Quotes to consider

 Quotes to consider:
Lundy Bancroft:
"Abuse is NOT caused by bad relationship dynamics. You can't manage your partner's abusiveness by changing your behaviour. But he wants you to think you can."

Carl Jung | Psychology and Philosophy 🧠, TWITTER:
The foundation of all mental illness is the unwillingness to experience legitimate suffering.

Sigmund Freud | Philsopher & Neurologist ✍️, TWITTER:
Unexpressed emotions will never die.
They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.

Since most non-HSPs do not seem to enjoy thinking about solutions, they assume we must be unhappy doing all that pondering.
Preferring toughness, the culture sees our trait as something difficult to live with, something to be cured.
The Highly Sensitive Person,
Elaine N. Aron

"Any attempt to dictate what thoughts, feelings, and sensations are proper or improper creates a breeding ground for guilt and shame"
Peter Levine

Carl Rogers: “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself, just as I am, then I can change.”

Self-regulation, writes Ross Buck, “involves in part the attainment of emotional competence, which is defined as the ability to deal in an appropriate and satisfactory way with one’s own feelings and desires.”
Dr. Gabor Maté,
"When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress"

Escape attempt from pain creates more pain.
We get addicted to it.
Dr. Gabor Maté

"I have to be strong"
The core belief in having to be strong enough, characteristic of many people who develop chronic illness, is a defense.
When the Body Says No - The Cost of Hidden Stress
Book by Gabor Maté

Many of us live, if not alone, then in emotionally inadequate relationships that do not recognize or honour our deepest needs.
Isolation and stress affect many who may believe their lives are quite satisfactory.
"When the Body Says No", Dr. Gabor Maté

For anger to be deployed appropriately, the organism has to distinguish between threat and non-threat.
If I don’t know where my own boundaries begin and end, I cannot know when something potentially dangerous is intruding on them.
"When the Body Says No", Dr. Gabor Maté

See that anxiety is normal response on their part to what actually happened to them. And it can be relieved and recovered if they look at its sources.
YT What Causes Your Anxiety? | Dr. Gabor Mate

“What we call the personality is often a jumble of genuine traits and adopted coping styles that do not reflect our true self at all but the loss of it.”
Quote by Gabor Maté

Almost every mental disorder originates in childhood experience and originates as coping mechanism. When you are threatened with something, you would not be anxious, you would be afraid - as you should be.
YT Dr. Gabor Mate

Cry for help begins as coping mechanism and that becomes generalized. So under certain circumstances there should be fear and anxiety. But when I have anxiety and there is no immediate threat, what is that about?
YT Dr. Gabor Mate

Look at childhood. Anxiety is really the cry of some desperate childhood part of themselves for help and to learn to get help with that part. Not just to take tranquilizers, drink or go to Internet to soothe themselves.
YT Dr. Gabor Mate

The desire for self development stems from "narcissistic" desires, a tendency to self-aggrandizement and superiority over others.
Sigmund Freud

Neurosis is the avoidance of legitimate suffering.
JUNG

The first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego,
the second half is going inward and letting go of it.
Carl Jung

Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual's conscious life, the blacker and denser it is.
Carl Jung


“To be normal is the ideal aim for the unsuccessful.”
JUNG

Improving our relationships is improving our mental health.
William Glasser

Interpersonal strife with those close to us leads to rifts and resentments that produce symptoms of mental illness; these problems are, in fact, the logical consequence of troubled relationships.
Glasser emphasizes that lasting psychological problems are usually caused by problems in our personal relationships (rather than signifying a biochemical abnormality in the brain), and distress can be remedied through repairing these relationships without recourse to psych drugs.
WILLIAM GLASSER

Controlling Habits:
Blaming
Criticizing
Complaining
Nagging
Rewarding To Control
Threatening
Punishing
William Glasser

William Glasser "What's my Choice" Connecting Habits:
Listening
Supporting
Encouraging
Negotiating
Respecting
Accepting
Trusting

They see us as timid, shy, weak, or unsociable. Fearing these labels, we try to be like others. But that leads to our becoming overaroused and distressed. Then that gets us labeled neurotic or crazy, first by others then by ourselves.
The Highly Sensitive Person, Elaine N. Aron

Learning to see our trait as a neutral thing-useful in some situations, not in others-but our culture definitely does not see it, or any trait, as neutral.
Be careful about accepting labels for yourself such as "inhibited", "introverted", "shy"
The Highly Sensitive Person,E. Aron

"Sooner or later everyone encounters stressful life experiences, but HSPs react more to such stimulation. If you see this reaction as part of some basic flaw, you intensify the stress already present in any life crisis.
This deeper processing of subtle details causes you to consider the past or future more. You "just know" how things got to be the way they are or how they are going to turn out. It can be wrong, but your intuition is right often enough that HSPs tend to be visionaries, more conscientious, cautious and wise people.
It is important not to confuse arousal with fear.
And often we think that our arousal is due to fear. We do not realize that our heart may be pounding from the sheer effort of processing extra stimulation.
I really suggest trying to view it as neutral.
HSPs must spend far more time trying to invent solutions to human problems just because they are more sensitive to hunger, cold, insecurity, exhaustion, and illness.
Since most non-HSPs do not seem to enjoy thinking about such things, they assume we must be unhappy doing all that pondering.
Spend enough time putting yourself out there in the world - your sensitivity is not something to be feared.
Carl Jung believed that when highly sensitive patients has experienced a trauma, they had been unusually affected and so developed a neurosis.
Preferring toughness, the culture sees our trait as something difficult to live with, something to be cured. HSPs differ mainly in their sensitive processing of subtle stimuli. This is your most basic quality."
The Highly Sensitive Person, Elaine N. Aron

Goodness is chosen. When a man cannot choose, he ceases to be a man.
A Clockwork Orange (1971)

We didn't know until recently that c-PTSD is an injury to your brain and nervous system. And a lot of therapist and clinical professionals still don't know this.
YT Crappy Childhood Fairy

 Somebody made you feel bad about yourself for expecting a normal respectful interaction with people. Somebody planted this idea that you are damaged.
YT Crappy Childhood Fairy

 Narcissists get exhausted at playing nice, they are not naturally empathic. Your form of supply is being their punching bag. They use charm to get supply from people with power or attract new people. And rage & abuse to regulate their exhaustion.
YT DR Ramani

You learned that boundaries weren't necessary. You learned that boundaries equal pain. So as an adult you don't know how to set a boundary. And in fact your brain is going to send you information that tells you – boundaries are bad.
Lisa Romano

If you come from dysfunctional family, you don't have tools you need to gain perspective. It is not your fault. If it is difficult for you to disengage, when narcissist get angry, you must know this is not your fault.
Lisa Romano

 

I would berate myself, I'm just selfish, I'm not good enough, I'm not trying hard enough, it's me. This person's perfect, everyone loves him. I fell into narrative that was created in me when I was a child. Brain wired to think – wrong with me.
Lisa Romano

When you're dealing with covert narcissist, they exploit this in you. They figure out what your fears are and they exploit it. I heard “You never were happy so that is why you can ever be happy with me”. And it makes sense based on programming.
Lisa Romano
 

"The difficulty lies not so much in developing new ideas as in escaping from old ones."
 - John Maynard Keynes

October 2022 Twitter

 Oct 1, 2022

Christians portrayed as cruel and sadistic in Turkish adventure/history movie Savulun Battal Gazi Geliyor (1973)
https://youtu.be/sZo-rfa2xH4

 

 

Oct 1, 2022

 If you are not responsible with the little, even that will be taken away. Don't just bury your talent, give it away, do something.
Hour of Power

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UDn5hSNHZHM

Oct 1
Spinning the 78s from the top of the world. Playing great shellacs from 1902-1958. Big Band, Jazz, Swing, Vintage Country, and Blues. As always, completely commercial free.
Arctic Outpost AM1270
https://aor.am

 

Oct 1
October 1st sunset.

