77: Mastodon 2024 November

November 1, 2024
When you admit the fact that these are coping mechanisms you developed as a child, because you had no other options – you don't look so bad anymore. And I think that's important to understand because shame and guilt and blame, embarrassment and the fault and the failure – that's what is holding you back from getting better. All unproductive emotions behind this condition need to be pushed aside. Personality traits are formed over course of time.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d33ymbxzKeY

Nov 1
🖥️ AI images

Nov 1
Problem is – we can't explain the pain to you. We keep trying to explain the pain. Your partner doesn't understand and never will. Yelling and screaming and breaking that plate it's not going to help them get it, it's not going to help them to understand. In back of my head I thought that somebody could help me. I thought that they could help me. They can't, they don't know how.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d33ymbxzKeY

Nov 1
🇮🇪 AI image - Wexford, Ireland

Nov 1
🖥️ AI images - 1950s sci-fi

Nov 1
📻 Classic FM

Nov 1

Nov 1
🇩🇿 Petite Casbah

Nov 1
You ever heard of a transorbital lobotomy? They zap the patient with electroshock, then go through the eye with an ice pick, pull out some nerve fibers. Makes the patients much more obedient. Tractable. Do you know how pain enters the body, Marshal? Do you?
- Depends on where you're hurt?
- No, it has nothing to do with the flesh.
🎞️ Shutter Island (2010)

Nov 1
The brain controls pain. The brain controls fear, empathy, sleep, hunger, anger. Everything. What if you could control it?
- -You mean the brain?
-Recreate a man so he doesn't feel pain or love or sympathy. A man who can't be interrogated, because he has no memories to confess. They turned soldiers into traitors. That's what they're doing here. They're creating ghosts to go out in the world and do things sane men... Sane men never would.
🎞️ Shutter Island (2010)

Nov 1
Let me ask you. Any past traumas in your life?
- But why would that matter?
- Because they're gonna point to some event in your past and say it's the reason you lost your sanity. So that when they commit you here, your friends and colleagues will say, "Of course he cracked. "Who wouldn't after what he'd been through?" They can say that about anyone, anyone at all. The point is they're gonna say it about you.
🎞️ Shutter Island (2010)

Nov 1
🎬 Young Anthony Quinn (32) in Sinbad the Sailor (1947)

Nov 2
🖥️ AI image: surreal monument in the fog

Nov 2
🖥️ AI images: sports

Nov 2
🏉 Rugby. Serie A Elite maschile - 4a giorn, 2024-11-02, 14-48-29, Rai Sport HD

Nov 2
🚔 FLIC STORY

Nov 2
You take the beauty that is already inside of them and you bring it out. You illuminate it. That true beauty.
🎞️ THE BOLD AND THE BEAUTIFUL

Nov 2
🏉 ran Rugby live - Autumn Nations Series: 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 - 🇳🇿

Nov 2
🏉 ran Rugby live - Autumn Nations Series: 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 - 🇫🇯

Nov 2
🖥️ AI images: Crusaders

Nov 3
🕵️‍♂️ Lupin- il pericolo e' il mio mestiere

Nov 3
🤼 MMA - UFC Classiques

Nov 3
🖥️ AI image Generator - Lost Mayan city

Nov 3
🏉 Rugby Club

Nov 3
And you have to be able to roll with it. And I mean not to react to it. Because the reacting is the problem. It's not hearing the data, it's the reaction. You could hear data and you could not react. You could do that. Nobody's ever probably explained how. But you could do that. And it comes in form of just listening to things as data. Strip the emotion, you have excellent filtering capabilities. Someone says you look nice and you think why not every morning?
🟥 Sensitive.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wS3oAHw6HSI

Nov 3
You have the ability to change that filter, to only listen and interpret. You don't know what to say, you don't know what to do, you simply say thank you for the information, I'll think about that. That's it, that's all you say. Take time and think about it. Think from their perspective – who said it. Was their attention to hurt your feelings? It may not come hurting your feelings from a bad place, it might come from place where they were hurt.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wS3oAHw6HSI

