October 2021 Twitter

 
Oct 1
Linda Hamilton's twin sister, Leslie Hamilton Gearren, was used as a double in scenes involving two "Sarah Connors", as a mirror image of Linda.
IMDb trivia

 

Oct 1
Sky Radio (NL) playing Last Christmas by Wham.
Christmas treeMrs. Claus
It might be too soon, and I am not complaining.
https://skyradio.nl

 

Oct 2
It's in your nature to destroy yourselves.
Terminator 2: Judgment Day (1991)

 

Oct 2
In an insane world, it was the sanest choice.
Terminator 2: Judgment Day (1991)

 

Oct 3
I love you, Johnnie. But it's not enough, is it?
A Star Is Born (1976)

 

Oct 3
Anything you have to have in order to be happy, the enemy can use against you.
We can become so consumed in what we want- it can become your idol.
JOEL OSTEEN

 Oct 4
Toxic people never run out of stuff to complain about. They don't need to vent or help them. They just need someone to continuously give them attention and listen to them.
YT 5 Reasons Why You Attract Toxic People

Oct 4
Good friend would never be ok with you troubling yourself just to make them happy. They would never be comfortable with a happiness that comes at the cost of their friend's mental health.
YT Psychology Element

Oct 4
Toxic people gravitate towards people that are easy to manipulate and gaslight. And who's easier to manipulate than a perfectionist that starts blaming themselves the second even the tiniest flaw comes to light?
YT 5 Reasons Why You Attract Toxic People

Oct 4
Sincere, loyal people cannot imagine someone they love and care for is manipulating and gaslighting them. So toxic people can do whatever they want to you, and you won't ever doubt them.
YT Psychology Element

Oct 4
"You hate conflict, toxic people love. They want pushover. Relationships are built on trust. If it is always you have to take the blame, toxic people gaslight you and manipulate you into thinking that.
No one is wrong all the time and you feeling guilty all the time is not right"

 

Oct 5
Goodness is consequence of recognizing that our actions can be destructive to the other people.
When you believe you are fundamentally good person that makes other people around you bad.
YT Why I decided to give up on being a good person

 Oct 5
Someone will appeal to person's good side, to idea what appropriate behavior is if you are good person, manipulation is often result: one person trying to impose the ideas what it means to be a good person.
YT Justin Brown

Oct 5
We judge people by ideas of goodness. Dividing the world in good and bad what is at the core of so much violence and bigotry.
YT Justin Brown

Oct 5
I literally have seen while putting a person on the EKG machine taking their blood pressure and looking at their heart how the deep breaths with the eye closing gradually reduces their blood pressure and gradually reduces their heart rate
YT NYC Streets MD

Oct 5
-I want to start over.
-It doesn't work that way. You get one life. And whatever you do with it and whatever's done to you, you gotta face that. You can't pretend it didn't happen.
Murder by Numbers (2002)

 

Oct 6
This is not your fault, your nervous system is suppose to do this. Your nervous system values safety above else. It's going to take you away from anything that does not feel safe.
YT Lisa Heal Yourself

 Oct 6
Complex trauma is ongoing danger. Child adapts to fire, adaptation is healthy thing in coping danger. In complex trauma, your adaptation – lash, run, avoid, in adult life it becomes maladaptive.  It hurts you, destroy relationship, hurts other people.
https://youtu.be/CbkDDabyFlc

Oct 6
Too much television. You must learn to rationalize your imagination.
Murder She Said (1961)

 

Oct 7
Embarrassment stems from hallucination - I think the problem are people who criticize me, while they only mirror what I believe is inside me - that I am inept, stupid, idiot, wrong.
This perception inside is an illusion that must be replaced with Super-ego

 Oct 8
We have illusion to control the other person. We call it helping. It is the best way to control us – by thinking we are controlling them. And we are not aware we are doing that to ourselves.
YT Codependent No More No. 47

Oct 9
The Martian government was directed by ten men, the leader of whom was elected by universal suffrage for five years and entitled "Elon." Two houses of Parliament enacted the laws to be administered by the Elon and his cabinet.
book "Mars Project", Dr. Wernher von Braun (1952)

 

Oct 10
We think we have to make thing happen, there's always something to fix, improving, do better, and then we'll gain approval. It is very freeing realizing you don't have to make all things happen. It is not your job to fix everything.
JOEL OSTEEN

 Oct 11
Fear of authenticity. Narcissistic parents view their children as extension of themselves, child is expected to do, think and feel everything that toxic person does, thinks and feels.
6 Irrational Fears Narcissistic Parents Instill That Keep You Stuck

Oct 11
Fear of making someone upset: comes from not being allowed to exercise those healthy behaviour in childhood (being assertive, having boundary, saying no). Toxic relationship instill in you that it is your fault.
YT Michele Lee Nieves Coaching

Oct 11
Every danger loses some of its terror once its causes are understood.
Konrad Lorenz

 

Oct 12
You'll begin to find evidence that support your belief. Your confirmation bias will make you look for proof of what you have chose to believe.
YT Marisa Peer

 Oct 12
'Providence has favored our undertakings'. Stemming from the religious belief that their successes were the result of God's blessing. It's not the government, it's God who is up above watching down and protecting us.
YT The Film Theorists

Oct 12
Our dependency makes slaves out of us, especially if this dependency is a dependency of our self-esteem.
If you need encouragement, praise, pats on the back from everybody, then you make everybody your judge.
Fritz Perls

 Oct 12
I believe in being honest, Brewster. No bullshit.
Brewster's Millions (1985)

 

Oct 13
William Shatner flies to space.

