četvrtak, 16. lipnja 2022.

Banned post on reddit: All people have social anxiety. All.

 All people have social anxiety. All.

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Everyone suffers from it, but most of people 1) never diagnosed themselves so they never detected it, and 2) they found methods, routines and directions in life to keep social anxiety issues under the control.

This is why their advice sucks:

  • when they tell us that we are over-sensitive,

  • that we are weak, that we should get over it,

  • that we are over-imagining it,

  • that it is not true what we are thinking,

  • that we should be "strong"

Don't listen to them. (I know, it is hard not to listen due to toxic shame and external locus mechanisms).

People "without social anxiety" do feel social anxiety, too. Perhaps even more than you do! However, their methods are totally different since they never medically examined their own emotions.

The curse of psychology is that you are put in laboratory environment, and you are made into "lunatic" for having emotions and feelings. This quickly turns into toxic shame, because your psyche explain this as:

  1. I am defective and inept

  2. other people do not have these medical traits, so they are super normal and superior to us.

The purpose of psychology and mental health is that we realize we have capacity to trust ourselves, that we are able to make decisions on our own, without seeking approval and validation from others and that we are ok with being mistaken, wrong and embarrassed. The purpose of psychology is not that it pathologizes our honest panic reactions to trauma and problems in life. If we are not violent, and if we are not unkind to others - we are perfectly normal and healthy and functional human being. There is nothing to fix in our soul. Problem are panic attacks and fears and anxiety - which are implanted by external factor. The abuse is issue, not our reactions and triggers to abuse. Our socially anxious panic reactions of dread and imminent danger are totally normal reaction to abnormal people, abnormal events and abnormal situations. Our cognitive distortions and immature ego defense mechanisms are learned reactions from our childhood, as kids we developed these in order to survive psychological abuse and being exposed to untreated mentally ill people around us, people who were incapable of love. Child brain cannot think like adult when being exposed to relentless criticism 24/7 and being exposed to adult hysteria. Child brain will protect itself by taking on the blame and guilt in order to sooth the aggression and assaults from abusive environment. Toxic shame is the wound, stemming out of this exposure to constant and relentless maltreatment and total absence of love (aka mental health).

From our anxious perspective, especially with panic, we get so ego-centric (tunnel vision, observing life from one angle) that our brain is hijacked into panic mode - that we are unable to see outside world clearly. It is as if transparent black veil is over our face or seeing everything through the gaze or in fog. We get so panicked that we do not notice other people - who may go through difficult moments and we are unable to offer them help. We will help, serve and obey angry and abusive people in order to calm them down. We will thus attract toxic people in our lives who love needy and afraid people willing to serve and obey their masters. Social anxiety will protect us from toxicity by avoiding people and through isolation and withdrawal. If Classical CBT succeeds to remove panic symptoms - we will become people pleasers and pushovers and fawn to others. In this way, Social anxiety will still be ever present, even when being social. While Classical CBT will conclude that you are "ok" now, since you are socializing. People pleasing and fawning is a form of avoiding. You are not truly present with others, you are still very much afraid of them.

When we combine purpose of psychology and this veil over our face mixed in together we get interesting results about all people - that they too have social anxiety. Social anxiety is being sensitive enough to care about other people and be aware of others, in order to perceive other people. It becomes disorder when we start feeling inhibitions and when it stops us from living and "being out there":

So, when others tell us:

  • when they tell us that we are over-sensitive: actually they are extremely oversensitive themselves. However in their childhood they learned to put on mask and to pretend to be tough. Thus people who say this are fake. They lie to us. And we believe them, we think they are superior and tough - and this is exactly the purpose of this "advice". You look up to them and they control your decisions now. This is how they resolved their social anxiety in childhood, by being narcissist and mocking others, being superior to others.

When they tell us:

  • that we are weak, that we should get over it: Again, they have this issue themselves, buried deep inside. It is narcissistic injury, and they learned in childhood if they label others as "weak" and that other people emotions are not valid, they notices that some people (who are kind, open, friendly) react to these words. So with this "advice" they have deep social anxiety wound inside and they cover it up by pretending to be strong and superior over you. You will try to please them and to be strong, but since all people are on par, and equal, this trial of ours to achieve their upper superior level will never happen.

When they tell us:

  • that we are over-imagining it: It only means that they solved their social anxiety by immature ego defense mechanisms, such as: Dissociation. temporary drastic change in behavior. . Denial. avoidance of awareness of some painful reality. Displacement. taking feelings out on a neutral 3rd party. Isolation of Affect: Avoiding the experience of an emotion associated with a person, idea, or situation. From our perspective, it will seem as if they are gods, since they have this fantastic magic cure against social anxiety and panic. And that is exact purpose of this "advice" - that they feel superior to you. You have no idea from being afraid and amygdala hijacking - that you are now trauma bonded with narcissist and manipulator. From your perspective this person is "helping you" and this person appears "kind" and "nice". However all they do is they deal with their own social anxiety, toxic shame by pontification and ignoring other people to evoke toxic shame in others. When they do this, they make you into slave, someone who is silent to their future criticism and unfair treatment, since you know that you only "imagine" their gaslighting and cheap advice that only serves them.

When we get advice such as:

  • that it is not true what we are thinking, This is actually gaslighting. Our hunches are correct. If we feel anxiety about someone, it is most probably correct. The trick is to prepare yourself for evil, for quick conflict and to doubt anything this person who emits aura of uncomfortable feelings. Again, person who denies others will extreme social anxiety all their lives, but they learned in their abusive childhood to deal with anxiety by hurting other people through telling lies and smear campaign. Since their narcissistic injury is not being able to accept themselves as fragile person, they project this onto others, too. Out of sight, out of mind. From our social anxiety perspective, these people who give such advice will appear as better, more competent, while in the same time - we are inept and unable to trust our own instinct and intuition and common sense. And this is exactly the purpose of this "helpful" advice - invalidation and negation of our inner self, so that toxic shame takes root. As I said many times - with toxic shame inside us, psyche will export our self worth into other people. And as learned in trauma years - we will serve and be subservient to other people. And this is the goal of this advice. That you obey and serve the messenger as some kind of god entity. If you doubt them, if you criticize them and inspect their actions or moods, they will deny it and blame you for being anxious and paranoid. We are dealing with person with social anxiety too, but this person willingly chosen to engage into Dark psychology of manipulation and exploitation of others in order to control their own social anxiety wounds.

