April 2023 Twitter

 April 1, 2023

Convergent Thinker is Yang:
- Logical
- Objective
- Intellectual
- Realistic
- Planned
- Discriminative
- Structured
- Quantitative

Divergent Thinker is Yin:
- Intuitive
- Subjective
- Emotional
- Imaginative
- Impulsive
- Holistic
- Free-wheeling
- Qualitative

 

 Apr 1

Society sees yelling and screaming and correcting someone's mistakes as  alpha and masculinity and sign of maturity and competence. In real life being in constant mode of survival is hypervigilance, it is  living life in constant spasm, it is not healthy.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2023/03/social-anxiety-is-rejection-sensitive.html

Apr 1

Lateral thinking (horizontal thinking) is a form of ideation where designers approach problems by using reasoning that is disruptive or not immediately obvious. They use indirect and creative methods to think outside the box and see problems from radically new angles...

Apr 1

The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination.
Albert Einstein

Apr 1

Types of thinking hats

Apr 1

We talk as if we are talking about the same thing
But often we are not

Apr 1

April storm.

 Apr 1
Rugby Europe Men's Trophy from Makarska (Croatia)
Croatia v Switzerland
22 - 32
https://youtube.com/watch?v=S5en_zLXzU8

Apr 2

People with social anxiety can't talk without a pre-arranged script!
Bocchi the Rock! - Episode 12

Apr 2

This story opens with a lot of people in court - Most of them should be in jail --
Do Detectives Think? (1927)
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Qj-XbsGzq_s

 

Apr 2

It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation.
Herman Melville

Apr 2

Better to sleep with a sober cannibal than a drunk Christian.
Herman Melville, Moby Dick

Apr 2

Of all the preposterous assumptions of humanity over humanity, nothing exceeds most of the criticisms made on the habits of the poor by the well-housed, well-warmed and well-fed.
Herman Melville (August 1, 1819 – September 28, 1891)

Apr 2

The devil loves unspoken secrets. Especially those that fester in a man's soul.
Herman Melville

Apr 2

Genius is full of trash.
Herman Melville

Nigerian television
https://gidauniyaglobaltvandradio.com
 

Apr 2

I need you.
- Don't you ever say that again. You don't need me. You don't need anybody.  I thought I needed Kruger and I could never work without him, but I could, I did. I thought I needed Carlotta, that I couldn't live without but I could, I did
Two Weeks in Another Town (1962)

Apr 2

It is only when caught in the swift, sudden turn of death, that mortals realize the silent, subtle everpresent perils of life.
Herman Melville

Apr 2

No man can ever feel his own identity aright except his eyes be closed: as if darkness were indeed the proper element of our essences.
Herman Melville

Apr 2

See how elastic our stiff prejudices grow when once love comes to bend them.
Herman Melville

Apr 2

In this world sin can travel freely without a passport; whereas virtue is stopped at all frontiers.
Herman Melville

Apr 2

Upon waking up the next morning about daylight, I found Queequeg’s arm thrown over me in the most loving and affectionate manner.  You had almost thought I had been his wife.
Chapter 4: The Counterpane | Moby Dick (1851) | Herman Melville
https://etc.usf.edu/lit2go/42/moby-dick/625/chapter-4-the-counterpane/
 

 

Apr 3
The Palace of Palenque (c. 600–900 ce)
Chiapas state, Mexico

 

 Apr 3
Patton approached Bennett, who was huddled and shivering, and asked what the trouble was. "It's my nerves," Bennett responded. "I can't stand the shelling anymore." Patton reportedly became enraged at him, slapping him across the face.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_S._Patton_slapping_incidents

 Apr 3
Prior to WWI, the U.S. Army considered the symptoms of battle fatigue to be cowardice or attempts to avoid combat duty. Soldiers who reported these symptoms received harsh treatment. "Shell shock" had been diagnosed as a medical condition during WWI.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_S._Patton_slapping_incidents

Apr 3
Don't look for safe harbor among your colleagues, and especially not from your supervisors. You're just too much for them to handle, and they may decide there's "something wrong with you."
The Highly Sensitive Person, Elaine N. Aron

Apr 3
Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.
Coco Chanel

Apr 3
Abandon the whole positivity and negativity vibe. People who tout that use it as a weapon on others because they like living in their own little bubble.  If there is a problem then it's not negative.  If someone says something you don't like or disagree with it's not negative.

Apr 3
Smelling other people’s body odour could help reduce social anxiety by 40%, Swedish researches have found out.
YT Firstpost
"Want To Get Over Social Anxiety? Try Smelling Other People's Body Odour"
https://youtube.com/watch?v=fvf3OOjscJs

Apr 3
Smell of sweat may ease social anxiety for some people, researchers find
YT CBS Boston
https://youtube.com/watch?v=2ztmSUsQZss
 

Apr 3
The absence of agreeableness, basically disagreeableness, is a person who does not work well with others, takes advantage of others, lacks empathy, is arrogant, oppositional, selfish, and entitled.  Agreeableness is vulnerability to understand
DoctorRamani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QU10mQLgawA

 
Apr 3
Empathy, humility, belief in other people, selflessness can all mean even above trauma bond is intrinsic willingness to make excuses and justify and see other person's point of view no matter how badly behaving.
DoctorRamani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QU10mQLgawA

Apr 3
The informal designation people use Empath is lay person's word for a person high in this quality of agreeableness. And as a result agreeable people can get stuck for lifetime in toxic relationships. It is personality, not amenable to change.
DoctorRamani

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QU10mQLgawA

Apr 3
It is painful and heartbreaking because an agreeable person in a narcissistic relationship can spend a lifetime blaming themselves for everything that went wrong and always trying to meet the narcissistic person 90% of the way.
DoctorRamani

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QU10mQLgawA

Apr 3
People high in Openness may be willing to explore relationship with anyone who seems interesting. May be so open that they are also tolerant of narcissistic person's behavior, willing to entertain the narc views even if problematic.
DoctorRamani
https://youtube.com/watch?v=0PBi1kgBP-8

Apr 3
Twitter is falling apart?

 
Apr 3
Pulpit in the shape of a ship,
Moby Dick (1956)

Not all narcissism is peacock, grandiose, in some way narcissistic presentation is really vulnerable. It's they very socially anxious, always a victim, you always need to rescue them. So people think I can't leave someone down.
YT Dr. Ramani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BRxDVs1eeNk

 Apr 4

The fear of being alone can really cause people to put up with some bad crap.
Tracy

Apr 4

We make it about responsibility on person going through narc abuse and they are already blaming themselves. They think all this narc person behavior is their fault.
Dr. Ramani

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BRxDVs1eeNk

Apr 4

Those traits we detest; sharpness, greed, acquisitiveness, meanness, egotism and self-interest are the traits of success.
John Steinbeck (Cannery Row 1945)

Apr 4

It takes great courage to back truth unacceptable to our times.
John Steinbeck

Apr 4

Socialism never took root in America because the poor see themselves not as exploited proletariat but as temporary embarrassed millionaires.
John Steinbeck

Apr 4

And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good.
John Steinbeck

 Apr 4

It's so much darker when a light goes out than it would have been if it had never shone.
John Steinbeck

Apr 4

He is forced now to live in reality.
John King, CNN

Apr 5

One of the main narratives that gets school system to work is basically the idea if you don't go along with the system then you're going to die poor & alone. And then we're forced to believe this institution is humanitarian and care about us.
YT Nick Taber