 

Oct 13
Twin Peaks - Just you
(encore version is in Season 3 Episode 7)

Oct 15
Codependency is the symptom, not the cause. So addressing the codependency doesn't typically result in healthier life. Addressing the cause that motivates codependent behaviors creates the change.
YT What Are Mindsets & How You Really Change Them

Oct 15
Mindset is radio channel. If my body is configured to shame and guilt channel, my mindset will regurgitate that –that's reality, conveying to me in my mind.
Root conclusions are created from strong and powerful reinforcement
YT Happiness After Codependency

Oct 15
Allowing whatever is showing up to be valid, legitimate and real. This is how we start to shift things.
YT From Mindset To Body Belief #2: 3 Steps To Shifting The Body Belief (Thus Shifting The Mindset)
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Oct 17
James Bond visits Zagreb in "From Russia with Love" (1963).

 

 

 

Oct 19
Manje se nadati, više prihvaćati, a nikako se samosažalijevati. Svijet naprosto nije projekcijski ekran naših želja i nadanja. Što će biti, to ionako nije do nas, nego do života.
ROBERT TORRE (1965-2021), Express

 

Oct 19
"Basically we are all creatures who have been programmed from the moment of conception to the present moment. We are PavlovIan creatures who make choices based upon past events. This means we have no “free” choice because the programming is doing the choosing for us."
YT comment

 

Oct 20
This was back in '80s - this was the big idea that somehow confronting and expressing your anger at the person who hurt you was going to heal you.
YT Worst Advice I Ever Got for Healing CPTSD

 Oct 20
Judgment is the first compulsion. Judgments are meanings we attach to experiences. Your brain has a nuclear powered label maker inside of it. We are sticking labels on things and labels are wrong.
YT  Mark Freeman

 

 
Oct 20
The exhibit undermines our everyday assumptions about what we think to be obvious.

Museum of Contemporary Art, Kanazawa - Japan.
YT GeoBeats Science

 Oct 20
Meteor seen above Croatia and Hungary,
October 20, at 6pm.
https://24sata.hr/news/video-snimila-meteor-iznad-cazme-upao-joj-je-u-kadar-dok-je-snimala-video-prepala-se-791431

 

Oct 21
Descartes' The Dreaming Argument-
I can't know anything about the external world.

 

Oct 22
Learn to tolerate people's dislike of you, distrusting you, misunderstandings of you, feeling like you're too much.
I encourage you to start aiming to be less cool yourself, instead of being cool – experiment with being warm.
YT Moon + Manifest

 Oct 24
There are times to do things, to take step of faith when we don't have the experience. Everything in our logic says this is not right, that is too much, it's not fair.
There are good breaks only connected to doing the right thing when it's hard
JOEL OSTEEN

Oct 24
You could have played it safe - not taking any risk, held onto the hurts but you said 'God I trust you'. Doesn't make sense but I'm going to do it even though I don't understand it. You're going to see extra mile blessings.
JOEL OSTEEN

Oct 25
"How many Kafka's have lived and died without ever sharing their voice with the world; whose voice would have changed it forever.  How many people never know who they'll be after they're gone."
YT What Is Kafkaesque? - The 'Philosophy' of Franz Kafka

Oct 25
Humans seem to be able to temporarily accept and appreciate the lie when it suits them.
Do we actually want the truth?
YT Einzelgänger

Oct 25
Shovel Yourself Out of the Sh*t and into the Truth.
Twin Peaks, Season 3

 

Oct 25
"If you want real control, drop the illusion of control. Let life live you. It does anyway".
Byron Katie

 Oct 25
Monroe's decision to go blonde was one she made in an attempt to reinvent herself as a new person before her career even started.
https://cheatsheet.com/entertainment/marilyn-monroe-natural-hair-color.html/

 

Oct 25
I wait for my brain to turn itself into something powerful, strong, courageous all by itself, and I wait and wait.
No one told me the brain is not in charge for that, the key is in my thoughts, logic and decisions.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2021/06/complex-trauma-induce-social-anxiety.html

Oct 26
There is hope for humanity. Israel and Arabs project together Moon landing in 2024. First quarter moon with faceFlag of IsraelFlag of United Arab Emirates

YT Israel to try for Moon landing in 2024, with UAE help

 Oct 26
Michael Jackson's film debut in "The Wiz" (1978).

 

Oct 26
- Home? lnside me? l don't understand.
- Home is a place we all must find, child. lt's not just a place where you eat or sleep. Home is knowing.
Knowing your mind,
knowing your heart,
knowing your courage.
lf we know ourselves, we're always home anywhere.
film THE WIZ (1978)

 

Oct 27
You need to start to cheer for, support and validate yourself. Period. I realized I spent 40 years criticizing my reflection or ignoring it. So focused on things that they haven't achieved or things they failed at.
MEL ROBBINS

 Oct 27
Research out of Harvard, it's recent, they've shown in studies that simply taking a minute in the morning to get intentional about who you're going to be today and how you're going to show up changes your productivity, confidence, how impactful you are.
MEL ROBBINS

Oct 27
The secret to life is how to give yourself the support, the celebration, the validation that you as a human being need. You're waiting for somebody else to come waltzing in and give it to you – which they're not going to.
MEL ROBBINS

Oct 27
People change their behavior when they feel heard, understood and loved.