And when someone "strong" and never socially anxious give us this "advice" for our own social anxiety;

  • that we should be "strong" It will appear as if this person is strong and incapable of having social anxiety. But this superiority complex is part of inferiority complex. They have deep social anxiety, however they learned very early on - to deal with social anxiety you put on a mask. You build a false persona, a character and you play it. These people are extremely fragile - and they will throw temper tantrums and become even dangerous when you judge and criticize them. As we all know, basic trait of social anxiety is inability to handle criticism - but from our anxiety perspective we will explain their inability to handle criticism as them being "strong". Their rudeness and arrogance will seem as socially accepted way of treating other people. Since they are not afraid of hurting others, they appear as not being afraid to express their narcissistic rage emotions, they will appear to us as "healthy" because they appear to express themselves and they do it in social situations without any inhibitions. In reality, they suffer from deep social anxiety - they simply choose to deal with it by pretending they don't have it.

And other people- all these people who appear as "extroverts" and socially engaging and open without putting other people down - you will say there is no way that they can feel social anxiety. They do.

In their childhood they never experienced abuse so they developed functional ways to deal with their perceptions of danger and their explanations what is threatening in social situations. They will get angry and misunderstood others. We will interpret this as them being strong and socially accepted angry, but this is actually only reaction to their social anxiety. They will appear as socially outgoing, looking like super model, taking instagram selfies - this is all socially anxious based, however they learned to deal with these feelings of social anxiety by play pretend and to gain other admiration, seeking approval from others. As we all know, this seeking validation from others is at the core of social anxiety.

As I said, with panic we become ego-centric and we never break through to the other side, to see what is life like when you let go of learned mechanisms, all methods and routines we learned in our abusive childhood how to deal with social anxiety. So even when we test being socially "confident" we will soon encounter some "advice" and due to toxic shame and external locus, we will see other people as gods. This is false mechanism we developed as kids to deal with social anxiety, and we will feel irrational guilt, enforced by chemicals and hormones that will affect our thinking process, we learned helplessness like Pavlovian dogs or circus animals - not because of our choice, but because it was implanted onto us by untreated mentally ill people in our toxic environment.

So I would try to look at social anxiety as something normal and accept ourselves, self validate our emotions and reactions. We simply have to find methods and routines that work better than the current ones we are passing on from year to year since our childhood. The best methods are the simplest one - and that is method of self acceptance and self validation.

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A lot of bullies and manipulators are actually cowards. Once you get strong enough to stand up for them you start to see they've always been more afraid.
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It is ok to say no and people not like you. You repeat it over and over until it gets right. Every time you have to repeat the lesson, it gets worse.
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Jun 4
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Baby grapes.

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Jun 4

Without laws, human beings always revert to barbarism, and so everyone suffers. The only remedy is for everyone to agree contractually to obey a few compulsory moral rules.
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Jun 5

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Jun 5
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Jun 5
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Jun 6
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Jun 7
The anthropic principle simply says that we, observers, exist.
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Jun 7
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Jun 8
Poor people gonna rise up
And get their share

Don't you know you better run, run, run, run, run, run
Run, run, run, run, run, run

'Cause finally the tables are starting to turn
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Jun 8
There,
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Jun 8
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Jun 8
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Jun 8
Ancient FM - Music of mediaeval and renaissance
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Jun 8
Salar de Uyuni, Bolivia

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Jun 8
Šarene mrvice iz 2017 postale bijele.

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Jun 9
I want to be happy – that should be the first answer. I want to know who I am. I want to be at peace, to give not because I am abandoning myself.
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Jun 9
Complex Crop Circles.

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Jun 10
Passiflora incarnata flower blooms after 10 years of hibernation.

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 Jun 10
After awhile I made ambient music to last a little bit longer, again with relaxing 432Hz;

Ranc1 - Complex Crop Circles

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Jun 10
"Break negative spirals that are fueling the anxiety"
By changing our mindset. We start to see anxiety as communicating method by our brain, that brain is using Freud and Jung discovery of unconsciousness, autonomous entity that is inside us
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html

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Jun 10
If asking for things has been dominated by critical, shaming, and aggressive responses from others, it is entirely rational to feel anxiety, panic, shame, or avoidance to asking for things.

Your reaction patterns are VALID REACTIONS.
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Jun 10
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Book by Ziauddin Sardar

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Jun 11
Very slight changes in the initial conditions can produce large changes in the behaviour of the solutions.
Chaos Theory
Introducing Mathematics: A Graphic Guide
Book by Ziauddin Sardar

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Jun 11
People who are around toxic people, narcissists - will google their symptoms and they will not read the small prints about true definition of social anxiety.

True definition of social anxiety is being afraid of kind and nice people.
Social anxiety is hoax
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html
 

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 Jun 11
Social anxiety is misdiagnosis for many people who are actually suffering from complex trauma or CPTSD.
DSM states: " the judgment of being out of proportion is made by the clinician"
CBT is instructing people to pathologize panic symptoms as hallucination
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html

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Jun 11
I see only borderline personality disorder prevailing in Croatia.
#Croatia  is an endless orgy of borderline behaviour.

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Jun 11
#Croatia is a part of shame based culture.

"Toxic shame is a feeling that you're worthless. It happens when other people treat you poorly and you turn that treatment into a belief about yourself. You're most vulnerable to this type of poor treatment during childhood or as teen."

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Jun 11
Compared with northerners--who were relatively unaffected by the insult--southerners were (a) more likely to think their masculine reputation was threatened, (b) more upset.  In cultures of honor, in which insults diminish a man's reputation.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8656339/

Jun 11
Problem when we have a deep sense of good and evil is sometimes we love our sense of mercy, to others and ourselves. When we mess up people struggle with shame, feel a lot of guilt and embarrassment, try to hide it.
Hour of Power

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RV-Rkvaax_0

Jun 11
When we have sense of right and wrong, we also have justice component: that I'm going to set it right if it's wrong. We need to remember: blessed are when people persecute you. Certain word can manipulate you doing what they want you to do.
Hour of Power
https://youtu.be/RV-Rkvaax_0

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Jun 11
I'm worse at what I do best
And for this gift I feel blessed

Nirvana - Smells Like Teen Spirit

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hTWKbfoikeg

 Jun 12
Praying bold prayers, dreaming big dreams that is what open doors. I don't think you can reach your destiny without taking the limits off the God
When God puts something in your heart he doesn't ask you to figure it all out; asks you to believe
JOEL OSTEEN

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B16NcxJ_QF8

Jun 12
Enya - Storms In Africa

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SiyiexKOaHk

Jun 12
How can I chase away
All these fears deep inside?
I'll wait the signs to come.
I'll find a way
I will wait the time to come.
I'll find a way home.