Nov 3

Nov 3
You have to be able to hear that information and to use it as data to curate a better world. You can't start arguing with that information “The reason I was late..” - nobody cares about that. They have their own perspective. Different triggers – some get only disrespected at workplace. Usually you have specific things you want in return. You let them know that as you get very upset. That's how you fall in manipulation trap. “I always do for you”.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wS3oAHw6HSI

Nov 3
We always look at it – we put in a way more than the other person. You put a way more inappropriately. That's the problem. And your display of empathy is incorrect before remission. You need to learn what real empathy is. It makes somebody feel uncomfortable while building resentment on your side. Manipulative control empathetic mechanism that was using the empathy the wrong way.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wS3oAHw6HSI

Nov 3
His offering being a friend wasn't enough because that doesn't validate me as a person. I had to manipulate the validation. Do things for him so he pats me on the back, thank you so much you are such a good person. I was doing it for that. I wasn't doing it to be a good person. I was doing it so he told me that I am a good person. That built resentment, we don't understand love what it means. I wouldn't give so much. Not force to follow my rules.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wS3oAHw6HSI

Nov 3
🖥️ AI image generator: angry basketball player

Nov 3
Manipulating people, it infiltrates all aspects of our lives. Most of the time we don't even know that we're doing it. We just feel uncomfortable and our natural coping mechanisms kick in and create the scenario where we have a world around us that is comfortable. We don't want to feel vulnerable, we don't want to feel weak, feel attacked, feel scared- so to get around that we surround ourselves with people, jobs, ideas to keep us safe, it is not on purpose.
🟥 Sensitive S
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wS3oAHw6HSI

Nov 3
🇮🇹 Linea Verde - Calabria

Nov 3
🗞️ Mann-O-Meter

Nov 3
⚽ Téléfoot

Nov 3
I started sewing when I was quite young, thanks to my grandma who was always making costumes for us and mending our clothes.
I’d come up with what my grandma called “out there” ideas, like making a bag out of leaves or a full-on superhero costume with muscle padding. Instead of telling me it was too ambitious, she’d help me figure out how to make it happen.
👔 Luke Matthew

Nov 3
Carl Jung believed that personal growth often lies beyond our comfort zones. Exploration of unknown. Right community could provide emotional nourishment and support. Finding people who get them could reduce feelings of isolation and foster a sense of belonging.
🟥 Jung’s Shocking Revelation
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zO4R2Y94kvE

Nov 3
🖥️ AI image sports

Nov 3
🖥️ AI image Soccer team in sauna

Nov 3
🖥️ AI image Football team in underwear

Nov 3
🧁 Mohnschnecken

Nov 3
People like you don't change.
- People like me?
- Manipulators, schemers, liars. That's who you are.
🎞️ THE BOLD AND THE BEAUTIFUL

Nov 4
The way I sorted it out in my head is an association between risk, danger, humiliation, judgment and being seen. Most often this comes from childhood. An environment where you would be told by parents either get out of my sight (connection in child brain about being seen and negative emotion), or of having been heavily judged, persecuted and humiliated when the child is seen. Then a simple neural association is being made: being seen+stress
🟥 Social Anxiety And Narc Abuse
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJtWduhEFew

Nov 4
People who already have pre-existing social anxiety are more prone to getting into narcissistically abusive relationships. Being in narcissistically abusive relationships can increase social anxiety.If a person is already being nervous and anxious around being seen then it makes sense they would be averse to put themselves in situations where they are seen. One of major mechanism of narcissistic abuse is narc scanning the target for their vulnerabilities
🟥 RICHARD GRANNON
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJtWduhEFew

Nov 4
"every room has a door. Use it"

Nov 4
Limerence – narc is idealizing the target, the target is idealizing the narc. This is part of shared fantasy. It's not authentic recognition of another human being as a human being. It's person+story you creating, story they are feeding you, to create a fantasy. You're not accepting the person for reality of who they are. You're propping up the fantasy of who they want to be of who you need them to be.
🟥 RICHARD GRANNON
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJtWduhEFew

Nov 4
There are so many ways you can go with that question. Because I don't know you, I don't know your experience. People will jump “I know what she means” and you do that – you are projecting yourself onto the questioner. I don't want to do that because if I do that I'm going to take you where I need to go, not where you need to go. It's written in open-ended way. “How do I know what is normal interaction when everybody in my life is narc”
🟥 RICHARD GRANNON
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJtWduhEFew

Nov 4
When you are growing up you are internalizing people's view of the world, adults view so you can survive in it. The most negative introjects that you receive are called the inner critic, but they're just introjects. Tape recorder that plays blindly what significant authoritative figures in your life told you to be true about who you are and about what life is about. The inner critic would be the most negative of those recordings.
🟥 RICHARD GRANNON
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJtWduhEFew

Nov 4
🖥️ AI image ziggurat in the fog

Nov 4
Belittling words. Nothing better than being called stupid by someone who says they love you. Invalidates your feelings and needs. “You're really going to make big deal about that” “I was just kidding” Blames their toxic behavior on you. Before you met them life was easier. Needs to be victim at all time. Not taking accountability for anything. Interprets any feedback as attack. Gaslighting I never said that, you're crazy. Guilt tripping. Over-reactive
🟥 Narcissist Bingo 😂
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/u998yIEUfNw

Nov 4
🏉 Rugby Club

Nov 4

Nov 4
🍿 WB Animation

Nov 4
🎞️ Happy Halloween Scooby-Doo!

Nov 4
🎨 Aaron Rodgers sketch

Nov 4
🖥️ AI image wrestling

Nov 4
🇩🇪 Main German TV stations following American elections tomorrow

Nov 4
🥚 🥚 Fresh Bollocks

Nov 4
🎅 Weihnachtsmann & Co. KG

Nov 5
🖥️ AI image Sun God

Nov 5
🖥️ AI image Skyscraper in the field

Nov 5
Narcissistic people are naturally controlling, all of them. Extroverted folks in relationships with vulnerable narcissistic people probably experience this the worse. Because vulnerable narcissistic people are so oriented toward social anxiety already. And often have contempt for joy and for other people, the joy people have from being with other people. They control the narrative, social world, all of it.
🟥 DoctorRamani
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moBe4RUSg7A

Nov 5
Agreeableness may actually be a byproduct of the narcissistic relationship rather than a risk factor for getting into it. When you are in narcissistic relationship especially with a partner or friend or boss, you sometimes find yourself in the unwitting role of being a crisis management person. Your agreeableness is actually what can dissipate the harms of the entitled and abusive behavior that the narcissistic person may spew on the world.
🟥 DoctorRamani
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moBe4RUSg7A

Nov 5
We are shaped by these narcissistic relationships. And a lot of the shaping relates to psychological safety. Engaging in the responses that will make us safe. And for many of us that means warm, flexible, cheery empathic compliant, give-them-second-chance agreeableness that allowed these relationships to sustain for years to our detriment. Our agreeableness may get a little pruned once we step away, once we start to understand narcissism.
🟥 DoctorRamani
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moBe4RUSg7A

Nov 5
Big awakening for those been in narcissistic abuse: a) we recognize our agreeableness was a safety response but b) we recognize that there's also fear that comes up if I am the difficult one, there's a loss of love, loss of regard. But then agreeable people get bulldozed over quite regularly. So to get things done you had to be demanding and pushy which is out of repertoire. When people get off their behavioral repertoire they get very tired.
🟥 DoctorRamani
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moBe4RUSg7A

Nov 5
When we make noise the narcissistic person knows that a great way to control an agreeable person is to tell them that they're being difficult. So you stop making demands. And then the narcissistic person doesn't have to do what you're asking them to do. Idea of True North. I had to live with being difficult. But it definitely depletes you.
🟥 DoctorRamani,
The impact of a narcissistic relationship on YOUR personality
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moBe4RUSg7A

Nov 5
They'd often tell her how she was socially awkward. She's actually a really gregarious, warm, funny, very appropriate fun person. She wasn't odd. But she had been told that she said things wrong and she did things wrong, and that she looked foolish so many times by them by such loud primary voices in her life that she started to believe it. She would feel around people that they're going to need something. That other people meant you cannot relax.
🟥 DoctorRamani
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moBe4RUSg7A