 

Oct 27
Brain will focus on bad in order to try to avoid it. What is happening is you are so focused on the bad you end up being blind to positive. You have to be forcing yourself to look at that cup being half full.
YT Teachingmensfashion

 
Oct 27
One common sign of toxic shame is you won't feel comfortable being yourself. Because you've been ridiculed, ostracized, scarred by nasty bullying, blame shifting.
YT Toxic Shame & Toxic People who Dump it on You | Healing Trauma

Oct 27
Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.
"Psycho-cybernetics" Maxwell Malt
https://youtube.com/watch?v=k3abAWWoHeM

 Oct 28
Browsing old maps I realized from where my hometown got this hyphen - in its name.
https://oldmapsonline.org/map/geoportost/BV043906871

 

Oct 28
It's not your job to like me - it's mine.
What I believe about me is my business.
What you believe about me is yours.
Byron Katie

 

Oct 28
--My dear, the police are always on the alarmist side.
-But they said this man is really dangerous!
--I'm sure they did. How could they be heroes, if he were harmless?
Saboteur (1942)

 

 

Oct 28
Are you frightened, Pat? Is that what makes you so cruel?
Saboteur (1942)

 

Oct 29
-They're so smart. That's what frightens me.
-Yeah, they're smart, that's because they're ruthless.
It's easy to win when you forget about the rules.
Alfred Hitchcock's "Saboteur" (1942)

 

Oct 29
My mistake was: I pretended everything was ok when it wasn't. I swallowed a lot of pain. Face it, when you are in relationship with somebody, they will hurt your feelings on occasion.
YT The Biggest Mistakes I've Made as a Recovering People Pleaser

 Oct 29
It is amazing that when someone else spouts the nonsense you yourself believe you can readily perceive it as nonsense.
PHILIP K. DICK

 

Oct 29
Live people ignore the strange and unusual.
Beetlejuice (1988)
 

 

Oct 29
Brain injuries can sometimes reveal extraordinary talents in people.
savant syndrome
https://theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/05/eureka-when-a-blow-to-the-head-creates-a-sudden-genius/257282/

 

Oct 31
It is attitude that we have to develop, realize it is our responsibility. We don't want other people feel wrong. It doesn't mean agree everything they say. Be willing to be peacemaker. Diplomat, arbitrator, mediator, calmer, soother, go between.
V. Osteen

 Oct 31
I wasn't put on this earth to straighten everybody out. That doesn't mean we cant have opinion, dislikes that differ. In any difficult conversation we come from place of peacemaker. Intelligent way but not to be done my way. The common goal
VICTORIA OSTEEN

Oct 31
When negative things are blooming in your life, it may seem like they are permanent, like they're going to be there forever, but you have to remind yourself, it is only temporary. This too shall pass.
JOEL OSTEEN

Oct 31
She’s a slip of nothing who materializes from nowhere, a pure unformed girl with no plans or interests of her own.
She begins as a childlike blank slate and builds a persona before our very eyes.
366 Weird movies: 3 WOMEN (1977)

 Oct 31
It is this self-authoring of your life that you build up your own sense of being centered and grounded in your values with an external check to make sure it corresponds with the people and contexts of your life.
https://neurosemantics.com/owning-my-own-authority/

 

Oct 31
Wheel him out quietly. It's best that children don't see him.
Just get out of here.
Not in the kindergarten!
"Treehouse of Horror VI"

 

 

Social Anxiety - the Map

 Battle on many fronts:

Physical symptoms: Triggers/Flashbacks. Brain injury due to trauma. Polyvagal theory - hyper-aroused

Behaviour: Fawn response - Avoidance response - go back and do goals instead. Allergy response, prone to quick moves I regret later, so I have to be careful not to do sudden moves, decisions based on panic. Allergy reaction appear as over-reaction.

Mentally: toxic shame; tyrannical self talk (burden of shoulds, rules, obligations, rationalizations, advocacy), toxic masculinity:

a) stuck - in a loop: Expecting negative experience, see trigger as expanding negative experience, getting stuck with intrusive thoughts like leech - can't shake it off, pure OCD, general immobility on outside but inside it is rat wheel - spinning in one place. I need to take concrete steps despite procrastinating to break rat wheel immobility. Ambiguity gives energy to worry. Others reaction or imaginary criticism immobilizes. Interpreting reaction as negative and assault and shutting up about it, worrying inside. Tunnel vision, not being aware of alternative. Imaginary audience or one person shaming me. Past events and future predictions. Flash of the reason to feel embarrassed (how I look, talk, walk, act)

b) suck - all is black:  blame myself for anything, perfectionist-as a way of pleasing others, saying yes. Instead - looking forward to something. I see uncomfortable will last forever, that it is permanent - no, it will pass. Seeing myself as shameful, pitiful, dull, not accepted

External factor: people who lie, provide false information, ashame, exploit, mock

External factor: they exploit kind, quiet, nice targets. Manipulation - guilt trip. Controlling through shaming. Cause trauma. Cause triggers that sets hyper-arousal loops.

