how to read body language and other non verbal cues."
Constant criticism can feel like an emotional massacre. Repeated chronic criticism and contempt makes the receiver become hyper- vigilant and self-defensive. Ongoing criticism can be one of the most damaging patterns.
Children of overly-critical parents tend to internalize their pain and blame themselves for everything. Due to your parents’ behavior, you may think that if someone is upset or unhappy with you, it must be your fault.
https://www.bravegr.com/blog/overly-critical-parents
Sometimes what is being shamed is part of a child’s identity. It may make them feel like they aren’t capable.
Shaming can affect your self-esteem in ways that can become ingrained and permanent.
'Think hard before shaming children'
https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/think-hard-before-shaming-children-2020012418692
'Beltane or Beltain is the Gaelic May Day festival. Most commonly it is held on 1 May, or about halfway between the spring equinox and summer solstice.'
(wiki)
2-may-2021
All through our life people are going to hurt us, things are going to happen. We'll be disappointing. People may say something that is not true. These are types of offense we can't allow to take residence in our heart.
VICTORIA OSTEEN
Get good in letting go, forgiving, covering their offenses. The offense is not your unless you take it. The offense originated from them.
YT Protect Your Heart From Offense | Victoria Osteen
We think if I work harder, outperform others, we will feel good about ourselves. We live in this proving mode, need to impress. We get our value from wrong place.
JOEL OSTEEN
Your value should come from who you are and not what you do and what you have. If not, you will always have voice saying you are not measuring up.
JOEL OSTEEN
Nothing to prove
It is freeing when understand you have nothing to prove. Living to impress people will keep you from your destiny, dreams, goals. What people think about you does not determine your destiny.
JOEL OSTEEN
How many times we trying to prove something and person is not even paying attention.
If our motives are not pure; When we trying to prove people to feed our ego, to show them how great we are, or to make up for our lack of self worth that is dead end street.
JOEL OSTEEN
Where did you go
When things went wrong for you
When the knives came out for you?
Where did you go?
All you needed was a friend
You just have to ask and then
You don't have to have the solution
You've got to understand the problem
BLUETONES -SLIGHT RETURNS
- You really don't know what to say?
- Want me to say it's funny, so you can contradict me and say it's sad? Or shall I say it's sad so you can say it's funny?
Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? (1966)
- You get testy, naturally. Don't worry about it. Anybody who comes here gets testy. It's expected. Don't be upset.
- I'm not upset.
- You're testy.
- Yes.
Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? (1966)
You make all sorts of excuses: To hell with it, this is life. Maybe tomorrow he'll be dead. Maybe tomorrow you'll be dead. All sorts of excuses.
Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? (1966)
Then one day... ...one night, something happens and, snap......it breaks and you just don't give a damn anymore.
Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? (1966)
3-may-2021
Paradoxically, the more we cultivate friendships mentality instead of enemy mentality, we will easier deal with conflicts.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2021/04/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
Baby, baby
In any kind of weather
I'm here for you always and forever
Amy Grant - Baby, Baby
In 2006 Omen remake ("Omen 666" starring Mia Farrow) sets were vandalised and burned down. The perpetuator revealed his identity few days ago - it was current County Mayor.
After Croatian police announced that they are investigating the case, Boban denied.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Omen_(2006_film)
Being friendly will make us calmer and thus we will avoid entering Mr Hyde personality fear persona. All this will help us experience social settings more calmer and less fearful.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2021/04/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
When someone does something that you are not comfortable, disrespect you, let them know. (If they do on multiply occasions.) You will notice their behavior shifts, they start to suck up to you, pander to you.
YT Psychology Theory
Did you know that when you feel disliked your brain literally respond as if you could die? Threat to your survival.
YT Genevieve Clough
It is only in 100 past years of history we don't live in tribes any more. To shun you does not mean nothing about your survival. Being shunned or banished does not determine if we live or not. Our brain will fire so many signals danger, you might die!
For every child that has been born there is a chance in life,
To try it all and be someone with what we have inside,
So don't give up and don't give in, just give it all instead,
And raise your voice above the crowd and let them know
Chris De Burgh
Reframe their reality. When they bring negativity, bring positivity. Bring them into the light.
YT Flow State Activation
Picard: Have you any idea what will happen when Starfleet learns about this?
Data: I have followed all of Starfleet's regulations to the best of my ability.