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QMTMLSVlkQs

 Apr 5

All of these physical symptoms are coming from the emotions that are underneath that are trying to tell you that something is seriously wrong with the reality of your situation that you are facing, to encourage you to get away from it.
YT Psych Insights
https://youtube.com/watch?v=qM7ydiHcAXo

Apr 5

When you're in it - it is really difficult to see- mistake of assuming people would just be doing the right thing and would be good natured. Then make easier to walk away. Don't expect other side to play fair.
YT TOXIC People In The Workplace
https://youtube.com/watch?v=FqmXVC9Bshw
 

Apr 5

Bizarre thing with narcissists is they realize provided I act super-confident, I never need to become competent: because I just get angry when people challenge me. That's all I have to do.
YT Psych Insights
https://youtube.com/watch?v=76ncqKtbGTA
 

 

Apr 5

Making decision we got data, an algorithm, we see result, compare to reality and then we fine-tune. Most of us – What I'm doing is not working anymore so I need to change. But narcissists has so much hubris they refuse to change.
YT Psych Insights
https://youtube.com/watch?v=76ncqKtbGTA
 

 

Apr 5

Narcissists go; Problem is with the world. Instead of thinking I made a mistake, pause rewind, let's do things differently. Narcissists are so focused on confidence they don't understand as long it's working it's fine
YT Psych Insights|| Frederik Ribersson

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=76ncqKtbGTA

Apr 5

Fawning response happens when we begin to appease the abusive person. We begin to people please the person who is being abusive. It's all my fault. Trying to reduce distance between me and person pushing me away.
YT Lisa Romano
https://youtube.com/watch?v=kGMey6_vVhM
 

 

You don't have to seek worthiness by proving that you are good enough to someone else. You don't have to seek worthiness through suffering anymore. You don't have to seek validation, tolerate abusive relationship.
YT Lisa Romano

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=kGMey6_vVhM

Apr 5

You can live your whole life this way – unaware that you are unaware, unaware that you're fawning, and unaware that you are in relationships with people who like when you fawn, who like when you're confused.
YT Lisa Romano

Apr 5

Let them judge you. Just keep shining like you always do.
Scott Stabile

Apr 5

Judging a person does not define who they are, it defines who you are.

Apr 5

If you react to offensive things - everyone thinks you are the one that is out of line. You appear to be the unreasonable one.
Maria Consiglio

 Apr 5

It's hard to stay true to who you are.

Apr 5

Well behaved women rarely make history.
Marilyn Monroe

Apr 5

Be curious, not judgmental.
Walt Whitman

Apr 5

How You Can Deal With Highly Judgmental People
Look at it as a life lesson.
Don't sink to their level.
Look beyond the obvious.
See them as if they were a child.
Have an attitude of gratitude.
Focus your attention on other people who love and support you. 

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/how-you-can-deal-with-highly-judgmental-people.html

Apr 5

Unspoken rule is - narcissists are always right, no matter what!
Exposing The Narcissist
Maria Consiglio

Apr 5

A wise girl knows her limits,
a smart girl knows that she has none.
Marilyn Monroe

 Apr 5

It's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.
Marilyn Monroe

Apr 5

It's all make believe, isn't it?
Marilyn Monroe

As heard on ClassicNL radio:
Song for Octave · Bertrand Chamayou

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUETHAViCGk

 Apr 5

Either define the moment or the moment will define you.
Walt Whitman

Apr 5

I exist as I am, that is enough.
Walt Whitman

Apr 5

The Night Prowler 

Apr 6
Anxiety is not localized in the mind. Understand wiring of your brain, what are lessons you learned in childhood. It triggers activity in our brain that causes us to perceive things as threats. All based on emotional energy.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=oWf_v_sSPuw
 

Apr 6
Detachment where you separate yourself from ego. And so what if someone doesn't like you. Imagine what your life would be like if you were not always trying to shape and control other people's perception of you.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=oWf_v_sSPuw
 

 

Apr 6
When did I learn that I cannot afford to piss anyone off? That's samskar (ball of emotions) that is controlling you that is preventing the detachment. Spiritual practices can help you develop Detachment.
YT HealthyGamerGG

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=oWf_v_sSPuw

Apr 6
The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.
Robert Greene

Apr 6
Respond to people as they are, not as you want them to be.
Robert Greene

Apr 6
You must not be afraid of your uniqueness.
Robert Greene

Apr 6
Never be distracted by people's glamorous portraits of themselves and their lives; search and dig for what really imprisons them.
Robert Greene

 Apr 6
Never be put off by your target's anger; it is a sure sign of enslavement.
Robert Greene

Apr 6
Embrace your strangeness. Identify what makes you different. Fuse those things together and become an anomaly.
Robert Greene

Apr 6
You can do what you want to do - in living color!
https://youtube.com/watch?v=sWHX7QF8ETE
 

 

Apr 6
Why is there something rather than nothing?
Gottfried Wilhelm Leibniz

Apr 6
The biggest challenge with people who are depressed - they're logically correct but they're operating from the wrong assumptions. And you can't logic yourself out of assumption, it's very difficult. What you have to do:Change your perception
HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PmGIwRvcIrg
 

 

Apr 6
Amazing stuff can happen when your logic starts working in the right direction instead of trying to feed your hoplesness which is what the logic does. You use it to tackle hopelesness instead. Build emotional awareness.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PmGIwRvcIrg
 

 

Apr 6
poison pen letter
an anonymous letter that is libellous, abusive, or malicious.

 Apr 6
You are a little rigid. Too ready to judge. You believe that people are either good or bad. Yet, good and evil can change places. Like light and shadow. How can we be sure where the one ends and the other begins. Or which side we are on at a given moment.
The 13th Letter (1951)

 Apr 6
People who are mentally unbalanced no matter how cleverly they cover their tracks for a time, finally do something like this which gives them away.
The 13th Letter (1951)

Apr 6
I think you're sick and need someone to take good care of you. Once you're free of him you'll soon be cured.
The 13th Letter (1951), Otto Preminger

 Apr 7
Easter in Spain is celebrated in an... intense way.

 Apr 7
On 16 September 1994, there was a UFO sighting outside Ruwa, Zimbabwe. 69 pupils at the Ariel School aged between six and twelve claimed that they saw one or more silver craft descend from the sky and land on a field near their school.
Ruwa UFO incident

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RijcHzs7Z5k

 Apr 7
I think a lot of these existensial questions that we wrestle with in the 21st century of like who am I, why am I here, what I am suppose to be doing- these are are luxuries. These are very first world problems.
YT Mark Manson | Tom Bilyeu
https://youtu.be/H2YT4wYiyUw

Apr 7
Easter flowers

 

 

Apr 7
Der fliegende Cat

Apr 7
The Regressive people had very strange ideas about how to live. They didn't want to learn new things or use any of the technology. They decided to live somewhere else. But they couldn't take very good care of themselves. They fought. They spread all kinds of diseases.
ST Voyager

 Apr 7
This is the real tragedy of people who are smart who struggle with depression is that their ability to digest emotion s underdeveloped. They've been smart their whole lives so they never developed emotional awareness.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PmGIwRvcIrg

 Apr 7
They don't even mention emotion. Their emotional awareness has been underdeveloped because they're relied on IQ their whole life. Understand this is primarily driven by emotion. We don't logic our way out of emotions.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PmGIwRvcIrg

Apr 7
We don't logic our way out of emotions. It's not how brain works, it's not how we are wired. What we do is validate and process those emotions. Emotions can trump logic. Recognize, name, tolerate and process emotions.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PmGIwRvcIrg

 

Apr 7
Tikal: Temple of the Jaguar (Templo I), 1000-1150
Abandoned: c. 1450
Guatemala

 

 Apr 8
What a beautiful colorful cartoon from France
"Oum le dauphin blanc" / Zoom the White Dolphin
https://youtube.com/watch?v=DEZRQN_EXaM

 
Apr 8
Maya observed unlucky days:
"The unlucky five-day period was known as uayeb, and was considered an ominous time which could precipitate danger, death and bad luck"
https://historymuseum.ca/cmc/exhibitions/civil/maya/mmc06eng.html


PS
"Uayeb" in Balkan languages is very similar to vulgar profanity expression of "f*ck-up".