 

Oct 1
If Norman Bates is crazy, there are a whole lot of people here running him a close second.
Psycho II (1983)

 

Oct 2
Empathy gap:
someone in cold /neutral state have trouble understanding someone in a hot emotional state.
A calm person might be unable to predict how they will act when they're upset.

 

Oct 2
It is great to be nice and kind - in kind and nice ambient. In toxic ambient, being kind is a recipe to become pushover, people pleaser and victim of abuse.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/07/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
 

Oct 2
The rule and urge to be kind is actually extremely dangerous - since it can hypnotize us to follow clearly person who is mentally ill and psychopathic. Russian kindness is causing war in Ukraine.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/07/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
 

 

Oct 2
'The empathy gap describes our tendency to underestimate the influence of varying mental states on our own behavior and make decisions that only satisfy our current emotion, feeling, or state of being.'

 

Oct 2
Empathic people are natural targets for sociopaths - protect yourself.

 

Oct 3
What makes you say "Yes" even when you are already stretched thin?
- I sympathize with the other

Toxic Empathy

 

Oct 4
Self esteem is bedrock of high performance. It's the bedrock of everything. You are who you hang around with. Show me your friends and I'll show you your future.
YT Dan Pena

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/SMs1sWf13n8?feature=share

 Oct 4
Panic attack is Charcot hysteria - it stems from unconsciousness, it is autonomous part of our brain, discovered by Freud and explained by Jung. If we stifle it down, if we ignore it, if we reject it, if we pretend it is not issue - it will not go away.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/07/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html

Oct 4
Sometimes things can't be just a question of what we want, Highness, but of what is right.
The King and I (1956)

 

Oct 5
Cats love solar energy.

 

Oct 5
If we have intrinsic locus of control - the only opinion which will matter will be our common sense, our ingrained ability to differentiate what is good and wrong - we won't depend on volatility of other people who appear around us at given time.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/07/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
 

Oct 5
Panic symptoms that anxious will report, apparent lack of confidence and/or "self esteem" - is not character flaw as CBT perceive it due to faulty research in 1990s - instead - panic, self censorship and avoidance in social situation - is trauma response.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/07/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
 

 

Oct 5
Over explaining is trauma response.

YT Why Narcissistic Abuse Keeps You STUCK Overexplaining & In Fear of Confrontation From Childhood

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iOrixcOFvXs&feature=youtu.be

 Oct 5
Inferiority complex (1981)
A humorous criminal story about a dog that knew how to read, appreciated classical music and spoke a foreign language. His primitive master hates his dog's superiority and tries to liquidate it physically.
YT FILMY ČESKY
https://youtube.com/watch?v=2CuJK3_03i0

Oct 5
Without education, without correct guidance - we will default to cognitive distortions. Problem are not cognitive distortions itself, as CBT is instructing us to lobotomize ourselves.
Cut toxic people off. Not our brain.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/07/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html

Oct 5
That is October sunset.

 

Oct 5
The appearance of being a victim. The appearance of being frail and fragile. Remember at all times that what you are dealing with is a performance to elicit a response from you to serve them. They imply them, they get you to serve them in some way.
Grannon

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/gPObIhdnxB8?feature=share

 
Oct 6
I am not intimidating you are intimidated. There is a difference. I am not taking too much space, you're just used in people playing small. My inner light is not too bright, you're just used in dimming your own.
YT Nurse Lindy

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/NlUJF3Do6ho?feature=share

Oct 6
I am not mean nor aggressive, I am honest and assertive and that makes you uncomfortable. And I do not make you uncomfortable, my presence challenges your comfort. I will be not less for you for you to feel better about yourself.
YT Nurse Lindy

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/NlUJF3Do6ho?feature=share

Oct 6
When I was started working there I would see quite aggressive people and thinking “They're so assertive”. They weren't. They were aggressive because they didn't listen to other people, not interested in other say.
YT Kim Revell

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKKyIE1MGSY

 Oct 6
France Télévisions are going to introduce colored pictograms on the screen to encourage the French to save energy.
Tricolor pictogram will indicate to viewers the voltage on the national electricity network.
https://time.news/electricity-weather-france-televisions-will-encourage-the-french-to-save-energy/

Oct 6
Prasanna vadanaaM saubhaagyadaaM bhaagyadaaM
HastaabhyaaM abhayapradaaM maNigaNair-
Naanaavidhair-bhuushhitaaM
(who is of smiling face, bestower of all fortunes,
Whose hands are ready to rescue anyone from fear,
Who is adorned by various ornaments)

Enigma

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jy29H1OQOLk

Oct 6
Anyone else noticed that when we save pictures from Twitter, they are now in *.jfif extension?
This happened also last time when Musk was promising to buy Twitter.

Is this some kind of covert, spy operation for him to overlook Twitter traffic or what? 🤔

 

Oct 6
This is the story of Freud's descent into a region almost as black as hell itself: Man's unconscious, and how he let in the light.
Freud (1962)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CX2jK_tvcYE

 Oct 7
It is natural to want to do something to mitigate pain they are in. In codep. we lose ourselves in helping other people. We lose boundary to self. We end up enabling situations, like puppet on string, passenger in other people's lives without healthy self.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yn1j5nwwGb4

Oct 7
If you're codependent, your mood is very much dependent upon how other people feel. And you will naturally by default based on subconscious programs that are keeping you stuck, you will affected by the new moods of people.
Lisa Romano

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yn1j5nwwGb4

Oct 7
And do what you can to control them as a way to control how you feel and the powerlessness and the unsafe way that you feel below the veil of unconsciousness. With parents of alcoholic you consistently look outside of yourself.
Lisa Romano

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yn1j5nwwGb4

 

Oct 7
You learned that boundaries weren't necessary. You learned that boundaries equal pain. So as an adult you don't know how to set a boundary. And in fact your brain is going to send you information that tells you – boundaries are bad.
Lisa Romano

 

Oct 7
If you live with a narcissist you will feel emotionally dis-regulated, feel anxious all the time, and that is because narcissist requires dominance and control. They rely on gaslighting, blame-shifting, projection to keep you in control.
Lisa Romano

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/k2o_fFPfcV0

 Oct 7
When I see red flags, I am like thank you, this is not me, this is not whom I want to spend my time, this is not what I accept in my life. Thank you for showing me so quickly, I appreciate it so much. Obviously I don't say these things, I think them.