Enya - Exile

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rWyNFiKq2A


Jun 12
Personality is built up largely by acts of introjection: contents that were before experienced outside are taken inside.
Erich Neumann

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Jun 12
What we call 'normal' is a product of repression, denial, splitting, projection, introjection and other forms of destructive action on experience.
R. D. Laing

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Jun 12
Source of human behaviour is not past conflict, external stimuli, or rational thinking but an attempt to fulfill one of 5 basic needs:
Love - Power - Fun - Survival - Freedom

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Jun 12
Googol is childish – for a good reason. In 1938, mathematician Ed Kasner's nine-year-old nephew spotted the biggest number and  said: “That looks like a
googol!”
Introducing Infinity: A Graphic Guide
Book by Brian Clegg

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Jun 12
Reynisfjara Black Sand Beach - Iceland
Reynisfjara is a world-famous black-sand beach found on the South Coast of Iceland, just beside the small fishing village of Vík í Mýrdal.

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Jun 13
Truth is best of all that is good. As desired, what is being desired is truth for him who represents the best truth. Good thought, Good word and Good deed.
YT Zoroaster - Quotes
https://youtube.com/watch?v=DqVIKSw7BxU
 

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Jun 13
Anxious: "Get you to tolerate me"
Fearful: "I need you to survive"
Dismissive: "You'll mess my peace"

YT How A Narcissistic Parents Affects Attachment
https://youtube.com/watch?v=XfmYPvOIXtg
 

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Jun 13
Neglect is personal message that we're not lovable, that we're not ok, we're not doing something right and we have to find some secret code to get the parent to engage. Which is origin of codependency.
YT Patrick Teahan LICSW

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfmYPvOIXtg

Jun 13
We default to toxic people to tell us what reality is. Know your audience. If their life is in toilet it how they see you is not real. You be the judge who you are.
YT Patrick Teahan LICSW
We don’t let toxic people tell us who we are anymore

 https://www.youtube.com/shorts/QTU7_xAsP0Y?feature=share

Jun 13
Any attempt to dictate what thoughts, feelings, and sensations are proper or improper creates a breeding ground for guilt and shame.
PETER A. LEVINE
#CPTSD

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Jun 13
It's not what's wrong with you, it's what happened to you.

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Jun 14
At the core of it is the sense that I am worthy. It is no achievement or that you accept me, regardless of what is going on externally. That is self esteem, nothing more complicated than that.
YT The Psychology of Self Esteem
Kenny Weiss
 

Jun 14
Siddhartha won the battle against an army of demons just through the force of his love and the great compassion he had found and he achieved the great calm that precedes detachment from emotions.
Little Buddha (1993)
 

Jun 14
Clever design for A Clockwork Orange DVD.

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Jun 15
Cantor came up with new type of infinity -unlistable. He was ridiculed for idea there were different types of infinity. He spent his later life in and out of mental institutions, where he died in the end. Near end of his life it was recognized, it was true
 
Jun 15
Nature colors of the late spring.
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Jun 16
Helichrysum arenarium, dwarf everlast, immortelle
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Jun 16
Men are no good. They're sly. They say and do nice things until you're married, but after that, you only see their bad side. Marriage is all the same. If he's no good, walk out.
Late Spring/ Banshun (1949)
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Jun 16
“This system of mathematics can’t prove that this statement is true.”
If the system proves the statement, then it can't prove it. If the system can't prove the statement, it still can't prove it.
Whatever happens, this is an unprovable statement.
Introducing Infinity,
Brian Clegg
 
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Jun 16
With social anxiety we miss information how to retort to intrusive people.
Think about it as scene from Terminator, choice of words on screen to pick say to people:
"You are being rude."
 "Stop it."
"What did I do to upset you?"
"I don't know"
"Meh!"
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html
 
Jun 16
It was also realized that many natural formations are like fractals. Trees, mountain ranges, snowflakes, clouds are all roughly fractal. the way these natural objects are formed involves a similar repeated simple process.
Introducing Infinity: A Graphic Guide
Book by Brian Clegg
 
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 Jun 17
Hyper codependent has no boundaries. They are affecting by everyone and everything, that is a severe codependent. A true empath can empathize with the person but they are not affected. That would be healthy empathy.
STOP Confusing Empathy With Codependency



Jun 17
Narcissists create codependency by using your natural gifts and exploit it. When I put needs of others in front of myself – and I am ok with that. Look at context. In right context it is beautiful thing.
YT Narcissists Make You Codependent In Relationships
 
 Jun 17
How long will they keep us here?
- You are here, you have always been here, and you will always be here.
Slaughterhouse-Five (1972)

Jun 17
As heard on ClassicFM UK:

Danny Elfman - The Batman Theme

Jun 17
You can care about other people without caring what they think.
How they see you, perceive, view you - it's got nothing to do with you, it's none of your business. We walk around with filter. None of us see reality - we just see what we want to see
DAN LOK
https://youtube.com/watch?v=K6ip508PfzM

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Jun 17
It's waste of time trying to change people. You could care about people without caring what they think. You know what you are about. You know your values. You know what you stand for. Then in any social setting you will be calm.
DAN LOK

 
Jun 17
Better to be king for a night than schmuck for a lifetime.
The King of Comedy (1982)

Jerry Lewis and Sandra Bernhard
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Jun 18
You got to get outside yourself. Everybody has to get out of the narcissistic and I'm big narcissist. What I'm suggesting to you is have a child. What you need to do is get outside yourself. Not make it about you.
Bob Saget
Showtime Green Room S1E2
 
Jun 18
Bob Saget: I would play the gay father of three again.
Roseanne: You weren't gay on that show.
Bob Saget: No, I lived with 2 men in San Francisco. I was not gay.
Showtime Green Room S1E2
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PE8DTGg-BMk
 
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Jun 18
There was a lot of noise but you're struggling to find the signal through the noise. When you do that you're able to discern through everything out there what's coming through. This is what we'd do when we hear God's voice. Test, is it love?
HOUR OF POWER
 
Jun 19
But staying in the house every weekend, I just can't take it
And if I don't let myself go, let myself go, let myself go
I just might explode, I just might explode
House every weekend

(KissTV - Get up! Big Morning Bangers)
David Zowie - House Every Weekend

Jun 19
Think of #socialanxiety as fever when you get virus.
Virus is doing damage, not the fever.
Fever tries to stabilize the system so it does not go into chaos.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html

Jun 19
He doesn't call us when we are perfect, when we've got to look good. God call us just the way we are. He call us from the place of love. God does not need you to put filter on your life. Loves you just the way you are.
Victoria Osteen