Nov 5
🎨 Omar Marmoush sketch

Nov 5
That you had to be acutely aware of their needs, that your own needs could not be expressed, or met or were made secondary, that she would say wrong thing, so she said to hell with it. It's easier to be at home with TV shows she liked, books to read. It left her confused. Am I introvert? Do I prefer being alone? She remembered years ago when she was on her own that she loved being with people. Laughed, friends, classes. After narcissistic stuff who she was?
🟥 DoctorRamani
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moBe4RUSg7A

Nov 5
🖥️ IA image Oregon coast

Nov 5
November 5, 2024 - America is in an Act of Exorcism tonight. 🇺🇸

Nov 5
🖥️ IA image running

Nov 6
🖥️ AI image alien city in fog

Nov 6
You can't validate yourself. And all this is due to the first neural network that form surrounding how you feel about you, are crafted on what other people think about you. You are more worried in most cases about what the outside world thinks of you than you are what you think about you. So it's not so much about you don't know who you are as much as you've let the world tell you who you are. Step back and find your actual personality values.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ywTEnGytOz8

Nov 6
And you have to understand the difference between a label and an actual personality trait. You are not a mother. You are somebody who is nurturing. You are not hard worker, you are a provider. You are not a firefighter, you're a hero. Someone who puts other people's needs ahead of themselves. That's how you figure out who you are. Until you are sick of how your life is, you will not change.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ywTEnGytOz8

Nov 6

Nov 6
- I like going there and supporting Deacon.
- But she had ulterior motives.
- She was just thinking about herself and her feelings. Sad. I really believed in our relationship, in our friendship. I trusted Taylor.
🎞️ THE BOLD AND THE BEAUTIFUL

Nov 6
🎭 La flûte enchantée

Nov 6
🖥️ Ancient world walking

Nov 7
🖥️ IA image Julian Alps

Nov 7
The far right wants us to feel powerless. Extremists are counting on apathy, cynicism, heartbreak, or all of the above as their rocket fuel. They are counting on us to point fingers at each other, and to lose trust in our ability to ever, ever make change. I absolutely refuse to give them that satisfaction.
🇺🇸 Elizabeth Warren, TWITTER

Nov 7
Is it possible that I'm waiting for somebody to acknowledge who I am, to appreciate it before I start appreciating myself? Because when we wait on this, it's not going to happen.
🟥 Wenzes - INFJ LIFE COACH
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=05VPKa7FOps

Nov 7
🖥️ AI image Royal Canadian Mounted Police

Nov 7
🚔 flic story

Nov 7

Nov 7
Who am I now?
The first time I was aware I had an identity was when I decided as a teenager that I wanted to be a writer. As a child and young man I sufferer racial abuse at school and on the street. Calling myself a writer was a self-designation that protected me. I would walk about the city trying out phrases like "This is Hanif Kureishi, have you read his books?" it got me places.
📻 BBC Radio 4, Shattered by Hanif Kureishi

Nov 7
But since my accident I can feel my identity slipping. As if I'm forgetting who I am. Or becoming someone else. Or almost nothing. My imagination feels almost muted. I've lost a spark.
📻 BBC Radio 4, Shattered by Hanif Kureishi

Nov 7
🖥️ AI image Restaurant at the top

Nov 8
"It is your business when they tell you to your face."

Nov 8
You have curated this negativity your whole life,that's part of this problem. It's not that you were a victim, we all were victims, if you have BPD undoubtedly you've been a victim to some extent if not a full extent but that does not mean you're not responsible for creating the life you want to live. Nobody else is going to do it for you. You think if you continue to express negativity, other people will come to save you. No one's coming to save you
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3d6MnKSqH0

Nov 8
🖥️ AI image Rugby player running in the fog

Nov 8
My ex-wife complemented me and I thought it was an insult. I took it as an insult. Because BPD brain takes these things from the outside world and twists them up like a Rubik's cube. So they're no longer recognizable to the person who even set them. I wanted her to feel my pain. Secretly I thought if she understood my pain she could put an end to it. She could help me. That was a mistake. She can't. Won't be able to understand ever.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3d6MnKSqH0

Nov 8
🎭 Opera - La figlia del reggimento

Nov 8
Amygdala does not know the difference between the past, present and the future. If you're truly present in a negative memory and you go back in time and think about it,you will have the same chemicals from that experience regenerate and you will be negative, you will be upset. You will feel betrayed again. You will feel let down again. You will feel guilty again.You have to be able to look at past as someone else's story & extract details objectively
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3d6MnKSqH0