Spiritual: Not being grateful (Unknown Factor as new label)

All: Emotional dysregulation, amygdala hijacking, program running from trauma: people pleasing, fawning, panic. Ebbinghaus curve - I will forget all instructions and be left to natural habitual responses. Brain injury - I will forget all instruction and default back to being stuck and that all is black. Chronically anxious beneath. Expecting sudden assault. Can't take rest. Hypervigilant, hyperalert. Sometimes I can do all right things and bad still happening, it is not my fault, guilt. One word solution: advocacy. With mistakes included, being willing to be wrong, stupid, being ok with making fool of myself for not being perfect.

Relationship/Attachment: codependency, Avoidance, need to fix, need to control others, demand myself to prove to others I am right, wrong associations as danger - allergy - seeing others as threat by me misreading their signs, if not in freeze/fawn mode: I tend to be in whining, complainig, nag, pontificate mode. Unable to see other criticism it as joke, gag, unimportant or any other explanation than personal attack - it is injury. Unable to handle toxic shaming from others. Obsessed what someone thinks or might think. Obsession how someone acts reacts. Urge to fix others. Enabling others - doing for others what they can do themselves. I see other people over-reaction as normal and standard. I act calmly, shut up and appear cool and calm but inside physical sensations - this is moral injury I am not calm really. Being zoomed in. Not seeing grand plan. Taking about trauma turns me into karen, hysterical, I appear dramatic. Talking venting about rude people I appear annoying, whiner. Need to give advice - forgetting all people are different and hide secrets they are not aware of themselves. I can only talk about my experiences and own solutions. I see others as kind and caring as me, but not on par, that they are stronger and better and more valid so I must obey them automatically - instead solution is being able to degrade them from imaginary pedestal, to lower the notch of my urge to help, let them do things they can do on their own. Solution is from Zoroastrianism: speaking truth, being genuine, honest, authentic, and I have to expect that truth speaking will cause stir up, controversy and hysterical reactions from others. Without ethical rudeness, without explosions, without drama I can explain my views in calm manner.

UPDATE:

Mentally: 

a) stuck - in a loop: intrusive worry as leech is due to addiction - adrenaline hormones inside,

double bind - avoid is bad I should expose in the same time avoid is ok to remove myself from toxic people and to recharge.
b) suck - all is black: people pleasing is due to addiction - chemicals inside body act like drug

Relationship/Attachment: I take blame automatically without question, freeze response, take the beating without protest (this attracts narcissists, who are beating the dead horse).
Cognitive distortion makes me believe that I will forever be in inferior position, stuck with toxic people so I fawn as reaction to this false belief that appears as solid reality.

All: hormones, chemicals, brain injury, social constructs of appearing nice and civil prevents me from standing up for myself, prevents me from taking action.

All: I define normal or neutral things as bad, that is social anxiety.

All: hypervigilance is like monolith, hot plate inside you cannot remove, foreign object

 a) stuck: trapped, not move away, witness crime not doing anything about it: I freeze due to toxic persons ad hominem accusations against my externally and unfair defined mistakes, overgeneralized and externally intruded definitions of flaws and ignorance

QUOTE

In 1983, the American philosopher and psychologist Jerry Fodor (b. 1935) reached a stunning conclusion. the mind could not possibly be a single, general-purpose program. instead, it has to be a collection of
many special-purpose programs each with its own rules.
Introducing Evolutionary Psychology: A Graphic Guide

(UPDATE 13-11-2022)
I would replace Spiritual manifold with Unknown factor.
This would cover the source of fear/anxiety stemming from unexplored area which I cannot know, which I am not aware that it exist, which I have no label to identify. For example - sixth sense. Or having ability to sense more than others, and this would include paranormal activities. I would also include here possessions and influence of unknown entities which are impossible to prove, define or legitimize.
Unknown factor may be something described in sci-fi even. While External factor is negative predators influence which is causing anxiety - on the other hand Unknown factor by large is positive factor: it is warning and alarming and alerting where the messenger is not bad nor evil - it is simply bringing the message of impending doom that might be avoided by taking cover and being careful.
Apart from paranormal causes - there is also factor of undiscovered or unrecognized issues and concepts - such as CPTSD.

Calabi-Yau manifold - many and various. In mathematics, a manifold is a topological space that locally resembles Euclidean space near each point.

‘Believe me: It is no teaching and no instruction that I give you…My path is not your path therefore I cannot teach you. The way is within us, but not in Gods, nor in teachings, nor in laws. Within us is the way, the truth, and the life.’
CARL JUNG

September 2021 Twitter

Sep 1
Your self worth is determined by getting up, and showing up and doing the thing you are scared to do that you love. That's how you're going to feel worthy, not by the number of albums you sell.
YT Mel Robbins

 

Sep 1
If they are unreasonable or angry, or defensive towards us, when we express our displeasure, our need, or set limits, this tells us they might not be as reasonable as we wish they were or maybe not as caring toward us as we wish they could be.
YT Dr.Sirota

If we are considerate their reaction is not our fault. If we say confrontation in a polite, kind and respectful manner, then we can be assured that how we delivered the message is not the issue, and how the other person reacted is the issue.
YT Dr.M.Sirota

 

Sep 1
Subjected to adverse and painful stimulus that they could not escape. Eventually dog tries to avoid stimulus, and behave as if completely helpless to avoid or change situation, even when opportunities to escape were present.
YT What Is Learned Helplessness