Liz

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CqMu76ljE_A

Oct 7
Grooming cycle – targeting, testing how it's going to go. After honeymoon period let down the guard. If you hold shame about that abuse, that is part of trauma. They love that you harbor shame and guilt. F* them, you are blameless.
YT Elizabeth Kupferman

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CqMu76ljE_A

Oct 7
To heal fawning, to heal codependency you have to be expert at Dynamics. There is no other way. I've not found it.
YT Elizabeth Kupferman
The Grooming Cycle
https://youtube.com/watch?v=CqMu76ljE_A
 

 

Oct 7
Speaking your opinion will actually cause less headaches in the future because this will distance those people who are not compatible. If you pretend to agree, it will cause more headaches later.
YT HSP Tips

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/l_b4iPsgdX4

 Oct 7
They minimize, not being honest, deny it, flip the script on you if you have complaint, up the ante – they ignore what you are saying it is about you, it is counter attack, make you feel guilty to stop you to make you feel bad.
YT Terri Cole

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SArj4a4jSec

Oct 7
Relaxing.

 

Oct 7
If God is not at the top of everything, if religion is not at the top of everything, what seems to replace it is us. We put ourselves there. If we don't have belief at the top, we go at the top, deification of humans: apex predators, criminals.
R. GRANNON

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

 Oct 7
What was environment that narcissist trying to survive? – objectification, abuse less direct. Direct abuse will probably create borderline disorder, dysregulation, damaged sense of self. Neglect or deification create NPD.
YT RICHARD GRANNON
“A Cult Of One”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

Oct 7
When you are interacting with narcissist, this is a child trapped in pain and in suffering. You might feel sorry for them and think you can rescue them. Don't do that. It feels good. There's no salvation. You are not their savior. Leave it.
RICHARD GRANNON

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

Oct 7
Narcissist have to hurt people to feel ok. They can't help it. Don't feel sorry for them. That is machine, that is virus, that is program that is running. Your compassion is taken as weakness and something to be strategized and used against you.
R. GRANNON

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

Oct 7
CPTSD are little bit of pieces of trauma inside of us, they generate very primal responses because you see this as existential threat, experience this as something that could cease your existence: Freezing, keep still.
YT RICHARD GRANNON
“A Cult Of One”

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

Oct 7
Body will tell you don't move. Because you don't have software for it, there is no reason to be trained in it. There's no software for it. Your body goes – this is new experience, it's threatening, keep still. This related to narcissistic abuse.
R. GRANNON

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

Oct 7
Narcissists are impressionable, juvenile, they absorb personalities from films they've seen. They absorb music they listening as the mode of life. That is character to sell to people, why would you think that is mode of living?
RICHARD GRANNON
Cult Of One

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

Oct 7
Somebody is going to be in charge. Somebody will determine they way our lives are lived and it it's not us, it's probably going to be criminal psychopaths. It's going to be advertiser, politician, some corporate lunatic.
YT RICHARD GRANNON
“A Cult Of One”

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

Oct 7
Echo is walkover, no voice of own, can only repeat, just an echo what other people have said. She mistakes narcissist as a sign of love. She mistakes what narcissist is doing as sign of love. It's miscommunication between echo and narcissist.
RICH. GRANNON

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

Oct 7
The desire to fight back, to resist oppression and evil is good. If it's delusional it's problematic if it is thoughtless, no consciousness there, saying no to everything. If you defying evil, morally that is good, resisting evil.
RICHARD GRANNON

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

Oct 7
True echo codependent self-eradicates. Predator keeps coming in, cannot escape the torture. How do I get somebody who's eradicated themselves to go outside if there is no Self to go outside with?
It is like magical mystical process, to re-summon the Self.

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

Oct 7
There's more emotional dysregulation than you guys are aware of. Because it is normalized for you, you don't realize the amount of anxiety, and commensurate dissociation and depression that you're feeling is dysregulation.
RICHARD GRANNON
“A Cult Of One”

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

 Oct 7
I don't think any of you would get into an abusive relationship if your perceptions were not warped. And if you were in abusive relationship if your perceptions were not warped, you would see it and walk away.
YT RICHARD GRANNON
“A Cult Of One”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

 

Oct 7
You must emotionally re-regulate. So you feel safe. You have to feel safe inside your own body: so to feel safe in the world. Right now you don't. You're cycling through too many emotions. Get in touch with your emotions.
YT RICHARD GRANNON
“A Cult Of One”

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQhkbChGimk

 Oct 7
Full apple growing from a tiny, very small twig. Inspiring.

 
Oct 7
Neurotics form a brotherhood. They learn to recognize each other as I did you. They have only one rule: Silence in the presence of the enemy. Our common enemy...the normal people.
Freud (1962)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=24YPqDx--8A

Oct 7
The malicious have a dark happiness.
Victor Hugo

 

Oct 8
Self-improvement is a trait of Narcissism.

Maslow Hierarchy tells us that we will self improve automatically after we satisfy our basic needs.
Narcissists want dominance as primary concern- not improvement for improvement's sake.

 

 Dr Jordan B Peterson
@jordanbpeterson
·
Feb 15
If you want to know something about yourself, sit on your bed one night and say, “What’s one thing I’m doing wrong, that I know I’m doing wrong, that I could fix, that I would fix?”

Oct 8
I can't tell you how many adults that are 40, 50 and even 60 yo who's parents are still alive and they tell me my dad never said he loved me. Ever in my life. 'My dad never said he was proud of me ever in my life'.
HOUR OF POWER

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7URxWbxMy8A

Oct 8
Google street view of Crimean Bridge;
What is going on here? 🤔
https://google.com/maps/@45.2342474,36.6033252,3a,26.8y,16.96h,76.82t/data=!3m6!1e1!3m4!1skmUnaZHLztY4-fXLhNpSHQ!2e0!7i13312!8i6656

 

Oct 8
My own observations about importance for Jung's Trickster as natural anti-dote to social anxiety and CPTSD:

https://www.reddit.com/r/SocialAnxiety_Ideas/comments/xyt5gl/trickster_by_jung/

 
Oct 9
I can't say no, what will they say? People will take as much as you give them. They'll let you work 24h a day if you will. When emotionally drained, it's not healthy. Nobody can make this change except you.
JOEL OSTEEN

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1DcCERSuF3g

Oct 9
If you don't learn to say no, to some thing, then nothing will change. Because the people that are counting on you to perform, to always be there, they're not going to say “Why don't you take a break”.
JOEL OSTEEN

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1DcCERSuF3g

Oct 9
You have them trained. They're expecting you to be there for them. The moment you aren't, they'll say “What's going on?”. Your health, your emotional well-being is more important than making everyone happy.
JOEL OSTEEN

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1DcCERSuF3g

Oct 9
I'm not saying don't work hard. I'm all for working, achieving, being responsible. What I'm saying is stay in balance. You can't work all the time, serve, being strong for others all the time. Sometimes you need break.
JOEL OSTEEN

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1DcCERSuF3g

Oct 9
I'm not talking about living selfishly, I'm talking about living balanced, recognizing that your physical and emotional well-being is up to you. Some people you bend over backwards for, sacrifice – they are never around.
JOEL OSTEEN

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1DcCERSuF3g

Oct 9
Don't make commitments that you know are not wise for your health. When I speak each weekend it takes a lot of emotional energy. Physically I can run all day. But emotionally there is a limited supply. Fill back up.
JOEL OSTEEN

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1DcCERSuF3g

Oct 9
Everybody wants piece of you- people are vying for your attention. You have to be selective about what you commit to. When you're at your limit, you can't keep adding to your schedule without taking something away.
JOEL OSTEEN
https://youtube.com/watch?v=1DcCERSuF3g
 

 Oct 9
We learn not only how to perform a behavior but also what will happen to us in a specific situation if we do perform it.