Nov 8
🔖 The Adventures of Dean Martin and Jerry Lewis

Nov 8
🎬 After Hour (1985)

Nov 8
🎹 Benedictus, the penultimate movement from The Armed Man: a Mass for Peace, which was composed by Karl Jenkins in 1999 and dedicated to the victims of the Kosovo war. Having been performed more than 3,000 times
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=njJsHbfY6V

Nov 8
🏉 Autumn Nations Series: 🇮🇪 - 🇳🇿

Nov 8
🖥️ AI image Two rugby players

Nov 8
🇹🇭 Phuket

Nov 9
🖥️ AI image Scenic road 1950s

Nov 9
Without freedom, without liberty it's hard to have love in your life. We see this in countries that are full of tyranny. If you go to former Soviet block for example you would see not a lot of love in the room in families. People who are in prison, their marriages, relationships are not doing very well. Because freedom is the currency of love. By having more freedom you say I want more time with meaningful conversation, to serve, to be with my friends.
✝️ HOUR OF POWER
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xaniw5kQ1eo

Nov 9
Most people do not have any kind of support system whatsoever in their life. The people who would be my support system are just way too fake to deal with. They're narcissists, they're toxic. And I don't want to deal with it. No community, no connection, people are without support system. These people, ain't free, they want something back from it. Wanted me to need them, it wasn't about me genuinely help me.
🟥 TruthTiger
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sUy4zaSMeeA

Nov 9
It's ok not to be ok. What I like about this saying is it allows for unpleasant emotional states and it acknowledges that life isn't always this indefinitely super awesome experience which we all know to be true. What I don't like undertone –we expect you to be ok eventually. That is not how mental health works for us. In core if happiness is difficult to have, I think it is ok. Every emotion is acute experience to some agree. You don't stay permanently
🟥 Dr. Scott Eilers
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2J2jbbXD5lE

Nov 9
I didn't feel like I was supposed to turn myself into something that doesn't appear to be who I was meant to be. If I had ability to make myself this easygoing generally happy life of the party person I think would have figured it out by now. The fact that I haven't, by trying really hard, in a lot of different ways including studying psychology, I'm still me. And I think this is just the way that I'm built. Not something to be ashamed of or change.
🟥 Dr. Scott Eilers
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2J2jbbXD5lE

Nov 9
And I have to figure out how to work with that truth – it's just me. Instead of trying to change that truth. Because I tried really hard. And there is tremendous sense of relief that comes from deciding to stop chasing something that you were never going to be able to catch. I found just trying to be happy in that kind of way is not fruitful use of my resources. Anything in your life that you hyperfocus on, you're become rigid and perfectionistic about.
🟥 Dr. Scott Eilers
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2J2jbbXD5lE

Nov 9
Whenever you leave a town, a job, a relationship, a friendship whatever it is, you can't go back to it. Because where you've probably elevated as person you've leveled up your life – there's no sense in turning around and going back. Because it is very likely that that person or that place or those people stayed the same. Wish them the best, have no ill will and carry on. You can't go back.
🟥 Robert C Eidson
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yh3jvOZ-RAU

Nov 9
Sander published in 1989 what happens inside a diad in the relationships inside of two people. And how they're unconsciously moderated, controlled, how grievances are dealt with and how compromises are made and so forth. He came up with the idea of Shared Fantasy. Dungeons and Dragons – role playing. It is a narrative inside we operate. If you are engaged in role play with narcissist – they live in psychotic break from reality.
🟥 RICHARD GRANNON
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NuqBoOmCXgE

Nov 9
It's a fantasy where they are special and amazing – and you are not. They're to be worshiped, you are a supplicant, a fan, a follower, you're a sacrifice to their grandiose false self. Shared fantasy does not disappear when relationship ends. It continues even after relationship has ended. So if the target is trapped inside narcissistic shared fantasy space I reference to Matrix. You're not going to recover. Must be dealt in therapy.
🟥 RICHARD GRANNON
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NuqBoOmCXgE