Star Trek: The Next Generation - Season 3 Episode 16
- They were laughing at you.
- Why would they wish to be unkind?
- Because you are different. Differences sometimes scare people. I have learned that some of them use humor to hide their fear.
STAR TREK TNG S3E16 The Offspring
There are times, sir, when men of good conscience cannot blindly follow orders.
Star Trek TNG - S03E16 - The Offspring
4-may-2021
These days we are all comfortable with the fact that our emotional states affect our bodies. Deep-seated emotions can cause long-term, deep-seated changes, either to heal or to harm - psychosomatic effects.
Jonathan Black, The Secret History of the World
5-may-2021
It is easy to recognize in other people but it is almost impossible to recognize in ourselves. Its not person that is toxic, it is behaviour.
"This is why toxic people don't exist"
MEL ROBBINS
We all have window of tolerance when it comes to our stress. Where we can handle what is going on. With complex trauma, the window of tolerance is often maintained by people pleasing.
YT Metta-morphics
Under the Circumstances You're Totally Frickin' Normal
When we think our feelings determine our reality – we are doing emotional reasoning. Emotional reasoning is cognitive distortion.
Stop and question are my emotions accurate portrayal of my reality.
YT Lyndsey Getty
Emotional Reasoning&Cognitive Distortions
Just because you feel it, doesn't mean it's true.
Just because you think it, doesn't mean it's accurate.
YT Lyndsey Getty
Pay attention to what bothers you about other people.
YT 1 minute videos
This is for all the lonely people
Thinking that life has passed them by
Don't give up until you drink from the silver cup
And ride that highway in the sky
America - Lonely People (1974)
Viewing our thoughts from distance: Objective distancing – how it might be viewed by third party. Temporal distancing involves imagining the criticism happened years ago.
YT TheraminTrees
rumination | combatting repetitive thoughts
When your measurement of 'good enough' is based on external factors such as what others think, feel and do, then the message you're passing to your brain is what others think, feel & do is more important.
YT Angie McQuillin
Thinking That Damage Confidence
Oh, yes I can make it now the pain is gone.
All of the bad feelings have disappeared.
Jimmy Cliff - I Can See Clearly Now
6-may-2021
Loud, rude people are not competent. They appear competent and strong. They exploit nice guys. They made their success upon dead bodies behind them. You never know at what moment they will terminate you. They are parasites unable to do something authentic.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2021/04/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
If we focus on issue about being 'nice guy', it is a matter of wrong perspective - the right perspective is always paradox - there are no nice guys.
Both aggressive people and pushovers are victims of wrong perspective. They both want to control people.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2021/04/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
Without resentment we can be authentic. We can alarm and alert someone crossing their boundaries. We have resources to be sociable, funny, intelligent, resourceful, strong - it is buried inside us by our age and experience, we absorbed it, it is inside us.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2021/04/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
Confirmed UFO looks like this.
The very act of looking at it changes it, causes reactions, perhaps sometimes even contradictory reactions. Schopenhauer said that 'as soon as you try to put a thought into words it ceases to be true'.
THE SECRET HISTORY OF THE WORLD, Jonathan Black
I give my life to Laura and all my kids. I pushed them I yelled at them, that didn't mean I didn't care. I molded her I shaped her.
Graduation Day (1981)
7-may-2021
If we are afraid, we are easy target for aggressive people and exploiters. We are very acutely aware of slight hostilities from other people.
We cannot come up with solutions with sulking attitude.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2021/04/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
Resentment is virus inside the mind that appears to us as easy solution to problem. We think it will give us energy to confront toxic people. Instead it gives us severe mental instability in long term.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2020/10/egocentrism-test.html
The 90-minute phase before midnight is one of the most powerful phases of sleep, because it's the period where the body is replenished.
Dr Ramlakhan
We forfeit three-quarters of ourselves in order to be like other people.
Arthur Schopenhauer
but I was waiting for the signs to let me know the right one...a zigzag rainbow...a bolt of lightning ripping through the sky...the usual things that tell you love's at hand.
film The Butcher's Wife (1991)
- You want them to dislike you. Why?
- Because I'm not a nice man. (...) Okay, okay. Because they scare me. Too many minds. I can't shut them out.
Never could learn. All their loves, their hates, their fears, their needs. It's like a tide that never ebbs. I could drown.
