Aug 1
August 2021 started with showers.
Aug 2
The judgement always comes from frustrated unimportant people. Don't be the consequence of somebody's opinion.
YT The Indian Mystics
Aug 3
You'll always find some excuse! You have never tried to do anything you wanted to do because you were afraid you would fail. Stop blaming everybody else. Stick your neck out, get off your butt and do it!
Eunice (1982)
Aug 4
Vulnerability is not weakness. I define it as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty. It fuels our daily lives. Vulnerability is our accurate measure of courage, to let ourselves been seen, to be honest.
Listening to shame | Brené Brown
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0
Aug 4
Shame is gremlin that says you are not good enough, 'I know these things that happen to you when growing up, you are not smart, talented enough'.
People who don't experience shame are people who have no capacity for connection and empathy.
Brené Brown
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0
Aug 4
Shame for woman: do it all, do it perfectly, never let them see you sweat. Web of unattainable expectations who we are suppose to be. A strait jacket. Man: do not be perceived as weak.
"Vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, innovation and change."
Aug 4
Comments very super personal, they were the things that creative people play in their mind and then give up.
If you are not in arena, also getting your ass kicked, I am not interested in your feedback. Have constructive feedback to give me, I want it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UqWa65bzhIY
Aug 4
We're hardwired for connection. When we stop caring what people think, we lose our capacity for connection. When we become defined by what people think, we lose our capacity to be vulnerable. Reserve seats for critics. I hear you,I do it anyway
Brené Brown
Aug 5
If you want to be afraid, there are a lot of things to be afraid about. People think they are not suppose to be afraid. It will not go away, it will come back in another area. Do it afraid.
YT Joyce Meyer: Don't Let the Devil Steal Your Life Through Fear
Aug 5
Alfred Hitchcock's cameo appearance in Dial M for Murder (1954).
Aug 6
Making excessive rules, trying to influence what they say, they make rules what to say, that is controlling. Instead of healing and learning to have boundaries themselves, is they are making someone else responsible.
YT Crappy Childhood Fairy
Aug 6
It appears you can freeze a quantum state by measuring it continuously.
Zeno's Paradox & The Quantum Zeno Effect
Aug 7
The point of the fish story is merely that the most obvious, important realities are often the ones that are the hardest to see and talk about.
David Foster Wallace, 2005 Kenyon College Commencement Speech
Aug 7
Isolation and patient repetition of stimuli are required to tame wild animals. The totalitarians have followed this rule.
Joost Meerloo "Rape of the Mind"
Aug 7
Relieving people of the burden of freedom in order to make them feel safe is a recurring theme in the history of authoritarianism.
Frank Furedi
Aug 7
Meba, an alien from Venus as precursor to ET (1982).
"Supersonic Saucer" (1957)
Aug 8
Forgive, show mercy and move forward. Living in strife, holding grudges, not forgiving, that's keeping you from the new things. It takes maturity to enjoy where you are even if there are challenges.
JOEL OSTEEN
Aug 8
Life is not about goal, about journey. We can get there worried, sour, upset. After this goal, there will be another challenge. Worrying about them doesn't make them work out any sooner.
Take time to enjoy the present. There's a blessing in disguise.
JOEL OSTEEN
Aug 10
She firmly made her mind no one victimize her – in her mind only way to ensure that is to become victimizer. When you choose the path of a victimizer you don't go up against bigger victimizers. You go after unsuspecting victims.
YT Hope Project
Aug 10
Elbow handshake as a friendly gesture (elbow bump) invented by Mel Brooks in Young Frankenstein (1974).
Aug 11
Egocentrism – my perspective is the only perspective.
There are lot of things that could happen, I don't know what is going on in someone's head. I have to assume it is not about me, if it's nothing obvious. I have to assume something else is going on.
Aug 12
Poučna Staza Marča - Hiking area
Aug 13
We have to build capacity of allowing other people being disappointed, we don't have to regulate their perspectives any more. If you're making choices that are not affecting them directly, doesn't violate an agreement.
YT Happiness After Codependency
Aug 13
Make others better by example. Just do the right thing, ignore what is happening outside. “People suck…” But we don’t have to.
Memento mori - People are here on loan. They are here under shaky status at best.
YT Daily Stoic
Aug 15
Transactional value - your values determined by the approval and rejection of other people, it is determined by your usefulness. What we choose as root conclusions trap us.
YT Happiness After Codependency
Aug 15
Candice Bergen in 'Vivre pour vivre' (1967).
Aug 16
Many of the Barry Lyndon (1975) shots were composed and filmed in order to evoke certain eighteenth-century paintings, especially those by Thomas Gainsborough.
IMDb Trivia
Aug 17
Chilbolton crop circle from 2001 as a reply to Arecibo message sent in 1974.
"They" inhabit 2 planets and 4 moons.
Aug 19
He drifted through much of his career with no plan or agenda, going from one assignment to the next, never seizing the opportunities that presented themselves. And no one ever offered him a command. He learned to play it safe. And he never, ever got noticed by anyone.
TNG S06 E15
Aug 19
That Picard never had a brush with death, never came face-to-face with his own mortality, never realized how fragile life is or how important each moment must be. So his life never came into focus.
Star Trek The Next Generation S06 E15
Aug 19
- I believe that I can do more.
- Hasn't that been the problem all along? Throughout your career, you've had lofty goals, but you've never been willing to do what's necessary to attain them.
Star Trek The next generation S06 E15
Aug 20
We believe their love approval valuing of us will complete us, they hold key to our self worth, they are authority over who we are and what intrinsic value is. This helps us compensate and tolerate the abuse that is going on.
The most certain sign of wisdom is continual cheerfulness
Michel de Montaigne
Aug 22
-Being cruel to people who are helpless.
-Why are we talking about people like this, because we're wasting positive energy. Forget it, don't try to understand it. That's their problem.
-The things that amaze me I want explanation.
YT The Dick Cavett Show
-Didn't you think you were crazy?
- And then you said, "Little did he know". It's third-person omniscient. Which meant it was, well, you know, someone other than me.
Stranger Than Fiction (2006)
Aug 23
Both narcissist and codependents crave control of their environment including over people around them. Because both types are profoundly insecure, maintaining control over circumstances is crucial to their comfort.
YT Inner Toxic Relief
Sometimes a confrontation is the only way to protect yourself. Keep in mind that you will never be able to have a meaningful relationship with a narcissist still invested in their narcissistic behavior.
YT What Happens When You Stand Up To A Narcissist?
Aug 24
A little bit of self doubt might make us work harder, but too much of it will freeze us to the spot, manifest in imposter experience.
YT The difference between self esteem and self-efficacy
Aug 26
Most humanoids have the potential to be irrational.
Perhaps you should attempt to access that part of your psyche.
Star Trek The Next Generation s06e21
Aug 30
The solution to people pleasing and showing up your true authentic self is accepting yourself for who you are and loving yourself for who you are. Until you do that you will forever be chasing the image of perfection, an illusion.
YT Peak Prosper
You can't change someone opinion. People like you more if you don't care what they think of you. You will earn their respect.
YT Mindset With Josh