Nov 9
🐈 Signé Cat's Eyes

Nov 9
🎞️ THE BOLD AND THE BEAUTIFUL - workout

Nov 9
🎞️ THE BOLD AND THE BEAUTIFUL - trip to Rome

Nov 9

Nov 9
🏉 Autumn Nations Series: 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 - 🇦🇺

Nov 9
🏉 Autumn Nations Series: 🇮🇹 - 🇦🇷

Nov 9
🏉 Autumn Nations Series: 🇫🇷 - 🇯🇵

Nov 9
🖥️ AI image 4 soccer players

Nov 10
🖥️ AI image Sailing

Nov 10
Fighting battles that don't matter. There's a destiny to fulfill. There is calling on the line, assignment to accomplish. There's nothing more that enemy would love than to waste your time being distracted by the noise. Frustrated over things you can't change. Responding to people that are not part of your destiny. Letting the negative chatter keeping you worried and upset. Turn down the noise. And you will have peace, favor.
✝️ JOEL OSTEEN
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nlz9WTvbJTg

Nov 10
Mistake we make often is we try to stop the noise, stop this person from saying things and stop this issue. But you'll never be able to stop all the noise. You can't make people do what's right, correct every problem. You have to learn to turn the noise down. Don't let that get in your spirit. All that divisiveness and bitterness begun to poison him on the inside. He was trying to stop the noise. Get people to change their opinions. You can't control people.
✝️ JOEL OSTEEN
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nlz9WTvbJTg

Nov 10
Always some kind of drama, they'll try to draw you in. You have enough drama in your own life, you don't need their drama. Just because they call, it doesn't mean you have to answer. You don't have emotional energy to deal with it. You have to protect your peace, keep yourself emotionally healthy. “They might get upset”. Usually the noisiest people make the most withdrawals, but they make the least deposits. You are not responsible for their happiness.
✝️ JOEL OSTEEN
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nlz9WTvbJTg

Nov 10
I didn't want to see her but I felt obligated. I'm too nice. I didn't want to disappoint her. If I don't go, what she'll think. One day I realized – that my peace is important. That my time is valuable. That I cannot fulfill my destiny if I'm living with unnecessary noise. Burdened down with the problems that are not my responsibility. I realized this lady didn't want to change. She was addicted to drama. Comfortable in dysfunction. Living as victim all she known.
✝️ JOEL OSTEEN

Nov 10
⚽ Téléfoot

Nov 10
🇮🇹 Linea verde

Nov 10
Every single thought I had, every single emotion I felt, every single experience that was negative – even the positive ones BPD was infiltrated, controlling me. We let our emotions control our brain. We let it take over our thoughts. That's part of the issue. You need to be able to intervene at the emotional level. You need to be able to take control at that level. Before it becomes symptoms, before it becomes episode, splitting.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qdYqbjdQejM

Nov 10
Instead you will be focused on things you have to do to ensure that people like being around you. That's the best way to function – focus on what you can do. Don't focus on worries you can't control. Spend that time doing something that might give you some positive control. Not the manipulative type. That's being better person. Not because you want something in return.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qdYqbjdQejM

Nov 10

Nov 10
🏉 ran Rugby live - Autumn Nations Series: 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿 - 🇫🇯

Nov 10
🏉 ran Rugby live - Autumn Nations Series:🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 - 🇿🇦

Nov 10

🖥️ Baseball play

Nov 11
🖥️ AI image Sailor

Nov 11
🩰 Wartime Elegy : Une soirée de ballet à l'Opéra national d'Ukraine

Nov 11

🎤 MTV EMA 2024 Live from Manchester, 10 November

Nov 11
We tend to ruminate, we tend to fall very deeply in the past, most especially to our past mistakes. And this type of thinking monopolizes everything about our lives. It ends up holding us back. Usually if we aren't thinking about our past, we're thinking about the future that hasn't happen yet – almost always from a negative perspective. Regardless of angle you hitting it from. Fall deeply in mistakes I made, they are all traps. We take it too far.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rB3NFDVeav8

Nov 11
We let it control and manipulate our future thoughts. To an extreme degree. This keeps us trapped in a place where negativity festers and we end up producing more mistakes. This is the curse of knowledge.When you fail so much you believe that now know that failure is inevitable, you are more likely to fail.That kind of mentality keeps you trapped in failure. More you predict, more you fail. It's a loop. Very hard to get out of, trapped in for decades
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rB3NFDVeav8