Jun 19
He literally took that veil that was covering his own thinking, and allowed the goodness of God to get to him.
Victoria Osteen
https://youtube.com/watch?v=FzMg-aUZkEg
 
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Jun 19
You're frozen
When your heart's not open

You waste your time with hate and regret
You're broken
When your heart's not open

Mmmmmm, if I could melt your heart

Mmmmmm, you hold the key
Madonna - Frozen
 

Jun 19
It looks like its hindering you,it really helping you. It feels like it's setting you back. But really it's setting you up for something you've never seen. God knows what you will need in future. That was ordering my steps into something unfair
JOEL OSTEEN

Jun 19
Pass the test. Many of the challenges that you are facing now, the things that don't make sense, they don't have anything to do with now, it's positioning you for something in your future. If you stay in faith, you'll see dots connecting.
JOEL OSTEEN
https://youtu.be/fcYT1CYfjB0

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Jun 19
As you get stronger, what you're up against becomes easier. God didn't lessen what comes against you. He simply added to your strength. Now you can handle what you couldn't handle in the past.
What used to bother you, doesn't bother you anymore.
J. OSTEEN
 

Jun 19
… I'm that boss millennial
But maybe more traditional
Oh, I get shy being around the cool kids
I'm unpredictable, oh

Davina Michelle - my own world
 
 
 Jun 19
Since most non-HSPs do not seem to enjoy thinking about solutions, they assume we must be unhappy doing all that pondering.
Preferring toughness, the culture sees our trait as something difficult to live with, something to be cured.

The Highly Sensitive Person,
Elaine N. Aron

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Jun 19
Social anxiety and inner critic tries to tell you that there is fraud inside you, hallucination, fake persona as toxic shame. But since toxic shame distorts your thoughts - the message is not coming through.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html
 
Jun 19
You need your negative emotions to live as authentic honest person. You need to have dislike, you need to feel discomfort and negative in certain situations - because that is how you will get direction in life where you need to go.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html
 
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Jun 19
- What do you want, Mr Quaid?
- The same as you. To remember.
- But Why?
- To be myself again.
- You are what you do. A man is defined by his actions... not his memory.
Open your mind.
TOTAL RECALL (1990)
 
 Jun 19
Modesty, propriety can lead to notoriety
You could end up as the only one
Gentleness, sobriety are rare in this society

It takes a man to suffer ignorance and smile
Be yourself no matter what they say
Sting - Englishman In New York

Jun 19
Kindness is magic.
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Jun 20
Amazingly enough, my Shamanism list grew followers from 10 up to 130 in a span of one months time.
Great that people are recognizing the value of being connected to nature and spirituality, at least thanks to algorithm.
 
Jun 20
Come on, who can, who can, can hear the bass drum?
You're no good for me, I don't need nobody
Don't need no one, that's no good for me

The Prodigy - No Good (Start the Dance)
 
 
 Jun 20
Not everybody is cookie-cutter. You just can't be. There are too many variables in life.
 — Sandra Bernhard

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Jun 20
Jung's Persona. We all wear masks.
 
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Jun 20
From the day we were born we were building ourselves. And no one told us that there is a blueprint of our character - a house to build;

Some of us got partial things wrong along the way due to trauma (criticism during childhood, bullying).
We ended with fake self, wrong persona.
 
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Jun 20
One could say, with a little exaggeration, that the person is that which in reality one is not.
CARL JUNG
 
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Jun 20
Persona, the mask or image we present to the world. Designed to make a particular impression on others, while conceiling our true nature.
CARL JUNG
 
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Jun 20 2022
If we do not feel social engagement, we are triggered into excitation states. It is worth to investigate what triggers us exactly. Almost always - it is hidden: toxic people that we let inside.

Polyvagal Theory:
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 Jun 20 2022
False Self -versus- Authentic Self:

Others first - Self care
Fix others - Self regulation
Conforms - Speaks truth
Repress & avoid - Express freely
Validation & approval  - Integrity
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Jun 21 2022
According to John Bradshaw part of the work of self acceptance involves the integration of our shame bound feelings, needs and wants. Most shame based people feel ashamed when they feel assertive, situations of exposure.
YT Healing The Inner Critic
https://youtube.com/watch?v=0emXWMo5Jzc
 
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Jun 21 2022
So much of childhood involves a negotiation within oneself about how open and how honest we can be with the world in front of us. How open and honest can I be? Reinforce it is ok being honest about who you are.
YT Narcissists Trapped Inside The False Self
https://youtu.be/IBDTxh3p3Fo
 
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 When you do blunder, make errors, when I'm disappointed in you – those are learning opportunities. Narcissists drew conclusion being open and honest  is way too risky. Their persona is built upon non-truths.
YT Surviving Narcissism
 
Narcissists are very invested in trying to present themselves as beyond the average of normal kind of person. They are happy to point what is wrong in you. They can't say words: I'm flawed. Or I know I hurt other & it needs to stop.
YT Trapped Inside Self
 
 
Narcissists' shame is too strong. It's if I put myself out there as flawed, mistaken person I'm going to look really bad and they can't deal with that. They are confused with definition of good life - status, power, stepping over other people.
 
Jun 21 2022
In the West, extroversion is praised as highest form of life. While introversion is scorned as illness and something to cure. Similar to the movie "Invasion of the Body Snatchers" aliens screaming and pointing finger at someone different than themselves.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html
 
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"The Rashid rover's flight model is now complete.
The dream of Arabs landing on the Moon will soon become a reality."

Hopefully it will roam around and visit Apollo remnants?
 