Sep 1
After long term exposure to this painful stimulus, dogs accept and believe that there is not anything they can do about it even when it was obvious they can get out.
YT What Is Learned Helplessness

 

Sep 1
Decision making part of brain is probably misfiring. Making a decision is probably a thing maybe with emotional flashbacks. Emotional flashbacks are warping my perception and they're guiding me in certain directions.
YT  Toxic Passivity, RICHARD GRANNON

Sep 1
Put yourself in good state for the sake of being in a good state. If you don't, the general tendency will be a downward spiral, not an upward spiral. So we need to do deliberate things to alter the state.
YT How to Defeat "Toxic Passivity"

Sep 2
You try too hard to understand what's going on, my dear young man, and that's a serious mistake.
Orphée (1950)

Sep 2
Jean Cocteau made Matrix-themed movie, 49 years before Hollywood.
Orpheus, Original title: Orphée (1950)

 

Sep 3
I've heard on Austrian radio ORF Tirol the new ABBA. I always wondered how they would sound in 21st century.
ABBA - Don't Shut Me Down

 

Sep 3
-Aren't you an expert in phoenixology? - What is that?
-The art of repeatedly dying to be reborn.
Jean Cocteau, "Testament of Orpheus" (1960)

Sep 3
we are the pawns of an unknown force that lives within us that dictates our actions and compels us to speak this language.
Jean Cocteau, "Testament of Orpheus" (1960)

 

Sep 3
Without willpower we are cripples.
film Orpheus, Original title: Orphée (1950)
 

Sep 4
If it is fearful, terrified -it's probably from satan. If it is really embittered, unreasonable deep-seated bitterness - that's from satan. Anything that is contempt, bitterness, deep dread or fear or especially shame - I believe that's satan
HOUR OF POWER

Sep 4
He speaks to people all the time, a lot of people have no idea that God is speaking to them. Train your spiritual ears. What a gift to hear from God when you have a key decision to make in life to be able to hear his spirit and his voice.
HOUR OF POWER

 

Sep 4
When people are free to do as they please, they usually imitate each other.
Eric Hoffer

Sep 5
Swarm caught on photo.

Sep 5
Vangelis - La petite fille de la mer

 

Sep 6
Realize people's approval and disapproval is projection and speculation, whatever they say about you is ultimately about them. Stop taking it so damn seriously.
YT JulienHimself Clips

Sep 6
You would not take my opinion seriously because I don't know anything about it.
YT Julien Blanc On Why NOBODY Can Approve Or Disapprove Of You! (Stop Caring What People Think)

Sep 7
Idea, passion execute for a reason, Divine is speaking through me, I am just a channel for inspiration, inspiration does not come from me.
YT THE IMPOSTER SYNDROME | 5 Ways To Silence The Inner Critic

 

Sep 7
Do the things anyway. Inner critic is yelling and screaming 'quit now, you are loser'. The only way to silence inner critic is action, I cannot negotiate with them, he will win.
YT THE IMPOSTER SYNDROME | 5 Ways To Silence The Inner Critic

 

Sep 7
Bullies feel bad about you. They think they are in perfect position to pound you out, it is not they suffer from weakness of self image.
YT Self Esteem Is A Myth And Illusion | Jordan Peterson

 

Sep 7
From young age we are conditioned to feel a sense of lack and limitation. The feeling that whatever we have and are is never enough.
YT Taoism: 5 Teachings That Will Change Your Life

 

Sep 7
The great nothing – being able to see what's in front of you when you're not busy looking for something else.
YT Taoism: 5 Teachings That Will Change Your Life

 

Sep 7
Playing on ClassicFM (UK);
Hans Zimmer - S.T.A.Y. (Interstellar Main Theme)

 

Sep 8
Narcissists touch shame wound if they can activate it. Indirectly blaming you for things that are not your fault. Very closely associated with shame is blame.
YT How Narcissists Awaken Your SHAME Wound To Cause You To Seek Their Approval/Love

Sep 8
Well, they forget that sex is just one small aspect of life. The whole thing is a fantasy. Why, they don't really want this adventure. They've been sold that they're supposed to want it. To them, I'm just... a status symbol.
Boys Night Out (1962)

Sep 9
When people are anxious they are apt to think that, if the worst should happen, there will be nothing they can do to prevent it or make it manageable.
"Overcoming low self-esteem", Melanie Fennel

Sep 9
You take precautions to protect yourself, to stop the worst from happening. The precautions actually prevent you from discovering for real whether your anxious predictions have any true foundation.
"Overcoming low self-esteem", Melanie Fennel

 Sep 10
Tendency of narcissistic people to weaponize what they perceive as weaknesses of other people, those things will be exploited, mocked and shamed. Person may get stuck in cycle of trying to please narcissistic person.
YT DoctorRamani

 

Sep 10
We as humans need constant and healthy emotional support from those around us in large amounts in order to grow and thrive.
YT Why Do You Follow the Narcissist's Breadcrumbs?

 

Sep 10
Lack of self control, you can't handle yourself. If you aren't able to control impulses, urges, desires, you are at the mercy of your body having these endless impulses that are insatiable, leads to anger, fear, you can't center yourself.
YT Fight SCIENCE

 

Sep 10
I feel compassion seeing someone upset, I know that they have that emotion suppressed inside, it is like pressure cooker, subconscious mind desperately looking for trigger in outside world to release some of the anger.
YT Rhonda Byrne

 

Sep 10
Doris Day's character going to cinema watching the Caprice (1967), the movie she is in right now.