Nov 11
We put all our energy in worrying about it happening and none of our energy into maybe preventing it. Doing things that could prevent it. That type of mentality cause us to seek inappropriate reassurance. You could say until you're blue in your face the reason I'm so angry is because of I had bad relationship with my father. I could write that over and over again – it's not going to change the developed coping mechanisms that I have now.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rB3NFDVeav8

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Nov 12
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Nov 12
If you were raised in environment with quite narcissistic parents who are very judgmental, very persecutory, they got on your back about a lot of things a lot of the time, if they saw you and there was a chance to pounce on you, that will generate social anxiety. If you already had that then you are in narcissistically abusive relationship -the social anxiety will be worse. If you never had social anxiety and then trapped in narc, then you can develop SA
🟥 RICHARD GRANNON
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VwYzVk7fOhA

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Nov 13
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Nov 13
Remember that you are in that part of cycle. When you start to feeling like it's all your fault, or it's somebody else's fault or somebody else to blame, or you're to blame, or you feel massively guilty, feel embarrassed, you feel shame, that's when you know you're starting to come out of episode and you're starting to move into the next part of the cycle. In order to get back to normal days faster we need to get rid of all unproductive behavior.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1e4ha8zjwzE

Nov 13
Because this is inflated nonsense. A neurotypical person hurts other people's feelings. But they don't feel guilty for hours and hours and days. And they don't hurt other people's feelings and then make the other person, person that they hurt, make them feel better. They don't do that. They skip that type of behavior, they say sorry or pay their pennants – you do the crime then you go to jail. You serve your time but BPD people don't leave the cell.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1e4ha8zjwzE

Nov 13
The root of all this is how you're feeling about yourself. You have to love yourself enough to value your reputation, your rapport, your self-respect, your dignity, you have to love yourself enough to identify that these things matter in order to even consider wanting to face the triggers. I had to love myself enough to face each of the demons that were standing in the way of me beating the triggers. To allow other people have an opinion.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1e4ha8zjwzE

Nov 13
Abusive people are coming to the surface, during times of distress you’ll see their maladaptive way of being surface and they will become bullies etc. I think we are seeing more of that as a consequence of societal strife.

Nov 13
Nice people: How do we help narcissists? At the beginning of my description and I started very consciously by saying “Their personality disorder starts with a no” “No, no, NO”. It's infantile. It's a denial. The essence of personality disorder is no. Why? At some point in their development, they started to reject reality that didn't conform with their fantastical self-image, with their grandiose false self, Godlike so it starts with a no.
🟥 RICHARD GRANNON
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=exre5Lp_ZaM

Nov 13
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Nov 14
I think one way is to repeat to yourself over and over that they're literally nothing. Their opinions, suggestions, way of life, thoughts, expectations etc have literally zero value.

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Nov 15
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Nov 15
The right mentality. The first step I'm going to be completely honest with myself. This person said that I'm hot-head – maybe they're right. That time partner said I had not patience – maybe they're right. That time my friends said that they can't tell me certain things because I get upset – maybe they're right. Maybe they're all right. Maybe they're aren't. It's in my advantage to take in all data and consider everything. It's nothing to lose there.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oit9ffReI7E

Nov 15
Forgiveness is not a necessity to change the behavioral characteristics. It is an essential necessity if you want all the suffering to end. As long as you feel any type of grievance towards anyone, it could be some backstabbing friend years ago, it could be variety of ways people hurt you, you have to make peace with it if you don't want to carry the weight. If you have not forgiven someone, haven't made peace with it – you're carrying that weight.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oit9ffReI7E

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Nov 16
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Nov 16
Design your life. It's your life to design. If you don't design your life, someone else will. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much. How far they want you to go? Not very far to keep eye on you. How many live they want you to touch? Not many. How much money do they want you to make? As little as they can get away paying you. As you design it, the other people who used to design it will say stop that, my job to tell you what to do. Ignore them.
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As we all know fashion can be anything. From fun to glamorous to even pushing boundaries, once in a while. But it is a way for us to express ourselves and our identities. That we stand for something more than just beautiful clothes.
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