 Jun 21 2022
You have to panic without panicking and not being afraid of it. I don't care if I panic again – that's the cure, not that I'm never going to panic again.
YT Jen Kirkman


Jun 21 2022
Tell me what you fear and I will tell you what has happened to you.
Donald Winnincott (developmental psychology)
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Jun 21 2022
People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.
Dale Carnegie
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Jun 21 2022
Your vision will become clear only when you look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.
Carl Jung
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Jun 22
With social anxiety  - in general - we lack the ability to construct our social life - and that includes a retort to intrusive people.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html
 

Jun 22
Children learned many adaptive survival skills that they may utilize in adulthood: A sense of responsibility, competence, and a valuing of connection are among strengths adults with a CPTSD history can carry.
YT Interesting Psychology
 

Jun 22
"Some narcissists are control freaks. They will tell you directly what you can eat, how you are suppose to eat, what you can wear. But some narcissists hide their control you may think you are selfish for doing what you want."
YT Narcissistic Abuse Healing
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Jun 1
Young American explained why she escaped from Croatia:
"Often I heard Croats intruding why am I eating something, or commenting about what I wore. There is no such thing in America, we allow people to be what they want to be."
https://vecernji.hr/showbiz/amerikanka-u-hrvatskoj-iznenadila-objavom-ljudi-su-ovdje-cudni-kao-da-sam-u-losoj-vezi-1351757

Jun 22
For many narcissist accusations are a powerful method of control because they can accuse you of anything without needing any proof while denying to accept any proof you provide. And then punish you as they see fit.
YT Narcissistic Abuse Healing

Jun 22
10 Mental Illnesses You Get From Narcissists

1. Paranoia
2. OCD
3. CPTSD
4. General anxiety disorder
5. Eating disorder  
6. Depression
7. Borderline Personality Disorder
8. Psychotic Disorder
9. Panic attacks
10. Narcissistic Personality Disorder


Jun 22
Safe forecast:
Rain off and on.
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 Jun 22
Window of Tolerance
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Jun 23
If you catch yourself defaulting to addressing the person rather than subject matter, that is the indication that you need to recognize you've just slid into logical fallacy and defaulting to emotionalism.
YT Dylan Saccoccio
 
 
 
Jun 23
Address their behaviour, address what they said if they have history of lying – that's fine to point out, their previous behaviour. Ad hominem is superstitious, can't sustain any type of rule, no logic. That predator take advantage of.
YT Dylan Saccoccio
 
Jun 23
They can take advantage of – all they have to do is tell you what you want to hear. You will invest energy in them, that being currency, your wealth and they will make off like bandits. Emotionalism is not practical for governing your own behavior.
 
Jun 23
Sometimes it's in your best interest of prospect you have to show an aggressive, pontie, direct, ways of communication because it is in the best interest. Transparent means honesty. Makes you attractive, gives you credibility.
YT Claude Diamond
 
 
 Jun 23
There are people out there who want the truth. They don't mind if you show a little bit of aggressive nature and point that out. It just says you are enthusiastic in your belief about your product and service.
YT Claude Diamond
 
 Jun 23
It's ok to be direct when it is in the best interest of your prospect and your business. Stop dancing around the head of pin and tell people the truth. Be assertive and be aggressive if it is honest and watch magic happen.
YT Claude Diamond
 
Jun 23
No one deserves success more than good people. Psychology of human behaviour why people do some of things they do. And can we combine it with good thespians skills, not to be manipulative but to make people comfortable.
YT Claude Diamond
 
Jun 23
Oftentimes kindness gets taken advantage as weakness. Be peaceful but yet also have that warrior side. You can be firm but fair. I run business here, it is not charity. Do the same – happy hustle. Firm but fair.
YT Cary Jack - The Happy Hustler
 
 
 Jun 23
It can be looked upon as self defense tactic. There will always be people who push line where you are firm and fair and want more. And you have to defend yourself, your business. Be honest and true, but stick to your guns and to your policy.
YT Cary Jack

 
 
Jun 23
I think it's a very important way to live your life to protect yourself, your family, your loved ones and your business – being firm but fair. Operating with peaceful, warrior duality. There is a line – when people cross it, protect yourself.
YT Cary Jack
 
Jun 23
Bring to your awareness, at  everything you are doing in business, personal life and be firm but fair. It's important to live with urgency and intensity being business minded – protecting your business. Not doing business with shady people.
YT Cary Jack
 
Jun 23
I want to add value, serve people. But there is taker out there. It is about setting boundaries with toxic people. Tell them what's off limits, when you are available and not available. Don't let people walk on you, be firm.
YT Cary Jack
 
Jun 23
KÄRNTEN
"looks like a gym to me."
#outdoor #workout #calisthenics

YT ..no gym needed #natureprovides
https://youtube.com/watch?v=8avVhqMgUvA
 
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Jun 23
Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual's conscious life, the blacker and denser it is.
Carl Jung
 
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Jun 23
If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us.
Herman Hesse
 
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Jun 23
"Projection of our own shadow makes the whole world a replica of our own unknown face."
Carl Jung
 
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Jun 23
The easiest way to control socially anxious person is through criticizing imperfections.
#socialanxiety
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/navigating-through-social-anxiety.html
 
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Jun 23
Wholeness is not achieved by cutting off a portion of one's being, but by integration of the contraries.
Carl Jung
 
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Jun 23
The more you deliberately seek happiness the more sure you are not to find it.
Carl Jung
 
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Jun 23
The first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego,
the second half is going inward and letting go of it.
Carl Jung

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Jun 23
It is inhuman to be totally good as it is to be totally evil.
Anthony Burgess
 
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Jun 23
Kurt Cobain wearing a mask in 1991's video "In Bloom" (Alternate Version).
Sometimes, somehow people just know what's ahead in the future. #COVID19
https://youtube.com/watch?v=xAy---wp_DQ
 
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Jun 23
Nothing lasts,
Nothing is finished,
Nothing is perfect,
And therein lies its beauty.

Wabi-Sabi
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Jun 23
Before I met Joe, I was into this whole S & M thing. But Joe wasn't into it. It was too much of a commitment.
Without You I'm Nothing (1990)
Sandra Bernhard
 
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Jun 24
Sandra Bernhard at Without You I'm Nothing (1990).
 
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Jun 24
Baby, you're much too fast (Oh, oh)
Little Red Corvette
You need a love that's gonna last

Prince - Little Red Corvette
 
 
 Jun 24
We have a belief of who we are and where we belong or what we're told we are. I don't allow myself to be him. I meant to be overweight because that is my core belief of myself.
YT Codependency And Addictions - Richard Grannon & JOHN MAY


Jun 24
You have a version of yourself in your head and if you're not matched to that you'll just keep going back to it. You have to change that internalized version that you've got of yourself.
YT Codependency And Addictions - Richard Grannon & JOHN MAY
https://youtu.be/1p0lSytKQLM

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Jun 24
They exude this aura of self-confidence, strong people but in reality narcissistic people are extremely fragile people. Easy to break. Every conversation about change became an insult.
YT Mental Healness


Jun 24
To tell them to change is insult. If you're not praising narcissist, it will be received as insult. Most toxic people don't like criticism, they will fight criticism with fire, insult you more. Only thing you can change is you.
YT Mental Healness

 
Jun 24
Almost every mental disorder originates in childhood experience and originates as coping mechanism. When you are threatened with something, you would not be anxious, you would be afraid - as you should be.
YT Dr. Gabor Mate
 
 
 Jun 24
When are we afraid? When we're threatened with something. Something bad happened to us. Or something that we perceive as we need is threatened to be taken away from us. In child's life anxiety is attachment alarm.
YT What Causes Your Anxiety? | Dr. G. Mate

 
Jun 24
The child's biggest need is attachment, connection with the parent. When not around, child feels fear. That serves a positive purpose. Child will cry, that fear is adaptive. It is coping mechanism. That natural fear is embedded
YT What Causes Your Anxiety?
 