Sep 11
90 percent what you say to people is tone. In Spanish if you say like in English tone 'Pasa la sal por favor', it sounds feminine and weird.
HOUR OF POWER

 

Sep 11
I recognized people are either conscious thinkers or they are running some type of pattern of program that they never questioned and they don't know how to analyze or question their belief system.
YT  Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc.

Sep 14
The more concretised your persona is, or personality, the more wounds you carry upon yourself
YT The Great Sadhguru

Sep 15
Titanic in 2021.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5KdsGPsF2go

Sep 16
It takes courage to say the test is unfair. But perhaps next time you are judged unfairly, it will not take so many bruises for you to protest.
Star Trek TNG S07 E15

Sep 16
It took courage to come here and face me after what I said to you the other day.  I was harsh with you, because I wanted to assess you for a very important mission.
Star Trek TNG S07 E15
 

 

Sep 17
If they are angry at you, let them be angry, they will try to blame their negative emotion on you, don't let them. If you take responsibility for their emotions they will use that to manipulate you and get you to do whatever they want
YT Psychology Element

 

Sep 17
Once a narcissist starts to abuse you, they will not stop. If they talk to you like that, refuse to speak back. Narcissists like attention. Even negative attention. They want to have a punching bag by continuing to speak to them.
YT  Psychology Element

Sep 17
It is not your job to protect other people feelings. Especially if they mistreat or disrespecting you.
YT When People Get Their Feelings Hurt When We Set Boundaries

Sep 18
"99% of the problems that develop wouldn't develop if people would just tell the whole truth from the beginning."

Sep 18
Locus of control.

Sep 18
As my systems grew in complexity, it was difficult to integrate new pathways into my existing neural net.
I chose to treat the problems I was having as challenges to overcome - Not obstacles to be avoided.
Star Trek TNG - 7x18 - Eye of the Beholder

Sep 19
Social Anxiety - Quick fix tips
"We never know what will happen next."

 

Sep 25
Implants. Those aren't your memories, they're somebody else's.
Blade Runner (1982)

Sep 25
Quite an experience to live in fear, isn't it? That's what it is to be a slave.
Blade Runner (1982)

Sep 25
He encouraged us not to fear supernatural things, such as ghosts, and said they did no harm, but only wandered about because they were lonely and distressed and wanted kindly notice and compassion; and in time we learned not to be afraid
The Mysterious Stranger, Mark Twain

Sep 26
In most cases the man's life is about equally divided between happiness and unhappiness. When this is not the case the unhappiness predominates—always.
The Mysterious Stranger by Mark Twain

Sep 26
Life itself is only a vision, a dream.
Nothing exists; all is a dream. God—man—the world—the sun, the moon, the wilderness of stars—a dream, all a dream; they have no existence. Nothing exists save empty space—and you!
THE MYSTERIOUS STRANGER by Mark Twain

 

Sep 26
But I have revealed you to yourself and set you free. Dream other dreams, and better!
there is no God, no universe, no human race, no earthly life, no heaven, no hell. It is all a dream—a grotesque and foolish dream. Nothing exists but you. And you are but a thought
Mark Twain

 

Sep 28

Codependents make great employees. We don't complain, we do more than our share, we do whatever is asked of them, we people please, try to do work perfectly.
YT Codependent No More No. 46

We feel like if I just do this I'm in control of situation, they will not yell at me, if I do all these stuff they will like me. If I do all these things it will be ok, it seems like I am the one who is controlling. We are not.
YT Elizabeth Kupferman
Codepe

 

Sep 28
We judge parts we don't like. I choose to embrace the parts of myself that I previously did not like, that I have been taught by society to judge and dislike.
YT MJ Harris

 

Sep 28
It is important to realize these reactions emanate from your body, the big challenge of treating trauma is how do we help people to live in bodies that feel fundamentally safe?
YT Big Think

 

Sep 29
We were gaslit about what was going on compared to what our feelings were telling us.  That I was selfish for having those reactions. I would not trust my intuition.
YT Do You Gaslight Yourself?

We shift from our natural intuition and perception into our trauma due to shame. Being told they are too sensitive as children, later they gaslit themselves to be too much.
YT Patrick Teahan LICSW

Sep 29
Toxic positivity can be bad thing when used as a way to hide from truth, not being authentic, used to repress or deny our feelings, when it is used not to deal with hard core truth about something.
YT Brad Shore, LMFT [Ask A Shrink!]

If they're still complaining and grief stricken and not functioning in life 4 years later, then it's worth saying to them,let's examine this. But initially, it is what it is. Let's look on bright side may not be the most helpful thing to say at that moment

 

 Sep 30
Sometimes honesty can be painful but you also want to be totally straightforward with other people and tell them how  you feel.
YT How to be Assertive

Being assertive can be viewed as being aggressive if you're too honest with your feelings and thoughts. When you're very forward and honest, some people view that as being aggression, arrogant of ignorant.
YT carpo719 "The Most Rational Man Alive"

It's important when you're assertive that you don't let others views on things gets you all hung up on maybe they're right. You want to consider their viewpoints but you still have to stick by what you taught yourself and your own values.
YT carpo719

 

August 2021 Twitter

Aug 1
August 2021 started with showers.