TNG 3x20
8-may-2021
We can shove down fear, anger, feelings of betrayal but you can't choose which emotions to shove down. If you shove down fear, you also shove down joy. If you shove down anger, you also shove down laughter.
HOUR OR POWER
Manipulation is defined as an act of undue influence through mental and emotional exploitation with the sole aim of seizing power, control and opportunity at the expense of the victim.
"Game of Mind Manipulation" by Edwin Piers
9-may-2021
Victory Day celebrated right now at Moscow's Red Square.
'How you make others feel about themselves, says a lot about you.'
11-may-2021
My Astra Zeneca side effect, time stamp:
"feeling tired" 36h
"headache" 24h
"fever" 9h
"Aspirin would not have a beneficial effect."
The defining characteristic of human life is the capacity for thought.
According to the secret doctrine the cosmos created the human brain in order to be able to think about itself.
"The Secret History of the World" Jonathan Black
'Discussions are always better than arguments, because an argument is to find out who is right, and a discussion is to find what is right'.
'We become what we hate'
- Barclay, well, he's always late. The man's nervous. Nobody wants to be around this guy.
- If I felt that nobody wanted to be around me, I'd probably be late and nervous too.
STAR TREK TNG S3 E21
12-may-2021
Zarathustra told the king that the sun spirits (Elohim) who created the world were working to transform it, and that one day the world would be a vast body of light.
THE SECRET HISTORY OF THE WORLD, Jonathan Black
The stronger person is not the one making the most noise, but the one who can quietly direct conversation toward defining and solving problems.
AARON T. BECK
13-may-2021
We cannot access the true nature of external objects outside our mental, phenomenological experience of them.
The Darkest Philosopher in History - Arthur Schopenhauer
We are driven to consume beings, things, ideas, goals, circumstances and all the rest, constantly hoping we will feel a satisfaction or happiness as result, while constantly being left in the wake of each achievement unsatisfied.
Arthur Schopenhauer
14-may-2021
In our society, we are programmed to appear strong, super confident and perfect. This is paradox because instead of confidence, this need to be perfect makes us inferior.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2021/04/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
The person who gives the notice does not really do it, so there are many people who are scared when they make people angry. Thus an angry person is actually safe. If you come to think about it, you will be able to find a solution.
YT Hiroshimoot’s Psy.
Try not to abuse your power
I know we didn't choose to change
You might not wanna lose your power
But havin' it's so strange
Billie Eilish - Your Power
16-may-2021
You can't live negative and expect positive life.
We are all in process of becoming, it is up to us to stay encouraged along the way.
Encourage Yourself | Victoria Osteen
In the face of the Mona Lisa we see, for the first time, the deep joy of someone exploring her inner life.
THE SECRET HISTORY OF THE WORLD. Jonathan Black
Social Contract Theory - 'We trade some of our liberty for a stable society.'
19-may-2021
To survive in this world you have to care less about trivialities that irk us every day. Caring less will ensure your own sanity and survival. It's about caring about the stuff that counts and losing the nonsense that doesn't.
YT Susie Moore
You can forgive someone and not tolerate their behaviour.
Forgiveness: What It Is And What It Is Not
YT Guadalupe Abbey
20-may-2021
Strong feelings are fine: it's the overreactions that mess us up.
ALBERT ELLIS
The reason for evil in the world is that people are not able to tell their stories.
CARL JUNG
Freud Letters; Vol. 2.
21-may-2021
Radio 538 TOP 40 gem:
Fred again.. feat. The Blessed Madonna - Marea (We’ve Lost Dancing)
22-may-2021
Life will bring you pain all by itself. Your responsibility is to create joy.
MILTON H. ERICKSON
Children only see movement, adults can perceive patterns.
All annoying prejudgments are based on the tunnel vision, a false premise appearing at the top and in the focus, mind virus. Universe is dualistic, there is always the opposite side to everything but kindness and interdependence are only true sole premise and focus of everything.
Iceland underrated performance from 2017.
#Eurovision #ESC2021 #Eurovision2021 #ESC
Svala - Paper
Victim mindset see world antagonistic, gives narcissists right to complain, anger, disgruntle, rage. Gives themselves permission to victimize others.
YT Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc.
You may not believe it, but you and I are very much alike. Like you, I believe in God the Father Almighty, because I've been in his presence. Get ready to leave, Simon. They're coming for us.
FILM Simón del desierto (1965)
23-may-2021
Do not realize their attitude is choice they make every single day. Consistently put on fresh new mental attitude.
