October 1, 2024
Internalized hyperactivity, being labeled as too much, too sensitive and they don't know why. They spent their whole life masking, pretending to be someone that they're not. The biggest manifestation of neurodiversity in workplace is always anxiety. Spotting what anxious employee looks like. Key takeaway if you accommodate your neurodiversity that enables ND mind become activated- there are so many positives.
🟥 Why ANXIOUS minds hold some of the BEST IDEAS!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EhVohk5f62w
Oct 1
Best ideas are trapped in anxious minds. Impulse spending, not being able to manage your emotions – is the first tool to manage it. Having that understanding that you are wired a little bit differently of how society exprects you to behave and respond in some situations. Putting a breaker between scenario and your reactions I found has been critical in managing aspect of emotional dysregulation. Someone make comment you perceive as criticism.
🟥 Why ANXIOUS minds hold...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EhVohk5f62w
Oct 1
🇲🇷 Thalassa, aventures extrêmes
Oct 2
There's this deep longing which is so innate in all of us to be loved. To feel warmth of connection, our lives depend on it. We have this intrinsic need to be loved and yet this desperate fear of being seen. We want to be seen but we are afraid of being seen. We want to be loved but we are afraid we are going to be seen and rejected as unlovable. Unconscious shame will keep us stuck in toxic relationships for a very long time.
🟥 Unconscious Shame keeps us trapped
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PdRyXXxyL9c
Oct 2
I truly believed in toxic relationship that if person gives me what I want then I would be okay. Relationship will be amazing, I really believed that. But it's just doesn't work like that. It's our unconscious beliefs that are driving the whole thing, keeping us stuck with someone that in deep knowing way we know will never going to be able to see us. I felt my soul so ugly I had to block people out.
🟥 Unconscious Shame keeps us trapped
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PdRyXXxyL9c
Oct 2
Trauma is not defined by the event, it is defined by the person’s reaction to an event. Two people could experience the same event and it could be traumatizing to one or the other or both. If something felt traumatic to someone, it was.
Oct 2
It can cause some neurological changes that affect the way you learn and remember, it can affect the way you handle emotions, it can affect your whole body systems and result in chronic disease, chronic pain. So lot of things that we were mystified even 10 years ago why do some people struggle so much with these problems we're starting to see this common denominator and it's trauma in childhood.
🟥 Rewiring Your Nervous System
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDttryQpGmA
Oct 2
I see healing as a basic two-step process. And the first step is you got to learn to re-regulate your nervous system. And there are number of ways you can do that. Exercise, coordinated movement yoga, martial arts, singing together, dancing, eat, sleep regular schedule, writing my distress. Writing bunch of negative thoughts won't do much. Getting space from them and meditate. There are trauma driven beliefs, take top layer off. Like shower.
🟥 Rewiring Your Nervous System
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDttryQpGmA
Oct 2
There's no fixing necessary. You just say it, you've written it, at the end of writing we ask for it to be removed, or released. This space opens up in my mind. Then I rest in meditation 20 minutes. It helped me get my focus back, from low floor up to the regular flow. Part two is life problems to work out. If you have been living with trauma and dysregulation – there are life problems. The same that anyone gets but worse with trauma.
🟥 Rewiring Your Nervous System
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDttryQpGmA
Oct 2
By starting to process my thoughts and feelings I would get better. Well now we know that Complex PTSD actually injures the ability to process thoughts and feelings. There's too much in there. Almost everybody with childhood trauma has a sense of disconnection – like everybody got the memo but I do not understand how to connect. When you find out it is trauma symptom – it really helps. When clumsy gives impulse to avoid people. Re-regulate.
🟥 Rewiring Your Nervous System
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDttryQpGmA
Oct 2
When you have Complex PTSD a lot of stuff stays active. So you're still reacting to something that happened couple days ago or 10 years ago. It feels like having headphones with very loud music and I can hear what they are saying but never really attune. Mental clutter going on. Common culture is saying “feel your feelings” but if you have emotional dysregulation probably is not best advice. You want to regulate your emotions, check assumptions.
🟥 Rewiring Your Nervous...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDttryQpGmA
Oct 2
When I am regulated I am aware of time. Then we have people clutter. We have trouble sorting out – this is the person I want in my life, this is the person I don't want in my life. People in early stages of healing often have people who are still abusive to them, who still exploiting them, treating them badly. And there is emotional confusion – do I have a right, is it just me, am I really awful person that should be treated this way.
🟥 Rewiring Your Nervous System
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDttryQpGmA
Oct 2
Lashing out - what it feels like when it is happening, it feels necessary, it feels like something so terrible is done to you that you have to fight back really hard. And you're miscalculating how bad it is. People who lash out will freeze up at other times and not say anything. So if they're being harassed at work they will freeze and not be able to defend themselves. People notice emotional dysregulation when you start yelling, it hurts relationships.
🟥 Rewiring Your..
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDttryQpGmA
Oct 2
You have multiple inner children. Every time you were traumatized, It's possible that your psyche created fragmented "Parts" to deal with the pain specific to that incident.
This is really about reconnecting your body and your nervous system.
Oct 2
🩰 Hommage à Patrick Dupond
Oct 2
🩰 Hommage à Patrick Dupond
Oct 2
🩰 Hammer
Oct 2
Strange, is it not, how we spend time with people and still can't be certain what they are really like. So many of us posing as one thing in reality being something quite different.
🎞️ Gambit (1966)
Oct 3
Oct 3
🎨 Kevin Alvarez sketch
Oct 3
Sometimes, Dolores ...sometimes you have to be a high-riding bitch to survive. Sometimes being a bitch is all a woman has to hang onto.
🎞️ Dolores Claiborne (1995)
Oct 3
🌉 Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy Bridge
Oct 4
Name calling is actually abusive. Adults who choose name calling usually have a low emotional intelligence and lack emotional maturity. Name calling and criticism are two of the most common forms of displaced aggression. If you struggle to put your thoughts into words this could mean one or two things. Either you haven't formed extensive vocabulary to accurately communicate what you are feeling and thinking or you are emotionally triggered and at mercy
🟥 Calling Names
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YlEQyzQHXYw
Oct 4
Wallow in victimhood – it is feeding the dark wolf when you had a choice to feed the light wolf. Only one wolf is going to survive. And it's up to you which one that ends up being. You become whatever it is that you think. It's very hard to dig out of hole if you believe you belong there, if you think you deserve problems. You will curate the world around you that starts with your perspective of which just confirms how much you feel awful.
🟥 Sensitive Stability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eJXYLxf3JuI
Oct 4
📽️ The Batman (2022)
Oct 4
🎨 SL72 sketch
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