Social Learning Theory

 

Oct 9
If you want a guarantee, buy a toaster.
Clint Eastwood

 

Oct 9
Richard Pryor's meltdown at the Hollywood Bowl in 1977.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jMUBrPpu1Q

 Oct 9
It takes something more than intelligence to act intelligently.
Fyodor Dostoevsky

 

Oct 10
A lot of people don't have that monitoring system but our inner child doesn't know that. And we often assume that difficult people can make better choices or get it or be better person – but no one is home to do that.
Patrick Teahan LICSW

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/8asiUxvjgbY

 Oct 10
The opening credits for Frankenstein (1931) : The Monster - ?

 

Oct 10
We just didn't learn this stuff at home. When other kids were getting pep talks from their parents and being taught the nuances of interacting with people, and what to do, we were outside of that, completely on our own emotionally
YT Crappy Childhood Fairy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rcy_yfwIg3s

 
Oct 10
Everything intelligent is so boring.
Leo Tolstoy

 

Oct 11
For someone who's covert they can to show tendencies of being harmless. Being lovely, being friendly, and being humbled. Because what they're doing is playing a character. It will point this person to be great catch, great person.
YT Stephanie Lyn Coaching
https://youtube.com/watch?v=mXe2WxOkULI
 

 Oct 11
You believe this person is actually good and this is their character. But over time you're going to start to see stranger behaviours start to come out. What you are witnessing is really the start of narcissistic abuse.
YT Stephanie Lyn Coaching
https://youtube.com/watch?v=mXe2WxOkULI

 

Oct 11
Person can do something really hurtful and be malicious if they're hurting inside. This is not their true nature, their character was how they were bred. You have to be able to take accountability and responsibility and do the work.
YT Stephanie Lyn Coach
https://youtube.com/watch?v=mXe2WxOkULI
 

 Oct 11
"I'd do it for you"
"This is always happening to me"
Healthy person, trying to heal from codependency is able to hear these things &understand their problems, how they feel are not your problems, detach from what does not concern you, won't save situation.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mXe2WxOkULI

 Oct 11
Someone playing the victim and you coming & saving the day or changing or altering yourself is not going to help situation. If anything it's just going to continuously prove to the abuser that when I do this, this person changes or eventually I get my way.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mXe2WxOkULI

Oct 11
They could become more moody, more hostile with you, they could start losing their patience with you, because they're not getting what they want. Mood swing, hostile, poking fun at you, it comes down to: How are you going to respond?
YT Stephanie Lyn Coach
https://youtube.com/watch?v=mXe2WxOkULI
 

 

Oct 11
How you are going to respond to any of these phrases (You get upset over everything) is going to determine you become good resource of narcissistic supply in negative way. Or become this person's punching bag.
YT Stephanie Lyn Coaching

 https://youtube.com/watch?v=mXe2WxOkULI

Oct 11
The healthy way to always approach this person is to hear what they're saying and not take offense to it. That's hard coming from someone you'd think would never try this. But be able to see patterns, manipulation, gaslighting, tantrum.
YT Stephanie Lyn
https://youtube.com/watch?v=mXe2WxOkULI
 

 ·
Oct 11
One of biggest things dealing with someone who is narcissistic is:
Educating yourself
Knowing the patterns this person is going to give,
Expecting the patterns
Stop fantasizing relationship that they are going to do right thing
Create consistent boundaries

https://youtube.com/watch?v=mXe2WxOkULI 

Oct 11
This is something this person continuously does, it's accepting this person has a personality disorder, whether borderline, narcissism – this person is not well. This person does not own it, take responsibility, accountability. When they don't get their way they throw it at me.

 

Oct 11
Good can be evil. Evil can appear good. Something good can only be a good mask for evil to hide behind.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/07/accepting-social-anxiety.html
 

 

Oct 11
Curves give strength.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sN9za6XGSLI

 Oct 11
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

 Oct 11
Confidence comes not from always being right, but from not fearing to be wrong.
Peter T. Mcintyre

 

Oct 11
Tensions caused by trapped emotions:
Charcot hysteria
https://youtube.com/watch?v=e5u5M-bmIQY
 

 Oct 11
Live life as though nobody is watching,
and express yourself as though everyone is listening.
Nelson Mandela

 

Oct 11
Stay away from people who think you're arguing every time you try to express yourself.

 

Oct 11
Do what you love & they'll love what you do.

 

Oct 11
Love yourself so much that when someone treats you wrong, you recognize it.
Rena Rose

 

Oct 11
The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off.
Robert Hand

 

·
Oct 11
I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it.
Marilyn Monroe

 

Oct 11
No one can do it for you...choose to use your wings

 

Oct 11
Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.
MLK

 

Oct 11
Some people will only love you as long as you fit in their box. Don't be afraid to disappoint!

 

Oct 11
Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.
Judy Garland

 

Oct 11
Dracula (1931) cannot have the same horror allure after Mel Brooks' parody.

 

 

Oct 11
The strength of the vampire is that people will not believe in him.
Dracula (1931)

 

Oct 12
If you want to heal, step away from things and people that deepen your wounds.
Thema Bryant-Davis

 

Oct 12
One of the main effect of social media is our confusing of someone's obsession with their appearance with self-love or confidence.
Mokokoma Mokhonoana

 

Oct 12
The desire for self development stems from "narcissistic" desires, a tendency to self-aggrandizement and superiority over others.
Sigmund Freud

 

Oct 12
To chase pleasure is to be chased by pain.
Mokokoma Mokhonoana

 

Oct 12
A 'normal person' is what is left after society has squeezed out all unconventional opinions and aspirations out of a human being.
Mokokoma Mokhonoana

 

Oct 12
- You must hide.
Invisible man: Don't worry. The whole world's my hiding place. I can stand out there amongst them in the day or night and laugh at them.
The Invisible Man (1933)

 

Oct 13
With trauma and conditioning we believe all people are totally good.

https://www.reddit.com/r/SocialAnxiety_Ideas/comments/y2wjjv/charcot_hysteria/

 Oct 13
Blimey, you may be a good butler, but it's a dead cert you ain't no psychologist. What do you know what goes on inside a man's mind? Outside he may look like a gentleman, but inside, he may have the hankering for murder.
The Invisible Man Returns (1940)

 

Oct 13
Cool movie poster for
The Invisible Man (1933)

 

Oct 13
Attribute substitution is a strategy used when we do not have easy access to a desired piece of information.
Instead, we base our decision on readily available information (a proxy or index) that we believe is correlated with the desired information.

 

Oct 13
How about we vote?