Aug 2
The judgement always comes from frustrated unimportant people. Don't be the consequence of somebody's opinion.
YT The Indian Mystics

 

Aug 3
You'll always find some excuse! You have never tried to do anything you wanted to do because you were afraid you would fail. Stop blaming everybody else. Stick your neck out, get off your butt and do it!
Eunice (1982)

 

Aug 4
Vulnerability is not weakness. I define it as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty. It fuels our daily lives. Vulnerability is our accurate measure of courage, to let ourselves been seen, to be honest.
Listening to shame | Brené Brown

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0

Aug 4
Shame is gremlin that says you are not good enough, 'I know these things that happen to you when growing up, you are not smart, talented enough'.
People who don't experience shame are people who have no capacity for connection and empathy.
Brené Brown

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0

Aug 4
Shame for woman: do it all, do it perfectly, never let them see you sweat. Web of unattainable expectations who we are suppose to be. A strait jacket. Man: do not be perceived as weak.
"Vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, innovation and change."

 

Aug 4
Comments very super personal, they were the things that creative people play in their mind and then give up.
If you are not in arena, also getting your ass kicked, I am not interested in your feedback. Have constructive feedback to give me, I want it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UqWa65bzhIY

Aug 4
We're hardwired for connection. When we stop caring what people think, we lose our capacity for connection. When we become defined by what people think, we lose our capacity to be vulnerable. Reserve seats for critics. I hear you,I do it anyway
Brené Brown

 

Aug 5
If you want to be afraid, there are a lot of things to be afraid about. People think they are not suppose to be afraid. It will not go away, it will come back in another area. Do it afraid.
YT Joyce Meyer: Don't Let the Devil Steal Your Life Through Fear

 

Aug 5
Alfred Hitchcock's cameo appearance in Dial M for Murder (1954).

Aug 6
Making excessive rules, trying to influence what they say, they make rules what to say, that is controlling. Instead of healing and learning to have boundaries themselves, is they are making someone else responsible.
YT Crappy Childhood Fairy

 

Aug 6
It appears you can freeze a quantum state by measuring it continuously.
Zeno's Paradox & The Quantum Zeno Effect

 

Aug 7
The point of the fish story is merely that the most obvious, important realities are often the ones that are the hardest to see and talk about.
David Foster Wallace, 2005 Kenyon College Commencement Speech

 

 

 Aug 7
Isolation and patient repetition of stimuli are required to tame wild animals. The totalitarians have followed this rule.
Joost Meerloo "Rape of the Mind"

 

Aug 7
Relieving people of the burden of freedom in order to make them feel safe is a recurring theme in the history of authoritarianism.
Frank Furedi

 

Aug 7
Meba, an alien from Venus as precursor to ET (1982).
"Supersonic Saucer" (1957)

Aug 8
Forgive, show mercy and move forward. Living in strife, holding grudges, not forgiving, that's keeping you from the new things. It takes maturity to enjoy where you are even if there are challenges.
JOEL OSTEEN

 

Aug 8
Life is not about goal, about journey. We can get there worried, sour, upset. After this goal, there will be another challenge. Worrying about them doesn't make them work out any sooner.
Take time to enjoy the present. There's a blessing in disguise.
JOEL OSTEEN

Aug 10
She firmly made her mind no one victimize her – in her mind only way to ensure that is to become victimizer. When you choose the path of a victimizer you don't go up against bigger victimizers. You go after unsuspecting victims.
YT Hope Project

 

Aug 10
Elbow handshake as a friendly gesture (elbow bump) invented by Mel Brooks in Young Frankenstein (1974).

Aug 11
Egocentrism – my perspective is the only perspective.
There are lot of things that could happen, I don't know what is going on in someone's head. I have to assume it is not about me, if it's nothing obvious. I have to assume something else is going on.

 

Aug 12
Poučna Staza Marča - Hiking area

Aug 13
We have to build capacity of allowing other people being disappointed, we don't have to regulate their perspectives any more. If you're making choices that are not affecting them directly, doesn't violate an agreement.
YT  Happiness After Codependency

 

Aug 13
Make others better by example. Just do the right thing, ignore what is happening outside. “People suck…” But we don’t have to.
Memento mori - People are here on loan. They are here under shaky status at best.
YT Daily Stoic

 

Aug 15
Transactional value - your values determined by the approval and rejection of other people, it is determined by your usefulness. What we choose as root conclusions trap us.
YT Happiness After Codependency

 

Aug 15
Candice Bergen in 'Vivre pour vivre' (1967).

Aug 16
Many of the Barry Lyndon (1975) shots were composed and filmed in order to evoke certain eighteenth-century paintings, especially those by Thomas Gainsborough.
IMDb Trivia

Aug 17
Chilbolton crop circle from 2001 as a reply to Arecibo message sent in 1974.
"They" inhabit 2 planets and 4 moons.

 

 

Aug 19
He drifted through much of his career with no plan or agenda, going from one assignment to the next, never seizing the opportunities that presented themselves. And no one ever offered him a command. He learned to play it safe. And he never, ever got noticed by anyone.
TNG S06 E15

 

Aug 19
That Picard never had a brush with death, never came face-to-face with his own mortality, never realized how fragile life is or how important each moment must be. So his life never came into focus.
Star Trek The Next Generation S06 E15

 

Aug 19
- I believe that I can do more.
- Hasn't that been the problem all along? Throughout your career, you've had lofty goals, but you've never been willing to do what's necessary to attain them.
Star Trek The next generation S06 E15

Aug 20

We believe their love approval valuing of us will complete us, they hold key to our self worth, they are authority over who we are and what intrinsic value is. This helps us compensate and tolerate the abuse that is going on.