 Apr 8

To make something clean, you have to make something else dirty.
HOUR OF POWER

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cp8bLrrAuNw

The day the Lord created hope was probably the same day He created spring.
Bernard Williams

Apr 8

"Those who seek paradise on Earth should come to Dubrovnik and see Dubrovnik."
George Bernard Shaw

Apr 8

The test of a man or woman's breeding is how they behave in a quarrel.
George Bernard Shaw

The Easter egg symbolizes our ability to break out of the hardened, protective shell we've surrounded ourselves with.
Siobhan Shawely

Apr 8

Before the image could be interpreted, it was first necessary to 'see' the image clearly, that is, to recognize and identify the individual motifs from which it was composed. The serpent had first to be recognized as such within the image.
"Lost Cities of the Maya", New Horizons

Apr 8

The exploration of human behavior under simulated conditions of stress is a commonplace component of the machinery called war. So long as man anticipates and prepares for combat, these unreal games must be played, and there are only real men to play them.
The Outer Limits S1 E10

Apr 8

Maya art makes no attempt to be 'realistic': it expresses not what is seen, but what is known. The subject is modified until it is almost completely unrecognizable when compared to the original. Maya artists altered the proportions = decoding complicated.
Lost Cities of the Mayas

Apr 8

The serpent is the most common natural form in Maya art. This was the Maya way of representing the appearance in this world of a creature belonging to the other world.
Lost Cities of the Maya (New Horizons) By Claude Baudez, Sydney Picasso

 

Apr 8

Maya is a pleasant language with some charming metaphors. With a careful choice of words one can reduce ill effects. If a tiger-ant bites you, say, 'A dry leaf bit me', for if you admit it was the bite of a tiger, you will feel it for several days.
J. Eric S. Thompson, 1963

Apr 8

See how quiet it is now? See how easily one can shut down excitement? Just by closing a window. Remember that Gilda.
Gilda (1946)

 Apr 8

All bad things end up lonely, little one.
Gilda (1946)

Apr 9

Our words have the power to lift people or push people down. We can say something to make them feel better about themselves or make them feel worse. You're words can be like life giving water. People are thirsty.
JOEL OSTEEN

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AbBSeQcz2iM

Apr 9

Tell people what they're doing right, not what they're doing wrong. Most people feel badly enough already about themselves, they are already beaten down enough by life, let's be healers, let's push people forward.
JOEL OSTEEN

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AbBSeQcz2iM

 
Apr 9
Hast thou, then, nothing more to mention?
Com'st ever, thus, with ill intention?
Find'st nothing right on earth, eternally?
Faust (1808), Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
https://gutenberg.org/files/14591/14591-h/14591-h.htm

Apr 9
Copanecks became victims of their own success. As the city grew land was covered by houses. And they were basically cutting themselves off from their own food source. As time went by all of the forest was eliminated, this caused wide spread erosions.
Lost Kingdoms of the Maya, NG

Apr 9
The Miracle of the Sun occurred on 13 October 1917 near Fatima in Portugal. Thousands saw the sun apparently spinning in the sky, becoming blue and then yellow and changing size, for about 10 minutes.
(theguardian)

 

 Apr 9
Not if he had them by the neck, I vow,
Would e'er these people scent the Devil!
Faust (1808), Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Apr 9
The prophecy also warns of dire consequences across the globe if Russia isn't consecrated. In 1957 interview sister Lucia repeats the warning: Russia will be instrument of chastisement choses by Heaven to punish the whole world.
The Last Pope? (2018)

 
Apr 9
Sister Lucia promises if consecration of Russia is done, there would be peace. Russia would be converted, and a great period of peace would be given to the world. She warned that if it's not done, whole calamities will happen.
The Last Pope? (2018)

Apr 9
The Serpent's Promise
'In the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil'
Eritis sicut Deus: scientes bonum et malum

Apr 10
They don't realize that they have a gift in disguise. They have very obsessive and creative minds but do everything to numb it down. However the problem is not your mind but what you do with it. Instead of self sabotage, use it to express creativity.
mahre

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/qP2xx0m11NY

 Apr 10
Do you wish to offer yourself to God to endure all the suffering he may please to send you, to help atone for the sins by which he is offended. And to ask for the conversion of sinners? Then you will have much to suffer.
The Miracle of Our Lady of Fatima (1952)

Apr 10
In visual art, horror vacui or kenophobia is a phenomenon in which the entire surface of a space or an artwork is filled with detail and content.
"Horror of the void"
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Horror_vacui_(art)
 

 

 

Apr 10
Youth always tries to fill the void, an old man learns to live with it.
Mark Z. Danielewski

Apr 10
What's real or isn't real doesn't matter here. The consequences are the same.
House of Leaves, Mark Z. Danielewski

 Apr 10
Maturity, one discovers, has everything to do with the acceptance of "not knowing".
Mark Z. Danielewski

Apr 10
When you see a night with a strange light in the sky, you will know it is a sign that the world is about to be punished for its crimes. In Russia there is an evil scheme to destroy the peace of the Earth.
The Miracle of Our Lady of Fatima (1952)

 
Apr 10
It is necessary that people amend their lives. Let them offend our Lord God no more. He is already much offended.
The Miracle of Our Lady of Fatima (1952)

Apr 10
Have no fear, you will find your way. It's in your bones. It's in your soul.
Mark Z. Danielewski

Apr 10
What we do now echoes in eternity.
Marcus Aurelius

Apr 10
If the people of the world will pray as our Lady asked them to, God will send us peace.
The Miracle of Our Lady of Fatima (1952)

Apr 10
Nothing can exist without a cause.
Voltaire

Apr 10
We become aware of the void as we fill it.
Antonio Porchia

Apr 10
Illusion is needed to disguise the emptiness within.
Arthur Erickson

Apr 10
If giving leaves you feeling empty, you're giving too much to the wrong person.
Maza Dohta

Apr 10
He who jumps into the void owes no explanation to those who stand and watch.
Jean-Luc Godard

Apr 10
Dare to think for yourself.
Voltaire

Apr 10
It's difficult to free fools from the chains they revere.
Voltaire

Apr 11

The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.
Exodus 14:14

Apr 11

There's this emotional transfer of energy. They'll engage in particular behaviors, they'll say certain things that make you feel worse. The longer the fight goes the more stable they seem to get and the more unstable you're getting.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=3X30suG6igk
 

Apr 11

Suppressed emotions stay in the body. The effects of suppressed emotions include anxiety, depression, and other stress-related illnesses.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PDKvk6wrj-Y

Apr 11

Suppressed emotions may show up as:
- migraines
- skin rashes
- chronic pain
- hormonal imbalances
- tiredness
- digestive issues
- tension
- diabetes
- heart disease
- trouble focusing
- high blood pressure
- insomnia
- autoimmune
- amnesia