 

·
Oct 14
Many survivors of narcissistic abuse have been put in the sort of codependency label barrel. But it's classification that doesn't always fit survivors of narcissistic abuse and it can lead to more self pathologizing.
YT DoctorRamani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UR9BMYTQuLg

 Oct 14
Codependents invest their own self esteem, behavior and emotional state of other person. I feel good if they feel good. Take responsibility for other person needs at exclusion of their own needs. Chaos, volatility, start-stop.
YT DoctorRamani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UR9BMYTQuLg

Oct 14
Codependency is not a person who lacks knowledge of what is in front of them. Person in narcissistic abuse often doesn't know they are in narcissistic relationship, they don't know it is a thing. Don't know that narc doesn't change.
YT DoctorRamani

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UR9BMYTQuLg

Oct 14
Narcissistic abuse survivors – until they've read or heard about what it was – they just assumed that they were the problem. That these are just relationship problems and there are just enough good days to be my problem.
YT DoctorRamani

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UR9BMYTQuLg

Oct 14
What happens when you live with narcissist, the pain versus pleasure principle, it becomes arrested. So your source of pleasure is just avoiding pain. That's not the same as seeking joy, and seeking love.
Lisa A. Romano
WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU DON'T LEAVE NARC

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=svBK-s6VOeM

 Oct 14
Most of the evil in this world is done by people with good intentions.
T.S. Eliot

 

Oct 14
Virginia Bruce was dressed in black velvet and shot against a black background as part of the special-effects process of making her appear invisible. Her black velvet-clad arms are visible whenever they cross in front of her legs or torso.
IMDb Goofs
The Invisible Woman (1940)

 

Oct 14
Andrew Tate said that you had to be proficient in whatever you do in order to be called a “Top G.” In english language, “Top” means highest in position, rank, or degree.

https://wealthquint.com/andrew-tate-top-g-meaning-43223/

 Oct 14
Doing a kindness produces the single most reliable momentary increase in well-being of any exercise we have tested.
Martin Seligman

 

Oct 15
Cancelling someone won't help them grow.
Humiliating  someone won't help them be better.
Munroe

 

Oct 15
It's dangerous when you start telling people they can't have an opinion on something.
Alan Carr

 

·
Oct 15
No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.
Charles Dickens

 

Oct 15
Anger exposes the problem but never delivers the solution.
Rabbi Jonathan Sacks

 

 ·
Oct 15
Life is not a real life until you make a mistake.
Joan Collins

 

Oct 15
Eunice character didn't have risk taking ability, she had a fatal flaw about her that was I always called the if only and I should-a and I could-a, if only this hadn't happened.
OPRAH SHOW, Carol Burnett (1987)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IVF5xZ4WArU

 Oct 15
So Eunice is blaming the outside world for not being able to stick her neck out and risk failing. So it's lot easier to blame circumstances, she was always blaming Ed or mamma, or the fact that she had kids and things like that.
OPRAH, Carol Burnett (1987)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IVF5xZ4WArU

Oct 15
22:22

 

Oct 15
Effects of Micromanaging:
- I feel scrutinized to be trusted
- I don't feel entitled to make decisions
- I must be bad
- Spend time reporting

 

Oct 16
Too many people do not like who they are. They focus on their faults, weaknesses, they relive their mistakes and failures. They wish they were different, better personality. Instead of accepting themselves, they're critical towards themselves.
JOEL OSTEEN

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

 
Oct 16
They wonder why they are not happy. Why they don't have good relationships. It's because they don't like themselves. If you don't get along with you, you're not get along with other people. “Love neighbor as you love yourself”
JOEL OSTEEN

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
You can't love others if you don't love first love yourself. You are not criticizing your friend, why are you criticizing you? You admire their talent, why don't you admire your talent. Start being good to you.
JOEL OSTEEN

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
That's not being selfish, that's not arrogant, that's loving yourself. Too many people go through life against themselves, feeling wrong on the inside. Someone say “I discovered the enemy, it was me”. Are you your enemy?
JOEL OSTEEN

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
Are you defeating yourself, limiting your dreams, sabotaging your relationships, all because you don't like you? You have enough people and circumstances against you, don't be against yourself. There is more right than wrong with you.
JOEL OSTEEN

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
God accepts and approves you right where you are. Faults and all, mistakes, shortcomings, not when you overcome, but right now. He knows you are on a journey. He's changing you little by little. Now accept yourself.
JOEL OSTEEN

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
There are forces trying to stop us, but I wonder if you are your enemy. Circumstances may be against you, people will come against you, you can overcome those things. The problem is if you are against you, keep you from destiny.
JOEL OSTEEN

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
When we compare and think we have to be like someone else, we can feel shortchanged. Like we're at disadvantage, “I'm not as talented as they are”. God has given you what you need to fulfill your destiny. He would give you different personality
JOEL OSTEEN

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
You have to be comfortable in your own skin. Don't covet what someone else has. If you had their gifts, their personality, their looks, it wouldn't help you – it would hinder you. You are equipped for your race. You have the right personality.
JOEL OSTEEN

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
The enemy would love for you to go through life trying to be imitation, copying someone else that you think is more attractive, more successful. Be you. You won't activate the favor if you try to be something that you're not, feeling wrong inside.
J OSTEEN

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
I wonder if you're fighting what makes you unique. Are you frustrated over what you think is a weakness, when in fact it's a strength. Quit wishing you were something different and step into what God made you to be. You have what you need.
JOEL OSTEEN

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
I know I don't do great every time, but in my mind, I do great. I said “I nailed it”. I don't mean this arrogant, but I celebrate myself. I compliment myself, I acknowledge what God enabled me to do. I know people do much better, I'm not running their race
https://youtu.be/AkcG-GrcsFk
 

 Oct 16
The mistake didn't change your purpose. Don't let failures and times you got off course cause you to be against yourself. Be as merciful to you as you are to others. The accuser bring condemnation, guilt, feel not worthy, down. See ys without fault.
OSTEEN

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
God doesn't disqualify us. The mistake we make if we disqualify ourselves. Don't judge your life based on one season where you made mistake, made compromise. That didn't stop your destiny. It will hold you back if you feel guilty, condemned, feel washed up

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
You have to forgive yourself, you have to have mercy on yourself. “-You don't know what I did” Why are you writing yourself off? You don't know where God is taking you. God has still something awesome for you in future.
JOEL OSTEEN

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
Will you compliment yourself? How much further will you go if you'll stay positive toward yourself? Quit beating yourself up for past mistakes, quit dwelling on your faults, over-analyzing your weaknesses. God is still working on you.
JOEL OSTEEN

   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkcG-GrcsFk

Oct 16
Charles Aznavour - Christmas in Paris (1978)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xP8wXUiMTZQ

 Oct 16

There is nothing wrong with you even if you are someone who struggles with severe social anxiety, you isolate, feel like you can't leave your home, tough situation to be in.
YT Where social anxiety comes from and what we can do about it

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fBmpdo5zzxw

Oct 17

This is the scroll of Thoth.
Herein are set down the magic words by which Isis raised Osiris from the dead:
"Oh! Amon-Ra-Oh! God of Gods--Death is but the doorway to new life---We live today-we shall live again--In many forms shall we return-Oh, mighty one.
The Mummy (1932)

 

 Oct 18
Puer natus est nobis,
Et filius datus est nobis
Cujus empirium super humerum

For to us a child is born,
To us a son is given:
And the government will
be upon his shoulder

Who's always our guide
It is the child in us.

Enigma - The Child In Us
https://youtube.com/watch?v=jy29H1OQOLk

 

Oct 18
Moon at daytime.