 

The most certain sign of wisdom is continual cheerfulness
 Michel de Montaigne

Aug 22

-Being cruel to people who are helpless.
-Why are we talking about people like this, because we're wasting positive energy. Forget it, don't try to understand it. That's their problem.
-The things that amaze me I want explanation.
YT The Dick Cavett Show
 

-Didn't you think you were crazy?
- And then you said, "Little did he know". It's third-person omniscient. Which meant it was, well, you know, someone other than me.
Stranger Than Fiction (2006)

Aug 23

Both narcissist and codependents crave control of their environment including over people around them. Because both types are profoundly insecure, maintaining control over circumstances is crucial to their comfort.
YT Inner Toxic Relief

 

Sometimes a confrontation is the only way to protect yourself. Keep in mind that you will never be able to have a meaningful relationship with a narcissist still invested in their narcissistic behavior.
YT What Happens When You Stand Up To A Narcissist?

 

Aug 24
A little bit of self doubt might make us work harder, but too much of it will freeze us to the spot, manifest in imposter experience.
YT The difference between self esteem and self-efficacy

 

Aug 26
Most humanoids have the potential to be irrational.
Perhaps you should attempt to access that part of your psyche.
Star Trek The Next Generation s06e21

 Aug 30
The solution to people pleasing and showing up your true authentic self is accepting yourself for who you are and loving yourself for who you are. Until you do that you will forever be chasing the image of perfection, an illusion.
YT Peak Prosper

You can't change someone opinion. People like you more if you don't care what they think of you. You will earn their respect.
YT Mindset With Josh

Driving phobia - quick tips

🚥 Slow down. I do not need to join in hysteria.

🚥 MP3 FM player - to avoid irritating commercials, annoying music and talk

🚥 Practice. Drive often and again.

🚥 Bicycle riding in order to grasp the road system and others cars speeding.

🚥 Self worth - rely on personal resources and my own conclusions, making decisions.

🚥 There are worse people out there, inept and incompetent for driving. 

🚥 Understanding the modern roads are made to make driving easier, not complicated.

🚥 Before driving make firm decision to abstain from impatient, nervous jumpy driving.

🚥 Statistically, potential/eventual bad things do not happen every single minute.

🚥 Phobia are not irrational - they are based on previous bad experiences and bad drivers and corrupt state like roads being badly marked or falsely marked by officials, police is not punishing bad drivers who do not pay attention to horizontal marking signals

🚘EXAMPLES of phobia being precognition of reality,
it is not imaginary fantasy delusion but reaction to the real threat:

• drivers entering already full crossroad or roundabout 
•  pedestrians standing on the middle of road due to tree shade
•  city workers place warning forbidden tape across the parking place for no reason
• road work not being regulated in the middle of busy road 
• tailgating
• nervous drivers entering roundabout quickly even though car is coming 
• taking advantage of pass when coming from parking place 
• not using signal lights 
• roads left damaged defective after road work finished months afterwards 
• unmarked - wrongly marked  traffic sign, there is sign to go straight and suddenly at crossroad it turns to the right only
• filled & sparce parking spaces
• no parking places free
• petrol station using sign for trucks only but it is for cars too
• petrol station only has one type of diesel
• wrong vertical traffic marking on the road misleading direction
• careless drivers over ride during traffic light stop 
• bicycle rider driving across red light in front of incoming car
• careless aggressive drivers who overpass the row and stand in front of everyone 
• delivery trucks using entrance driveway as load/unload spot blocking 75 percent of the road entrance
• wrong misleading traffic signs and vertical signs at busy frequent crossroad 
•  careless drivers keep open doors at parking place
• delivery truck blocks the narrow road
• electrician/cable fixture truck blocking the road without any sign to divert the traffic 
• police cars not obeying the traffic law: not using signal lights, illegal driving speed
• car parked at the middle of crossroad 
• road works with traffic sign are disorganized since the route is stretched too long so there is situation where slow moving vehicle like tractor is hogging the road and refused to move to right lane when the opposite traffic gets green light to move towards the slow moving tractor
• careless driver keep on driving even though row of cars have green light to go 
• drivers not using signal light so wait them until they make turn 
• careless driver(s) not obeying to vertical signal and stops at the main road, far from his stop marking 
• cranky driver honking behind on crossroad when it is red traffic light 
• cars and trucks driving on the wrong side of the lane when their half is dug up due to road works and truck not moving away even when I signal with light and trumpet 
• when I turn to park the nervous driver in a car behind me overpass me even when I signal and start to turn to parking and I need space to turn 
• car turning left without checking incoming cars without turning signal lights on
• car going back from parking place without signal lights and without checking traffic 
• local village idiot on a bicycle at right lane turning left at big crossroad without giving signal and waiting on a wrong side of lane
• underground garage and driver driving in a wrong direction in one way lane
• nervous driver giving light signal to move at highway which is forbidden by law while driving at illegal speed and tailgating
•  road traffic jams caused by system disorganization
•  drivers driving at crossroads under red light
• authority car firefighter breaking law and entering roundabout without stopping blocking me