Apr 11

Make Tyrants Afraid Again 

Apr 12

Do you take it personally when someone gives you constructive criticism?
We feel those anxieties beforehand, when we actually are IN the social situation, it's going to be WAY amplified.
YT What is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria?
https://youtube.com/watch?v=r_2H13Q6n8c

Apr 12
Still terrified of rejection I developed a socially acceptable persona. I learned how to act confident enough so I wouldn't be teased with super confident kids but not too confident to avoid attention and scrutiny.
YT Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
https://youtube.com/watch?v=KJLTXJIjxWY
 

 

Apr 12
Most of my life almost all of my interaction with other people was simply designed to avoid rejection. Not to connect, or anything like that. I learned to say neutral, like sports or funny. I laughed - I noticed that people like when I laugh at their jokes
https://youtube.com/watch?v=KJLTXJIjxWY
 

Apr 12
RSD showed up for me to be people-pleaser. Also as type of perfectionism and avoiding taking risks or putting myself out there. Plagued by fear of rejection I tried to put myself out there; I found I always self-sabotaged so that I don't get too exposed.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=KJLTXJIjxWY

 

Apr 12
I always have to come back to my priorities, my core values, and what are my goals, and what does my calendar say. Do I actually have time to do things for this person. Because we do tend to be people pleasers.
YT Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Dgh4aJv3JvE
 

 

Apr 12
Sometimes criticism & rejection is imagined but not always. ADHD researchers estimate that by age 12 children with ADHD get 20,000 more negative messages about themselves than other kids their age and all that criticism can take toll on their self esteem.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=K3zkqtFEBY0
 

 

Apr 12
Wanting to get everything right is a way to fend off hypervigilance and criticism. “When will I have uncomfortable social interaction, disappoint, mess up that I don't know how to cope with”. I call it perfectionism procrastination
YT Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=K3zkqtFEBY0
 

 

Apr 13
Emotional intelligence is your ability to
- identify feelings in yourself and others
- regulate and respond to your emotions
- respond appropriately to other's emotions
You can know a lot about emotions and not regulating them.
YT Doc Snipes
https://youtube.com/watch?v=FXjiWkqp9NM

 

Apr 13
Know your social cues

Apr 13
Adult communication
refuse to communicate your norms while gaslighting me under norms are a universal maxim.

Apr 13
Management solution

Apr 13
How the customer explained it VS What the customer really needed

Apr 13
Irish proverb,
'your feet will bring you where your heart is'

 

Apr 13
From a young age an autistic child try to engage with other people. But they may not quite do it right. So they may constantly get messages from other people that you're doing it wrong , you're bad, you're misbehaving.
YT Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
https://youtube.com/watch?v=dOHEmB6QyG4
 

Apr 13
They may close into themselves, may do more masking behavior to fit in. They can hide more of their identity and who they are,they can be very afraid of rejection or perceived rejection from others, so used other pushing them away, telling them off or giving disapproving messages

Apr 13
They can become very fearful of disapproval. They can be constantly on the watch for other people's emotions for signs of disapproval and this can go into rejection sensitive dysphoria. Constantly anxious, worried, on edge about other people.
YT RSD
https://youtube.com/watch?v=dOHEmB6QyG4

 

Apr 13
They don't feel like they can go ahead and do certain things on their own or do things at all because there's always that fear that it might go wrong, that other people may disapprove. That can lead to OCD thinking as well.
YT Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
https://youtube.com/watch?v=dOHEmB6QyG4
 

 

Apr 13
On one side person can end up rejecting other people. With another person they become people pleaser. This may mean they are always masking, never form their own identity, never feel safe in who they are, expressing what's going on inside for them
YT Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

Apr 13
Alternative explanation for "narcissistic abuse" and analogistic/ egocentric personalities:

Apr 13
Warn a kid with oppositional defiant disorder not to do something, and you've pretty much guaranteed the crime.
Lisa Gardner

Apr 13
29-millimeter-long marine worm discovered in 2017 at Japan.
"But it wasn’t until researchers brought them to the lab that they noticed how noisy they were."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CK905ivFQ_A

 Apr 14

Psychology needs to provide us general directions, explain us the  ambient and objects - and it is up to us to use all information and data  in order to make healthy decisions in life.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2023/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2023.html

Apr 14

So now when you go into your emotionally explosive mode I can respond in new ways. When you try to dominate and get extremely loud I remind myself you try to intimidate and control and it's not my fault you can't manage it.
YT How To Set A Boundary
https://youtube.com/watch?v=EzZ0nZtiYkI

Apr 14

When you have unrealistic expectations I can remind myself that my role in life isn't to meet those expectations. When you blame me for things I'll no longer defend myself, not feel guilt, or make you feel better. I can change how I respond to you.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=EzZ0nZtiYkI
 

 

Apr 14

Narcissists have a predator type personality. Generally speaking, they lack empathy, they feel entitled to exploit other people emotionally, financially, spiritually, physically, and even sexually. Learn about narcissism just as we learn looking both ways when crossing street.
LR 

 Apr 14

"4am is a b*tch. It's when my prefrontal cortex is offline, and my amygdala has free reign to terrorize me."

Apr 14

"Scientific studies have shown that neurotypicals judge autistic people more negatively for no known reason. Even when we say and do the same things. I call it a them problem, but it does make one expect rejection and that everyone is laughing at us all the time."

Apr 14

Last night in Austrian Alps close to Slovenia, this webcam image triggered the false alarm for firefighters.
"The supposed fire was an optical illusion. As it turned out later, the light came through the new exterior lighting of the house in the fog"
https://kaernten.orf.at/stories/3202974/
 

Apr 14

Recognition Responsive Euphoria:
people who are so accustomed to making mistakes and receiving criticism, they become positively giddy when they receive positive recognition.

 

Apr 14

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria
is extreme emotional sensitivity and pain triggered by perceived or real rejection or criticism.

Apr 14

I received this comment on my YT channel:
"I was conducting some research and saw your channel. The content is fantastic. Bless you and keep it up."

I answered: That is horrible because it is a sign that experts who are suppose to teach us - are not doing their job.

Apr 14

In this house...
we do second chances
we do grace
we do real
we do mistakes
we do I'm sorry
we do loud really well
we do hugs
we do family
we do love

Apr 14

To understand all is to forgive all.
Evelyn Waugh

Apr 14

If you really like resolving uncertainties and escaping your fears and getting rid of intrusive thoughts, then all your brain has to do is to give you more of those so you can spend more time and energy getting rid of them.
YT Mark Freeman
https://youtube.com/watch?v=laeYq51SYA0
 

 

Apr 15

La Casa de los Azulejos (The House of Tiles) in Mexico City

 

Apr 15

He framed it – you see the bad that happens and the good, and you try to focus on positive things, but here is what you focus on: you fall in love with everything that is possible – not positive. That seed grows in victory in life.
Hour of Power
https://youtube.com/watch?v=uIn54l2VL9k

Apr 15
It's not just that you do awesome all the time – it's that you give all you've got all the time even when you stink. That's all that life asks from us, not that we're the best. But that we give our best and forget the rest.
Hour of Power
https://youtube.com/watch?v=uIn54l2VL9k

 

Apr 15
Sky News Arabia showing sudden civil war in Sudan live on TV.