 

Oct 18
By cleaning our house Goddess Lakshmi comes.
By cleaning our heart and mind Happiness comes.
Ayaan Rajotia

 Oct 18
It is only necessary for one powerful nation like Russia—barbaric as she is said to be—to place herself disinterestedly at the head of an alliance having for its object the maintenance of the balance of power of Europe, and it would save the world!
Tolstoy
https://gutenberg.org/files/2600/2600-h/2600-h.htm

 

Oct 18
No wonder social anxiety exists. If we have no idea that covert abusers exist - our unconsciousness part, autonomous part tries to warn us and give us this message in fact very clearly: avoid and isolate and do not trust anyone; neither bad nor good people
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/07/accepting-social-anxiety.html
 

 Oct 19
Shame is a social emotion, typically felt after failures, inadequacies, and moral or social transgressions (Izard, 1977)

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/02699931.2017.1422696?cookieSet=1#.Y0_EQvdws5w.link

Oct 19
Tool used in manipulation and control through social shame and peer pressure is judgement: criticizing someone's basic fundamental true non-evil functional character traits as evil and disgusting, equating action and errors with character.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/07/accepting-social-anxiety.html
 

 

Oct 19
Fearing labels of shame (masked as warning and alarm to make us straight and fearless and self worthy) - we actually become working drones. We become slave to people who throw labels and judgements and their explanations.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/07/accepting-social-anxiety.html
 

Oct 19
You are not in trouble. We feel like we are in trouble because we were literally told that or feel it because of shame. That feeling in the body is a way you protected yourself.
YT Patrick Teahan LICSW

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/zFvIBhn8b8o

 Oct 19
We naturally assume that what we see is the outside world. But we don't. We "see" a selective and organized mental construct, a fact which psychologists can demonstrate to us rather easily with their apparatus of visual "tricks" and "puzzles".
Introducing Empiricism
Bill Mayblin

 

Oct 19
Radical “postmodernist” philosophers like Michel Foucault (1926–84) further insist that knowledge is always a social and political construct. "What counts as knowledge...are all determined by the powerful"
Introducing Empiricism: A Graphic Guide
Book by Bill Mayblin

 

Oct 19
Our “visual fields” are never experienced directly, but are always instantly “conceptualized”. We do not “receive” information passively, but actively “create” our experiences. We do not draw inferences from sensory information, but impose meanings upon it.
Introducing Empiricism

 

Oct 19
A sense of concern for others gives our lives meaning; it is the root of all human happiness.
Dalai Lama

 

Oct 19
Humans are not ideally set up to understand logic; they are ideally set up to understand stories.
Roger Schank

 

Oct 19
Whoever is careless with the truth in small matter cannot be trusted in important affairs.
Albert Einstein

 

 Oct 19
Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from making bad decisions.
Mark Twain

 

Oct 19
do your own thing

 

Oct 19
Being honest may not get you a lot of friends but it'll always get you the right ones.
John Lennon

 

Oct 19
Normality is a paved road: it's comfortable to walk, but no flowers grow on it.
Vincent van Gogh

 

 Oct 19
"Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it."
Confucius

 

Oct 20
The Chinese room argument holds that a digital computer executing a program cannot have a "mind," "understanding" or "consciousness," regardless of how intelligently or human-like the program may make the computer behave.
Wikipedia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese_room
 

 

 Oct 20
"Chinese Room argues that a computer cannot have a mind of its own and attaining consciousness is an impossible task for these. They can be programmed to mimic the activities of a conscious human being but they can't have an understanding of what they are simulating on their own"

 

Oct 20
Now I know those types. They're in control as long as you let them be in control. It was you who always had the real power.
A Very Natural Thing (1974)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wt3nl03lcJs

Oct 20
Guilt is not actually emotion, there is no fear, anger, joy, nothing at the basis at it. Guilt is absence of something else. What you did do wish you did, or didn't do we don't agree with. That gap causes guilt, gap in reality and wish.
YT Guilt isn't...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YbE6N9I3gk

 Oct 20
Guilt happens the moment we do not, cannot, will not reconcile what we actually did and what we feel we should have done. When you feel guilty, that is signal something haven't been reconciled. Guilt is not emotion.
YT The Ship Inside Your Head
Guilt
https://youtube.com/watch?v=6YbE6N9I3gk

 

Oct 20
The consequences of your fear are more devastating than what you're afraid of.

Fear of the consequences

 

 
Oct 20
When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values.
Marshall B. Rosenberg

 

Oct 20
The reason people try to avoid responsibility is because they very much fear consequences.
Ranal Currie

 

 Oct 20
We fear something before we hate it.
Cyril Connolly

 

Oct 20
Intolerance is evidence of fear, and fear is the consequence of feeling powerless.
Dean Frazer

 

 Oct 20
Every criticism, judgement, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.
Marshall B. Rosenberg

 

Oct 20
Any our nitpicking in toxic ambient with toxic person - will be at the cost of our mental health. The healthier response, the worst cost - we will lose our immunity first in keeping up borders. Our sanity next, due to micromanaging. Like face after the war
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/07/accepting-social-anxiety.html
 

 

Oct 20
When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion.
Marshall Bertram Rosenberg

 

Oct 20
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values.
Marshall Bertram Rosenberg

 

Oct 20
All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished.
Marshall Bertram Rosenberg

 

Oct 20
The more we connect with the feelings and needs behind their words, the less frightening it is to open up to other people.
Marshall Bertram Rosenberg

 

 Oct 20
Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other.
Marshall Bertram Rosenberg

 

Oct 21
Not letting your empathy turn you into an enabler. Empathy places people at risk for toxic relationships. Toxic people take advantage of empathy, capitalize on it. Empathy is good until it becomes a risk.
YT DoctorRamani
Don't toxic-splain the narcissist's

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CODl0qwIoNM

 Oct 21
It's all about the way and explaining narcissistic behaviour, and let's hold space for them rather than letting the survivor share their own story and their own experience without being shamed and silenced. Enabling is never ok.
YT DoctorRamani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CODl0qwIoNM

Oct 21
No amount of compassion, no amount of empathy that we show a narcissistic person will change that. Recognize it is hard for them but don't attempt to justify their behaviour. Stop giving so many second chances.
YT DoctorRamani

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CODl0qwIoNM

Oct 21
Narcissists want you to acknowledge their pain, and they want to use that as a get out of jail free card to keep behaving badly. And everybody saying “oh, they go through something”. Chart the course to the middle.
YT DoctorRamani
https://youtube.com/watch?v=CODl0qwIoNM
 

 Oct 21
Count Pyotr "Pierre" Kirillovich Bezukhov is the fictional protagonist of Leo Tolstoy's 1869 novel War and Peace.
Tolstoy based Pierre, more than any other War and Peace character, on himself.
Pierre is a perpetual seeker and is constantly trying to make himself a better man.