Our attitudes have direct correlation to success in our life.
VICTORIA OSTEEN
Quit being against yourself. He never complimented himself. He trained himself to see flaws.
As long as you beating yourself up, living condemned, problem is - you are your own enemy. We disqualify ourselves.
JOEL OSTEEN
24-may-2021
The Traveler used his thoughts to alter warp fields. Thoughts became reality. Now I'm in a warp field. Could my thoughts have changed this reality?
STAR TREK The Next Generation S4 E5
That's when it started. That's when I started losing everybody. My thoughts created this universe. Can they get me out of it again?
STAR TREK The Next Generation S4 E5
- You couldn't change my mind if you talked for a hundred years.
- I'm not trying to change your mind. It's just that...We're talking about somebody's life here. We can't decide it in five minutes. Supposing we're wrong.
film 12 ANGRY MEN (1957)
Well, it's not easy to stand alone against the ridicule of others. So he gambled for support, and I gave it to him. I respect his motives. The boy on trial is probably guilty, but, uh, I want to hear more.
film 12 ANGRY MEN (1957)
I don't believe I have to be loyal to one side or the other. I'm simply asking questions.
film 12 ANGRY MEN (1957)
Ever since you walked into this room, you've been acting like a self-appointed public avenger. You want to see this boy die because you personally want it, not because of the facts. You're a sadist.
film 12 ANGRY MEN (1957)
It's always difficult to keep personal prejudice out of a thing like this. Wherever you run into it, prejudice always obscures the truth. I don't really know what the truth is. I don't suppose anybody will ever really know.
film 12 ANGRY MEN (1957)
IMDb forum:
"He was projecting his problems with his son onto the defendant, which was preventing him from changing his vote. He realizes this at the end and changes his vote to not guilty. The photo was of his son and himself."
12 ANGRY MEN (1957)
www.filmboards.com
What we observe, it becomes alive. And from what we turn our back, it fades to gray and oblivion.
Because of our fears,we people please bad people.
From our standpoint, it seems like a quiz,task to be done. They feed of our attention and being in the focus
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2021/04/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
Let the love unite us all.
#EUROVISION 2017, Albania
Lindita - World (Instrumental)
26-may-2021
When you are dysregualted and c-ptsd has hold of your thinking, you're never in charge of what you are thinking about.
YT Crappy Childhood Fairy
See people more complex than that, see people more as human, even if they are jerks.
YT Patrick Teahan LICSW
Our parents didn't see us as children. Toxic parents see their kids as selfish adults who are making choices at their expense, which is super messed up.
YT 6 Unknown Childhood Trauma Triggers
It's very freeing to allow someone to be grumpy or even sort of toxic and not take it in. Let other people feel their feelings even if it is about us (but that was not safe when growing up).
YT 6 Unknown Childhood Trauma Triggers
28-may-2021
Narcissist speak language of shame, duty, obligation pushing on to you, they learned that is how world works; "if you don't do right, you will be ashamed".
YT Surviving Narcissism
Things lift when we can see evidence that shame doesn't make sense for us, but it may be their own. People don't shame you unless they have shame.
YT Candace van Dell
29-may-2021
We are missing what God has for us in Malta because we are lamenting the fact we are not in Rome yet. Paul understood that God sometimes takes us off course to get us onto his purpose.
HOUR OF POWER
30-may-2021
Release people who offended you.
Learn to travel light. Where you are going is far more important to where you been, but you can't be weigh down from your past. Don't invest in your past.
Victoria Osteen – Investing In Your Future
If you're dwelling on the past, you won't see the new thing. Living with regrets will keep you from new opportunities.
Where you are going is what matters, not where you've been.
JOEL OSTEEN
If you want to improve, you must be content to be thought foolish and stupid.
EPICTETUS
Sunday Fish Market in Marsaxlokk, Malta - AM Journeys
Creator: Ana Matei
Today's rainbow.
31-may-2021
Don't point your finger
You know that's not my thing
You came to blame, blame, blame
It's not my thing, so let it go now
R.E.M. - Bang and Blame
“You people with hearts,” he said, “have something to guide you, and need never do wrong; but I have no heart, and so I must be very careful.“
'The Wonderful Wizard of Oz'
L. Frank Baum.
And you always contemplating what to do
To get happiness around you
Can't you see that it's all around you
So follow me
CHER - PIED PIPER
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