 
Apr 15
Energy can't be changed. The energy of genius, of madness, of the heart. Of the atom. And so it must be lived with. It must be controlled, channeled for good. Held isolated from evil. And somehow lived with, peacefully.
The Outer Limits S1 E11 - It Crawled Out of the Woodwork

Apr 16
If someone had a hard time reaching a high shelf, would you tell them they just need to be taller? Of course not. But you could suggest they use a stepladder.

https://theconversation.com/what-causes-adhd-and-can-it-be-cured-170179

 Apr 16
Normal people have an incredible lack of empathy. They have good emotional empathy, but they don't have much empathy for the autistic kid who is screaming.. or having meltdown because there's too much stimulation.
Temple Grandin

 
Apr 16
And liberty, in case you've forgotten, is a soul's right to breathe. And when it cannot take a long breath, laws are girded too tight. Without liberty, man is a syncope.
Good Will Hunting (1997)

Apr 16
The aim of these practices is not so much to attain Enlightenment as to accumulate merit, gaining a better incarnation in the next life, closer to Enlightenment. It is generally believed that only holy men can hope for Enlightenment in this life.
Tibet - Turning the Wheel of Life

Apr 16
Do you think I'd know the first thing about how hard your life has been, how you feel, who you are because I read Oliver Twist? Does that encapsulate you? I can't learn anything from you I can't read in some * book. Unless you want to talk about you, who you are
Good Will Hunting

Apr 16
Most people never get to see how brilliant they can be. They don't find teachers that believe in them. They get convinced they're stupid.
Good Will Hunting (1997)

Apr 16
But you see this? All this shit? This is not your fault.
- Yeah, I know that.
- Look at me, son. It's not your fault.
- I know.
- No. It's not your fault.
- I know.
- No, no, you don't. It's not your fault.
- I know.
- It's not your fault.
- All right.
- It's not your fault.

Apr 16

Lots of people grow up in a family, a society, a world where they feel weird, different, and criticized for that. And until they realize I'm not really a muggle, I'm a wizard, superpowers as well as problems according to society.
YT Rejection Sensitive
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jJ27eZ-d8FI
 

 

Apr 16

“Psychotherapy can't help Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria because it is biological issue. It happens so quickly, powerfully there is no chance for cognitive or emotional strategies to deal with it.”
YT Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jJ27eZ-d8FI

 

Apr 16

Ghosts never pretend to be pretty. Though maybe they are to themselves or to one another. And it is only to us that they appear grotesque and horrible. And that's not their fault. It is only limitation of our own. The fault likes not in our ghosts but in us.
CBS Radio Mystery

Apr 17

The scapegoat child is left feeling despised just for the mere offense of being alive in this type of family.
YT Jay Reid - Recovery from Bad Childhoods
Reducing Social Anxiety for the Scapegoat Survivor of Narcissistic Abuse
https://youtube.com/watch?v=heM2roiqkfI
 

 

Apr 17

Being situationally mute is involuntary so complaining and blaming someone for not speaking will only be harmful to the individual. Respect if someone can't or doesn't feel comfortable to talk. They are NOT being rude.
Situational Mutism
https://youtube.com/watch?v=LKl-kUc1_h0

 

Apr 17

Iris

 

Apr 17
Dr Barkley wanted to rename ADHD as VAST:
Variable Attention Stimulus Trait
- too much attention that doesn't get funneled properly and often too much emotion that cannot be inhibited.
YT Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
https://youtube.com/watch?v=-Lt3QBWpT7E
 

Vulnerable narcissist is anxious that the person won't recognize how great they are and what talents they have. Or “They don't like me because they are too stupid to recognize my unique abilities”.
YT Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and Vulnerable Narcissism
https://youtube.com/watch?v=zBJjY203OM0
 

Apr 17
RSD individual interrupts because they're going to forget what they're thinking about or not able to communicate clearly. Vulnerable narcissist is more about interrupting because they weren't listening to you anyway and couldn't care less what you're saying unless it's about them

Apr 17
Average child with ADHD hears 20,000 additional critical or corrective messages before their 12th birthday. That can have significant impact on self-image and self-worth. They have feeling they're profoundly defective, incompetent.
YT William Dodson
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Kfi3sLjeh-M
 

 Apr 17
These are slackers of the world, very bright, capable people who do absolutely nothing with their lives. The possibility that somebody might say no is so threatening, so anxiety provoking that they never speak up.
YT Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Kfi3sLjeh-M

 

 Apr 17
That's how you separate – am I dealing with traditional OCD or am I dealing with a very clever, bright person who is imposing structure on their life because they recognize they do so much better. That's your acid test to separate the two
YT William Dodson
https://youtu.be/Kfi3sLjeh-M?t=2987

 
Apr 17
With social phobia rarely anxieties occur prior to the age of 11. “I was just fine until last year of elementary school and then I became intensely anxious about being humiliated or embarrassed in public, scrutinized harshly”.
YT William Dodson

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=Kfi3sLjeh-M

 Apr 17
Becoming people pleasers it affects your self esteem. Because you become unsure of how to react because you're afraid of that responsiveness. After a while you start looking how can I be better to this person, losing yourself, don't know who you really are
https://youtube.com/watch?v=OJAIRfcl_S8

 

Apr 17
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria can also be known as Emotional Dysregulation, (ED), especially in Europe.
YT Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)
Neuro Pride Ireland
https://youtube.com/watch?v=FVXWBBB2xpg
 

 

Apr 17
Neurotypical are much more in control because they're able to see things and map things with their minds, much more succinctly, but with ADHD it's more difficult to retrieve the information to keep us in check.
YT Emotional Hypersensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=dclKcXgNgGk

 

Apr 17
For instance, someone has annoyed you and in that moment you forget about the bigger picture of situation. So your brain focuses on a single piece of information and it amplifies it in a really negative way and hold on to that
YT Emotional Hypersensitivity
https://youtube.com/watch?v=dclKcXgNgGk

 

Apr 17
You're more likely to become people pleaser simply because you want to avoid pain/discomfort as much as possible. So we're especially susceptible to being manipulated emotionally, form irrational biases to believe things true while they're not.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=dclKcXgNgGk
 

Apr 18
"Would you rather end up bankrupt because your banker funded your bad idea just because you wished they would? Often rejection is actually saving you from deeper, and harder to recover from pain."

 Apr 18
On a core level try to understand where did you get the idea that you were worthy of rejection? Because if you're sensitive to something chances are it's a fear that you hold internally. Ask ys “Why are you rejectable?”
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Tr3D_6sFoiI

Apr 18
Chances are the reason why you're rejection-sensitive today is because there was someone who rejected you super-hardcore and hurt so much and you carry that hurt around with you. Afraid of happening again, it's projecting into life.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Tr3D_6sFoiI
 

 

Apr 18
We want to get rid of rejection sensitivity, but the goal here is to change our reaction or to change our mind. Or thick skin approach – if you get rejected enough, you'll get thick skin and then it will hurt less. That is terrifying.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Tr3D_6sFoiI

 

Apr 18
Alexithymia is an inability to describe emotions in a verbal manner.
People with ADHD will use a word like "anxious" to explain how they are feeling but in actual fact they mean something entirely different.

Apr 18
When we're talking about growing internally we're always trying to control our reactions, or we're trying to control our internal environment, or we're trying to control our actions. Reaction and action – & we're missing the third:perception
HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Tr3D_6sFoiI
 

 Apr 18
If you can alter your perception, that'll change your reaction and by definition will change your action. What are you perceiving what actually happened? How are you interpreting it that way? Rather than “that will teach them”.
YT HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Tr3D_6sFoiI

Apr 18
Take what you need
- joy
- magic
- love
- focus
- calm

 

Apr 18
We are taught at a very young age about masking... Trying to gain social acceptance by appearing more neurotypical.
Haley Moss

Apr 18
Mask: constantly analyzing and adapting to others.
Unmasked: attends to sensory experiences & needs, and says "No" more often

Apr 18
Masking -
Because our energy is focused on mirroring behaviors, we can't contribute to the conversation. We're expected to hold back while others lead.
This isn't merely adaptation. It's suppression of our true feelings.