 

 

 
Oct 22
How do so many dumb people get power? How do so many intellectually challenged people get power? The answer is - somebody helped them. They understand reciprocity, power of linked in.
Hour of Power

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HUN5VCPJtRg

 Oct 22
Linked in doesn't mean faking it. It means people really are interesting. Every single person is super interesting – if you ask good questions, you will discover that quickly. The power of network. You got to be linked in.
Hour of Power

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HUN5VCPJtRg

Oct 22
People who will usually offend are in positions of weakness themselves.
When you say "That's interesting", you're saying I have something to learn about it, that is position of power.
Hour of Power

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fn4TMFcDCNs

 Oct 22
When you say "That's interesting" you become an unoffendable person and you get closer to your miracle. Become unoffendable, it is super power.
Hour of Power
https://youtube.com/watch?v=Fn4TMFcDCNs

 

Oct 22
Transaction value/worth is idea that our intrinsic worth, our worth as a person is contingent or dependent on something else. So our value is tethered to conditions. If I do this, then I am lovable. If I have this, then I'm worthy.
YT Marshall Burtcher

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8nv0mmaNTnE

 Oct 22
If they like me, then I am likable person. If they don't, then I am not. If-then statement put us in transaction value experience. That our value is externally dependent – approval, satisfaction, success, failure... you chase value.
YT Marshall Burtcher

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8nv0mmaNTnE

Oct 22
If you're suffering from Transactional value it's because you've been taught to believe that your value, your worth, is contingent or dependent on something else. It is limited, it's entwined or enmeshed with approval, rejection.
YT Marshall Burtcher

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8nv0mmaNTnE

Oct 22
Start to open up the possibility that maybe you have worth that has full autonomy that doesn't depend on anyone else. And it's fully yours to access. Can I experience this, embody and express my life through it.
YT Marshall Burtcher

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8nv0mmaNTnE

Oct 22
What do my wants look like when I am not seeking my value or I'm not chasing it through the things I try to accomplish. Doing things I enjoy that are not walking with fear what will people think about, anchored in abdominal worth.
YT Marshall Burtcher

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8nv0mmaNTnE

Oct 22
Criticism, rejection, people not liking us – and our desire to go out and do things becomes very different. Negative- yeah, that's what they want to be, cool, that's how it works for them - great. It's not personal anymore.
YT Marshall Burtcher

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8nv0mmaNTnE

Oct 22
Criticism tells us this person's got pain going on & maybe we're just not compatible in this area. We're not wrestling with the question am I worthy, do I deserve this, is this something I should have. Instead, it is good because it resonate with our value

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8nv0mmaNTnE

Oct 22
Symbolism is the language of the Mysteries. By symbols men have ever sought to communicate to each other those thoughts which transcend the limitations of language.
Manly Hall

 

Oct 22
Destructive criticism creates nothing but sorrow.

 

Oct 22
There are no guarantees. From the viewpoint of fear, none are strong enough. From the viewpoint of love, none are necessary.
Emmanuel Teney

 

 
Oct 22
Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.
John F. Kennedy

 

Oct 22
Like the cat in the tree, getting caught up in the chase can leave us in an awkward place.

 

Oct 22
Donald J. Trump — 'I discovered, for the first time but not the last, that politicians don't care too much what things cost. It's not their money.'

 

Oct 22
Beautiful Universal logo 1936 – 1947

 

Oct 23
I know it seems unfair, I know it doesn't feel good, but the wrongs are necessary to get to the rights. They're a parts of God's plan. You couldn't become who you were created to be without the wrongs. It had to happen, setback is Divine Detour
JOEL OSTEEN

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VJP0peRsLww

 Oct 23
What you can't see is that the storm is leading to a right. It's taking you to where God wants you to go. Sometimes trouble is transportation. It is moving you one step further where you are suppose to be.
Joel Osteen

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VJP0peRsLww

Oct 23
Plans don't work out, many times- because they're too small. What God has in your future is bigger, better, more rewarding than you can imagine. Don't fight the wrongs. The wrongs are necessary to get you to the fullness of your destiny.
Joel Osteen

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VJP0peRsLww

Oct 23
The Phantom's distinctive bed was reused as Gloria Swanson's in Sunset Blvd. (1950).
IMDb trivia The Phantom of the Opera (1925)

 

 

 Oct 23
We have seen that intellect and achievement are far from perfectly correlated.
Lewis Terman

 

Oct 23
Cheeks were built up using a combination of cotton and collodion. Ears were glued back and the rest was greasepaint shaded in the proper areas of the face. The sight was said to have caused some patrons at the premiere to faint.
IMDb trivia, The Phantom of the Opera (1925)

 

 Oct 23
As heard on Atomic City radio:
Strange Echoes · Frank Hunter and His Orchestra (1959)
https://youtube.com/watch?v=ZUSzD7AzlDw

 

Oct 23
In each of us, two natures are at war --the good and the evil. All our lives the fight goes on between them, and one of them must conquer. But in our own hands lies the power to choose ---what we want most to be, we are.
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde (1920)

 

Oct 23
Isn't it by serving others, that one develops oneself, Sir George?
- Which self? A man has two - as he has two hands. Before I use my right hand, should I never use my left?
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde (1920)

 

Oct 23
Your really strong man fears nothing. It is the weak one who is afraid of - experience.
A man cannot destroy the savage in him by denying its impulses. The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it.
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde (1920)

 

Oct 23
With your youth, you should live - as I have lived. I have my memories. What will you have at my age?
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde (1920)

 

Oct 25
Nikolai Rostov,
a character in Leo Tolstoy's 1869 novel War and Peace, wearing Hussar uniform:

 

 
Oct 25
Solar eclipse of October 25, 2022 at 11am CET.
 The total duration of the partial solar eclipse is 1 hour, 39 minutes and 31 seconds.

 

Oct 25
All things in heaven and earth are wonderful. But the greatest wonder is man's freedom to choose between good and evil.
F.W. Murnau's "Faust" (1926)

 

Oct 25
I wonder if it's possible to make Mediaeval cloak back in fashion for men clothing's? 🤔

  

 

Oct 25
Faust (as Gösta Ekmann) and Gretchen (Camilla Horn).

F.W. Murnau' "Faust" (1926)

 

 

Oct 26
Producer/director/co-writer F.W. Murnau died in a car accident a few days after starting work on the music for this film. It had its New York premiere a week later.
IMDb trivia
Tabu: A Story of the South Seas (1931)

 

Oct 26
Unfortunately with CBT we are instructed to equate our emotions with our worth.
That is recipe for toxic shame, forever trapped into hypnosis that only if we find some kind of constant action-that evil will not happen, that evil people will not materialize
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/07/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety.html
 

Oct 26
When the film was shown on BBC Television on 25th October 1974 a Member of Parliament made a fool of himself by complaining that the BBC shouldn't be showing Communist propaganda.
It was pointed out to him that 'Earth' was considered one of the great classics of cinema
IMDbtrivia

 Oct 27
I hope everybody could get rich and famous and will have everything they ever dreamed of, so they will know that it's not the answer.
JIM CARREY

 

 
Oct 27
Many psychopaths describe the traditional treatment programmes as finishing schools where they hone their skills. Where they find out that there are lots of techniques they had not thought about before.
Robert D. Hare

 Oct 27
Stuck living beneath the veil of consciousness, reacting to childhood wounds, and gravitating towards people who were mirroring the energy of my parents. I was just repeating the pattern of past and I didn't even know it.
Lisa Romano

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWTLZNjk9HM

 Oct 27
Without life skills you cannot awaken, you cannot reprogram the subconscious mind without the tools necessary to do so. Learn how to leave narcissist fast proved to be beneficial. Narcissist shows pervasive pattern of lacking empathy.
Lisa Romano

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWTLZNjk9HM

Oct 27
Narcissists need to dominate and need to feel powerful. If you trigger them, and narcissist feel you are slighting them, humiliating them, oftentimes it's all in their heads. They assume you try to slight them and react poorly.
Lisa Romano

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWTLZNjk9HM

Oct 27
If you want narcissist to leave you alone, maintain very clear boundaries. Narcissist doesn't want to waste time to someone with strong boundaries, give energy to someone they can't intimidate, deal with someone who see through their mask.
Lisa Romano

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWTLZNjk9HM

Oct 27
Ask what the facts are? Tell me about the facts. What are you basing that feeling on? Narcissist will not be able to withstand a long conversation with someone who's logical and who's reasonable. Not allow yourself emotionally activated.
Lisa Romano

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWTLZNjk9HM

Oct 27
Stick to the absolute facts when you are dealing with them. You are fortune telling? How do you know that? By what analysis you are making that conclusion? “I feel” - no, tell me what you know, because I feel a lot of things, too.
Lisa Romano

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWTLZNjk9HM

Oct 27
When you deal with someone highly narcissistic, they want to manipulate, they want to control. And they will do almost anything to do that – lie to you, gaslight, blame shift you, turn the words around, word salad, crazy making communication.
Lisa Romano

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWTLZNjk9HM

Oct 27
Narcissist's agenda is to doubt your reality. They want you to worry what they think about you. If you do not worry what this person is saying and only stick to what you know – when you know they will use word salad – you cannot react when they do this.