 
Jun 24
Cry for help begins as coping mechanism and that becomes generalized. So under certain circumstances there should be fear and anxiety. But when I have anxiety and there is no immediate threat, what is that about?
YT Dr. Gabor Mate
 
Jun 24
Less opportunity for meaningful employment, belonging, & a sense of purpose there's more general threat. When it hits people who in childhood over immersed in anxiety that's not relieved by the parents coming to help them, now you have an anxiety situation
 
 
Jun 24
Look at childhood. Anxiety is really the cry of some desperate childhood part of themselves for help and to learn to get help with that part. Not just to take tranquilizers, drink or go to Internet to soothe themselves.
YT Dr. Gabor Mate
 
Jun 24
See that anxiety is normal response on their part to what actually happened to them. And it can be relieved and recovered if they look at its sources.
YT What Causes Your Anxiety? | Dr. Gabor Mate
https://youtube.com/watch?v=y2dzU86GXzE
 
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 Jun 24
You set boundaries then narcissist call you controlling. You did not set boundaries before because you did not understand what you were dealing with. Some did not set them because they didn't know how to set them.
YT DoctorRamani
 
Jun 24
The vast majority of people are not taught how to set boundaries in childhood. And if you had narcissistic parent, then forget about it. You were never given permission to set boundaries. And if you did- you'd face rage and punishment.
YT DoctorRamani
 
Jun 24
It is hard to do something that you were never taught or that you were never given permission to do. Once you set boundary anywhere – they will likely tell you, you are controlling – which is likely projection.
YT DoctorRamani
 
Jun 24
Narcissists aren't self aware, that's the issue. You, me, we all exist at their need and their whim. They are delusional enough to think that we are the problem that they are always right, and that we have no right to set a boundary.
YT DoctorRamani
 
 
Jun 24
Narcissistic people pathologize and shame qualities in others which make their lives more difficult or pick away at their sense of grandiosity and entitlement. Narcissistic people find that shaming and calling you crazy works.
YT DoctorRamani
 

Jun 24
These comments often will stop you from engaging in the behaviour that's inconveniencing them. It is clever manipulation. Setting boundaries with narcissist will not result in changing their behaviour, or honoring the boundaries.
YT DoctorRamani
 
 Jun 24
Setting an appropriate boundary is not controlling, no matter what they say to you.
YT When you set boundaries with the narcissist, you get called controlling
DoctorRamani
https://youtube.com/watch?v=d3_5dASMlj4

Jun 24
Do you choose to see things as a way of gaining more understanding, more perception of what feeds your soul?
Or you want to say I've decided I'm going to be victim and everything's and everyone's horrible?
YT Extraordinary: The revelations

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PgPkoKPAAAQ

Jun 24
It's all just the same thing, over and over. We can't help ourselves. And you and I can't control it or stop it or even slow it. Or ever so slightly alter it. We just react.
film Margin Call (2011)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uBDo7u0lD_Q

Jun 24
Your most important sale in life is to sell yourself to yourself.
Maxwell Maltz

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 Jun 24
When your self-image is adequate and one that you can be wholesomely proud of, you feel self-confident. You feel free to "be yourself" and to express yourself. You function at your optimum.
Maxwell Maltz
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Jun 24
To anyone who is suffering with issues such as social anxiety - these are the parts you have suppressed inside you - parts that you label as boring or f word that was used at the end of movie by shy girl, we reject Sandra inside us - and in turn we turn afraid of people.
 
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Jun 24
You will act like the sort of person you conceive yourself to be.
Maxwell Maltz
 
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Jun 24
I may be a mistake maker,
but I'm also a mistake breaker.

Maxwell Maltz
 
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Jun 24
You can always find the Sun within yourself if you will only search.
Maxwell Maltz
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Jun 24
I'll tell her the blue words
Je lui dirai les mots bleus

The words we say with our eyes
Les mots qu'on dit avec les yeux

All the excuses we give
Toutes les excuses que l'on donne

There remains a subtle resentment
Il reste une rancœur subtile

Christophe
 
 
 Jun 25
What I have to do, I have to catch everybody if they start to go over the cliff — I mean if they're running and they don't look where they're going I have to come out from somewhere and catch them.
Holden Caulfield
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Jun 25
Live life fitting to that reality.
Did you have any clue how to be a father or mother? Of course not, the rest of our life is learning to be what's already true of us.
HOUR OF POWER
 
 
 Jun 25
Worked on myself, opened my eyes
But with you, it's always my fault
And your short fuse, just like a time bomb
And I think you should take a second just to look at your reflection
Baby, maybe you're the problem

Ava Max - Maybe You’re The Problem


Jun 25
The orishas are the emissaries of Olodumare or God almighty. They rule over the forces of nature and the endeavors of humanity.
https://legacy.cs.indiana.edu/~port/teach/205/santeria2.html
 
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Jun 25
Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.
Matthew 18:1-5
 
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Jun 25
They'll be giving off such a strength
That all the walls of hate, war, and racism will fall down
Children know, understand, and believe
That there will be more and more
Love and peace, for eternity, love &peace, for everybody
Robert Miles - Children (1996)


Jun 25
hay mucha gente que cree en le suerty
yo creo en mis orishas y siempre gano
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there are many people who believe in luck
I believe in my orishas and I always win
 
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Jun 25
Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed.
It means the damage no longer controls our lives.

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Jun 25
I can do all things through my ancestors who strengthen me.
 
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Jun 25
If you do not trust in your own "spirit",
there's very little that someone else can do for you.
 
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Jun 25
que me enseno: donde no hay lucha, no hay fuerza
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that taught me: where there is no fight, there is no strength
 
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 Jun 25
The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.
W.B. Yeats

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Jun 25
Although humans are imperfect and predisposed to evil, they are still able to identify true good and so correct their errors. Evil is thus necessary to bring out the goodness in humanity.
Universe is improving.

Optimism
Gottfried Wilhelm Leibniz, 1710
1001 IDEAS by Robert Arp
 
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Jun 25
The only fence against the world is a thorough knowledge of it.
John Locke
 
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Jun 25
You must trust and believe in people or life becomes impossible.
Anton Chekhov
 
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Jun 25
I won't let your ignorance silence my pain.
 