Apr 18
Masking is when neurodivergent people hide their true selves out of shame.
They do this to escape being
- pitied
- patronized
- shunned
- harassed
- tormented

Apr 18
The majority are generally unaware of the challenges others face (as they don't experience them).
Trying to fit on can cause severe levels of mental and physical damage. Just trying to fit into society can mean masking our real selves.
All people need to be included in society.

Apr 18
Social Anxiety vs. Autism

Apr 18
Are you masking without realising?
- Not processing emotions
- Hiding or minimising personal interests
- Always thinking of the impressions you leave on people
- Bottling things up to avoid appearing "too sensitive"
- Ignoring sensory sensitivities, leading to stress

Apr 18
Here's my hope that we all find our Shangri-La.
Lost Horizon (1937)

Apr 18
Be careful how you label yourself. You're ingraining that in your brain. If you say I am or I have or I do, you're creating a neural pathway for that connection. Brain is very bad at telling difference what is real and what is not.
YT Rejection Sensitive
https://youtube.com/watch?v=qBl0u-o9kkQ
 

 

Apr 19

I miss her on Twitter. Damn Musk.
"Kathy Griffin Diagnosed With "Extreme Case" of Complex PTSD | E! News"
https://youtube.com/watch?v=xMzYoznpMhc
 

 

Apr 19

If I put a tire in front of you, would you think I just gave you a car? Tire could be part of airplane or swing in the garden. One thing doesn't designate the whole. And that one thing can be part of the other wholes.
YT DoctorRamani
https://youtube.com/watch?v=kQ8kWBdNoKc
 

 

Apr 19

All narcissistic people are arrogant, not all arrogant people are narcissistic. People may brag or act arrogantly because they're socially anxious, it may be cultural, it may be social, part of industry where they're working.
YT DoctorRamani
https://youtube.com/watch?v=kQ8kWBdNoKc
 

Apr 19

It wasn't me, it was just my programming. Who has been running the ship? My inner child was running the ship. Wounds of my inner child were running the ship. And my ego was designed to defend that reality, keep me safe.
Lisa Romano
https://youtube.com/watch?v=OTGZn1Ulv8Q
 

 

Apr 19

Am I going to spend the rest of my life living for others: trying to gain their approval? I have to let go of their perception of me. I have to let go of narcissist telling people I am selfish. I had to accept that people will talk about me.
YT Lisa Romano
https://youtube.com/watch?v=VRfZVykQ_JI
 

 

Apr 19

Codependent and programmed to believe: “it is your job to convince people that you are worthy. Hooked forever - You wiggle and I pull. You jump when I say. Worry what I think about you. Figure how to make me happy.”
YT Lisa Romano
https://youtube.com/watch?v=VRfZVykQ_JI

 

Apr 19

Self-help community hurts us when they shame the victims of narcissism, who were taken advantage of: when we tell the people that negative emotions are bad. No, negative emotion is my truth. Suffering is truth, not shame for it or say it's not real or ask for permission to feel.

Apr 19

There are moments in every man's life when he glimpses the eternal.
If this community is to continue to thrive, then we need men like you here. The time must come when evil will destroy itself. Here we shall be to guide the footsteps of a weary people.
Lost Horizon (1973)

For when the day comes that the world begins to look for a new life,that they will find a reservoir of hope here. Here we shall be with our way of life based on one simple rule: be kind. And when the strong have devoured each other, then, at last, the meek shall inherit the earth

Apr 19
"While our immutable identity characteristics surely shape us and shouldn’t be erased, they’re hardly everything. What makes us interesting and worthwhile people isn’t the circumstances of our birth — or our disordered psyches — but the choices we make, and the ideas"

Apr 20
Low self esteem is a secondary symptom that results from a lifetime of being misunderstood or rejected. They experience low self esteem in the highest measure when they don't get diagnosed with it.
YT Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Bxz_7IEoBi4
 

 

Apr 20
When children with ADHD go to school, they're often told that they are bad, constantly misbehaving, and not living up to their potential. I was told that I was a problem. “I am upset at you” you hear “you're a bad person”
YT Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Bxz_7IEoBi4
 

 

Apr 20
Even with label ADHD, so many of us believe we should be able to just tough it out if we use enough willpower. This is one of the big myths of our society: “is that anybody can convince their brain to do anything of they just try hard enough”.
RSD
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Bxz_7IEoBi4
 

 

Apr 20
It's required not only diagnosis or label, but also the integration of that label and diagnosis into your identity. You need to take the time to recontextualize your struggles, and really be gentle with yourself, what you struggle was actually ADHD symptom
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Bxz_7IEoBi4
 

 

Apr 20
Neurotypical (NT) personality:
- strong social and communication skills
- navigates socially complex situations with ease
- makes friends and establishes romantic one with ease
- ability to participate in loud, crowded, or visually overwhelming settings with ease

Apr 20
I'm not growing anymore, I decompose.
I break my leg, my shoulder, I lose my ears, I lose my nose.
Whoops there it goes.
She doesn't know that I'm not quite alone.
I got friends on my ceiling, neighbors in my bed...
Instant Karma - Birthday Suite (1994)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tjsBxjwHlc

 Apr 20
neurotypical
📷
adjective
not displaying or characterized by autistic or other neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behaviour.
"neurotypical individuals often assume that their experience of the world is either the only one or the only correct one"

Apr 20
I don't need co-anchor. I am straight-A student.
- Lisa, Bart has something you can't learn at school. Zaz. Zing, Zork, Copausa, call it what you want.
The Simpsons S9 E21

Apr 20
The last month Joe made the discovery - the ducks were gone. Some say the ducks went to Canada, other say Toronto. And some people think that Joe used to sit down there, near those ducks.
The Simpsons S9 E21

Apr 21

I think in 99 percent of cases - if we are older than 15 years old -  that our triggers are connected with someone who is either narcissistic  malignant OR someone who is uneducated or in low emotional IQ with low  social skills.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2023/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2023.html
 

 Apr 21

I have autism so I have difficulty reading faces. So unless it's like an obvious smile I have no idea what you're thinking of or feeling. With RSD I will going to assume negative, I can't define smile – I'll go with: you're angry.
YT Rejection Sensitivity
https://youtube.com/shorts/JM4RltWaFPs

Apr 21

Thoth was the god of the moon, sacred texts, mathematics, the sciences, magic, messenger and recorder of the deities, master of knowledge, and patron of scribes. His Egyptian name was Djehuty which means “He who is like the Ibis.” He was depicted as an ibis bird or a baboon.