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWTLZNjk9HM

Oct 27
“You should have” No. That's you telling me what I should do. Let's stick to the facts. Stick  to a b c. You are accusing me of a) and I need to know what fact you have to back that up? Narcissist often talk in accusations, feeling,fortune telling
L Romano

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWTLZNjk9HM

Oct 27
As heard on ORF Radio Kärnten:

And it came from
Vietnam, Vietnam, Vietnam, Vietnam
Vietnam, Vietnam, Vietnam
Somebody please stop that war now
"Vietnam" · Jimmy Cliff (1970)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J4BK8CgC564

 Oct 27
“I know why you did/said that, You did that on purpose” If you have trauma you can be triggered by this kind of conversation. You don't want someone to think this way about you. Don't fall for that, that is pitfall, narc drag you into ring.
Lisa Romano

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWTLZNjk9HM

Oct 27
Stand in your power. Take the time to acknowledge what you are dealing with. List character traits in this person that you recognize as highly narcissistic. Be armed with logic and reason. Not allow them to trigger you.
Lisa Romano

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWTLZNjk9HM

Oct 27
Narcissists are afraid of people who hold them accountable. They are afraid of people who can see past their mask. They are afraid of people who can call them out. Narcissist is terrified of person who is has clarity, ownership of their being.
Lisa Romano

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lWTLZNjk9HM

Oct 27
You think if you set a boundary that you risk having people leave you. Like if you're not doormat, who would stay around? Truth is that lack of boundaries causes you to be isolated.
YT Crappy Childhood Fairy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SqC3g6t-EJ4

 Oct 27
Word salad is combination of blame shifting, not answering the question, not taking accountability, avoiding the issue, impulsivity and overwhelming the other person. Thin-skinned reactivity we seen in a narcissistic person.
YT DoctorRamani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=daoVZ9YRq8c

Oct 27
When the word salad shows up you're dealing with someone so disregulated they simply can't have a conversation. Find a graceful way to put conversation down and if you need to have it- have it at another time.
YT DoctorRamani

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=daoVZ9YRq8c

Oct 27
The first victim of war is the truth.

 

 Oct 27
Too many people hold the idea that psychopaths are essentially killers or convicts. The general public hasn't been educated to see beyond the social stereotypes to understand that psychopaths can be entrepreneurs, politicians, CEOs and other successful individuals.
Robert D. Hare

 

Oct 27
Compared with other major clinical disorders, little systematic research has been devoted to psychopathy, even though it is responsible for far more social distress and disruption than all other psychiatric disorders combined.
Robert D. Hare

 

Oct 27
Good people are rarely suspicious: they cannot imagine others doing the things they themselves are incapable of doing; usually they accept the undramatic solution as the correct one; and let matters rest there.
Robert D. Hare

  

 Oct 27
Most therapy programs do little more than provide psychopaths with new excuses and rationalizations for their behavior and new insights into human vulnerability.
They may learn new and better ways of manipulating other people.
Robert D. Hare

 

Oct 28
Along the broad country road, edged on both sides by trees, came a high, light blue Viennese calèche, slightly creaking on its springs and drawn by six horses at a smart trot. Behind the calèche galloped the suite and a convoy of Croats.
Book1
WAR AND PEACE
By Leo Tolstoy/Tolstoi

 

Oct 28
The tension between the two male leads, Marlon Brando and Frank Sinatra, started right off. "We'll do it my way or you can f**k off," Sinatra reportedly told to composer Frank Loesser. Brando swore never to work with him again, and he never did.
IMDb trivia
Guys and Dolls (1955)

 Oct 29
Melk, Austria

 Oct 30
In a guilt culture you know you are good or bad by what your conscience feels. In a shame culture you know you are good or bad by what your community says about you, by whether it honors or excludes you.

The Shame Culture - NYT
https://nytimes.com/2016/03/15/opinion/the-shame-culture.html

 

Oct 30
The USN Tomcat Anytime Patch is part of the United States Navy patches relating to the Grumman F-14 Tomcat aircraft

 Oct 30
I'll bet if that dinosaur could speak he'd say what any public spirited citizen would: "For the Navy, anytime!"
On the Town (1949)

 

Oct 30
Our joy is always in the future. There is always some reason why we can't be happy. Find joy in the journey. In the meantime you enjoy where you are while you are on the way where you are going.
JOEL OSTEEN

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0DgUu3NsmAI

 
Oct 30
What else are we missing, rushing by, not appreciating? There are things in your life that may seem common. Don't wait till later to recognize the uncommon in your life. If you don't find joy in journey, you'll find all the negative.
JOEL OSTEEN

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0DgUu3NsmAI

Oct 30
God was in their presence but they didn't see him. If you focus on the negative, doubt will come. You'll start complaining and miss God's best. We're waiting for challenge to end, wait retirement. Help us to see uncommon, value simple things.
JOEL OSTEEN

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0DgUu3NsmAI

Oct 30
The ship's company was pleased to have it confirmed that the Tahitians considered lovemaking a gesture of goodwill.
Mutiny on the Bounty (1962)

 

- You too, Brown? You'd join these swine?
- A man like yourself, sir, leaves me no choice.
Mutiny on the Bounty (1962)

 

No code can cover all contingencies. We cannot put justice aboard our ships in books. Justice and decency are carried in the heart of the captain or they be not aboard. It is for this reason that the Admiralty has always sought to appoint its officers from the ranks of gentlemen.

 

Oct 30

There are currently no charges for land for settlement on Pitcairn Island.
A new migrant may, from within 6 months of arrival at Pitcairn, apply to the Pitcairn Island Council for use of Council land on which to build a home.
http://immigration.gov.pn/land/
 

 

 

 

 

Oct 30

Rūrutu is the northernmost island in the Austral archipelago of French Polynesia, and the name of a commune consisting solely of that island. It is situated 572 km south of Tahiti

 

 

Oct 31

New religion
Falun Gong or Falun Dafa is a new religion founded in China in the early 1990s. It was founded by Li Hongzhi toward the end of China's "qigong boom"—a period that saw a proliferation of similar practices of meditation, slow-moving energy exercises regulated breathing

 

Oct 31

The festival of Samhain marked the start of Winter. Samhain was a liminal time in which the world of the living and the ancestral realms overlapped. There was always an element of fear and trepidation about this nigh - and also one of expectancy.
"The Celtic Spirit", C. Matthews

 

Halloween.

 

I have no way of knowing what is true and what is not. Such as life in post-Donald Trump era.
Family Guy, Happy Holo-ween