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Jun 25
te ensenare a que aguantes los golpes de la vida asi como las rocas aguantan los de las olas
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I will teach you that they withstand the blows of life as well as the rocks withstand those of the waves
 
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     Jun 25
If you want to go fast, go alone.
If you want to go far, go together.

African proverb

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Jun 25
The call the Spirituality of my Ancestors madness.
But I would rather follow that Madness than the lies of some foreign oppressor.
 
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Jun 25
To create and to annihilate material substances, causing them to aggregate in forms according to his desire, would be the supreme manifestation of the power of Man's mind - his most complete triumph over the physical world.
Nikola Tesla
 
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Jun 25
The truth is in the palms of our hands.
The light of the universe is our aura.
Who needs weapons, when we have our ancestors' spirituality to lean on.
 
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Jun 25
santo justiciero protege siempre mi camino
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holy justice always protect my way
 
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Jun 25
deja de tener miedo por lo que pueda ir mal
y comienza a pensar en lo que puede ir bien
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stop being afraid of what could go wrong
and start thinking about what can go right
 
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Jun 25
We will live eternally in this mood of reverie away
My world was dull each minute until I found you in it
And all at once the happiness I knew,
Became these quiet nights of loving you!

Doris Day - Quiet Nights of Quiet Stars - Corcovado (1965)
 

Jun 25
Is Social Anxiety always a bad thing?
No! Anxiety is a normal and healthy of being human. It mobilizes...
Social anxiety helps us to remain sensitive to the feeling and needs of others, which is a core foundation of cooperation and building relationships.

 

Jun 25
Come up the lighthouse with me
Komm geh' mit mir den Leuchtturm rauf

We can see the world from above
Wir können die Welt von oben sehen

Submarine will get us out of here
Ein U-Boot holt uns dann hier raus

And you are the captain
Und du bist der Kapitän
 

Jun 25
"The Age of Aquarius is officially upon us. For many, there's been a definite shift in energy from 2020 to 2021, though both have been a ride. Aside from navigating the Covid era, we're also said to have entered a whole new astrological period."
 

Jun 26
Sometimes it feels like it would be easier to do it alone. Sometimes the people in our life are annoying and they're aggravating. And they're troublesome. But if you're with the right group of people, you have potential with that group.
Victoria Osteen

 
Jun 26
You don't know what people are going through. You can't judge by the outside. The more you obey that still small voice, the more God can entrust you with. God knows where dear ends are, people who will waste our time.
Joel Osteen
 
 Jun 26
The Holy Spirit is on the inside of each one of us. He's called our Helper, our Counselor, our Guide. The more sensitive we are to his whispers, what we're feeling, the promptings, the nudgings, the further we're going to go.
Joel Osteen

 

Jun 26
At work something says 'Don't hang around that person'. You feel uneasy, the alarm is going off. You don't reason it out “They look fine to me”. You trust your sensor. You make the change.
Listening To The Whisper | Joel Osteen
 
Jun 26
I can see clearly now the rain is gone
I can see all obstacles in my way
Gone are the dark clouds that had me blind
It's gonna be a bright (bright)
Bright (bright) sunshiny day

Jimmy Cliff - I Can See Clearly Now
 
 Jun 26
Improving our relationships is improving our mental health.
William Glasser
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Jun 26
In the "Just" (1995) music video by Radiohead, what does the man on the pavement say towards the end that makes everyone else lie down?
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Jun 26
"A person needs new experiences. It jars something deep inside, allowing them to grow. Without change something sleeps inside us, and seldom awakens. The sleeper must awaken."
 
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Jun 26
Easy explanation of complex concept of Jung's False Self and Persona:
Sketch from Carol Burnett Show with Alan Alda.
Air date: December 21, 1974
"The persona, is kind of mask, designed on the one hand to make a impression, while conceal true self on other"

Jun 26
We are more likely to make the most of an opportunity if we have thought about or studied the issue beforehand.

"Chance Favors the Prepared Mind"
Louis Pasteur, 1854
1001 IDEAS, R. Arp

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Jun 26
Our task is to pick up our children personalities and never let them go over the cliff. We need them in our life. They are part of us, anything that is wrong in our personal inner world is the result of not having those kids by our side.
#socialanxiety


Jun 26
How people treat you is their Karma.
How you react is yours.

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Jun 27
Ihr stürzt nieder, Millionen?
Ahnest du den Schöpfer, Welt?
Such' ihn über'm Sternenzelt!
Über Sternen muss er wohnen.
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Do you kneel down low, you millions?
Do you see your maker, world?
Above the stars he must be living.

Schiller
 
 
 Jun 27
I am always saying ‘Glad to’ve met you’ to somebody I’m not at all glad I met. If you want to stay alive, you have to say that stuff, though.
J. D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye (1951)

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Jun 27
Didn't know what I wanted to be
But today the way I play the game is not the same, no way
I think there's something you should know
There's something deep inside of me
I don't belong to you and you don't belong to me
You got to give what you take

Freedom
 
 
Jun 27
True change at the end of the day comes from the smallest things.
Tengu
 
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Jun 27
The less you know, the more you think you know.
The more you know, the less you think you know.
 
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Jun 27
Whatever God has not ordained will never prosper in your hands!
Tengu
 
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Jun 27
An elevated spirit is weak and a low spirit is weak. Do not let the enemy see your spirit.
Miyamoto Musashi (1584-1645)
 
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Jun 27
tengu, in Japanese folklore, a type of mischievous supernatural being, sometimes considered the reincarnated spirit of one who was proud and arrogant in life.
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Jun 27
There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to get better, stronger, richer, quicker, or smarter. Everything is within. Everything exists. Seek nothing outside of yourself.
Miyamoto Musashi
 
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Jun 27
It is difficult to understand the universe if you only study one planet.
Miyamoto Musashi

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Jun 27
Perceive that which cannot be seen with the eye.
Miyamoto Musashi
 
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Jun 27
Yawning infects, just like moodiness.
Miyamoto Musashi
 
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Jun 27
Anxiety tries to tell us that there is Fake persona, Fake self inside us -and it controls our thoughts - toxic shame.
Our healthy parts are either controlled or repressed totally.
That is why self love will work.
We will melt frozen parts of ourselves free
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html
 
 
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Jun 27
If we are kind, nice, friendly, good person without ill will and without hidden agenda to harm other people - there is absolutely no reason to carry on to toxic shame, irrational guilt and repressing ourselves and constricting and restricting ourselves.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html
 
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Jun 27
yin yang
The ancient symbol of harmony reminds us that life is a balancing act and most fulfilling when we learn to embrace its dualities:
the ups & downs
good times & bad
joys & challenges
 
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Jun 27
Vision without action is a daydream.
Action without vision is a nightmare.
Japanese proverb
 
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Jun 27
Let the sunshine in.
 