 

 Apr 21

The mind is above time and space. If you decide not to complain, it will immediately compensate you with intuition.
Yogi Bhajan

 Apr 22
You might be someone else circumstance problem. Our circumstance problem is boss, toxic relative, but we never think there might be someone out there praying that I would change to become man I need to be.
Hour of Power
https://youtube.com/watch?v=uIzF8w6H9d4

Apr 22
Once you can name your pain, you can find the way to get through it.
The term RSD comes from 1950s it was called Atypical, non-typical depression, it had nothing to do with mood disorder.
YT Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria: Dr. William Dodson
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PX7c7exdnWg

 Apr 22
We need to pay as much attention to improper denials as we do to improper grants.
Lane Evans

Apr 22
What kind of development takes away the richness of the forest and replaces it with just one kind of plant or one kind of animal? ...now there is only soya or cattle. Who is this development for?
Raoni Metuktire
Chief of Kayapo People

Apr 22
People try to protect themselves from ever happening again in the first place. As personality type rising out of this: Above reproach, most admired person but it's trap they need to produce all the time. Constantly running scared of being discovered.
YT Rejection Sensitive

Apr 22
RSD like physical wound. Now they aren't wounded. How freeing is to get on with your life. Somebody who never applied for job now he has two years, promotions, his life has just blossomed because he doesn't lose weeks to this rejection episodes. Frees up person to be who they are

Apr 22
They're not always playing defense. People have these attitudes, responses their entire lives, they're habitual. They need some behavioral cognitive management to understand these were internal perception.🟥Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria: Dr. William Dodson
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PX7c7exdnWg
 

Apr 22
They have to own it, this was distorted perception on my part. And they have to rework their whole relationship with other human beings. To them it was all they'd ever known before. They never questioned it that's the world is.
🟥Rejection Sensitive
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PX7c7exdnWg

Apr 22
They think differently, they process emotions differently, experience world differently. That's where they get into a lot of trouble, is they tell themselves that they are wrong to be different. Because the world tells them they're wrong to be different.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PX7c7exdnWg

Apr 22
Shame about who I am as a person is fundamental. Guilt is when you feel bad about something you did. Shame is when you feel bad about who you are and as such is much more profound.
🟥Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria: Dr. William Dodson - Emotional Regulation
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PX7c7exdnWg

Apr 22
Somebody who's full of shame never asks for help to begin with. The only way to deal with that is to be with other people who accept you as you are. To help people start the process of accepting themselves.
🟥Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria: Dr. W. Dodson
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PX7c7exdnWg
 

Apr 22
The Kayapo tribe believe their ancestors learnt how to live communally from social insects such as bees, which is why mothers and children paint each other's bodies with patterns that look like animal or insect markings.
⬜️BBC

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K10THfOIhxA

 Apr 22
That ruthlessness was an essential element of her personality as much as her logical ability.
- A lot of the historical characters you chose have this dark thread running through their personalities.
Star Trek: Voyager
S3 E18

Apr 22
Empathy and kindness are basic to all forms of life. The very organs and cells of the body cooperate with each other. Otherwise, they wouldn't function. Families, societies, cultures wouldn't have evolved without compassion and tolerance. They would have fallen apart without it.

Apr 22
You see, I am not unique. I'm not special. I don't even have a coffee cup with my name on it.
🎞️Duckman: Private Dick/Family Man - episode 1

Apr 23
Connect triggers to physiological changes in your body, that is sign that something is off, sign we need to pay attention, we move to disturbance in our field to be on high alert. Need something to slow process down.
🟥Sharon Saline, PsyD
https://youtube.com/watch?v=01sHsKpoB10

Apr 23
When you tell someone to calm down – there's a Power Dynamic that's implied. “I, partner, am calm and have everything under control, and you, someone with ADHD are whacked”. That will not bode well for productive conversation.
🟥Sharon Saline, PsyD
https://youtube.com/watch?v=01sHsKpoB10

Apr 23
ADHD makes it harder to disengage from the present moment to work towards future goals. Healthy habits basically involves sacrificing in the present in order to have better future. Bring future action or inaction to be motivated.
🟥Ari Tuckman, Psy.D.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jApl6wk69EM

Apr 24
Social anxiety is mixture of Complex Trauma, being exposed to ableist's  society/societal attacks, ADHD, Autism, neurodivergent mindset.
We are conditioned by ableist society to hate  ourselves.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2023/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2023.html
 

Apr 24
Like there's something not right about that and I need to fix it. Almost I give my power over to. And not trust my experience. So learning to trust your experience. It is something that our culture is so disconnected from.
🟥Sam Roff
https://youtube.com/watch?v=-Y4s7XhY9Fg

Apr 24
Wild West C.O.W. Boys of Moo Mesa
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Ruq29u2-AJM
 

 

Apr 24
Tattooed Teenage Alien Fighters from Beverly Hills (1994)
https://youtube.com/watch?v=a7_e_v9Bm38

Apr 24
The quintessential paradox of modern era:
The idea that the most perfect world is an imperfect world. Because imperfection makes the drive in people to make things better. The irony being that the most imperfect parent is actually the most perfect parent.
Duckman: episode 3

Apr 24
Examples of ADHD Masking:
- staying too quiet and being overly careful about what you say
- reacting as you are expected to instead of how you feel inside
- developing perfectionistic tendencies
- mimicking or copying other people in social situations
(verywell)

Apr 24
Also ADHD:
- quiet
- often tired
- shy

Apr 25
Diagnostic criteria is for the researchers, it is not for patients. DSM deals with things which can be seen by observer. Emotion is hidden. People rarely come out and talk about what is wrong, “people will think I'm nuts”.
🟥Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Hgfr1bNxEL4

Apr 25
Are we in the Age of Aquarius 2023?
In 2023, the location of the Sun on the March equinox is in the constellation of Pisces but also on the border of Aquarius. So, we are slowly moving into a new age, from Pisces to Aquarius.
https://almanac.com/what-age-aquarius
 

Apr 25
Everyone's psyche is like a house. Some have two-story colonial, others have country house cottage, depending on how your mind works.
Duckman: Private Dick/Family Man - episode 4

Apr 26
In 1922 Sir Austen Chamberlain described the Irish border as "a compromise, and like all compromises is illogical and indefensible".

https://www.irishcentral.com/roots/history/irish-border-created

 Apr 26
We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. Think anew.
Albert Einstein

Apr 26
"No thanks. We are too busy."

Apr 26
Chinese Character "Human": 人 (rén)
Knowledge & Skills + Beliefs & Attitudes

Apr 26
The paradox of anti-Semitism is that it is invariably up to the Jews to explain away the charges. The anti-Semite simply has to make them.
Jack Bruce

Apr 26
A good person can't be nice to everyone!
Moral Confusion & the Morality Paradox

Apr 26
Oh, what interesting china. It looks like young men playing leap frog.
The Birdcage (1996)

Apr 26

Gabrielle was terribly shy about performing in front of large crowds. Eventually, she overcame her fear and went on to make a name for herself.
YT What Happened To British Pop Singer Gabrielle?
https://youtube.com/watch?v=FOBNuYrTk9g

Apr 27

When I would do something wrong my mind would somehow blame the other person for how I was treating them. I would feel guilty or remorse but my mind would literally stop it, and flip it, blame the other person.
YT MentalHealness
https://youtube.com/shorts/M0vrra_QnjQ

 

Apr 27

North Korea
http://vok.rep.kp/index.php/home/main/en

 

Apr 27

Diagnostic criteria were not made for you and me. They're made for researchers. They have no interest in why things happen the way they do.
YT Defining Features of ADHD That Everyone Overlooks: RSD, Hyperarousal, More (w/ Dr. William Dodson)
https://youtube.com/watch?v=vycWIzURgZM
 

Apr 27

ADHD cannot be treated by behavioral techniques any more than you can lower any physiological experience, genetic or neurological condition with behavioral technique. It makes as much as sense as trying to lower a fever with behavioral techniques – it just doesn't happen
🟥Dodson

Apr 27

Life requires that we get engaged with important activities as the situation demands. Not according how we are feeling. Neurotypical are people with importance based system can prioritize. They can engage without getting distracted.
🟥Dr. William Dodson
https://youtube.com/watch?v=vycWIzURgZM

Apr 27

ADHD live right now. They have to be personally interested, challenged by the novel or urgent thing right now this instant or nothing happens because they can't get engaged with the task. Get engaged through Interest, Challenge, Novelty, Urgency, Passion.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=vycWIzURgZM

Apr 27

Montessori is a method of education that is based on self-directed activity, hands-on learning and collaborative play. In Montessori classrooms children make creative choices in their learning, while the classroom and the highly trained teacher offer age-appropriate activities...

 

 Apr 27

All schools are based on second hand importance. ADHD nervous system doesn't do importance when it's in first hand. Useless to ADHD. But schools are second hand importance. What somebody else, teacher,think is important enough to teach
🟥Dr. William Dodson
https://youtube.com/watch?v=vycWIzURgZM

Apr 27

People with importance based system can prioritize. They engage on demand, get access to intellect and abilities, stay engaged all the way to the payoff. For ADHD importance, rewards, consequences are nothing but a nag to me.
🟥Dr. William Dodson
https://youtube.com/watch?v=vycWIzURgZM

Apr 27

Person with ADHD will say I have always been able to do anything I wanted to do so long I can get engaged through interest, challenge, novelty, urgency and passion. Not what motivates everybody else: importance, rewards & consequences.
🟥Dr. William Dodson
https://youtube.com/watch?v=vycWIzURgZM
 

 

 Apr 27

Not being able to make use of importance makes decision making almost impossible. All choices look the same. That makes planning and organization very difficult. You don't know what your goals are.
🟥Dr. William Dodson
https://youtube.com/watch?v=vycWIzURgZM

Apr 27

People with ADHD tend to work backwards from the end to the beginning. They start working from all directions at once until they know the answer. It is called saltatory or leaping. Help the person write their owner's manual.
🟥Dr. William Dodson
https://youtube.com/watch?v=vycWIzURgZM
 

Apr 27

Anne Frank attending Montessori Class in Amsterdam, 1936.

Apr 27

They tried to engage kid. They asked him who you idolize? He said JFK. Use your imagination, you're at Dallas Urgency, JFK wheeled in, you need to know anatomy to safe his life. With that he had Passion, Interest, Urgency. Then he graduated number 2 in class.
🟥Dr. William Dodson

Apr 27

Helen and I would want to apologize for that little thing downstairs. We got it out of our systems now. Completely gone.
Death Becomes Her (1992)

Apr 28
April flowers

 

Apr 28
Narcissists need to feel like you believe in everything they say. That you are controllable, being able to manipulate you. You're never on an equal playing field with narcissist. Their agenda is to stay one up.
🟥Lisa Romano
https://youtube.com/watch?v=7UCW4QQT0pA
 

 Apr 28
They have to bring you down.
It took me longer than 12 years to figure out that. Anytime I was up he had to pull me down. That was one-up game, he felt like he won the game.
🟥Lisa Romano
"Mind Games Narcissist Play"
https://youtube.com/watch?v=7UCW4QQT0pA

 Apr 28
When someone gaslights you, you don't necessarily know in the moment they just gaslit me. They're saying things that aren't true you don't know what's happening. If you feel confused, dazed, question your reality - that is smoke.
🟥Lisa Romano
https://youtube.com/watch?v=7UCW4QQT0pA

Apr 28
A new scientific truth does not triumph by convincing its opponents and making them see the light...
but rather because its opponents eventually die, and a new generation grows up that is familiar with it.
Max Planck

Apr 28
Top 9 cognitive biases exploited by hackers:

Apr 28
If you're there - you deserve to be there.
If you're invited to a party, and you feel intimidated by other people - you still got invited to the party. Unless literally trespassing/breaking the law, you actually belong there.
🟥HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=iiTJxNhiUtA
 

Apr 28
When we think about intimidation, we recognize a quality in that person, otherwise you wouldn't be intimidated by it. Other problem is we are in our own heads. More in, the worse situation becomes. “I don't belong here”.
🟥HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=iiTJxNhiUtA
 

Apr 28
You're all up in head so you're not able to enjoy experience, you're not able to participate. Externalise your attention. Express appreciation for things we think is cool. Flip side of intimidation is appreciation. Because you're seeing something in someone else positive quality.

Apr 28
Urges or cravings arise but if we're able to tolerate that for some amount of time, surf on top, instead of give in to it, over time this urge will actually go away. Your mind naturally develops tolerance to its own craving.
🟥HealthyGamerGG

Apr 28
What we really need to recognize is the desire to switch is a craving in and of itself. Our mind develops tolerance to current activity and then craves a different activity. The real challenge is that our mind desires something else.
🟥HealthyGamerGG
https://youtube.com/watch?v=0hePvDEOZYs
 

Apr 28

I don't know who he is, but if there's a snowstorm tonight, he's going on my tyres.
To Wong Foo Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar (1995)

Apr 29

The minute you begin to define yourself by your problems, is the minute you get stuck in trap. At the end of day far better to define yourself as someone who is capable.
Hour of Power
https://youtube.com/watch?v=zcsCbde64pM
 

 

Apr 29

The process is more important than the event. So often in life all we see is the event. We see the Superbowl victory but we don't see all the practices guys had to go through.
🟥Hour of Power
https://youtube.com/watch?v=zcsCbde64pM
 

 

 Apr 29

I used to tell people that when my father called me cruel names, it was just because of his sense of humour.
🎞️To Wong Foo Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar (1995)

Apr 29

I now realize that you gotta take chances. Because you never know. What the hell, I'm not gonna worry about if people accept me or not. I'm gonna make Hollywood wherever I am at.
🎞️To Wong Foo Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar (1995)

Apr 29

Your ancient Doctrine predicted terrible disasters if it were even attempted. That held your race back for millennia until someone took a chance and challenged that prediction. Change is difficult. New ideas are often greeted with skepticism- even fear.
Star Trek: Voyager S3 E23

Apr 29

But sometimes those ideas are accepted and when they are... progress is made. Eyes are opened.
🎞️ Star Trek: Voyager S3 E23

Apr 29

The halo effect refers to the tendency to use your first or overall impression of a person to evaluate specific traits that you haven’t actually observed. For example, if you meet someone and think, “That person was really nice,” you might assume that person is also really smart.

Apr 29

Halo effect:
I like Bob. He's confident.
-But is he competent?

Apr 29

You're focusing on the problem. If you focus on the problem, you can't see the solution. Never focus on the problem, look at me! Look beyond the fingers.
🎞️Patch Adams (1998)

Apr 29

8 is a good answer. See what no one else sees. See what everybody else chooses not to see. Out the fear of conformity, laziness. See the whole world anew each day.
🎞️Patch Adams (1998)

Apr 30
You know, you sit here and you talk about life without limits you know, and breaking the rules. It all sounds very, very romantic. You wanna know what the truth is about all that crap, Patch, hmm? People get hurt.
- And who did it to you?
🎞️Patch Adams (1998)

 

Apr 30

What are all these people waiting for?
- Nothing.
- How do they get well?
- They don't, they're chronic. All we do is feed and water them.
🎞️Awakenings (1990) 

Apr 30

Gets easier. You don't think it will, but it does.
🎞️Awakenings (1990)

Apr 30

What's stopping Lucy from crossing to the fountain?
- Nothing.
- Exactly. The visual field just stops. There's a void. There's no pattern. No visual rhythm. Nothing to compel her to keep going. So we're making something.
🎞️Awakenings (1990)

Apr 30

You're not married?
- No. I'm not very good with people. I, um... I never have been, Leonard. I like them. I wish I could say I had more than a rudimentary understanding of them. Maybe if they were less unpredictable.
🎞️Awakenings (1990)