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Jun 27
Summer chill.
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Jun 27
We are not meant to be perfect, we are meant to be whole.
Jane Fonda
 
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Jun 27
The evil that people do is for good of all that people know.
 
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Jun 27
To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.
Joseph Chilton Pearce
 
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Jun 27
Do no harm - Take no crap

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Jun 28
In the fallen state of nature, inner grace is irresistible.
THE MILKY WAY (1969), Luis Buñuel
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kri3D6LWiu8
 
Jun 28
I woke up at 5:38

to become awake
a : to cease sleeping : to become awake
 
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Jun 28
You need the dark in order to show the light.
 
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Jun 28
the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be

I found inside of me

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IYzlVDlE72w


Jun 28
You need superego telling you: "Don't worry, you're gonna screw up, but that's okay". That is totally different belief system. Built on robustness, making people strong, resilient, not on keeping people safe.
YT Richard Grannon


Jun 28
Don't instill the idea that they are perfect and that they're always gonna be safe. Don't do that. Because it is neurotic and it doesn't help. Instill the idea that they're not perfect, but they're lovable with their imperfection.
YT Richard Grannon

 
Jun 28
That is not safe but they're strong enough to deal with the danger. That's healthy. Everything else is brittle.
Richard Grannon
YT Work WITH Not Against Your Inner Critic
 
 

Jun 28
The only purpose is to get you to immediate safety whatever the cost. To stop panic attack: flip the body out of sympathetic fight or flight (SNS) into parasympathetic response (PNS). Rock body from side to side, let symptoms be there.
YT Flexible Mind
 
 
 
Jun 28
It is 15:38

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Jun 28
Jean Paul Sartre says in "No Exit" that hell is other people. Well, our task in life is to make it heaven. Or at least earth.
Alan Alda
 
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Jun 28
When you run into something interesting, drop everything else and study it.
B. F. Skinner
 
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Jun 28
Has it ever occurred to you that it might get blown up into something big for Tom, too? That it might affect him for the rest of his life and make him unsure and doubting…
Tea and Sympathy (1956)
 
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Jun 28
The Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon, also called "frequence illusion", is an illusion in which the thing you've just noticed, experienced, or been told about suddenly crops up everywhere.
 
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Jun 28
'He's not like me'; therefore, he is capable of all possible crimes. 'He's not one of us, a member of the tribe', so the tribe has to find a scapegoat to reaffirm your shaky position.
Tea and Sympathy (1956)
 
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Jun 28
In these old familiar rooms children would play
Now there's only emptiness, nothing to say

ABBA - Knowing Me, Knowing You
 
 
 
Jun 29
By aggressively bullying you and mercilessly mocking you and making fun of you I could hide in plain sight. Understanding how my behaviour had scarred you so much it was devastating for me to hear.
YT A Confrontation Between a Bully and his Victim


Jun 29
When we grow up we are taught to be good and nice, kind people all the time. This is unnatural.
Because there are toxic people out there. Toxic people do not deserve nice and kind treatment nor focus as we would give to the other nice and kind people.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html


Jun 29
See all experiences in life as endless stream of valuable data.
And that includes negative programming and abuse. Not in a way that it excuses, but to learn the contrast.
Without knowing what is evil - we would not have ability to know what is wrong.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html

Jun 29
There are ancient folklore in Africa and Japan, called Orisha and Tengu.
These are kids parts of ourselves that our logic brain sentenced to life prison. We need to get in contact and accept ourselves as we are
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html

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Jun 29
Evil is there to teach us what is wrong. It is not to accept  it and to live with it.
It teaches us how not to be evil. Without contrast, we would not know what is wrong.
We can see all experience, all life as endless stream of valuable data.
https://77ranko.blogspot.com/2022/01/my-yt-comments-about-social-anxiety-2022.html
 
 
Jun 29
You'll be given love
You have to trust it
Maybe not from the sources
You have poured yours
Maybe not from the directions
You are staring at

Björk - All is full of love
 
Jun 29
All is full of love
All around you
You just ain't receiving (All is full of love)
Your phone is off the hook (All is full of love)
Your doors are all shut (All is full of love)

Björk - All is full of love
 
 
 Jun 29
The alternate convex and concave curves in the Crinkle-Crankle wall provide stability and help it to resist lateral forces, leading to greater strength than a straight wall of the same thickness of bricks without the need for buttresses.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crinkle_crankle_wall

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Jun 29
fMRI studies show that the same areas of the brain become activated when we experience rejection as when we experience physical pain.
This is why rejection hurts so much (neurologically speaking).
 
 
 Jun 29
Bumblebees are cool & funny.

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Jun 29
allegory of the long spoons:
how we treat each other influences the state of our surroundings and the community we live in.
Nurturing others means nurturing ourselves.
 
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Jun 29
Only a few people are awake and they live in a state of constant, total amazement.
Joe Versus the Volcano (1990)
 
 
 Jun 29
Remedios Varos - Los amantes / The Lovers (1963)
"Lovers look at each other and admire each other, but when looking at each other they do not see each other"
"inspired Madonna in her video Bedtime Story (1994)"
https://talent.paperblog.com/los-amantes-de-remedios-varo-5741464/

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Jun 29
Evil, by definition, is that which endangers the good, and the good is what we perceive as a value.
Konrad Lorenz
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Jun 29
When our friends excel us, that gives them a feeling of importance; but when we excel them, that gives them a feeling of inferiority and arouses envy and jelousy.
German proverb: "Die reinste Freude ist die Schafenfreude"
 
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Jun 29
Rays are much easier to spot when there is contrast.
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Jun 29
Orisha (also given as Orisa and Orishas) are supernatural entities usually referred to as deities in the Yoruba religion of West Africa, though they are actually emanations or avatars of the supreme being Olodumare.
(worldhistory)
 
 
 Jun 29
See other people as phenomena, they simply exist. Work with what they give you, instead of resisting and trying to change them.
ROBERT GREENE

Jun 30
Quand tu pardonnes, tu ne changes pas le passe mais tu changes assurément l'avenir.

assurément l'avenir = definitely the future
 
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Jun 30
La rancoeur est un poison pour le coeur.
Le pardon nourrit de benediction.
 
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